Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Listener question: hi Clare - It seems like denial to me to bring in any discussion of thoughts and beliefs when it comes to stress. My circumstances are really bad at the moment. It is that causing the issue not beliefs. To say otherwise is actually dangerous as you are saying I’m making it all up... 

Listener question: Am still struggling to understand the ‘what’s at stake’ part of going deeper and being curious and feeling the feelings. I feel like there are so many patterns and conditioning bubbling to the surface to be seen, but when I ask the question ‘what is at stake’ I come up with an answer and I don’t know if it’s true. Or my mind just making something up? Or I just hit a brick wall. Can I give you an example please…. I get really anxious on hot days. I endlessly check the weather to see what it’s going to be like and if it falls into my narrow band of ok weather it’s a sigh of relief, if it’s over 22 degrees I feel the contraction of anxiety and start worrying about it before the day has actually arrived. I even check the direction of the wind because if it’s from the south it’s a major disaster! I wake up anxious about the hot day to come. I have done this forever. I watch myself doing it now, the checking, the worry thoughts, the anxious feelings, and I ask myself what’s at stake here? Somewhere something is telling me that I think people pass out in the heat and that might happen to me, that I look awful with a sweaty head and hair, that it means I should be at the beach or in the country having nice sunny days out and that’s impossible right now because of high anxiety levels. There’s so much story to this one thing! Am I on the right track with this Clare. What’s at stake is the idea of myself passing out, looking sweaty, mid panic on a beach in front of hundreds of people? It all about how this imagined idea of me should look and act? Sorry if this sounds crazy and confusing. To find out more or to sign up for our July 2021 programme, STRESS, getting real with challenge please click here 

Listener question: Dear ClareI believe that I have heard you say in your courses that we never want suffering to end. Could you please say more about that and how suffering is a gift?

The concept of the fork implies a choice and someone who makes the choice to go left or right. But i notice that when the ‘me’ tries to make this choice, it gets messy. When I reflect on that, i think it is kinda obvious why that is the case: a me that is making a choice consists out of thoughts about a self image, choices and forks. So that is the mind taking the left route. I also notice the ‘urge’ to ask things like “how can I..” , “what can I do..” but that is also the left route. So here I am. Wanting to ask what I can do to take the right route, but also having a slight understanding that this question leads me to the left route. Thinking that it is super complicated, but also contemplating about that the right route is less then complicated: it is just what is. It is experience minus complicated thinking. Well, now that I wrote this down i might as well send it to you. I think I kinda answered my own question but maybe you have a reflection about it. 

Creation has always been a struggle. Now I understand the depth of confusion around identification. And as you suggest, it seems to originate at school. The profound need for validation borned from the possibility of failing, being wrong, or even worse: insignificant. These days I have brief moments of lightness, but the habit of creating in order to prove myself (or find some kind of security/satisfaction) is still quite strong. I think of the crossroad image you shared and wonder how "doing" can be the way out of identification when it seemed to have always been it's confirmation.Maybe this can serve a podcast episode?

Listener question: I have had a huge shift in my happiness and peace of mind since discovering the 3Ps. Now I feel drawn to teach and coach. How do I know if that is what I should do? How did you know? Ask where / how would I begin? I would love to hear your thoughts.

Listener question: 'My issue is basically experiencing debilitating fear.  Just to explain......To date I have elected not take up the offer of vaccines in relation to the current pandemic.  This decision is based on my own research and I do not judge those that have done differently. I see a time very soon (I know future thinking) when the unvaccinated will be unfairly discriminated against for their decisions. I wondered if you can speak to this fear Clare? Primarily,  I think it’s around being unfairly judged, blamed and punished (Wow - as an aside Clare, even typing this made me well up) by many who have chosen a different road or those that impose the rules. Secondly, I’m afraid of where this is going, Our civil rights are changing, the impact on society of lockdowns imposed whilst many experts are being ignored.Thirdly,  I fear, the outcome if the government blame the unvaccinated for the continued restrictions, in the same way symptomatic spread was Incorrectly targeted. I’m trying really hard to pinpoint this Clare....it’s around a fear of standing out, being unfairly judged, blamed and punished and the abuse of power/trust.  When I speak of fear, it can present as all consuming ‘terror‘.this is a fear of judgement, physical punishment (harm) and abandonment.  But more importantly as an adult, it’s how it manifests in the body.... how debilitating and fear inducing those sensations are that seem to render me in fight or flight.  These can be triggered easily, ie just being in the spotlight etc.  Could it be possible this has nothing to do with the pandemic???

Listener question: I participate in your June  course. You speak about going deeper. Can you elaborate on the proces of going deeper? What is it? How does one do it? What I hear in this is that one becomes silent and witnesses what is playing out ‘behind the scenes’. Scrutinise your thought. But everytime I ‘do’ this, I get stuck in the weeds. Like I get sucked in the fantasy world of thought and I don’t hear the birds singing and feel the sun on my face. Same thing with deliberately feeling what is going on: then I seem to get sucked in anxious feelings and ramped up thinking. Few years ago I was very committed to seeing what was going on behind the scenes, and that resulted in being very depressed and deeply sucked in to a world of thought. For this reason, right now I’m a little step away from just stopping with this course.

Would it be fair to say that the primary characteristic of disidentified creation is the state of flow?  When I am simply delighting in how the line or the colors unfold on the canvas, or thrilling to a particularly delightful turn of phrase that has just emerged from nowhere.  Or, is that yet another elaborate trick of the identity claiming not to be there?  In other words, is a “pure“ state of flow even possible? Or are we , as in many other things, always dealing with both the awareness and the Lego figure?

I am writing with a question that is not so much for myself that I ask as for another who has seemingly been in a state of constant crisis for the last several months. The constant agitation of her mind has her body in perpetual overdrive, which leads to a lot of misery and loss of sleep.  She is quite frightened by the whole experience and even wondering whether there ever will be a solution and whether life is worth living.That preamble sets the stage for my question. For those who are so caught up that they simply cannot sit with the suffering, would it not be helpful to point them in the direction of what is working. The little miracles of sunshine coming through the window in the morning; fragrance of the 1st cup of coffee; The joy of watching children play in the park. These are just random examples that fall into the category of general gratitude. I know for my part that the only reason that I don’t get totally sucked into my thinking anymore is because I am so deeply savoring all the other aspects of my life.  The main appeal for me of your style of teaching is that you build bridges: the bridge to the first step followed by a bridge to the second step… And the third… And before you know it you are in a completely different head space. What I am suggesting here is that those who are struggling may need additional bridges.