The Catholic Coaching Podcast

Erin and Matt Ingold
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Jan 21, 2026 • 42min

280. Dating a Melancholic | Catholic Temperaments

Dating a Melancholic | Catholic TemperamentsIn this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, we continue our Temperaments in Dating series with the Melancholic temperament.If you’re a Catholic single dating someone who’s melancholic (or you are melancholic), this one will help you sidestep common pitfalls—like dismissing emotions, rushing decisions, or taking silence personally—and replace them with practical “do’s” that build trust, clarity, and real connection.We talk about: • The biggest don’ts when dating a melancholic • How to validate emotions without validating the story • Why melancholics need time to process decisions • How to handle perfectionism and high ideals in a healthy way • What actually helps them feel safe, seen, and understoodSend us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...
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Jan 14, 2026 • 36min

279. Dating a Sanguine | Catholic Temperaments

Dating a Sanguine can be amazing… and also confusing if you don’t understand what they need.In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin continue their Temperaments & Dating series with the Sanguine temperament—sharing practical do’s and don’ts to help Catholic singles build connection, avoid common triggers, and date with clarity.You’ll learn:• Why criticism and judgment can shut a Sanguine down• Why Sanguines react strongly to feeling controlled or “boxed in”• How to avoid unnecessary conflict by respecting their need for freedom• Why their playfulness isn’t shallowness• How to connect through joy, creativity, and emotional expression• Simple ways to be more engaging on dates (even if you’re introverted)👍 Like & subscribe — next up: Melancholic and Phlegmatic.Send us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...
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Jan 7, 2026 • 44min

278. Dating a Choleric | Catholic Temperaments

Dating can feel intense—especially when strong personalities, clear goals, and big expectations enter the picture.In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin kick off a new Temperaments & Dating series by focusing on the Choleric temperament and what Catholic singles need to know when dating one (or discovering they are one).You’ll learn:•How Cholerics approach dating, goals, and commitment•The biggest do’s and don’ts that either build connection or create                 tension•Why directness, ambition, and intensity can be gifts—or triggers•How to communicate clearly without overthinking or people-                pleasing•How to discern a relationship without rushing or forcing outcomesThis episode is designed to help Catholic singles:•Understand what’s happening under the hood•Stop taking things personally that aren’t personal•Date with curiosity, confidence, and virtue📌 Take the Temperament Assessment https://metanoiacatholic.typeform.com/thetemps?typeform-source=www.metanoiacatholic.com#temperaments_assessment=xxxxx📌 Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) https://lead.metanoiacatholic.com/temperament-communication-guide-free-download-catholic-dating?hs_preview=oHgusoCq-201907910826Subscribe for more Catholic coaching on dating, discernment, relationships, and interior freedom.Send us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...
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Dec 31, 2025 • 1h 2min

277. When Therapy Language Becomes Harmful (And How to Use It Well)

In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt sits down with Catholic therapist Dr. Gerry Crete to talk about a growing challenge in today’s mental health conversations: the overuse and misunderstanding of psychological language.Words like trauma, narcissism, abuse, and mental health are being used more than ever—but are we always using them correctly?Together, they explore: • When therapy language helps—and when it harms • The difference between real trauma and ordinary human struggle • Why labeling too quickly can actually block healing • How to recognize when someone truly needs professional support • The difference between coaching, therapy, and spiritual direction • How compassion, discernment, and humility restore clarityDr. Crete also shares insights from his work as a therapist, author of Litanies of the Heart, and founder of Souls & Hearts, helping listeners understand how healing, faith, and psychology work together—not against each other.If you’ve ever wondered whether something is “trauma,” struggled with self-diagnosis, or felt confused about where coaching ends and therapy begins, this episode will bring clarity and peace.🎧 Listen in and learn how to approach healing with wisdom, humility, and hope.👉 Meet us at SEEK in ColumbusWe’ll be offering live dating mindset coaching at the Candid Dating booth—alongside Catholic speed dating events designed to foster authentic encounter.Send us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...
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Dec 24, 2025 • 1h 1min

276. The Hidden Christian Message in Classic Christmas Movies

In this Christmas episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin unpack the hidden Christian message woven into these beloved classics. Through a mindset-coaching lens, they explore how these stories reveal conversion, repentance, gratitude, and redemption—even though they’re not explicitly religious films.Using the idea of metanoia (a deep interior shift of heart and mind), they break down: • George Bailey’s journey from bitterness and sacrifice to gratitude                 and joy • Ebenezer Scrooge’s conversion through memory, compassion, and                 foresight • How entitlement, resentment, and scarcity blind us to what’s                 already good • Why gratitude is the gateway to freedom and renewal • How these stories model Ignatian reflection and discernmentMatt and Erin also show how every great story echoes the Greatest Story Ever Told—the story of redemption written on every human heart.This episode will help you: • Understand why these movies resonate so deeply • Learn how to “watch with spiritual eyes” • Apply the same reflective tools to your own life through journaling                 and prayerWhether you’re watching on Christmas Eve, during the Octave of Christmas, or any time of year, this conversation invites you to rediscover the hope, joy, and conversion that Christmas offers—right now.🎄 Merry Christmas from the Catholic Coaching Podcast.Send us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...
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Dec 17, 2025 • 59min

275. Catholic Dating in College Part 2 | What’s Blocking You

Dating as a Catholic—especially in college—can feel overwhelming, confusing, and high-pressure. Between time constraints, expectations, fear of temptation, and the desire to “do it right,” many people end up stuck or avoiding dating altogether.In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin coach through real survey responses from Catholic college students who shared their biggest struggles with dating. Using a mindset-coaching lens, they unpack the thoughts and beliefs that quietly block freedom, clarity, and authentic connection.Topics include: • Time management and the belief that relationships are “too much work” • Unrealistic expectations of holiness and “being on fire for God” • Disappointment, rejection, and hearing “I’m not ready for a relationship” • Fear of temptation, lust, and avoiding dating altogether • How unspoken rules and internal manuals create pressure and anxietyMatt and Erin explore how to approach dating not as a problem to solve or a finish line to reach—but as an opportunity for formation and encounter. They also discuss how processing emotions, clarifying expectations, and surrendering control can lead to healthier, more virtuous relationships.This episode is especially helpful for Catholic college students, young adults, and anyone preparing for SEEK or navigating dating with faith and intention.👉 Meet us at SEEK in ColumbusWe’ll be offering live dating mindset coaching at the Candid Dating booth—alongside Catholic speed dating events designed to foster authentic encounter.Subscribe for more Catholic coaching on dating, discernment, relationships, and interior freedom.🎧 Listen to the full Virtuous Influencing & Dating series on the Catholic Coaching Podcast wherever you get your podcasts.👉 Subscribe for more Catholic mindset coaching on dating, discernment, vocation, and daily life.► Learn more about Candid Dating and upcoming events: https://www.candiddating.net/ ► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel! https://www.youtube.com/@metanoiacatholic?sub_confirmation=1Send us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...
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Dec 10, 2025 • 53min

274. Catholic Dating in College Part 1 | 3 Big Mindset Traps

Dating in Catholic college can feel weirdly intense: pressure to get married, gossip on small campuses, fear of “leading someone on,” and a ton of unspoken rules about how it’s supposed to go.In Episode 274 of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin put on their Catholic dating coach hats and walk through real survey responses from students at a Catholic college. They do “hypothetical coaching” on:🔹 “Modern dating has a high bar of entry and exit.”🔹 “Everyone’s pressuring me to get married.”🔹 “I’m not ready to settle down… so should I even date?”🔹 “On a small campus, reputations and rumors follow you around.”You’ll learn:   • How to spot the mindset traps that create fear and overthinking in       dating   • What’s actually in your locus of control (and what isn’t)   • Why unspoken “dating rules” and manuals make everything heavier than       it has to be   • A healthier, more Catholic way to see dating: as a place of authentic      encounter & formation, not just a spouse-huntMatt and Erin also share practical examples from their own stories and explain why skills like emotional maturity, honesty, and freedom are best learned now—before marriage.⸻🧠 Want live Catholic dating coaching at SEEK?Metanoia Catholic will be at the Candid Dating booth in Columbus for SEEK 2026, offering:   • Free temperament assessments   • Quick “dating mindset” classes   • 1:1 coaching slots with certified Catholic mindset coachesCome get coached, then go get your reps in at the Candid Catholic speed dating events. 😉🎧 Listen to the full Virtuous Influencing & Dating series on the Catholic Coaching Podcast wherever you get your podcasts.Send us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...
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Dec 3, 2025 • 54min

