The Trouble with Sex

Dr. Tammy speaks with psychotherapist and bestselling author Katherine Woodward Thomas about her latest book, What's True About You, and how we can outgrow who we've known ourselves to be for the possibility of who we might become - and what we can create moving forward.OUR GUESTKatherine Woodward Thomas is a licensed therapist, author, educator, and a recognized pioneer in transformational psychology. She is the New York Times bestselling author of Calling in “The One” and Conscious Uncoupling. Katherine has taught hundreds of thousands in her virtual and in-person programs, and trained thousands of professionals in her methods. Her latest book, What's True About You: 7 Steps to Move Beyond Your Painful Past and Manifest Your Brightest Future is available now.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODELove Between Equals by Pepper Schwartz, PhDDR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy speaks with psychotherapist and trauma specialist Tracy Jarvis about evidence-based Interoception Therapy, trauma healing, and the mind–body connection. They explore how developing awareness of the body’s emotional signals can support personal growth, emotional regulation, and healthier relationships.OUR GUESTTracy Jarvis is a renowned psychotherapist, trainer, and consultant with over 20 years of experience in the fields of psychology and mental health. Specialising in neuroscience and trauma, Tracy combines a rigorous academic foundation with over 25 years of yoga and movement practice, bringing a deeply embodied and neurobiological perspective to her clinical and teaching work.Tracy is also the co-developer of the new Psychology and Trauma MSc at University College London. She is the Founder and former Managing Director of PESI UK (previously Psychotherapy Excellence), a not-for-profit organisation and the largest clinical content provider in the UK and Europe. In addition, Tracy is part of the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute training team and has a specialist private practice in PTSD, complex trauma, and trauma-related issues/ diagnosis. She teaches, advises, and consults on trauma and clinical strategy for various organisations worldwide, as well as for TV and film, emphasising the importance of a bi-directional approach to treating psychological trauma.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Maci Daye, a licensed counselor and AASECT-certified sex therapist who blends Hakomi and somatic mindfulness, discusses using presence to break old patterns in relationships. She explores eros as life force, cultivating pressure-free playful sex, and how somatic work reveals hidden resistance. The conversation highlights corrective experiences, mindful embodiment, and practical ways to expand erotic imagination.

Dr. Tammy talks with therapist and Autism Specialist, Kory Andreas, about what neurodivergence really means, how it shapes our connections, and how broadening our awareness can deepen the bonds with those we love.GUEST BIO: Kory Andreas is a Clinical Social Worker, Autism Specialist, and late-diagnosed Autistic adult who works exclusively with Neurodivergent adults and couples. After two decades as a School Social Worker, she is now in private practice, offering diagnostic assessments and therapy grounded in the lived experience and “practice-based evidence” of late diagnosed Autistic adults. Kory’s work with individuals, couples, as well as training clinicians, dives into the messy, often-overlooked realities of high-masking Autism, especially in women and gender-diverse adults who are frequently misunderstood or missed entirely. Kory’s goal is to better support Neurodivergent clients and help late-diagnosed Autistic adults feel less alone.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, award-winning social psychologist and TED speaker, shows how to design lasting love. She contrasts fleeting sexual chemistry with renewable attraction. She talks boundaries, curiosity across generations, tech and AI’s impact on intimacy, and practical habits to keep attraction alive.

Dr. Tammy talks with Dr. Arielle Schwartz about Resilience Informed Therapy, Polyvagal Theory and how connecting to your body can rewire your nervous system to help heal from trauma and deeper connection with ourselves and those we love.GUEST BIORenowned speaker, author, and esteemed clinical psychologist, Dr. Arielle Schwartz has been widely recognized for her research and clinical advancements in trauma treatment, which have shaped the landscape of trauma recovery and elevated the standard of care all across therapeutic settings. Dr. Schwartz promotes a strength-based, embodied approach to trauma recovery that emphasizes self-driven healing to facilitate post-traumatic growth. Drawing on the principles of EMDR, somatic psychology, mindfulness-based therapies, and relational psychotherapy, she developed Resilience Informed Therapy—an integrative model of care for facilitating recovery from childhood trauma, PTSD, complex-PTSD and Dissociation. Dr. Schwartz has been teaching therapeutic yoga since 2008, and she is the author of Therapeutic Yoga for Trauma Recovery, a widely referenced guide to applied Polyvagal Theory for trauma recovery. She has also authored numerous books covering extensive research and guiding techniques in trauma treatment.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with relationship therapist, podcaster, and author Rick Miller, about how men communicate, what masculinity means for both queer and straight men,  and why open relationships are an old school concept - if not the norm in the gay world.OUR GUESTRick Miller is a practicing psychotherapist and founder and executive director of Gay Sons And Mothers. Rick co-hosts of the podcast Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You. His TEDx talk, The Mother Factor, grew out of his work with his nonprofit, which shares worldwide narratives of gay men and their mothers to support LGBTQ+ training and awareness. Rick is also the executive producer of the documentary film, “Mom, I Have Something to Tell You”. He is a frequent speaker at conferences for a myriad of academic and professional organizations and author of three books. He writes a regular column for Psychology Today. FREE OFFER! Want to re-ignite your sex life? Start your Erotic Recovery with Dr. Tammy's Six Weeks to Erotic Recovery for Singles e-book.  Email drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com, and we will send you your free e-book!DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with Dr. Kate Truitt about her healing journey after a devastating car accident. Together, they explore fear, intimacy, expectations, and how gentle touch can help create a safe space while igniting connection and intimacy with your partner after a traumatic experience.OUR GUESTDr. Kate Truitt is an esteemed clinical psychologist and neuroscientist - globally recognized for her trauma, stress, and resilience expertise. As founder of the Truitt Institute, Dr. Truitt integrates cutting-edge neuroscience into mental health training and seminars. She also leads Dr. Kate Truitt & Associates and serves as CEO of both the Amy Research Foundation and the Trauma Counseling Center of Los Angeles. An essential part of the Goldie Hawn Foundation’s MindUP Scientific Advisory Committee, Dr. Truitt passionately advocates for mental health literacy and empowerment.As the international bestselling author of Healing in Your Hands and Keep Breathing, Dr. Truitt is dedicated to advancing the treatment of trauma and stress disorders, making significant strides in destigmatizing mental health and fostering resilience worldwide.FREE OFFER! Want to re-ignite your sex life? Start your Erotic Recovery with Dr. Tammy's Six Weeks to Erotic Recovery for Singles e-book.  Email drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com, and we will send you your free e-book!DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Nazanin Moali, a clinical psychologist and sex expert who hosts the Sexology Podcast, joins to explore the intricate relationship between stress, trauma, and desire. They discuss how chronic stress can block sexual responses, the importance of differentiating arousal from desire, and the transformative power of mindful intimacy. Nazanin shares insights on navigating parenthood's challenges, as well as practical tips for rekindling passion through low-pressure erotic sessions and celebratory rituals to reconnect with one's sensual self.

Dr. Tammy shares the trauma of her recent assault with the leading expert on EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and Resource Tapping, Dr. Laurel Parnell. Together they explore how these therapies can rewire the brain to help heal trauma, restore balance and improve relationships.OUR GUESTLaurel Parnell, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and Executive Director of the Parnell Institute and co-director of the non-profit Trauma Assistance Program International (TAP-IN). One of the world’s leading experts on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), she is the originator of the EMDR-related therapies Attachment-Focused EMDR and Resource Tapping. Since 1995 she has trained thousands of clinicians in EMDR both nationally and internationally. Dr. Parnell is the author of several books and demonstration videos on EMDR, including, Attachment-Focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma, (W.W. Norton, 2013), A Therapist’s Guide to EMDR (W.W. Norton, 2007),  Rewiring the Addicted Brain with EMDR-Based Treatment (W.W. Norton, 2020), and Tapping In (Sounds True. 2008). Dr. Parnell has served on the faculty of the California Institute for Integral Studies and John F. Kennedy University. Considered a master clinician, Dr. Parnell brings a client-centered attachment-focused approach to the work and emphasizes the importance of a compassionate, safe, therapeutic relationship. She sees the adaptation of protocols and procedures according to the psychological, emotional, cultural, and developmental needs of the individual client as essential. Dr. Parnell is informed by research in contemporary neuroscience and uses a holistic approach to healing trauma that focuses on the integration of body, mind, and spirit. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson