The Dildorks

We’re busting more sex toy myths this week, including the infamous medical origin story of the vibrator, orgasm guarantees, and a dearth of toys for dicks!   Vibrator Invention Myth | Hysteria (2011) | The Technology of Orgasm by Rachel Maines | Buzz by Hallie Lieberman | No Toys for Dicks? | Only for Single People | Orgasm Guarantees | Different Toys | “Anything’s a Dildo If You’re Brave Enough” | Funkit Toys NoFrilldos Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There are countless myths and misconceptions about sex toys, and this week we try to set the record straight on a few of them!   Vibrator Numbness | Vibe as Scapegoat | Rendered Obsolete | Shere Hite Book | The Hite Report | Bigger = Better? | Vibrations on the Nose | Stretched Out | Toy Cleaner Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Is large penetration a goal worth aspiring to? This week we discuss our evolving feelings on fisting and other forms of XXL penetration!   Current Feelings | Can Anyone Be Fisted? | Journey vs. Destination | Fist vs. Fingers | Njoy Eleven | Vixen Gambler | Hand Weakness/Pain | Emotional Effects | Guts Rearranged | Penis Size | Unicorn Collaborators Hand Harness | Fist-Shaped Dildos | Vixen Randy | Epiphora’s Randy Diary | Sliquid Silk | J-Lube Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

They explore unusual sexual interests from chasing unavailable partners to fetishizing hands. Conversations cover condom-wrapped oral, flavored lubes, and denial-related turn-ons. They unpack being "friendzoned" as a fantasy and the appeal of low-libido or hard-to-get dynamics. Strange curiosities like cringe masturbation, webbing-between-fingers oral, fisting hints, and hand pics round out the oddball topics.

They break down when to give or refuse advice and how to check if someone wants blunt feedback or support. Strategies for avoiding sex on a date and navigating power dynamics in friendships come up. Practical tips on advising partners about other relationships, managing bias and jealousy, and when to opt out of repeating advice. They also touch on limits of public advice and pros and cons of sex and kink coaching.

A lively dive into how to give and ask for advice effectively. They explore why unsolicited tips backfire and how framing suggestions as questions or shared experiences helps. Topics include tailoring tone for different personalities, when to offer validation versus strategy, how to request specific feedback, and tricks to follow through on advice.

A playful Valentine’s-themed chat answering listener questions about love, crushes, and the difference between romantic and friendly attraction. They unpack codependency, how polyamory reshapes holiday logistics, and negotiating who gets which days and social posts. Nostalgia for “the one that got away” and practical tips for managing triggers and calendars round out the conversation.

They debate whether spanking still ranks as a favorite kink and explore how language shapes erotic meaning. Sensation types get attention, from thuddy to stingy and where hits land. They dig into favorite implements, local makers, and how temperature or texture changes play. Consent, emotional risk, party pickup dynamics, and communication tools like safe words are all discussed.

Harris O'Malley (Doctor NerdLove), dating coach and columnist who helps men level up their flirting and relationship skills. He traces leaving pickup culture and salvaging useful social tools. He breaks down flirting, the question game for better conversations, breaking the touch barrier, neurodivergent dating needs, improv to stay present, and taking risks without being creepy.

They unpack romantic yearning as both painful and pleasurable across long-distance love and unrequited crushes. They contrast consuming obsession with small recurring crushes and explore turning yearning into creativity. They discuss gendered norms around male longing, risky narratives like incel anger, and practical tools to turn yearning up or down.