273. Inside Candid’s Catholic Speed Dating (ft. Taylor O'Brien)

What if Catholic dating wasn’t just swiping, overthinking, and feeling like “there’s no one out there”… but real conversations, real formation, and real freedom?In this episode of The Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt & Erin sit down with Taylor O’Brien, founder of Candid Dating — a Catholic speed dating app and events apostolate that’s exploding in popularity (including huge events at SEEK).Taylor shares the story of her broken engagement, the season of deep healing with Jesus in adoration, and how the Lord led her into creating Candid: a space where Catholic singles can actually talk, get “reps” with the opposite sex, and grow in human formation, not just chase a ring.Together we talk about:   • Why Catholic speed dating is often less pressure than apps or       traditional dates   • The lies Catholic singles believe ( “God will just drop my spouse in front      of me,” “I can’t say yes to a first date unless I know I’d say yes to a      second,” “I’m responsible for their feelings if I say no” )   • How locus of control & mindset coaching help you stop carrying what      isn’t yours   • Why dating is about authentic encounter, not shopping for a spouse   • How God uses the “waiting” and even heartbreak as powerful formationWe also share what we’re doing together at SEEK in Columbus:   • A shared Candid + Metanoia Catholic booth   • Free temperament assessments (with buttons 👀) so you can better      understand your wiring in dating   • On-site Catholic mindset coaches to help you prep for the Candid speed      dating event   • Practical help to show up free, peaceful, and yourself—instead of      desperate, shut down, or overthinkingWhether you’re:   • A Catholic single coming to SEEK   • Discernment-tired and wondering if your “picker is broken”   • Or just curious what healthy Catholic dating can look like……this conversation will give you hope, language, and tools to step into dating with more freedom, courage, and trust in God.► Learn more about Candid Dating and upcoming events: https://www.candiddating.net/Send us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...
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Nov 26, 2025 • 43min

272. Stop Trying to Fix People | 5 Catholic Mindsets for Virtuous Influence

Ever tried to “help” someone change… and just ended up exhausted, resentful, or shut out? 😵‍💫This is Part 2 of our series on virtuous influence—how to help others change for the good while fully honoring their freedom and dignity.In this episode, Matt and Erin share 5 interior dispositions that transform the way you show up in tough relationships, especially when someone you love keeps choosing badly:In this episode we cover:• Why healed people heal people—and why your inner work matters• What it means to be humbly honest (and why pretending you’ve “arrived”   backfires)• How to be attentively affirming instead of constantly correcting• Seeing people as a mystery to receive, not a problem to fix• Patiently persevering when change is painfully slow• Sanctifying surrender: uniting your sorrow with Christ instead of slipping   into despairWe talk about real situations:• Parents with kids drifting from the faith• Spouses stuck in bad habits• Friends caught in addiction or destructive patterns• Coaches and ministry leaders who feel responsible for other people’s   outcomesIf you’ve ever thought, “I can’t fix them, but I also can’t stop caring,” this episode is for you.👉 Watch Part 1 for the first 5 dispositions on virtuous influence👉 Subscribe for more Catholic coaching tools for real interior transformationSend us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...
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Nov 19, 2025 • 45min

271. How to Help Someone Change Their Mind (Without Nagging or Controlling)

Have you ever tried to “help” someone change… and they just dug in their heels? 😅More resentment. More distance. Zero real change.In this episode, Matt and Erin from Metanoia Catholic break down how to influence virtuously so you can help others change for the good without controlling, nagging, or manipulating.This is Part 1 of a 2-part series on virtuous influencing – how to make a real impression on others while honoring their freedom and dignity.You’ll learn:👉 The difference between influence and manipulation👉 Why real influence always starts with your interior disposition, not their       behavior👉 How John Paul II’s personalistic norm applies to parenting, marriage,       work, and coaching👉 Why trying to “fix” people usually backfires (and what to do instead)Matt & Erin walk through the first 5 influential dispositions:1. Compassionately Curious – seeking to understand what people truly      want      and value instead of assuming you “know what they need.”2. Benevolently Boundaried – setting and keeping loving boundaries that      actually teach people how to be in healthy relationship with you.3.  Fearlessly Free – maximizing the other person’s freedom, even when      you’re afraid they might not choose well.4.  Confidently Candid – clearly naming the real consequences of actions       (without shaming or drama).5.  Impartially Inviting – inviting people into growth and a common good,      while staying detached from whether they say yes or no.Whether you’re a: • Catholic parent who wants to guide your teens without constant power    struggles • Spouse who wants deeper change without nagging • Leader or ministry worker who wants to call people higher • Catholic coach who wants to ethically influence clients…this episode will give you a clear, practical vision of what virtuous influence looks like day-to-day.🟣 This is Part 1 – in the next episode, Matt & Erin cover the remaining 5 influential dispositions so you can grow into a truly impactful, virtuous leader in your home, work, and parish.Send us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUBSCRIBE TO THE CATHOLIC COACHING PODCASTApple PodcastsSpotifyYouTube...

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