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Listen to today's episode for a quick and easy way to cut down on your child's bad behavior : ) – – – New Course Offering: It's agonizing to watch your child go through the social stuff of life; getting called a mean name or crybaby; getting "broken up with" by a friend, encountering sibling strife. It upsets us parents because 1) our heart breaks for our beautiful child, and 2) we don't know what to do to help.. I'm offering something new and different that will create a new opportunity for you: The Surviving the Social Stuff course. It's tailored to participants' needs, so whatever social stuff is going on in your child's life – THAT'S what you'll learn how to handle. It's super helpful as we get into the high-emotion holidays, with weekly class meetings starting Tuesday, November 7 and running right through into January. Space is limited!! So, if you're struggling with anything social in your child's life, Click Here to sign up.. Then you'll be feeling less alone and learning new ways to Survive the Social Stuff! – – – For key links, go to weturnedoutokay.com/192! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Each fall as the nights get longer and Halloween gets close, spooky feelings crop up. They can be fun, but for kids these feelings also be downright frightening. Today I'm excited to bring you my conversation with my youngest, Jason, who remembers well the feeling of being afraid of the dark and shares really great advice for helping your kids cope with their fears. We talk about all kinds of Halloweeny stuff, and also: – Einstein's view of the world – Why validating a kid's fears is the gateway to helping them feel less afraid – Jay's all-important question: "How does pretending an avocado is alive show a mastery of empathy?" … Just to give you an idea of the kind of conversations we have around here : ) Key links, including the one about Surviving the Social Stuff, the course that will help you feel less alone AND help your child navigate scary social waters, at weturnedoutokay.com/191! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Sexually abused at age 7, I consider myself not a victim, but a survivor. In today's bonus episode, brought on by the #MeToo movement, I share the most important tool in my healing – and the conviction that, if you or a loved one has been sexually abused or harassed, there is help and hope for a good life (even a great one). Click here for key links, and please consider sharing this episode if you feel like it will help somebody in your life feel better. Thanks, and thanks for listening! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Given their small stature and relative powerlessness, the idea of something as powerFUL as a gun captivates young children. But in the violent world we live in, their fascination can seem to us morbid and frightening… All the more so in the wake of mass shootings like the one just a few weeks ago in Las Vegas. Today's show gives you concrete ideas about how to raise a nonviolent child in our violent world, and how to feel better if you, like me, share your home with a pint-sized gun enthusiast. Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/190; Click here to get concrete help for the huge and important questions in your parenting, by checking out the Ninja Parenting Community! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

In which a coaching client of mine shows me that something I'd always thought to be truly impossible is, in fact, possible. It brings up the question "what happens to our children when we believe something is impossible?" Alternatively, what happens to them when we believe that something is possible? Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/189; Click here to learn more about the Ninja Parenting Community, if you're at your wit's end with your child, and need some help making the impossible become possible! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today's guest knows that we live in a time where everything around us – the challenges, the technology, changing culture – can seem both terrifying and awesome. Former psychotherapist and current creativity coach Mark McGuinness teaches how to embrace the awesome, and mitigate the terrifying with his podcast, 21st Century Creative, and today he brings wonderful ideas for you to enjoy more of your parenting in this turbulent time. Mark also brings something new to We Turned Out Okay: a guest-challenge! An expert at helping people find time to accomplish their goals, Mark drops the gauntlet, setting YOU a challenge in this episode. Completing Mark's challenge not only can help you find time in your life for the things you love, but might just when you a copy of his book, Productivity for Creative People… Three copies of which Mark has graciously offered three lucky WTOO listeners. Listen to find out what the challenge is, and how to enter the giveaway – which ends Tuesday, October 17, 2017! To take up the challenge: sometime on or before October 17, 2017, go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact and tell me how you did with Mark's challenge… More key links in the show notes at weturnedoutokay.com/188! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

In which I identify 5 different ways you might feel about your child and schooling, on a continuum from 1) you knew going into school that your child had issues that impact education, and would need to be addressed to 5) you have no worries about potential issues, and the school reports no problems. It doesn't matter which of these five spots on the continuum you occupy – the way to work with your child's teachers is the same, 3 steps to keep in mind that make every interaction with your child's caregivers easier. To read about these three steps and for key links, go to weturnedoutokay.com/187. And if you're having trouble thinking past mindset and into concrete steps to help you worry less and enjoy more, click here to find out about the Ninja Parenting Community. It's the place where I help parents solve their toughest challenges every day, so I know it'll be helpful for you too! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

In which we talk about how, when we are so worried, we can also feel simultaneously frozen and stuck – and, when we feel that way, the effect on our kids is devastating. Sign up for round 2 of the Streamline Your Mornings Free 5-Day Challenge (which you know you want to if weekday mornings are, well, challenging : ) and for key links to today's episode by going to weturnedoutokay.com/186. Click here to find out more about the Ninja Parenting Community, the place where I help parents solve their toughest challenges every day. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

When he was just five years old and a child in preschool, Nicole Olson's son was suffering. Lots of changes were going on in his world, and in the midst of dealing with them he "lost his personality." Nicole had thought that, if only she checked all the right boxes and pushed him into all the right activities, academic and otherwise, that he'd be fine. When she discovered that was not the case, she felt about the biggest load of parental guilt that one could feel… That sad, depressed 5-year-old is now 14 and thriving. Today's episode shares their story, and will feel so relevant for you if you worry at all about how your child will learn to get along in this world. We share about a million links, so click weturnedoutokay.com/185 to grab them, and to sign up for the Streamline Your Mornings 5-Day Free Challenge, which starts in less than a week! Click here to find out more about the Ninja Parenting Community, the place where I help parents solve their toughest challenges every day. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Here at the beginning of the school year, teachers are doing their initial assessments, figuring out who of their students is how far along the literacy timeline. It can be a worrisome time for us parents – what if our kids don't read when they're supposed to? What if they tell you "reading is boring"? What if they hate reading? We all know that reading is THE key to our children's future success… but how do you get them to want to read? Today's bonus episode digs into the two most important factors in getting children to be happy readers. Click here to listen, and to sign up for the upcoming Streamline Your Mornings 5-Day Challenge, which starts Monday, October 2! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe