The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Civility Media
Communicate with confidence so you can argue less and talk more.Every episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast is packed with actionable strategies you can implement today to improve the way you communicate.Make your next conversation the one that changes everything.New episodes every Tuesday.The Jefferson Fisher Podcast on YoutubeListen on Apple PodcastsListen or watch on SpotifyOrder my book The Next ConversationJoin my School of CommunicationSubscribe to my NewsletterFollow me on InstagramFollow me on TikTokFollow me on LinkedIn
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168 snips
Mar 24, 2026 • 20min
Be More Direct in 3 Sentences
Short, sharp communication tricks for saying what you mean in three sentences. Why customer service calls are the perfect practice field for brevity. A simple three-step formula: state the issue, the impact, and the fix. Tips for pushing toward clear solutions and avoiding long background stories.
99 snips
Mar 17, 2026 • 22min
Weak Boundaries Sound Like This
A concise guide to why over-explaining weakens your limits. Short examples show how extra reasons invite negotiation. Practical tips teach one-breath no's, brief phrases, and repetition to protect your time and energy. Simple language and ready-to-use lines for firmer boundaries.
128 snips
Mar 10, 2026 • 19min
3 Habits of Strong Adult Friendships
Life gets in the way of real connection, so stop waiting for others to reach out and learn to initiate. Build predictable rhythms like regular calls or monthly dinners to keep relationships alive. Move past small talk by gradually sharing more honest, personal things. Be intentional about who you invest in and let go of surface-level ties.
58 snips
Mar 3, 2026 • 34min
Top 5 Communication Habits We’re Teaching Our Kids
Practical parenting habits for teaching kids to talk about big feelings and repair mistakes. Real examples of apologizing out loud and modeling recovery. Simple breath cues and rules for safe arguing and sibling conflict. Ways to coach kids to ask for what they need and to take perspective. Tips for creating a home where honesty feels safe.
238 snips
Feb 24, 2026 • 23min
Stop Overexplaining
A practical crash course in staying calm and clear when pressure spikes. Techniques for slowing the moment with a breathing first word. Tips on pausing before you reply and answering only what was asked. Advice on keeping responses short and letting others draw information rather than oversharing.
87 snips
Feb 17, 2026 • 21min
The 3 Signs You’re Being Gaslit (And What to Do About It)
A clear breakdown of three telltale signs that someone is manipulating your sense of reality. Short cues to spot shifting conversation tactics and moments that leave you doubting yourself. Simple phrases to stay grounded and speak up in the moment. A look inward at patterns that make people unintentionally gaslight others and how to begin repairing those habits.
195 snips
Feb 10, 2026 • 25min
How to Set Boundaries That Actually Create Peace
They unpack how constant hurry and chronic busyness erode relationships and inner calm. You hear metaphors that clarify pace versus volume and why margin matters. Practical habits are offered like brain dumps and new phrases to protect focus. The conversation nudges listeners to slow down, set boundaries, and reclaim spontaneous connection.
114 snips
Feb 3, 2026 • 30min
Stop Arguing With Narcissists — Do This Instead
They unpack why logic fails with manipulators and how arguments turn into endurance tests. You hear how emotions get weaponized to flip your values against you. Practical tactics are shared: keep replies short, use neutral one-liners, and a single sentence that stops escalation.
138 snips
Jan 27, 2026 • 23min
When to Speak Up
They tackle the myth of a “perfect moment” to speak and why waiting often makes problems worse. They outline when not to speak now, including safety and emotional overwhelm. A three-question framework helps decide if something needs saying, if it must be said now, and who should say it. A 24-hour golden rule and timing filters round out practical rules for tough conversations.
79 snips
Jan 20, 2026 • 16min
The Lawyer’s Method to Shut Down Narcissism
Feeling controlled in conversations? This discussion dives into effective strategies to disarm narcissistic behavior drawn from courtroom experiences. Learn how to slow down the pace to regain control and respond with neutral phrases. Discover the powerful boundary phrase, "I'm not getting pulled into that," to protect yourself from manipulation. Plus, insights on using action words to assert your direction give you back the conversational power. Tune in for practical tips to navigate tricky interactions!
