The Allender Center Podcast
The Allender Center
The Allender Center Podcast features Dr. Dan Allender and his team engaging topics on healing and restoration through the unique intersection of theology and psychology. Through questions submitted by listeners, stories, interviews, and conversations, we engage the deep places of heartache and hope that are rarely addressed so candidly in our culture today. Join us to gain refreshing insight into understanding your story, handling relational struggles, recovering from trauma and abuse, and more.
The mission of The Allender Center is to help people tell their stories with awareness and integrity, and to train them to listen to the stories of others with care, artistry, and skill so that they may foster redemption and healing in their lives. The Allender Center is a pioneering organization committed to boldly engaging the impact of trauma and abuse, providing healing and teaching to individuals, couples, and communities, and training professionals to listen and enter into stories in a way that facilitates transformation and hope. For information on all our programs and live events, visit theallendercenter.org
The mission of The Allender Center is to help people tell their stories with awareness and integrity, and to train them to listen to the stories of others with care, artistry, and skill so that they may foster redemption and healing in their lives. The Allender Center is a pioneering organization committed to boldly engaging the impact of trauma and abuse, providing healing and teaching to individuals, couples, and communities, and training professionals to listen and enter into stories in a way that facilitates transformation and hope. For information on all our programs and live events, visit theallendercenter.org
Episodes
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Oct 22, 2022 • 37min
Does Time Heal All Wounds?
Does time really heal all wounds? After recently celebrating their respective 70th birthdays, Dan and Becky Allender sat down to look back over the decades with a different awareness, considering the trauma, the joy, the losses, and the blessings. They also explore the saying that "time heals all wounds" and explain why trauma does not honor time. The good news is that, instead of hoping that the passage of time will allow us to heal, we can step in and own our stories and begin to experience the redemption and restoration that God has for us.
Oct 15, 2022 • 46min
Becoming a Sage
Author and counselor Chris Bruno shares what it means to become a "sage" - recovering exiled parts of ourselves, gleaning the wisdom from our stories, and sharing that wisdom generatively with others. Wherever you are along your life journey, we think you'll find a new perspective in this episode that can help you examine your story and your own passage into the role of sage.
Oct 8, 2022 • 44min
The Beauty of Intersectionality
Renee Begay, ministry leader and co-founder of Nations Ministry, joins us this week on the podcast. Renee is a member of the Zuni tribe and shares with us her journey of holding and honoring her Indigenous cultural identity within the Western cultural context of her Christian faith. This conversation is a beautiful reminder that we are invited to know our stories, value our unique identities, and know that we were each created to reveal the image of God in unique ways.
Oct 1, 2022 • 44min
The Narratives of Marginalization
Our guest this week is Pastor James White, longtime friend of co-host Linda Royster. James is a highly sought out consultant, speaker and facilitator for several organizations and companies on issues relating to inclusion, equity and diversity. James White, Linda Royster, and Dan Allender discuss the distinct narratives in scripture of the so-called "marginalized," the narratives of race that have been created and embedded into our Western culture to dehumanize the "other," and the opportunities we have to experience shalom when we truly listen to one another's narratives."Whenever we talk about doing this work of diversity, equity, inclusion, we make it seem like it's just for marginalized people to gain power. I would say it's so that we all can become the humans that God designed us to be," says James White.
Sep 24, 2022 • 51min
Systems of Separation
This week, we're joined by Rev. Michael S. Chen, with Linda Royster co-hosting alongside Dr. Dan Allender. As we lean in to listening to one another's voices, we're examining the impact of the oppressive systems on our individual and collective stories, and naming the more subtle systems of division, comparison, stereotypes, fear, and distrust that may impact our ability to truly listen. Why are these conversations so important? As Michaen Chen points out, without the perspectives of others who also bear the image of God, we will have an impoverished view of who God is.
Sep 17, 2022 • 24min
Nuanced Identities
This week, we're revisiting a conversation from 2018 between Dr. Dan Allender and Dr. Angela Parker, Professor at The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, as they explore the passage of 1 Corinthians 4:8-13. Dr. Parker starts by offering some context about the port city of Corinth and the people who make up the church Paul is writing to. It's a divided city, concerned with hierarchy and proximity to power. Dr. Parker challenges us to consider Paul's ethnicity, gender, and position as we wonder about "what might be going on underneath the text," which also invites us to wrestle with our own nuanced identities as readers of the text.
Sep 10, 2022 • 45min
The Violence of Marginalization
"Marginalization is profoundly violent," states Linda Royster in this week's conversation with Dan Allender. Linda is the Strategic Alliances Manager, Lead Instructor, and Co-Facilitator of the Story Workshop for Racial Trauma and Healing at The Allender Center. From the very beginning, this conversation challenges the use of the term "marginalized." As we engage topics such as race, gender, and cultural norms, this conversation sets the stage and reminds us to enter the conversation with the desire to listen - really listen - to voices that are often dismissed or diminished. Linda reminds us that listening well "requires a willingness to mature, to go beyond being the center of your own world and to actually take into consideration that there is value outside of yourself."
Sep 3, 2022 • 33min
Desire and Disappointment
Reflections on unmet plans and the tension between desire and disappointment. Stories of family gatherings, a child’s meltdown turning into connection, and a boat accident prompting bodily awareness. Conversations about tending grief, practicing kindness toward failure, and slowing down to read the room as seasons change.
Aug 27, 2022 • 37min
Resilient Spirit: A Conversation with John Eldredge
We're joined again by author John Eldredge to talk about the hope that we can hold onto as we work through the collective and personal trauma of the COVID-19 pandemic. This is not accomplished through a to-do list, but rather through small practices that gently guide us deeper into the hope and restoration that God offers. John's latest book, "Resilient: Restoring Your Weary Soul in These Turbulent Times," identifies the warning signs of post-pandemic weariness while also pointing to the resilient human spirit and the hope we have in God.
Aug 20, 2022 • 37min
Rushing for Relief: A Conversation with John Eldredge
A lost train of thought, a lost sense of motivation, a lost temper… these are just some of the things we may have lost as a result of the personal and global trauma of the pandemic. As restrictions have lifted, many of us are rushing for relief, finding comfort in the things we lost like dining out, going to concerts, and taking vacations. While there's nothing wrong with enjoying these activities, we may be using them as quick fixes to soothe the pain and isolation experienced over the past two years. Our guest this week, John Eldredge, has written about the need for acknowledging the trauma from the COVID-19 pandemic in his latest book, "Resilient: Restoring Your Weary Soul in These Turbulent Times." In this conversation with Dr. Dan Allender, John points out the warning signs of post-pandemic weariness while also pointing to the resilient human spirit and the hope we have in God. We invite you to slow your pace for the next half hour or so to thoughtfully consider this conversation with us.
