The Naked Marriage with Dave & Ashley Willis

Hey there, Dave and Ashley Willis here, and we just want to welcome you to the Naked Marriage Podcast! In this episode, we're diving into the core of marriage – communication. We share our personal journey on how to get your spouse to really listen. From being present to avoiding distractions, we spill the secrets. Learn tips on approaching a non-listening spouse with grace and curiosity. We explore side-by-side communication and tackle gender differences in processing info. Wrap it up with the magic of giving each other time to process, and watch your relationship transform through effective communication. Grab a seat, tune in, and let's deepen those connections!---------------------------Need Marriage Help?: https://xomarriage.com/marriage-help/Order your copy of Married Into The Family Today: https://store.xomarriage.com/products/married-into-the-familyFor all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriage---------------------------Takeaways Listening is more important than talking in communication. Being present and avoiding distractions is crucial for effective listening. Approach a spouse who doesn't listen with gentleness and curiosity. Side-by-side communication and understanding gender differences can enhance connection. Give each other time to process information and thoughts. ---------------------------Chapters00:00 Introduction: Importance of Communication01:30 Learning to Listen Better03:10The Listening Exercise04:07 Being Present and Avoiding Distractions05:04 Approaching a Spouse Who Doesn't Listen06:32 Being Gentle and Curious08:23 Assuming and Zoning Out09:20 Side-by-Side Communication10:44 Non-Accusatory Approach11:37 Understanding Gender Differences17:29 Processing Time for Men20:12 Giving Time to Process20:43 Conclusion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey there! Welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast with Dave & Ashley Willis. Today, in our final episode wrapping up our spicy 14-days of sex, Ashley and I get real about something close to our hearts: the importance of sex habits in a marriage. We share our experiences and insights on fostering regular, fulfilling intimacy, and dive deep into open communication, mutual needs, and how prayer plays a key role. This isn't just a talk; it's a personal invitation to prioritize connection and keep the flame burning. Join us for some candid conversations and takeaways that hit home – let's continue growing together for a more passionate marriage journey!------------------FREE GIFT: Ten Secrets to Great Sex https://dl.bookfunnel.com/fuvgz1oh6yThe Counterfeit Climax Book: https://thecounterfeitclimax.com/For all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriageOur Producers Link: https://www.zola.com/registry/chloeeandtywon------------------00:00 Introduction and Recap03:41 Sex Habits10:41 Conclusion and Next Steps Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, welcome back! We're still riding the waves of our 14 days of sex journey on the Naked Marriage Podcast. In this episode, Ashley and I get personal, diving into the male orgasm and everything related. From discussing the impact of a vasectomy on ejaculation to our approach to talking openly with our kids about sex, we cover it all. Join us as we cover the nuances of pleasure points and even tackle the headache mystery during orgasm. Communication is key, and we're here to normalize these experiences. Stick around for insights on sexual variety and the intriguing refractory period for men. It's an episode filled with candid conversation and insights into our own journey.------------------FREE GIFT: Ten Secrets to Great Sex https://dl.bookfunnel.com/fuvgz1oh6yThe Counterfeit Climax Book: https://thecounterfeitclimax.com/For all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriage------------------00:00 Introduction and Year Outlook00:31 Male Orgasm01:27 Ejaculation and Vasectomy02:24 Openness with Children03:18 Female Ejaculation04:14 Quantity of Ejaculate04:40 Headaches during Orgasm05:29 Communication and Normalcy06:56 Pleasure Points for Men08:19 Variety and Oral Sex09:48 Multiple Orgasms for Women10:18 Refractory Period11:18 Post-Sex Hygiene12:26 Conclusion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back; it's our favorite time of the week; it's HUMP DAY Q&A TIME! Today's question: How do I initiate conversations with my spouse without coming across as bossy or controlling—————Grab a copy of the Vision Retreat: https://store.xomarriage.com/products/vision-retreat-course-bundleOrder your copy of Married Into The Family Today: https://store.xomarriage.com/products/married-into-the-familyFor all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast! Today, we are talking about what culture deems as a very hard goal... but we think with a little communication it is super achievable -- the female orgasm. We're tackling common questions, emphasizing patience and selflessness for husbands, and sharing practical tips. Our challenge for you: prioritize your wife's pleasure for deeper intimacy. Ready to dive!