

The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox
Patrick Fox - Mens Life and Sober Coach
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is for men who want to change their relationship with alcohol, whether you're in the sober-curious stage or ready to quit for good.
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
Episodes
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Apr 19, 2024 • 19min
145. Don't Forget the Bullsh1t
How many times have you woken up with a raging hangover promising yourself you'll 'never' drink again, only to be back drinking by the following weekend?
You're not alone! On a rational level, it just doesn't make sense that you'd go back to something that makes you feel so bad after drinking it.
It's more common than you think and in this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, Patrick gets to work explaining why this happens and provides a simple tool to help you not forget the bullsh1t.
Some of the awesome topics discussed in this episode are:
- Faded Affect Bias (FAB)
- Why do we forget the pain and remember the pleasure
- An itinerary of alcohol misdemeanours exercise
- Staying conscious of your pain to unlearn the desire to drink
- Beating yourself up doesn't help
- Associating pain vs pleasure when it comes to alcohol
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation to discover how his 6 month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30-day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Apr 12, 2024 • 42min
144. Moving Through The Fear of Change with Adam Hoefler
Are you ready to take full ownership of your life and rethink alcohol for good?
Adam Hoefler was, and he joins Patrick on this week’s episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast where he shares how he has radically rethought the role of alcohol in his life.
Growing up Adam was surrounded by alcohol and remembers making a choice to never drink, that was until college came along and it rapidly changed everything.
After Adams drinking had become the only way to get things done, he knew that a change was needed but was struggling to find a way out.
Join Patrick and Adam in this interview, where Adam shares his alcohol rethink journey. He talks about how and why he started drinking, how it became all-consuming and then how he managed to undo 10 years of falsely created beliefs around alcohol to go alcohol-free and loving it.
Enjoy!
Here are some of the cool topics they get into:
- How his mind was wrapped around alcohol and drinking beer became the only way to function
- Recognising something was wrong with his drinking but his brain wouldn’t let him change
- How resistance in being told what to do showed up as rebellion
- Changing one habit creates a domino effect of change
- Social expectations to drink at college
- How the mind misinterprets alcohol as being important to survival and formed false beliefs
- Gamifying his drinking and seeing it as a challenge to drink and still be productive
- The challenge with rationalising how he was living his life as a way to keep drinking
- From letting alcohol fulfill his life for 10 years and take him away from ideal health, to taking 6 months to get back where he wants to be
- Understanding when impatience comes up and the power of providing yourself with perspective
- The awesome effect of taking full ownership for rethinking alcohol
- The strength in focusing on how good he was feeling and not wanting to let it go
- Opening up your mind to think about your thoughts #awareness
- The positive changes that have happened since Adam stopped drinking alcohol
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Discover how his 6-month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-loathing to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Apr 5, 2024 • 55min
143. Discovery not Recovery with Gill McKay
Have you ever heard the expression 'the end of one thing is the beginning of another?'
This is a beautiful way of describing your decision not to drink.
Sobriety isn't just about stopping drinking, it's often the start of a journey of self-discovery.
An opportunity to find out how you want to show up for yourself and in the world.
On this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, Patrick was joined by Gill McKay who is an inquisitive sobriety coach, speaker and applied neuroscience trainer.
In this interview, Patrick and Gill talk about all things sobriety and brain-related.
They talk about why we do what we do when it comes to drinking and how we can change it.
This is an awesome episode not be missed...
Get ready to learn more about your brain as Patrick and Gill geek out on neuroscience and how to use knowledge of your brain to unlearn the desire to drink.
Here are some of the cool topics they get into:
- Becoming friends with your brain
- Alcohol messes with your brain chemistry
- The illusion of ‘safe’ patterns in the brain
- Recognising where comparing is leading to despair
- Creating space to pause and make different decisions
- Be careful how you label yourself
- How Gary Barlow became part of Gill’s decision to rethink alcohol
- Gill’s tools for sober living
- The discovery that unfolds when you’re no longer dulled by alcohol
- Living by your values
- Motivation works both ways
Connect with Gill McKay:
Website: https://www.gillmckay.com/
Ted X Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ewwAAYxPfRQ&t=5s
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gillmmckay/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gillmckay/
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Discover how his 6-month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-loathing to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Mar 29, 2024 • 53min
142. Normalising Grief and Loss with Charlene Lam
Who are you without alcohol in your life?
Can you answer that question? Does it fill you with dread to even consider it?
Charlene Lam is the Grief Coach, Speaker and Curator of The Grief Gallery.
During this interview, Patrick and Charlene bring up a conversation that not many are willing to have, understanding grief and the role it has in our lives.
It's a topic that many feel uncomfortable with and are unsure how to navigate conversations around it.
During this episode, you'll learn how to define what grieving is for you, what it looks like and how you can begin to create safety in grieving during your alcohol rethink journey.
