

Remodeled Love
Jessica Daylover
Remodeled Love is a podcast whose mission is to help expand the cultural narrative on healthy relationships, polyamory, parenthood, and love. It is produced and hosted by polyamorous mama, Jessica Daylover, and most often co-hosted with her husband and babydaddy, Joseph Daylover (and beginning in 2024, her whole polycule!)
You can find Remodeled Love on all major social media platforms, @RemodeledLove, and online at www.remodeledlove.com.
You can find Remodeled Love on all major social media platforms, @RemodeledLove, and online at www.remodeledlove.com.
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Feb 19, 2026 • 40min
41: Blackity Black Polyamory [with Chaneé Jackson Kendall & Evita Sawyers]
IT'S A REMODELED LOVE PODCAST TAKEOVER! Featuring our two favorite Black polyam icons, Chaneé Jackson Kendall and Evita Sawyers.Check out Evita's WebsiteCheck out Chaneé's Website---00:00 Introduction and Personal Signals02:54 Celebrating Black History Month and Polyamory06:01 Building Community in Non-Monogamy09:02 Navigating Ideological Differences in Polyamory12:01 The Importance of Friendships in Non-Monogamy15:04 Creating Spaces for Black Polyamory18:03 The Metamour Bill of Rights20:57 Cultivating Compersion in Relationships24:03 The Rise of Polyamory During the Pandemic27:00 Defining Polyamory and Community Integrity30:02 The Evolution of Non-Monogamous Practices33:11 Current Projects and Future Directions35:54 Reflections on Black Polyamory and Closing Thoughts

Feb 5, 2026 • 2h 14min
40: The 40rgy (aka: Jes's 40th Birthday Orgy) Tell-All
This episode is brought to you by BEDucated. Sex is a skill, and BEDucated is where you learn it. Click the link below, take the quiz, and and get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness.https://beducate.me/pd2606-remodeled***It's here (finally), it's queer (always), and it's definitely NSFW (at least without headphones...).In this episode Jessica and 4 of the guests from her legendary 40th birthday orgy dig into their personal histories with sex parties, what lead them to this unique event, and a play-by-play tea-spilling session of one of the most magical nights of their lives. So strap in, and strap on if you're gay...cuz this episode is gonna take you on a ride.GOOD NEWS: You can hire Ali to produce your play party or help bring your fantasy to life! You can also purchase her Custom "Play Party Intake Form Template", and "Play Party Final Details Email Template" — All info here.Remodeled Love presents: How To Throw A Sex Party (Even A Demisexual, Neurodivergent, First-Timer Will Love) [workshop]Interested in seeing the spicy content filmed at the party? Subscribe to our spicy channel for free, and purchase videos PPV when they come out.Follow Evita Sawyers online — all links at evitasawyers.com.Follow Skylar Mundy online — and shop her store shopfemmmeow.com.Follow Holly on Instagram.Subscribe to Remodeled Love's free newsletter/substack (we promise we don't spam).

Sep 12, 2025 • 52min
39: Joe Has A Boyfriend :)
Hello, Lovers!Wow, are we really back after an 8 month hiatus? We feel a bit rusty but we are soooo ready to recommit to this damn In this episode we give you:Updates on all the amazing new workshops from Remodeled LoveUpdates on our personal lives, including the most pumpkiny development from Datty Daylover...Intrusive Thots about AI and Endocrine Disruptorsand for "Dear Daylovers" (our polyamorous advice portion of the podcast) we talk about one listener's battle to find the line between "care" and "enabling" within their polycule. ***You can submit a polyamorous advice question at RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers !***Support us on Patreon and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!Join Nuclear Fusion Network

Feb 20, 2025 • 46min
38: SMASH BROTHER!!!
What is a yuletide? Is Matty Healy the Jess Mariano to Taylor's Rory? Is Joe reading smut??Also: Joe's breakup, parenting fails, polyamorous guilt, Jes is over avoidants (for real this time), and Jes went on a date with a girl!***You can submit a polyamorous advice question at RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers !***Support us on Patreon and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!Nuclear Fusion's alpha network is live, and you can join or donate now!Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like Rituals for Connection, The Reluctant Polyamorist, and How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love on our website!USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

Dec 24, 2024 • 52min
37: Polyamory & The Holidays (with Chaneé Jackson Kendall)
It is really important to Jes that you know this episode was recorded BEFORE Thanksgiving and that it was supposed to be out BEFORE Thanksgiving, and she's really sorry it's only coming out now on Christmas Eve Eve. Good ol' ADHD and general overwhelm.
Also, now that the live event for "Off the Table" has passed, you can still purchase the recording!
In this episode, The Daylovers and friend-of-the-pod Chaneé Jackson Kendall sit down to hash out some of the common difficulties and pitfalls polyamorous folks face during the holiday season. They answer 3 listener emails, including one about working through the emotions of your partner missing traditions to be with their new partner, one about navigating the holidays as a hinge, and one about being the new partner entering into an established family's holidays.
Head to bit.ly/chaneespeaks to learn more about Chaneé's offerings and sign up for her newbie cohort.
You can submit a polyamorous advice question at RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers !
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Support us on Patreon and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!
Nuclear Fusion's alpha network is live, and you can join or donate now!
Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like Rituals for Connection, The Reluctant Polyamorist, and How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love on our website!
USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

Oct 29, 2024 • 48min
36: Jes is BACK ON THE APPS, BABY!!
Episode highlights:
There are only 8 (actually 3 now) tickets left for Jes and Chaneé's "You Wanna Be Polyamorous But You..." workshop on 11/2
Jes is willing to be ruined by the "Homosexual Lesbian Spirits", and also she made merch about it.
Jes is back on dating apps for the first time in almost 2 years because of a tv show, and Joe is really happy for her for it
Joe makes Jes late to her first first date in almost 2 years
Jes suddenly has the ability to go on a first date without making the person jump through her autistic demisexual screening hoops
Jes suggests Joe becomes a bull so he can fuck some hot wives
This episode's Intrusive Thots include:
Jes will never be free of all toxins, and
Joe wonders if folks will look nostalgically back at this era
You can submit a polyamorous advice question at RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers !
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Support us on Patreon and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!
Nuclear Fusion's alpha network is live, and you can join or donate now!
Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like Rituals for Connection, The Reluctant Polyamorist, and How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love on our website!
USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

Oct 3, 2024 • 16min
Polyamorous Character Arcs and Emotional Support T!tties (with Chaneé Jackson Kendall) [PREVIEW]
In this episode, Jessica and Chaneé (@chaneespeaks on all the socials) spin off of their last episode together where they talked about earning your "polyamory stripes" through "fuckin' up and fixin' it," as Chaneé says. In this convo they dive into specific mistakes they've each made over the last 10 years, and the character arcs that came out of that journey.
Some themes include:
-security and stability are illusions of monogamy
-impulsive, addict-like behavior during NRE
-the nuances of having a more intense sexual chemistry with a new partner
-getting tired of your own bullshit
-the role psychedelics can play in helping your non-monogamy journey
-and, as always, Chaneé's giant ( . Y . )
Make sure to sign up for Chaneé's newsletter, and stay turned for a workshop from the two of us coming up soon!

Sep 20, 2024 • 7min
Fusion Radio: The Prelude [PREVIEW]
Welcome to the first episode of Fusion Radio, produced and hosted by Nuclear Fusion App's CEO, Jessica Daylover.
Fusion Radio is an enterprise of the Nuclear Fusion App. The Nuclear Fusion App is a project whose mission is to help folks across the world find, build, and sustain modern villages and chosen families.
In this short episode, Jessica introduces you to the Nuclear Fusion App project, and the context of its existence.
The alpha version of Nuclear Fusion App launches on Monday 9/23/24 across the globe. The best way to stay up-to-date is to sign up for our newsletter, and subscribing to all of our social medias, including our new podcast channel!
We are excited to see you in the network.
Now, let the Fusion begin!
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Sep 6, 2024 • 1h 2min
35: Falling In Love Is Wack (with Chaneé Jackson Kendall)
In this episode of our podcast (now on video!) The Daylovers sit down with their beloved friend and colleague Chaneé Jackson Kendall (online at @ChaneeSpeaks).
They talk about what's new with Chaneé's project "Intentional Polyamory", Remodeled Love, and the Nuclear Fusion App.
They get into why there's no point to anything and, as always, a reminder that love sucks.
Finally they dive into a very complex polyamory problem as part of their advice portion of the show called "Dear Daylovers".
Make sure to follow Chaneé @chaneespeaks on all socials, and signup for her newsletter by subscribing for free at chaneespeaks.substack.com.
You can submit a question at RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers !
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Support us on Patreon and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!
Also donate to our new community-building app, Nuclear Fusion, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build!
Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like Rituals for Connection, The Reluctant Polyamorist, and How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love on our website!
USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF RITUALS FOR CONNECTION!

Aug 29, 2024 • 1h 8min
34: Burnt Out Polyamory
Join a candid discussion about the highs and lows of navigating polyamorous relationships. The hosts share hilarious updates from their salacious lives and delve into existential thoughts plaguing their minds. They tackle the challenges of parenting, community support, and found family connections in a neurodivergent household. Hear about the emotional complexities of solo polyamory, transitioning from monogamy, and managing New Relationship Energy. Plus, a heartfelt listener question about communicating in non-monogamous settings is answered!


