

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Civility Media
Communicate with confidence so you can argue less and talk more.Every episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast is packed with actionable strategies you can implement today to improve the way you communicate.Make your next conversation the one that changes everything.New episodes every Tuesday.The Jefferson Fisher Podcast on YoutubeListen on Apple PodcastsListen or watch on SpotifyOrder my book The Next ConversationJoin my School of CommunicationSubscribe to my NewsletterFollow me on InstagramFollow me on TikTokFollow me on LinkedIn
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Jan 27, 2026 • 23min
When to Speak Up
They tackle the myth of a “perfect moment” to speak and why waiting often makes problems worse. They outline when not to speak now, including safety and emotional overwhelm. A three-question framework helps decide if something needs saying, if it must be said now, and who should say it. A 24-hour golden rule and timing filters round out practical rules for tough conversations.

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Jan 20, 2026 • 16min
The Lawyer’s Method to Shut Down Narcissism
Feeling controlled in conversations? This discussion dives into effective strategies to disarm narcissistic behavior drawn from courtroom experiences. Learn how to slow down the pace to regain control and respond with neutral phrases. Discover the powerful boundary phrase, "I'm not getting pulled into that," to protect yourself from manipulation. Plus, insights on using action words to assert your direction give you back the conversational power. Tune in for practical tips to navigate tricky interactions!

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Jan 13, 2026 • 15min
How to Sound Assertive Without Sounding Rude
Discover how to communicate assertively without being rude! Explore the power of tone and learn to frame your sentences effectively. Jefferson highlights the importance of clarity by encouraging you to use a downward pitch and to start thoughts with 'I need.' Find out why saying less often leads to being heard more. This insightful guidance will transform your conversations and help you strike the perfect balance between respect and self-expression.

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Jan 6, 2026 • 35min
3 Communication Habits to Change This Year
Start the new year by revitalizing your communication skills. Discover how to reconnect after estrangement with practical strategies, including a unique audio-text approach. Learn how to tackle workplace rumors with confidence and turn uncertainty into fuel for growth. Plus, uncover a simple yet powerful habit—limiting phone use—that can significantly enhance your relationships and conversations. Get ready to step into 2026 with clarity and connection!

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Dec 30, 2025 • 26min
The Best Communication Advice of 2025
Discover the three transformative communication tools that reshaped conversations in 2025. Learn how asking 'Did you mean...' can dismantle misunderstandings and enhance clarity. Experience the power of a pause through breathing techniques to regain calm in tense moments. Finally, embrace the art of saying less with concise responses, boosting your credibility. These strategies aim to redefine your interactions as you head into the new year!

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Dec 23, 2025 • 22min
How to Prepare for a Hard Conversation
Facing a tough conversation? Reframe those nerves as a sign that you care. Start with a clear goal and focus on regulating your body instead of memorizing lines. Anticipate your emotional responses and rehearse a powerful opening line to set the tone. Admitting your struggles can build connections, turning tension into cooperation. Prepare to eliminate surprises and transform anxious talks into simple conversations. Gain confidence and clarity while navigating those tricky discussions!

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Dec 16, 2025 • 18min
How to Shut Down Gaslighting Without Escalating
Confusion is a cunning weapon in tough conversations, skillfully used to evade accountability. Learn how to identify genuine confusion versus strategic manipulation by recognizing red flags like circular talk and vague language. Discover the power of headlines to clarify discussions and stop detail-driven disputes in their tracks. Jefferson also emphasizes the importance of distinguishing facts from feelings to regain control. Slow the conversation down and expose fake confusion, ensuring clear communication without escalating conflict.

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Dec 9, 2025 • 47min
Robert Greene: Why People Manipulate & How to Protect Yourself
Join Robert Greene, author and strategist known for his insights on power dynamics, as he delves into the nature of influence and manipulation. He shares how power can be both a tool and a trap, emphasizing the importance of self-love and setting boundaries. Greene explains how to spot manipulators and discusses the strategic use of communication for better relationships. Plus, he offers a sneak peek into his forthcoming book, inspired by a near-death experience, highlighting the need to appreciate life's wonders.

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Dec 2, 2025 • 15min
This Is Why Emotional People Hijack Conversations
Ever felt weighed down by someone else's bad mood? Discover how you can stop negative energy from ruining your day. Learn three practical tools: calling out tension in the room, separating someone's tone from the truth, and protecting your own presence. Jefferson shares a mediation example that illustrates how to deflate hostility by naming discomfort. Instead of trying to fix other people's problems, prioritize your peace and stay grounded. Get ready to empower your conversations and reclaim your emotional space!

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Nov 25, 2025 • 17min
How To Talk To Someone You Completely Disagree With
Discover how to engage in calm, constructive conversations with those you deeply disagree with. Learn a three-step framework: identify underlying needs instead of battling opinions, shift from proving your point to seeking understanding, and prioritize your emotional well-being. The host shares practical phrases and strategies to navigate tricky discussions, ensuring you walk away feeling proud, not frustrated—perfect armor for those holiday gatherings!


