Art Creativity & Wellbeing

I'm playing my little game again today, trying to guess what you'll think the next value in our series is… (For those of you keeping score, this is Part 3 of 5.) Today's is something even cooler, even bigger, and even more mind-blowing than exhilaration. Which is saying something, because Exhilaration is my 2021 Word of the Year! Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands… Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/368 The link to the second episode in this series (this is the third)… https://weturnedoutokay.com/367 Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/360 for my conversation with the amazing Julie Lythcott-Haims, which sometimes I still listen to and feel knocked on the head all over again – in a good way. Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... Http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

So, as I'm doing this series on the values that I hold most dear, I'm playing a little game with myself. I'm imagining you, asking yourself "can I guess today's value?" All I can say is, if you guess creativity, you are wrong… But not completely wrong. Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands… Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/367 The link to the first episode in this series (this is the second)… https://weturnedoutokay.com/366 Click here for the link to the TED talk that I reference today, called The Birth of a Word. It is awesome and you've got to listen to it! Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... Http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I am excited to bring you into this, the first in a five-part series on really important subject – and a fun one too! But I don't want to say too much about it. I want you to listen, and see if what you hear resonates. For this first part though, I do have one question: What should you be, in a world where you can be anything? Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands… Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/366 Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

"Is this something that I care about, or is this something that someone else thinks I should care about?" – Shari Medini That's what I almost called today's episode (but used another excellent quote from today's guest for brevity's sake : ) If you want a conversation about handling all the stuff that is flying at you… If you want to feel better about the choices that you have that maybe you didn't even realize… You will love this talk with Shari Medini, one half of the duo at Adore Them Parenting! Shari and her cofounder Karissa Tunis have written a great book, Parenting While Working from Home, and offer their help and support to parents from their website. They brought me into their virtual summit this winter – you can hear the audio from my presentation at the end of today's episode in fact, presenting on a subject that is near and dear to my heart! I know you're going to love our conversation! Video of my conversation with Shari and my presentation for the Adore Them Summit: https://weturnedoutokay.com/365 Cheers! And thank you for listening! Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – in both my hands… The newsletter is where I share my best essays, stories, and tools. Because it's more personal, it's even better than the podcast! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! Yes, on its surface this is a conversation (with 6-time returning champion Janine Halloran! So excited to bring her back to you!) about ADHD. But it's about so much more. It's about expectations, and how they create the roles our children inhabit. It's about us, the roles we inhabit, and how we got here. It's about what we can do that would be detrimental, or helpful – again, not just with the concerns of ADHD. But with so much more. I'm excited to welcome you into this conversation, and I'm grateful that you are here! Key links and video located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/364 Key Links Click here for the video that I share in the intro, in which six photographers were told six different things about the same man – and as a result of their different expectations, they produce six completely different portraits of that man. Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/191 for the conversation I share about in the intro, me talking with my 13-year-old son… He accuses me of being "Pollyanna-ish." It's a fascinating chat even if you don't happen to be this boy's mother! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up for my weekly newsletters… Each is an invitation to go deeper with me. To get to know me better, to correspond, and to get support for your challenges. Completely free, just bring your open heart Click http://copingskillsforkids.com to check out all of the useful and fun stuff that Janine is doing! Click here for the amazing Rick Riordan book series about Percy Jackson and the Olympians. Click here for an article about one of Dav Pilkey's Captain Underpants books, which the author withdrew from publication recently. Click here for the Angst movie. Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/194 for my conversation with awesome author Joshilyn Jackson, a New York Times best-selling fiction author (who shares on my show that she didn't feel empathy until she became a parent. A fascinating conversation!) Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/324 for my conversation with Janine during OkayCon 2020, the video series I did to support parents during the pandemic… It was called "Why your child's behavior may be worse now than usual, and what to do about it, with Janine Halloran, LMHC" Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/300 to hear my roundtable conversation with Janine, today's guest, and special-needs preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso. Two of my favorite humans on the whole planet, together in a fabulous roundtable discussion! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/361 for the first in this ADHD series, called "ADHD is not a result of parenting" – talking with pediatric occupational therapist Holly Peretz today!" Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! THERE ARE SWEARS TODAY… So be sure to listen away from sensitive ears : ) My guest, Washington Post Parent Columnist Meghan Leahey, recorded this conversation with me back in February… and it feels even more relevant now, than when we recorded. This episode will help you: – Put important stuff in perspective – Lay to rest a childhood demon or two – Appreciate the absurdity inherent in our lives right now Watch our conversation by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/363 Key links just below. Cheers! And thank you so much for listening! Key Links Connect with Meghan – and get her book, Parenting Outside the Lines! – at MLparentcoach.com Today, the Parent Encouragement Program comes up because Meghan use to be part of that program! Check it out at https://pepparent.org/ My conversation with Katherine Reynolds Lewis (another Parent Encouragement Program alum) comes up today… Listen by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/351 The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, has gone digital! You can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical snail mailbox, or digitally! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