Check out some of the key topics on this week’s episode:
- How we downplay loss
- The grieving process goes beyond death (Defining Grief)
- Cumulative losses and leaky grief
- The importance of feeling safe in order to grieve
- Learning to allow whatever you feel
- Different styles of grieving
- The challenge with judgement and comparison in how you feel
- The questions that loss brings to identity
- Doing a loss inventory of your life
- The problem with using the external to change the internal (False coping mechanisms)
- Using alcohol to express emotions
- How you speak to yourself matters
Connect with Charlene Lam:
Website: https://www.charlenelam.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charclam/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curating_grief
The Grief Gallery’s Free Monthly Gathering - last Wed of every month at 2pm ET
https://www.charlenelam.com/gathering
Curating Grief film with Jamie Max Lee: https://curatinggrief.com/film
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Discover how his 6-month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Mar 22, 2024 • 48min
141. Stop Waiting for Motivation to Change with Sara Debrach
Are you waiting to find the 'right' time to stop drinking?
The truth is, there is no right time and time spent waiting to decide is time that you could be spent taking action towards rethinking alcohol right now.
On this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast Patrick is joined by Sara Debrach.
Sara began to notice that her brain would offer to have one more drink.
After discovering a course that helped with neuroscience behind drinking and a tool to change desire, Sara went from wanting to reduce drinking to wanting and successfully stopping drinking.
Join Patrick and Sara in this episode where Sara shares her alcohol rethink journey and offers some awesome tools to help you with yours.
Here are some of the cool topics they get into:
- How alcohol becomes part of daily life
- Seeing the possibility of unlearning the desire for alcohol
- The urge jar
- It takes 21 days to change a habit
- Pavlov's dogs and understanding how we anticipate a reward
- Dopamine doesn’t care. The power of getting excited about not drinking
- Start small to build trust in yourself
- Watching out for the seemingly innocent thoughts of desire that are actually toxic
- Finding delight in not drinking. Focusing on where you’ve come from vs where you think you should be
- Stop waiting for motivation and start creating it
- The harsh ways we speak to ourselves and how it impacts us
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Discover how his 6-month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Mar 15, 2024 • 26min
140. Lessons from a Sober Stag Party
Does the thought of going on a stag party while not drinking fill you with dread?
Join Patrick on this week's epsiode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast where he shares a new sober first... going on a stag party abroad.
Patrick talks about his experience of going on a boozy stag do, why he originally said he wasn't going, why he changed his mind and what he learnt from the whole expereince.
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation to discover how his 6 month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Mar 1, 2024 • 21min
139. Working for Sobriety vs Expecting Sobriety
Are you actively looking to rethink alcohol or are you hoping that it'll just happen?
In this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, Patrick talks about a concept known as passive action vs massive action.
He shares how this applies to rethinking alcohol and how passive action can feel good but not really help create the change you want.
Listen and find out how you can start taking massive action and living the sober life you both want and deserve.
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation to discover how his 6 month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Feb 23, 2024 • 26min
138. How To ReThink Alcohol
Are you listening, reading and watching content to stop drinking but not getting the results you want?
If so, join Patrick on this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, where he gives you an insight on what to expect on his FREE 30-day email training.
He shares three days of the 30-day project that will radically help you to start shifting how you see your relationship to alcohol.
The three days he walks you through are:
🧠 Getting your mindset for success
🗓️ Planning for the weekend
🏆 Alcohol as a reward
If you love what you hear and are ready to get to work, this email series is for you.
Every day for 30 days you'll receive 5 different ways to start creating awareness around your current alcohol mindset and then how you can start to challenge and change that thinking.
5 different ways to rethink alcohol every day for 30 days:
- One thought-provoking quote
- One topic
- One project
- One video
- One alcohol fact
That's 150 different ways in 30 days to help rewire your mind to stop drinking!
Sign up for the 30 day alcohol ReThink email series here
Resources Mentioned:
Mindset - Dr Carol Dweck (Book)
Relentless - Tim S Grover (Book)
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation to discover how his 6 month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Feb 16, 2024 • 17min
137. The Self-Awareness Trap
ReThinking alcohol is a journey of self-discovery. Sometimes that self-discovery can be confrontational and end up being used against yourself.
Join Patrick in this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast where he shares something he's coined as 'The Self-Awareness Trap'
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation to discover how his 6 month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Feb 9, 2024 • 22min
136. Playing It Forward
What do you do when you're faced with an urge to drink?
Having the desire to drink whilst simultaneously not wanting to drink can be a very confusing.
On this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast learn about a cool sobriety tool called 'Playing It Forward'.
This is a fantastic tool that you can use to help you think before you act when an urge comes along.
In this episode, Patrick goes into detail about how you can use this tool and some of the science behind it.
Some of the cool things he covers in this episode are:
- The role the limbic system plays in desiring alcohol
- Instant and delayed gratification
- What 'Playing It Forward' looks like
- Powerful questions to ask yourself to rethink alcohol
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation to discover how his 6 month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.
Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here.
You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a free 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook Group (Private): https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject


