Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

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What makes us ready for enlightenment? 

I developed a connection with someone on a similar inner exploration some time ago, which turned into quite a deep relationship as we both shared vulnerabilities. In this 'inner adventure' on my part there have been revelations around deep-seated people pleasing tendencies which may well have begun in childhood, but no longer feel in alignment with the truth of what I am. The relationship with this person began to shift over time and I became aware of an intensity that sometimes felt uncomfortable and the boundaries felt a bit off. It felt appropriate to distance myself and this resulted in what looked like hurt behaviour from the other person, manifesting with some aggression. There was an immediate rush of fear with me and a sense that I'd been very naive to be so open and trusting and there was a capacity to see in me a tendency to become self-critical and apportion blame. The other person chose to block me on social channels, which appeared to come from a rational, loving place. It was a relief and something I didn't seem to have the courage to do as I was fearful of how it would be received. I see here a strong sense of responsibility for hurting that person, but also an instinctive desire to protect myself and not to accept a relationship dynamic that feels like it compromises healthy boundaries. There is still unease and lots of mixed emotions (and sometimes fearful thoughts and dreams) about this person as they seem to linger in my consciousness, as if there is some unresolved hurt. When I return to 'being' there is a quiet knowing of safety, wellbeing and empathy, but this often is at odds with a psychological self which feels afraid. It's hard to have clarity in these moments, though I see that allowing the feelings is safe and healing seems to come from breathing into this and seeing my own hurt, resentment and fear in the projections of the other - and finding incredible grace (and catharsis) in honouring the little girl in me who is so afraid. I'd love your perspective on this.

Thanks for your response to my email.  I had a good week last week.  I seemed to have dropped into a space where all there really was was 'right here, right now' and not much else.  For whatever reason, it was almost like my unhelpful thinking just wasn't 'taking hold', wasn't sticking.  Fear thoughts just passed by without anything grabbing onto them.  It felt like I couldn't have 'terrorised myself' even if I'd wanted to.  And all with little or no effort. Then, after a boozy night on Saturday everything seems to have fallen apart again.  Feels like almost back to square one.  Yesterday was a constant battle to 'just be in the body and feel whatever comes up without judging'.  I was like a cat on a hot tin roof.  Today I'm not a lot better either even though I had an alcohol free night ( I sound like a right old boozer, but the reality is that I only drink at the weekends and have no issue not drinking.  The point is that if I'm prone to occasionally getting a taste for it and overindulging when I do drink - then I feel toxic the next day and the impact is even more psychological than physical).  I should say that when this happened I didn't fall out with anyone, upset anyone or do anything that could have made me feel guilty. Just me feeling crap after one too many.I'm not sure how I get back to that place of clarity.  On the one hand I know that it's there, because I've experienced it. On the other it's clear that at the moment it is easily lost.  Feeling a bit discouraged.

I always begin my day with your podcast so yesterday I was delighted to receive the response to my question about game 1 and 2 right after I sent it Thank you!Today I listened to your podcast about discomfort and projections, all making sense (today anyway)My question is, does this ’sitting in the feeling’ hold true for all suffering?What about seemingly simple and somewhat ridiculous reactions for example getting mad about being cut off in traffic?I don’t want to over analyse my life but also don’t want to miss out on or write off opportunities to heal.

I've just listened to your podcast 'Capacity'.  You were speaking about projections as not being true.  I understand that what's happening right now is all there is and anything else is imagination.  My body holds a lot of contraction and sometimes the mind gets involved as well.  It seems like my projections always do come true though so it's hard not to see what's going to happen as being close and often worse than what my mind cooks up.  My brain is now wired for this. When you talk about 'getting still' do you mean that literally as in I should sit down, be quiet and feel what needs to be felt.  The dread never goes away and I'm always in the 'face the fear and do it anyways' program, so capacity or not it's in my face and has to be done.Thanks Clare❤❤❤

I listened to your podcasts on August 31 and Sept 1 (parts 1 ad 2) and they make complete sense to me and I have had significant changes occur in my relationships as a result of willing to sit in the suffering rather than point my finger out there at ’the problem’My question is around you saying that telling people to ‘find a nice feeling’ is not helpful and could be harmful (as I understand it) How is it that so many people seem to have life changing realisations from simply hearing that and so may (long time) 3P teachers mostly emphasise that as the foundation of their teaching? Sounds a lot easier than what we are doing?

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Why would I put myself through that? (Super power part 2) 

Your super power