What's next? For many, that feels like the question of the moment. As I recorded this episode, there were some hopeful notes in the air, but also some serious uncertainty. A little more than a year ago everyone's lives were completely disrupted, and the stress and worry and fear that we've lived with for so long feels impenetrable. What's next? This may be a frightening question. But it's also an exhilarating one, when looked at in a certain light. If any or all of that is on your mind, I hope my conversation with author and community-builder Gail Clanton is helpful for you. Gail brings wonderful energy and ideas to your ears today! You will learn: – how to tap into your own creativity – how to foster community, even with the way that we have been living since early 2020 – 3 ways to share your stories It's a fantastic conversation, and I'm so grateful to Gail for coming on the show! You can watch the video of our conversation by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/362 Key Links just below. Thanks for reading! Cheers! Key Links Gail has just published a beautiful memoir, Sparkle in the Rain; click here to see! Her anthology Living in the Key of Joy comes out next month – click here to check it out : ) The Parenting in Place Masterclass comes up in our conversation; this masterclass has been a lifesaver for me and many others over the past year. Click this link to check it out: http://parentinginplacemasterclass.com A couple writing resources that come up in our conversation today: temi.com KDP In the preshow I share about two recent episodes that have helped me figure out "what's next"… My conversation with Julie Lythcott-Haimes in episode 360 of the podcast My conversation with coaching client Kate about pandemic survivor's guilt and so much more, episode 360.5 of the podcast The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, is going digital! You can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical snail mailbox, or digitally, if you'd rather enjoy a digital, than physical, copy! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! Welcome to this first installment in my series on ADHD I am honored and thrilled to bring you this conversation with pediatric occupational therapist – and mom of toddlers – Holly Peretz! As you'll hear in our conversation, Holly knows lots about the challenges of raising young children. In fact she's built an entire virtual summit around addressing these challenges, and thriving (both you, and your kids thriving, I mean.) Click here to sign up for Holly's upcoming, amazing Toddler Play Conference – I am a speaker once again and so excited to be a part of this conference! In today's conversation, Holly shares her knowledge of ADD and ADHD. Specifically we discuss how to know if your child has one of these neurodiversities, what to do around this whole subject that is helpful, and what to avoid doing. Key links below – hope you enjoy this episode of We Turned Out Okay! Key Links Click here to register for the Toddler Play Conference, which begins Thursday 4/22/21! You can watch all the presentations for free in real time, and it's all online so you get to do it in your PJs if you wish! Holly talks about The Explosive Child by Ross Greene… Click here for this seminal book. I interviewed Tanya Trainor of Miss Tanya's Nursery Schools in an early episode of We Turned Out Okay; click the following link to listen! https://weturnedoutokay.com/167 If you'd like to read my first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, for free, click here. My masterclass, What's the pandemic doing to my child?, is SOLD OUT – before we even made it out of the Early Bird pricing! If you are signed up, I can't wait to work with you on this important topic! If you missed out on this one, stay tuned because I'll be offering other masterclasses soon. In fact, sign up for my free weekly newsletters, https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, to find out about the next masterclass before the general public! The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, is going digital! Starting with the May issue you can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical American snail mailbox, or digitally, if you live outside of the US – or if you'd rather enjoy a digital, than physical, copy! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe. Video, links, and show notes for this episode are all located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/361 Thanks for being here! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

There is no manual for emerging from a pandemic, just as there is none for living through one. So my private coaching client Kate's questions might be very familiar to you: – "Am I being selfish?" (To send her child to in-person school, or summer camp.) – How do we keep "the comfort of closeness" we've had during all this, but still foster a kid's independence? – What about kids' physical safety – when they are not right next to us, when they are off doing normal childhood things (like school or summer camp)? This is usually an off week for the podcast, but in speaking with Kate, the concerns she brought up and the stuff she is dealing with felt extremely relevant to what you are likely experiencing right now. If you, like Kate – like me – are wondering about any of this, you are going to LOVE this episode. Join us! Key Links In this conversation Kate shares about value she got from my book, Educating Happy Kids. For this and my other books, go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/books. Click here to register for the Toddler Play Conference, which begins Thursday 4/22/21! If you have young children you won't want to miss this, Holly Peretz's second annual deep dive into living, dare I even say enjoying life, with toddlers. You can watch all the presentations for free in real time, and it's all online so you get to do it in your PJs if you wish! My masterclass, What's the pandemic doing to my child?, is SOLD OUT – before we even made it out of the Early Bird pricing! If you are signed up, I can't wait to work with you on this important topic! If you missed out on this one, stay tuned because I'll be offering other masterclasses soon. In fact, sign up for my free weekly newsletters, https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, to find out about the next masterclass before the general public! Video, links, and show notes for this episode are all located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/360.5 Thanks for being here! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

For this episode my guest, Julie Lythcott-Haims, wanted to be sure to let you all know: "this is not a show about parenting!" This one's about us, the grown-ups. Our lives, our choices, our challenges. Julie was Dean of Freshman at Stanford University for a decade, and in that time she helped the young adults who arrived at college become true grown-ups. She also learned a lot! In truth, Julie has learned a lot over her whole life. She is the New York Times best-selling author of How to Raise an Adult and one of my all-time favorite books ever, Real American (which chronicles her experience growing up Black and biracial in affluent circumstances in the United States.) Julie's latest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult shares lots of her own stories as well as the stories of many other people, their challenges, and how they handled them. It's storytelling plus self-help with a beautiful result! Put it this way: I've been an adult for a lot of years and I learned so much from this beautiful book. I am OVER the MOON to bring you this awesome woman's ideas on how to handle the challenges that life sends your way. Join us for a fast-moving, fun, and educational conversation [with swears! Be sure to listen away from littles, or other sensitive ears.] There are all kinds of links just below, including to Julie's books, the two upcoming free virtual summits I'm speaking in… and info on how you can be invited to my birthday party, coming up on April 19th! View our conversation in video, as well as seeing all show notes and links, by going to: https://weturnedoutokay.com/360 Links That Come Up Today Click here for Julie's latest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult Click here for Julie's memoir about growing up Black and biracial in affluent America, Real American Click here for her awesome book on parenting, How to Raise an Adult Julie has plans to open a Membership Club! Click here for more information : ) Free Virtual Summit 1: On Thursday, April 8 I am presenting in a free virtual summit called Raising Remarkable Kids… Click here to register and hear me speak along with nine other parenting experts! Free Virtual Summit 2: A bit later in April I'm speaking in the second annual Toddler Play Conference, run by the amazing Holly Peretz… Click here for details and to register for this conference, beginning April 21! I've got a big birthday coming up soon, and to celebrate I'm having a party! It's an "Insight/Wisdom Party," and I'm inviting you to come along and share what you've learned in this crazy-ass year! Only folks who receive my free weekly email newsletter will receive the invitation, so click the following link to join my email group: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly I'll see you at my party! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/000 to hear my "about the podcaster" show, in which my four best buddies and I share about our unplanned adventures. Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/pdnt for your free copy of my first parenting book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics! When I first met Julie, during her office hours in November 2020, I was so moved that I created an entire webpage sharing what I learned there: https://weturnedoutokay.com/julie Julie is one of the amazing speakers in the ParentinginPlaceMasterclass.com. Thank you so much for listening today! You rock! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe