Order of Man

Today, I talk with Cody Duffney about the execution of discipline, the power of internal reflection, correcting mistakes quickly, and accepting points of weakness. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com

Continuing on the theme from last week (because I believe this is such a critical topic right now), today we talk about the fact that young boys seem to be going astray. The school system is stacked against them, society seems to be dismissing masculinity altogether, and being a man is something that actually has to be defended. My guest, Dr. Leonard Sax, joins me to talk about 5 factors driving an epidemic of unmotivated boys and underachieving young men, how the school system needs to be overhauled if we are to re-engage our boys, the dangers of endocrine disruptors in men's lives, and how boys are going adrift and, more importantly, how to get them back on track. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 5 factors driving unmotivated boys and underachieving young men How the school system is stacked against young men Why boys are struggling with academic achievement How the school system needs to be changed The dangers on endocrine disruptors The effect pornography has on young boys The value of consequences for young men How to help our boys find passion and purpose How to re-engage our boys DR. LEONARD SAX I was introduced to Dr. Leonard Sax's work through my wife as she picked up a couple books on her pursuit to more effectively raise our boys. She came across two books in particular: Boys Adrift and Why Gender Matters. After she got done reading them, she asked if I would. From the opening remarks, I knew this guy had some of the answers to the challenges we seem to be facing in raising young men. Dr. Sax is an MIT graduate, a physician, and a psychologist and has been practicing for nearly 30 years. He is well-versed (as you'll hear today) in gender issues and the crisis our young men and women seem to be facing today. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/165 Website: http://orderofman.com

Today, I want to talk about such an important topic and one which is easy to overlook simply because we've all heard about it so often. That said, I believe establishing a healthy morning routine is one of the most important things you can do during your day as it really establishes the benchmark, the framework, and the foundation for the way the rest of your day will go. The reason that I think most people overlook (or can't even stick to a morning routine) is because there's so much advice about it already and we begin to believe that we have to pigeonhole ourselves into one way of doing it. Here's what I'm here to tell you: I'm going to share my morning routine. Now, that doesn't make it the morning routine. It simply means that it works for me. The most powerful thing if you can do with regards to your morning routine is to find something that works for you. This is a process of experimentation. So, again, I'm going to share with you what works for me. If you like it, adopt it. If you don't like it, don't adopt it. If you like parts of it, adopt part of it. You get the idea. www.orderofman.com/FFN107 Please leave us a rating and review!

Today, I talk with Joshua Laycock about his awakening, why "good enough" is your enemy, the power of your potential, and how to train your mind. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com

This one is special to me. As most of you know, I grew up without a permanent father figure in my life. I've mentioned in the past that there was a select group of men who helped mold and shape me into the man that I am today. I'm not sure there is another man in my young life who was as influential as my guest today. His name is Matt Labrum and he was my high school football and baseball coach. Today, we talk about his influence in my life and thousands of other young men's lives, the power of allowing kids to fail (including some failures of my own), why competitive sports are so valuable in a young man's life, why he cut his entire team from the football program, and a man's responsibility to future generations. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The power of allowing kids to fail Why competition is critical for young men How winners continue to find a way to win The politics of raising children and coaching Pros and cons of coaching your own children Our obligation as men to give back to future generations How sports are about so much more than the game Why one high school football coach cut his entire team The difference between being a parent and being a defender How to raise boys through the power of competitive sports MATT LABRUM Men, I did this interview a little while ago and I've been anxiously waiting to release it to you. Every single one of us has some very influential people in our lives. Today, I'm talking with probably the most influential man in mine, especially as a young boy learning to become a man. He is a high school educator. He has been teaching for more than two decades and, in addition to that, he is a high school baseball coach (when I was in school, he was the head football, basketball, and baseball coach). He gained some national attention several years ago after cutting his entire football team from the program for grade and attendance issues, and how his team was showing up in the community and at school. This is a man I admire and respect as he shaped a lot of who I was as a young man and who I am still becoming. He never took it easy on me. We talk about two experiences in particular during this conversation but I never doubted how much he cared about my progress and the progress of the boys under his care. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/164 Website: http://orderofman.com

You've likely heard of the phrase "zero fu*ks given." While I can understand to a degree what anyone may be saying when they use that term, I can't help but see the mistake in that line of thinking – especially for men. Your job is the exact opposite of that sentiment. Your job is to care about a lot, and be a man of value in the walls of your home, inside your business, and out in your community. But if you walk around with a chip on your shoulder and take the stance that everyone else should leave you alone and there's nothing you should really care about, I've got to think you're missing a big element of what it means to be a man. Not to mention, you're limiting your potential and the potential of those around you. www.orderofman.com/FFN106 Please leave us a rating and review!

Today, I talk with Doug Hershberger about losing massive weight, stoicism, learning to control what you can, being a steward over yourself, and moving from complacency to contentment. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com

Guys, if you listen to just one of my podcast, please make it be this one. Today, I am joined by my friend and fellow soldier, Braxton McCoy. He and I served in Iraq together in 2005-2006. One day we were playing softball together and the next day, I hear he's been hit by a suicide bomber with multiple fractures and life-threatening injuries to himself and others. I didn't fully realize the extent of his injuries until this interview. This one is raw, it's truthful, and it's extremely insightful when it comes to one soldier's perspective of war, responsibility, obligation, and liberty. We talk about the truths and fallacies of PTSD, overcoming the demons of war, how a near-death experience changes your perspective, and the true cost of liberty. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The true and great cost of liberty One soldier's story of surviving a suicide bomber The truths and fallacies of PTSD Overcoming the demons of war Finding new purpose in life Why heroic soldiers don't consider themselves heroes The power of writing down your thoughts and stories Living for yourself and others The after-effects of surviving a near-fatal suicide bomber The power of responsibility and obligation How near-death changes your perspective BRAXTON MCCOY As I mentioned before, I have my friend and fellow soldier, Braxton McCoy on the show today. We've lost touch over the past 10 years or so since we served together in Iraq but when I found out he had written a book about our experience and, more specifically, his experience in Iraq, I knew that this would make for a powerful conversation. After more than a decade of physical therapy and more surgeries than I care to think about, Braxton has regained most of his strength and rebounded emotionally from an extremely traumatic situation. He has twice served as National Advocate for the Army Wounded Warrior Program, and twice as Veterans' Advocate for the Coalition of Iraq and Afghanistan Veterans in the District of Columbia. His four years as an advocate were focused on getting veterans back to work, as a meaningful way to outflank Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. In 2013, Braxton McCoy started Warrior Employment Project, a non-profit designed to connect veteran families-in-need with CEO's and CIO's leading to the veterans' employment. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/163 Website: http://orderofman.com

Some of the greatest men the world has ever known are voracious readers. Teddy Roosevelt was said to read a book every morning. General James Mattis is said to have a library of over 600 books. Bill Gates reads a book a week. Mark Cuban reads for 3 hours every day. Elon Musk was once asked how he learned to build rockets, to which he replied, "I read books." Now, I'm not suggesting that by simply reading books, you will achieve the types of results these men have achieved but, reading and acquiring new knowledge through the written word is something that seems to be a common thread line through most, if not all, successful people. Today, I'll share with you why that is and I'll also be issuing you a challenge we're going to be holding over the next 30 days. www.orderofman.com/FFN105 Please leave us a rating and review!

Today, I talk with Pierre Azzam about overcoming introversion, the feeling of being lost and turning information into application. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com