Emancipate Your Mind

Have you ever experienced that feeling of being pulled between two competing values? It can feel like you’re in the middle of a huge game of tug of war as you wrestle between two values that mean so much to you. No matter what you choose, it feels like you lose something important. Sometimes the fight is so fierce that we feel stuck or paralyzed between the choices- choosing in essence not to make a choice. Sometimes we feel guilty or resentful no matter which we choose. In this episode, we explore why it can be so hard to decide between two values, how binary thinking comes into play, and how we can begin to get these two parts of our brains to work together and perhaps create even better outcomes than we first imagined. _________________________________________________________________ RESOURCES: Creighton, James L. Ph.D. “When the Fight is Over Values”. June 20, 2019. Psychology Today. Harvey, Benjamin J. “Values Conflict: What They Are and How to Resolve Them Effectively”. August 30, 2018. YouTube.  Robbins, Tony. “Conflicting Values: Sabotaging Your Success”. August 21, 2014. YouTube.  Dr. Sarah Schewitz.  “Navigating Different Values in a Relationship”. July 22, 2022. CouplesLearn.com  Zbroniec-Chimenti, Joanna. “The Psychology of Internal Conflicts”. October 7, 2017. MindMastery.com ___________________________________________________________________ NEED COUPLES OR RELIGIOUS TRAUMA COACHING? My husband, Kevin, is now taking new clients as a couples and religious trauma coach. He’s a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Colorado and offers therapy in person, by video call, and by telephone within state lines, but can provide therapy-informed coaching outside of the state and even outside of the country. To find out more about how to work with him, check out his page on the Colorado Counseling Center website. Click on the link labeled “Schedule with Kevin” to talk with his secretary, Annette, about how to work with him in either capacity as a therapist or as a coach. She’ll be able to give you all of the information you need to decide if working with Kevin is the right fit for you. ___________________________________________________________________DONATE TO THE PODCAST AND JOIN THE LIVE WEEKLY DISCUSSION: Want to be a part of the live discussion and learn more about your childhood values? Join us for the live weekly discussion this Wednesday at 6:30pm MT. Monthly donors will be invited to weekly live discussions and group coaching every Wednesday at 6:30pm Mountain Time (8:30pm Eastern/ 5:30pm Pacific). Make a monthly tax-deductible donation of any amount at emancipateyourmind.org . New donors will be automatically added to the email list every month on the 5th with links to the discussions, exclusive exercises and tools to help you recover faster, and invitations to attend any additional workshops this year for free. To be added to the email list more quickly, please email us at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com right after making your donation and you’ll be added to the list within 24-48 hours. We hope to see you there! FREE COMMUNITY: Not ready to donate but still want to join in online community and text discussions? Come join the Emancipate Yourself Facebook group to share your thoughts on today’s podcast and ask more questions.

Explore how your core values impact daily decisions and resource allocation. Discover the psychological ramifications of ignoring what truly matters, leading to feelings of FOMO and resentment. Engage with reflective questions and exercises designed to help you identify and prioritize your unique values. Learn to navigate societal pressures and achieve a better work-life balance for greater fulfillment in life.

Every day you are creating a life based on your set of personal values. Do you know which values are running the show? If I asked you today what top 5-7 principles are informing most of your priorities and decisions, would you be able to answer confidently? If your answer is no, you aren’t alone. Many of us haven’t taken the time to really understand the value system we’re operating our lives by. And for the vast majority of us, we’re continuing to shape our lives based on value systems that were instilled in us as children. These values may no longer align with who we are today. _________________________________________________________________ RESOURCES: Adams, Scott. “How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big.” October 31, 2016. Joosr. Davis, Tom. “Lacking Purpose and Motivation? You Don’t Know Your Values”. March 23, 2016. Your Positivity Coach. De Witte, Melissa. “To Understand How People Think, Look at Their Actions Not Their Words.” August 2, 2019. Stanford News. Standford.edu. Jaffe, Dennis. “When Company Values are Real and Visible, Everyone Benefits”. September 20, 2022. Forbes. Padraig Coaching. “When Your Values No Longer Line Up With Your Company.” December 14, 2021. Medium.com Patheos.com. “11 Signs You’re Living Outside Your Values”. February 12, 2018. Prescod, Danielle. “Token Black Girl: A Memoir”. October 1, 2022. Little A. ___________________________________________________________________DONATE TO THE PODCAST AND JOIN THE LIVE WEEKLY DISCUSSION: Want to be a part of the live discussion and learn more about your childhood values? Join us for the live weekly discussion this Wednesday at 6:30pm MT. Monthly donors will be invited to weekly live discussions and group coaching every Wednesday at 6:30pm Mountain Time (8:30pm Eastern/ 5:30pm Pacific). Make a monthly tax-deductible donation of any amount at emancipateyourmind.org . New donors will be automatically added to the email list every month on the 5th with links to the discussions, exclusive exercises and tools to help you recover faster, and invitations to attend any additional workshops this year for free. To be added to the email list more quickly, please email us at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com right after making your donation and you’ll be added to the list within 24-48 hours. We hope to see you there! FREE COMMUNITY: Not ready to donate but still want to join in online community and text discussions? Come join the Emancipate Yourself Facebook group to share your thoughts on today’s podcast and ask more questions.

The authenticity movement has brought us a lot of great opportunity to learn more about ourselves and free ourselves from situations that don’t feel healthy for us. On the flip side, with the authenticity movement has grown a binary way of thinking that is reminiscent of the high demand cultures we’ve worked so hard to deconstruct. In this episode, Communications Coach, Chris Peck and I talk about how the binary of being authentic vs. inauthentic has been used by some public figures and leaders to police our behavior and why that’s a problem. We also discuss the dangers of “experts” setting themselves up as an authority to tell you the “right” way to be your own authority. _______________________________________________________________ HOW TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH CHRIS: Webiste: https://www.speakintoactioncomm.com Instagram: @chrisspeaksup _________________________________________________________________ RESOURCES: Joseph, Stephen. “Authentic: How to Be Yourself and Why It Matters”. 2017. Piatkus. ___________________________________________________________________DONATE TO THE PODCAST AND JOIN THE LIVE WEEKLY DISCUSSION: Want to be a part of the live discussion on what it means to be authentic with Teri and Chris? Join us for the live weekly discussion this Wednesday at 6:30pm MT. Monthly donors will be invited to weekly live discussions and group coaching every Wednesday at 6:30pm Mountain Time (8:30pm Eastern/ 5:30pm Pacific). Make a monthly tax-deductible donation of any amount at emancipateyourmind.org . New donors will be automatically added to the email list every month on the 5th with links to the discussions, exclusive exercises and tools to help you recover faster, and invitations to attend any additional workshops this year for free. To be added to the email list more quickly, please email us at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com right after making your donation and you’ll be added to the list within 24-48 hours. We hope to see you there! BEYOND THE WOUND SUMMIT: Join us at your own pace this Sunday, February 5th at our first annual Beyond The Wound virtual summit. Interviews and panels will drop every Sunday from trusted licensed professionals and thought leaders in the religious trauma healing space. Access to the recorded interviews and live sessions lasts through March. Find support and tools to help you move with confidence beyond your religious trauma wounds and into a life of freedom and safety. Go to beyondthewound.com to register, and podcast20 for 20% off your registration fee. We hope to see you there because no one should have to walk the path of healing alone!” FREE COMMUNITY: Not ready to donate but still want to join in online community and text discussions? Come join the Emancipate Yourself Facebook group to share your thoughts on today’s podcast and ask more questions.

Authenticity has become a huge topic of conversation in the past couple of decades. While there is great freedom and personal guidance in getting curious about what does and does not feel good to us as individuals, there can also be a lot of confusion about what “being authentic’ means and even shame and fear about not showing up “authentically enough”. This is especially true if you spent years of your life in a high demand system where you outsourced your sense of self to religious or parental authority. In this episode, Chris Peck, my good friend and public speaking coach, agreed to continue our search for answers about authenticity by reading Stephen Joseph’s 2017 book, “Authentic: How to Be Yourself and Why it Matters” and record an open discussion about what we learned, what felt concerning to us both, and what new questions popped up from the reading material. We hope you enjoy coming along on this philosophical journey with us. ________________________________________________________________ WHERE TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH CHRIS: Webiste: https://www.speakintoactioncomm.com Instagram: @chrisspeaksup _________________________________________________________________ RESOURCES: Hanscom, David. “Stop Looking For Your Authentic Self”. December, 2022. PsychologyToday.com Joseph, Stephen. “Authentic: How to Be Yourself and Why It Matters”. 2017. Piatkus. ___________________________________________________________________DONATE TO THE PODCAST AND JOIN THE LIVE WEEKLY DISCUSSION: Have you always wanted to discuss the ideas in the podcast live with Teri and the rest of the community? Do you have questions about how the podcast can be applied to your personal life? Do you have insights you’d like to share? We’re trying something new this year! Monthly donors will be invited to weekly live discussions and group coaching every Wednesday at 6:30pm Mountain Time (8:30pm Eastern/ 5:30pm Pacific). Make a monthly tax-deductible donation of any amount at emancipateyourmind.org . New donors will be automatically added to the email list every month on the 5th with links to the discussions, exclusive exercises and tools to help you recover faster, and invitations to attend any additional workshops this year for free. To be added to the email list more quickly, please email us at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com right after making your donation and you’ll be added to the list within 24-48 hours. Join us for the live call this Wednesday night at 6:30pm MT. BEYOND THE WOUND SUMMIT: Join us at your own pace this Sunday, January 29th through February 5th, 2023 at our first annual Beyond The Wound virtual summit. Interviews and panels will drop every Sunday from trusted licensed professionals and thought leaders in the religious trauma healing space. Access to the recorded interviews and live sessions lasts through March. Find support and tools to help you move with confidence beyond your religious trauma wounds and into a life of freedom and safety. Go to beyondthewound.com to register, and podcast20 for 20% off your registration fee. We hope to see you there because no one should have to walk the path of healing alone!” FREE COMMUNITY: Not ready to donate but still want to join in online community and text discussions? Come join the Emancipate Yourself Facebook group to share your thoughts on today’s podcast and ask more questions.

Exploring the concept of healing childhood emotional neglect through inner child work, understanding the impact on adult relationships, behaviors, and emotions. Highlighting the importance of reparenting ourselves and building trust with our inner child for inner harmony and personal growth.

The discussion dives into childhood emotional neglect and its long-lasting effects on adult life. Personal stories reveal internal struggles in recognizing wants and needs, often overshadowed by societal expectations. The speakers address the profound impact on trust and relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion in healing. Techniques for reclaiming emotional autonomy are shared, along with insights on navigating shame and fear of rejection. A special announcement highlights the Beyond the Wound Summit, aimed at promoting trauma awareness and personal growth.

Transcript This year on the podcast, we’ll be talking about how to “fill the void” after deconstruction. But in order to do that in a healthy way that helps you operate as your own authority, recognize red flags, set boundaries, and avoid high demand relationships and groups, we have to spend some time building our relationship with ourselves. In today’s episode, we work with one of the key questions almost all of us have after deconstructing high demand religion: “What do I want?” It can be a particularly elusive question for many of us because we were taught to trust outside authority instead of our own inner voice or we may have been taught to silence our inner voice altogether. However, today we explore using emotions that many of us were taught were sinful or dangerous in high demand Christianity (like anger, disgust, and envy) as guideposts to reconnect with what we really desire and need. ___________________________________________________________________DONATE TO THE PODCAST AND JOIN THE LIVE WEEKLY DISCUSSION: Have you always wanted to discuss the ideas in the podcast live with Teri and the rest of the community? Do you have questions about how the podcast can be applied to your personal life? Do you have insights you’d like to share? We’re trying something new this year! Monthly donors will be invited to weekly live discussions and group coaching every Wednesday at 6:30pm Mountain Time (8:30pm Eastern/ 5:30pm Pacific). Make a monthly tax-deductible donation of any amount at emancipateyourmind.org . New donors will be automatically added to the email list every month on the 5th with links to the discussions, exclusive exercises and tools to help you recover faster, and invitations to attend any additional workshops this year for free. To be added to the email list more quickly, please email us at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com right after making your donation and you’ll be added to the list within 24-48 hours. Live discussions begin Wednesday, January 16th at 6:30pm Mountain time. BEYOND THE WOUND SUMMIT: Join us at your own pace, January 15th – February 5th, 2023 at our first annual Beyond The Wound virtual summit. Interviews and panels will drop every Sunday from trusted licensed professionals and thought leaders in the religious trauma healing space. Find support and tools to help you move with confidence beyond your religious trauma wounds and into a life of freedom and safety. Go to beyondthewound.com to register, and podcast20 for 20% off your registration fee. We hope to see you there because no one should have to walk the path of healing alone!” FREE COMMUNITY: Not ready to donate but still want to join in online community and text discussions? Come join the Emancipate Yourself Facebook group to share your thoughts on today’s podcast and ask more questions.

Transcript Are you tired of trying to change thought and behavior patterns year after year only to end up ditching your resolutions and feeling even worse about it all by the first week in February? This isn’t happening because you’re weak, broken, or malfunctioning in some way. In fact, you’re operating exactly the way we’d expect you to operate after you’ve experienced the things you’ve experienced. You may keep reaching for the same thoughts and behaviors because there is a younger part of you that is using that behavior to feel safe, to numb difficult emotions, or to feel in control. This episode discusses how to work with that part to get their needs for safety met while also meeting your adult needs for health, connection, stability, and growth.

Transcript In this Part 2 episode with Licensed Professional Counselor, Kevin Hales, we explore some of the first steps towards healing fragile masculinity. Kevin shares ideas about what men themselves can do to become aware of and heal subconscious programming about what it means to be a man. He also talks about how those of us in relationship with men who may feel insecure about others stepping out of the roles society has provided for them can create safe spaces for conflict resolution conversations. ___________________________________________________________________JOIN THE DISCUSSION WANT TO TALK WITH KEVIN? Kevin is a licensed professional counselor at Colorado Counseling Center in Centennial and Castle Rock, Colorado. Licensed therapists in the United States can only practice in the state they are licensed in. If you’re anywhere in Colorado, Kevin would love to talk with you about religious trauma, marriage relationships, family relationships, parenting or addictions of any kind. Find him at his website here: https://www.coloradocounselingcenter.com Come join the Emancipate Yourself Facebook group to share your thoughts on today’s podcast, be a part of shaping future episodes of the podcast, and find out about how to join the LIVE Question and Answer sessions about each podcast next year. DONATE TO THE PODCAST: Want to be part of the VIP community that gets to interact with Teri weekly, ask live questions about the content, and help shape future episodes for the learning and continued healing of all listeners? Consider making a monthly tax-deductible donation at emancipateyourmind.org . Even a $1 donation each month allows us to continue growing this broadcast and unlocks all of the behind the scenes content that’s coming in 2023. ONE TO ONE COACHING WITH TERI Email: teri@emancipatedcoaching.com