The Dildorks

We’re talking about play parties again this week, and this time we’re focusing on what happens once you get to the party. Hear our best advice on approaching people, negotiating pickup play, saying “no” nicely, and more! Nerves | Different Types of Party | Approaching People | Negotiation | SIMMER | Watching | Feeling Awkward | Expectations | Saying No | Self-Consciousness Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about collars: what they are, why people like them, and how to go about buying one, negotiating one, and wearing one! What is a Collar? | Kate’s First Collar | Gifting Collars | L’Amour-Propre | Old Guard | Bringing It Up | Play Collars | Negotiating Rules | Flagging | Touching | Doms | Double Duty Cuff | Reactions in Public | Necklaces & Day Collars | Inappropriate Situations | Complimenting Strangers | Contextualizing | Buying One For Yourself | Radical Self-Love Totem | Old Collars | Ceremonies | Non-Monogamy | Breakups | Wear & Tear | Aslan Leather | Eternity Collars | Locks & Keys | Collarversary Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re joined by Ashe, the photographer extraordinaire behind Rose Glass Photos, who also happens to be Bex’s partner! We discuss how photography interacts with gender expression, kink, personal branding, and more. Butt Selfies | Marginalized Folks | Gender on Purpose | Perfection | Comfort vs. Awkwardness | Preparation | Shoot with Matt | Kinky Photographers | Giving Direction | Intoxication | Gendered Posing | Faces | Cameras | Social Media & Branding | Diversity | Sensitivity Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Play parties are so fun, but also confusing and scary at times! This week we’re demystifying the processes of finding play parties to attend, mentally preparing yourself to play, and putting together your party outfit. Sex or No Sex? | Finding Parties | Vetting | Not Kinky? | Alone vs. With People | Mental Prep | Logistics | Dress Codes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering some of your big kink questions, including how to keep things casual in a kinky friendship-with-benefits and what to do when a top safewords! Pervy Purview | D/s FWB | Slut Protocols | Hobbies | IRL Fanfiction | Aftercare | Sub Drop | Giving Feedback | Tops Safewording Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Let’s be cool and heat things up: this week we’re discussing temperature play!Weather | Sensation Play | Easy vs. Advanced | Ice | Topping | Risks | Wax | Toys | Enemas | Lube & Oil | Emotions | Safewording Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

The hosts dive deep into the often-overlooked skills of bottoming in the kink community. They explore the complex dynamics of topping and bottoming, discussing the relationship between pain and pleasure. Key topics include effective communication strategies, the art of dirty talk, and coping mechanisms for pain. The conversation emphasizes trust and self-awareness, illuminating the emotional aspects of BDSM. They even touch on the humor of navigating bisexuality, making for an engaging and enlightening listen.

The hosts discuss personal experiences and growth with vulvas and vaginas. They explore feelings, debunk misconceptions, discuss vaginal odor, and anxieties during sex. They emphasize the importance of body positivity and calling vulvas by their correct name.

Happy New Year! This week we’re reviewing how our sex lives progressed in 2019, and looking forward to discuss our 2020 sex goals.You’re Wrong About | Overall Trends | Sex Ed | Decentering Sex | Bad Sex | Keeping Track | Number of Partners | Locations | Best Sex | Roleplay | Phone Sex | Topping | Hypno-Topping | Sex Toys | Sex Media | Last Year’s Goals | Passion Projects | Apologies | Submitting | New Orgasms | Dicks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

In this podcast, the hosts discuss taboo kinks such as incest porn, ethnoreligious roleplays, and forced feminization. They also explore the benefits of roleplay in couples and embracing the weirdness of sex. The concept of race play and ancestral trauma is explored, as well as personal taboos and limits in sexual play. They wrap up with a playful discussion about dirty talk and political figures.