The Allender Center Podcast Desire and Disappointment
Sep 3, 2022
Reflections on unmet plans and the tension between desire and disappointment. Stories of family gatherings, a child’s meltdown turning into connection, and a boat accident prompting bodily awareness. Conversations about tending grief, practicing kindness toward failure, and slowing down to read the room as seasons change.
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Disappointment Reveals Hidden Expectations
- Disappointment exposes hidden expectations and illusions about how life should be, not just isolated failures.
- Dan and Rachel show this by linking small summer frustrations (family visits, teaching grandkids) to deeper demands of how things ought to be.
Summer Hosting Mixed Joy And Exhaustion
- Becky describes hosting family all summer as both joyful and exhausting, wanting to be a calm grandparent but feeling pulled into chores.
- She felt disappointment in herself for not being able to sit and read amid household chaos with grandchildren aged 2–10.
Name When You Thin Out Desire
- Avoid killing desire to prevent disappointment; instead notice when you thin desires to protect yourself.
- Becky admits she sometimes 'kills desire' to manage her heart when expectations won't be met.