Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

“When I was your age…” We’ve all heard our parents say it and some of us may have even said it ourselves. Every generation believes children are losing the art of respect. In this episode Dr Justin explores: * the difference between obedience and respect and how it is unfair to our children to confuse the two * how to deal with a child who has anxiety issues and whose behaviour may be perceived by others as disrespectful * the problem with asking for respect in disrespectful ways * the importance of modelling high levels of respect in our everyday lives Links mentioned in this episode:Have Justin speak at your school or organisation21 Days to a Happier Family You may also like: * 6 Strategies for Respectful RelationshipsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your child was the victim of sexting would they tell you? And if so, would you know what to do? In this week’s podcast episode Dr Justin Coulson shares a personal story regarding one of his daughters who received a request for nude images from a so called friend. Find out how Dr Justin dealt with the situation and what he learned from the experience. “Sexist, abusive and toxic messages are everywhere in the media. The exploitation of girls and young women rockets through primary school and into the teens. But it’s in the younger years that we can make girls strong and free. 10 Things Girls Need Most outlines a radically different girlhood – more connection with nature, more time, peace, affection, and no pressure to start school young, to compete or worry about their looks or clothes.”See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Whether or not smacking children is effective or even acceptable is a topic that polarises people in today’s society. Many believe we’ve become too soft and need to bring back ‘old-school’ parenting – without shame or remorse. Those who are in favour often make the argument that they were smacked and still turned out fine. But, imagine if our children grew up saying they turned out well because of the way they were parented rather than in spite of the way they were parented. In this week’s podcast episode Dr Justin Coulson explains how discipline is different from punishment.If you’d like to discover simple strategies and ideas for disciplining your children in ways that work, and that reduce or eliminate parental guilt then download my ebook Time Out is Not Your Only Option today (just $9.99). The principles and strategies you’ll read are based on some of the very best psychological research that the world has to offer. And when you begin to practise them you’ll notice the difference in your children, and they will notice the difference in you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Establishing a routine is important for children and adults. We do better and feel more secure when life is predictable, and we get more done. A lot of parents don’t like the idea of a routine because they think it means there is no room for flexibility and spontaneity. In this week’s podcast episode Dr Justin Coulson explains how to implement a simple routine that allows you to have fun and flexibility, but also gives you a framework to come back to when things aren’t going right.For more on the benefits of routine and how to implement one that works for your family, take advantage of our special offer to save $50 off my 21 Days to a Happier Family online video program. Click here and enter the coupon code ‘PODCAST’.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Family, parenting and marriage – all of these are important relationships in our home and they can be tough work sometimes. To make them work, we need to make them a priority. In this week’s podcast episode Dr Justin Coulson talks about marriage. Quality time with our spouse or partner can often go by the wayside, especially when our children are of an age where they need a lot of attention. So how can we give our marriage the attention it deserves? This week, Dr Justin shares some simple to implement tips to keep your marriage on track.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you lose your cool with your kids? Do you feel like you’re constantly yelling? In this week’s podcast episode I share my top 4 tips for keeping our anger in check and stay calm and be kind to our children (even when we think they don’t deserve it).See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

No parent is perfect. We have all been totally terrible parents at some time or other. This week’s podcast episode is a humorous look at what makes a totally terrible parent (and a gentle reminder of how to be a great one). If you’d rather be a totally awesome parent rather than a totally terrible one, take advantage of our special offer to save $50 off my 21 Days to a Happier Family online video program. Click here and enter the coupon code ‘PODCAST’.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all know the phrase “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” And while this may be the case for adults (but not always), unfortunately, when it comes to our children, it’s just not true. The words we use with our children when they are displaying challenging behaviour can be just as damaging as if we were smacking them. Scientists have found that the same areas of the brain light up when we experience psychological pain from verbal punishment as when we experience physical pain. That’s why it is so important to choose the right words when speaking to our children. In this week’s podcast episode Dr Justin Coulson explains the 7 things we should never say to our children and what to say (or do) instead.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do we need to teach our kids to “toughen up”? Are we molly-coddling our kids too much? We all want our children to succeed but we are often so tired or busy that it’s often easier to do things ourselves. Unfortunately, this takes away all those small opportunities for our children to develop resilience. In this episode Dr Justin Coulson explores the idea of resilience and de-bunks some common myths. He talks about finding the right balance between holding your child’s hand and stepping back to allow them to gain the competence, and thus the confidence, to do things for themselves or face challenging times. For more on building resilience in your child check out Dr Justin Coulson’s book 9 Ways to a Resilient ChildSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this podcast episode Dr Justin Coulson will help you discover your child’s love language so that you can always make sure they know they are loved. Inspired by The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, Dr Justin identifies the two major love languages that everyone speaks – TIME and UNDERSTANDING – and explores the three additional love languages – TOUCH ME, TELL ME, SHOW ME – which differ from person to person. He explains that when we can identify someone’s love language and then express love to that person, in the way they like it to be expressed, it is wonderful for the relationship. And this applies to our children too.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.