--------------------FREE GIFT: Ten Secrets to Great Sex https://dl.bookfunnel.com/fuvgz1oh6yThe Counterfeit Climax Book: https://thecounterfeitclimax.com/For all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriage--------------------Takeaways The female orgasm is characterized by a clenching of the muscles and a feeling of pleasure. The female orgasm often takes longer to achieve than the male orgasm. Husbands should be patient and prioritize their wives' pleasure, focusing on foreplay and taking the time to understand their preferences. Communication and kindness are key in creating a fulfilling sexual relationship. --------------------Chapters00:00 Introduction and Series Overview00:32 Understanding the Female Orgasm03:21 The Female Orgasm Takes Longer04:19 Patience and Selflessness in Pleasuring the Wife05:17 Exploring Different Stimulation Techniques06:43 The Importance of Time and Kindness08:10 Prioritizing the Wife's Pleasure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast – we're almost at the end of our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! Today, we're diving into a personal conversation about what's off-limits in the bedroom for Christian married couples. No frills, just real talk. We're emphasizing the importance of keeping it between the two of you – no bringing other people into the bedroom, no polyamory or open marriages. We also tackle using non-human objects for pleasure and the potential issues that can arise. Vibrators, masturbation, slapping, choking – we're covering it all. Our encouragement? Have those open discussions and seek counseling if you need it. Join us for this honest chat about boundaries in the bedroom as we navigate this journey together-------------------------------Takeaways Christian married couples should not bring other people into the bedroom. Using non-human objects for sexual pleasure should be carefully considered. Open communication and seeking counseling can help navigate boundaries in the bedroom. Respecting and prioritizing the emotional and physical well-being of both partners is crucial. -------------------------------Chapters00:00 Introduction and XO Marriage Announcement01:24 What's Off Limits in the Bedroom03:46 Not Going Outside of Marriage Covenant06:29 Sexual Sin in the Bible07:48 Using Non-Human Objects for Sex08:17 Vibrators and Masturbation09:10 Slapping and Choking10:57 Conclusion and Open Discussion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast – we're right in the thick of our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! This episode is a bit close to the heart. Today, we're diving into the sometimes sensitive issue of painful sex, and we want to approach it with the care it deserves. Opening up about the importance of communication, we share some insights on conditions like vaginismus and how those pelvic floor muscles can play a role in causing discomfort. But it's not just physical – we touch on the emotional impact too, stressing the need for understanding and support between partners. We even explore unexpected factors like allergies to condoms and lubricants. As we wrap up, think of this as a gentle reminder to seek solutions and support. And remember, finding intimacy in different ways is a journey worth taking. Join us for this intimate conversation, where openness paves the way to a healthier and more fulfilling sex life.------------------FREE GIFT: Ten Secrets to Great Sex https://dl.bookfunnel.com/fuvgz1oh6yThe Counterfeit Climax Book: https://thecounterfeitclimax.com/For all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriage------------------Takeaways Painful sex is a common issue that many couples experience but often struggle with in isolation. Vaginismus, a condition involving tight pelvic floor muscles, is a common cause of pain during sex and can be addressed through physical therapy. Allergies to condoms, lubricants, or spermicides can also cause discomfort during sex, and exploring alternative options may help. Menopause can lead to dryness and pain during sex, and hormone replacement therapy may be a solution. Believing and supporting your spouse when they experience pain is crucial, and seeking medical help and therapy can provide solutions. If one solution doesn't work, keep seeking alternatives and don't give up on finding ways to enjoy sex. During times of pain or discomfort, couples can focus on growing closer in other ways and finding intimacy outside of intercourse. Men can also experience pain during sex, and there are solutions available for them as well. Open communication, seeking help, and supporting each other are key to addressing and overcoming painful sex in a marriage. ------------------00:00 Introduction: Painful Sex01:00 Vaginismus and Pelvic Floor Issues02:22 Psychological Impact of Painful Sex03:17 Allergies to Condoms and Lubricants05:12 Painful Sex during Menopause06:10 Believing and Supporting Your Spouse07:36 Seeking Solutions and Finding Help09:25 Growing Closer in Other Ways09:54 Men's Experience of Painful Sex10:23 Conclusion and Call to Action Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast. We're in the middle of our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! Today, we are having a real talk about something a lot of couples go through: premature ejaculation and how it affects our sex lives. We're keeping it simple – it's all about open communication with your spouse and finding solutions together. We're sharing some practical tips to make things last a bit longer, like using desensitizing gels or condoms. It's about being patient, understanding each other, and making sure both partners are satisfied. And hey, before we wrap up, we've got a light-hearted shout-out for the upcoming XO Marriage conferences. Join us for a down-to-earth chat about navigating the ups and downs of our sex lives."------------------XO2024: Join us from THE COMFORT OF YOUR OWN HOME:https://www.xonow.com/pages/xo-now-at-homeThe Counterfeit Climax Book: https://thecounterfeitclimax.com/For all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriage------------------Takeaways Open and honest conversation with your spouse is crucial for addressing and finding solutions to sexual issues. Premature ejaculation can lead to frustration for both partners, but there are practical ways to prolong the sexual experience. Reducing premature ejaculation can be achieved through stimulation and focusing on mutual satisfaction. Shame should not be associated with premature ejaculation, and seeking solutions through medical advice is encouraged. Patience and understanding are key in supporting a spouse dealing with premature ejaculation. ------------------00:00 Introduction and Importance of Conversation with Spouse00:29 Premature Ejaculation and Frustration01:24 Practical Challenges and Solutions03:21Reducing Premature Ejaculation through Stimulation03:47 Shame and Solutions04:44 Patience and Mutual Satisfaction05:40 Humor and Conclusion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast – we're in our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! Today, We're pulling back the curtains on the various causes, from aging to medical issues and mental health, that lead to Sex Drive Changes. It's not just a talk; it's a personal journey as we share our own experiences and the solutions we've discovered. Open communication is key, and sometimes seeking professional help is a game-changer. As we wrap up, consider our book, 'The Counterfeit Climax,' a resource for further exploration. Join us for a candid conversation where our personal stories shine a light on navigating the twists and turns of changing sex drives in marriage.------------------FREE GIFT: Ten Secrets to Great Sex https://dl.bookfunnel.com/fuvgz1oh6yThe Counterfeit Climax Book: https://thecounterfeitclimax.com/For all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriage------------------Takeaways Sex drive changes can be caused by various factors, including aging, medical issues, and mental health. Seeking specialized doctors and exploring alternative solutions can help address sex drive changes. Open communication and seeking professional help are crucial in navigating changes in sex drive. The book 'The Counterfeit Climax' is recommended as a resource for further exploration. ------------------00:00 Introduction and Preview00:51 Causes of Sex Drive Changes01:48 Personal Experience with Sex Drive Changes03:12 Seeking Solutions for Sex Drive Changes04:09 Importance of Specialized Doctors05:03 Exploring Alternative Solutions06:30 Comprehensive Testing and Research08:48 Hormone Replacement Therapy09:41 Navigating Changes in Sex Drive10:39 Communication and Seeking Help13:04 Conclusion and Resource Recommendation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey there, welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast, where we're right in the midst of our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! It's Dave and Ashley here, and today we're diving into a topic that's personal and, let's face it, maybe a bit spicy – fetishes and role-playing in Christian marriages. We break it down, defining fetishes as those specific non-sexual things that can light a fire, and role-playing as, well, acting out those scenarios that get the imagination going. But here's the real talk – we're shedding light on the dangers of pornography and its influence on these aspects of intimacy. We also explore the idea that some fantasies may have roots in our adolescence. Through it all, we're hitting home the importance of mutual consent, safety, and honoring God in our sexual activities. As we wrap up, we want to remind you that communication is key, and addressing any restrictions or guilt is crucial for a healthy, fulfilling sexual relationship. Join us for a candid conversation where nothing's off-limits!------------------FREE GIFT: Ten Secrets to Great Sex https://dl.bookfunnel.com/fuvgz1oh6yThe Counterfeit Climax Book: https://thecounterfeitclimax.com/For all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriage------------------Takeaways Fetishes are specific non-sexual things that turn someone on sexually, while role-playing involves acting out specific scenarios. Pornography can fuel dangerous fetishes and role-playing scenarios, and it is important to avoid using porn as an instructional manual for sex. Some fetishes and role-playing scenarios may stem from fantasies developed during adolescence. Mutual consent, safety, and honoring God are essential in exploring fetishes and engaging in role-playing. Communication and addressing restrictions or guilt are crucial in maintaining a healthy sexual relationship. ------------------00:00 Introduction and Overview01:00 Definition of Fetishes and Role-playing02:28 Dangers of Pornography03:23 Fantasies and Role-playing from Adolescence05:16 Different Types of Fetishes and Role-playing06:42 Exploring BDSM07:39 The Importance of Mutual Consent and Safety09:03 Using Sex as a Gift from God10:31 Addressing Restrictions and Guilt11:24 Conclusion and Encouragement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices