Emancipate Your Mind

Transcript Boundaries are necessary to create healthy, safe, and trusting relationships. However, when we’ve been raised in codependent relationships with narcissists, our attempts at setting boundaries are often thwarted, ignored, or punished. Over time, our lack of boundaries can leave us feeling unfulfilled, misunderstood, confused about who we are, and often at the mercy of others.  In this episode, we explore how to protect ourselves and take back our power in a narcissistic relationship and set boundaries for our own sanity, safety, and self respect. _____________________________________________________________________________JOIN THE DISCUSSION If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 If you’d like more step-by-step assistance learning to feel safe in your body, reconnect with your emotions, and use that emotional connection to begin to reestablish a healthy sense of self,  check out the Emancipate Yourself App on Google Play in the Apple App Store. Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com

Transcript In the past 2 years of working with one to one clients, one of the most shocking discoveries for me was realizing how many people healing from religious harm are also dealing with the wounds from narcissistic abuse. Many of my clients don’t realize that the behavior of their parent, their partner, or their pastor that left such deep self-worth wounds has a name and even a diagnosis. Understanding what narcissistic personality disorder is, why it likely develops, and how their hot-and-cold behavior and their cutting criticism  has NOTHING to do with your worthiness as a person (even though they repeatedly told you it does) can be so liberating. Also, since high-demand religions are often started and perpetuated by people with NPD, it’s worth exploring what narcissistic traits look like so that we can begin to more easily spot abusive ideas and behaviors in our religious systems and disentangle ourselves from the lingering harmful beliefs about ourselves, other people, and the world that often keep us from moving forward. _____________________________________________________________________________JOIN THE DISCUSSION If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 If you’d like more step-by-step assistance learning to feel safe in your body, reconnect with your emotions, and use that emotional connection to begin to reestablish a healthy sense of self,  check out the Emancipate Yourself App on Google Play in the Apple App Store. Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com

Transcript The underlying mindset we have about our inherent worth and acceptability can make a big difference in how we experience growth for the year. There is a big difference in the mindset of “I need to change so that I am worthy of love” vs “I love myself so I want to change.” In this episode, we explore the addictive and cyclic nature of chasing approval especially at New Year’s and what often leads us to abandon our goals and embrace our coping patterns as we move forward. We discuss how this cycle likely began, its function now, and how we can begin to get off of the merry-go-round and root into self acceptance exactly as we are. This self acceptance gives us the freedom and courage to flow with the mistakes that are an integral part of the learning process, course correct easily, and feel good about ourselves now and as we move forward.  _____________________________________________________________________________JOIN THE DISCUSSION If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 If you’d like more step-by-step assistance reconnecting to your inner wisdom, working through emotions, and rediscovering your identity separate from your high demand religion, check out the Emancipate Yourself App on Google Play in the Apple App Store. Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com

Transcript I can’t believe this is the last episode of season 1! How did this year go by so fast? As we wrap up 10 months of discussions and healing, it’s so important to take some time and celebrate our wins along the journey. Celebrating creates momentum. It lights a fire underneath us. And when it comes to healing religious trauma, a little spark in the dark can go a long way. In this episode, we discuss why celebrating ourselves is so important and why sharing our celebrations with others not only helps us go further, but brings others on the journey with us. Because I know the idea of celebrating ourselves can sometimes bring up subconscious religious limiting beliefs about vanity, arrogance, modesty, and humility, we also discuss the difference between arrogance and celebration. I have loved getting to share and celebrate your wins with you this year and look forward to many more throughout the holiday season and into 2022! The best is ahead of us.But there the so much to celebrate now in the present. I hope you’ll take the time to give yourself the celebration you deserve. _____________________________________________________________________________WANT MORE SUPPORT HEALING AFTER RELIGIOUS TRANSITION? If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com

One of the biggest sources of overwhelm, guilt, and even shame as we go through religious transition is the word “should”. Coming from high demand religion, many of us have a pile of “shoulds” that we’ve been striving to meet our whole lives. Now that we’re deconstructing, and especially during the holiday season, these shoulds can become a heavy burden. In this episode, we discuss why we likely continue to “should” on ourselves and why this behavior is likely doing more harm than good in our pursuit of growth and change. We talk about how to use our “shoulds” as red flags that help us hear what we actually desire and then change our language and our thinking into a more empowering force behind the things we want to change and accomplish in life. _____________________________________________________________________________WANT MORE SUPPORT HEALING AFTER RELIGIOUS TRANSITION? If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com

Transcript As humans, we are wired for connection. Without a sense of connection we begin to wither both emotionally and physically.  When we go through deconstruction, we often feel lonely because we don’t feel fully seen, accepted, and understood by the friends and family we once felt close to. In this episode, we explore the differences between fitting in and belonging and how we can begin to anchor into self acceptance as a foundation for greater belonging in our lives._____________________________________________________________________________WANT MORE SUPPORT HEALING AFTER RELIGIOUS TRANSITION? If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com

Transcript I think now, more than ever, we as a people understand the feeling of overwhelm. Over the past 2 years, we’ve dealt with all kinds of stressors: A world-wide pandemic. A faith transition. Political unrest. Climate change induced disasters. It feels like a lot because it is! If you’ve been feeling tired, stressed out, anxious, ill, numb, irritable, or unmotivated because it feels like you’re constantly being thrown curve balls and  can’t catch a break…I know that feeling! This week I draw from my own recent experience with overwhelm to discuss how to identify it and how to begin moving to resolve it. If you’ve ever felt like you’re the only person who doesn’t have their life perfectly together, I’m hoping this episode will help you feel less alone and feel more hope about moving from overwhelm and into a place where there is more time to rest and recover._____________________________________________________________________________WANT MORE SUPPORT HEALING AFTER RELIGIOUS TRANSITION? If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com

Have you ever had a relationship where you didn’t feel entirely safe to be or express your full self?Have you ever found yourself walking around on eggshells around a friend or family member? Avoiding specific topics of conversation or stuffing difficulties in the relationship? Do you find yourself arguing with those you love?  We ALL have relationships like this.  Often, we want to be closer to the people in our lives, but there is something there that keeps us from feeling completely safe to show up as our whole selves. In this episode, we explore the 7 ingredients of trust Brené Brown discusses in her book, “Braving the Wilderness” and how they apply to our relationships with the people we love the most. I specifically talk about how these principles apply to mixed faith relationships with parents, siblings, partners, and friends. When we can communicate specifically where trust is being eroded, it makes it easier to correct these things and create more safety and intimacy in our relationships if both parties are willing to participate._____________________________________________________________________________WANT MORE SUPPORT HEALING AFTER RELIGIOUS TRANSITION? If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com

 If you’re afraid of what will happen if you let yourself feel anger, you’re not alone. Most of the examples of experiencing anger we witness are unhealthy examples. We learned to become aggressive, passive aggressive, or suppressive with our anger from watching those around us and responding to what was rewarded and what was punished in our households as a child. We developed our own patterns of dealing with this powerful, protective emotion as a way to keep ourselves safe. Like all behavior patterns, what may have worked for us as a child might not work so well for us as an adult. In this episode, we explore how we developed our protective anger patterns and how we can move from those into more reflective and assertive ways of moving through our anger.  _____________________________________________________________________________WANT MORE SUPPORT HEALING AFTER RELIGIOUS TRANSITION? If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com

Who was taught that anger was evil? That it could destroy lives? That it was poison? Yeah. Me too. In this episode, we explore how this emotion serves us and helps us make healthy changes in our lives. We use our anger to get out of soul-sucking work situations to abusive relationships. We also use our anger for social justice and societal change. Come along with me as we explore the 5 attributes of anger talked about by Dr. Marcia Cannon in her book, “The Gift of Anger”. As we normalize anger, the way it works, and what information it gives us about ourselves we can harness this power to get the healthy lives we deserve to live.  _____________________________________________________________________________WANT MORE SUPPORT HEALING AFTER RELIGIOUS TRANSITION? If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com