

The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox
Patrick Fox - Mens Life and Sober Coach
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is for men who want to change their relationship with alcohol, whether you're in the sober-curious stage or ready to quit for good.
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
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Apr 3, 2026 • 41min
244. Relationships, Alcohol & Loving Power with Monica Tanner
Most relationship problems don’t come from one big moment.They build over time.In episode 244 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, I’m joined by couples and marriage therapist Monica Tanner to explore what actually shapes the quality of our relationships, not the big arguments, but the small, everyday things that often go unnoticed. We talk about unspoken expectations, broken commitments, and how the way you show up day to day impacts your partner, your family, and yourself.A big part of this conversation is honesty.Being honest about your behaviour.Being honest about what you need.And being willing to have conversations that most people avoid.We also get into the role alcohol can play.Not as the only issue, but as something that can lower your standards, affect your decisions, and lead to breaking promises to yourself, which then impacts trust in your relationships. Monica shares practical ways to communicate more effectively, including how to make clear, respectful requests instead of criticising or blaming. We also challenge common relationship clichés and look at why they can create imbalance and resentment over time.We finish by exploring how to handle difficult situations in relationships, especially when change isn’t happening, and how to make decisions you can genuinely stand behind.If you want to understand your relationship better and start showing up differently, this episode will give you a clear place to start.Work with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Mar 27, 2026 • 49min
243. Why You’re Still Drinking (Even Though You Want to Stop) with Hunter
Ever known something needed to change… but just carried on anyway?In episode 243 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick sits down with one of his current clients, Hunter, who shares what it actually looks like to stop drinking alcohol, break the cycle, and finally follow through.There was no big crisis or wake-up call.Just years of waking up thinking, why am I still doing this?If you’ve ever tried cutting back on alcohol, doing Dry January, or telling yourself “this time will be different”… this episode will resonate.Hunter talks about that space a lot of men sit in…Life’s working. Career’s solid. Family’s good.But alcohol is quietly taking more than it gives.What makes this conversation different is how honest it is about that middle ground.The place where you know… but haven’t acted yet.And what shifted when he stopped trying to think his way through it… and actually spoke to someone who gets it.In this episode, you’ll hear:Why “I’ll just cut back” keeps you stuck in the same loopThe power of being able to speak openly without feeling judgedHow setting a simple, reachable goal (instead of forever) builds momentumWhy most people already know what they need to do… they just haven’t acted on itThe difference between consuming content and actually applying itHow your routines, not alcohol itself, are often the hardest thing to changeWhy alcohol doesn’t support anything you say you valueAwesome takeaways:You don’t need a big moment to make a meaningful changeBeing heard properly can unlock more than another podcast or bookClarity comes from conversation, not just thinkingYou don’t have to commit to “forever” to get startedMost of the worries you have about stopping… don’t play outWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Mar 13, 2026 • 24min
242. Why You Don’t Trust Yourself (And How To Rebuild It)
Have you ever said you were going to stop drinking for a bit… and then didn’t?Or told yourself you’d start exercising, wake up earlier, eat better, or finally follow through on something that matters to you?And when it doesn’t happen, something subtle but powerful takes a hit.Your trust in yourself.In episode 242 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores why so many of us struggle with self-confidence and why the real issue often isn’t discipline, motivation or willpower… it’s self-trust.Whether you’re trying to stop drinking, change habits, improve your mindset or simply become a man who follows through on what he says, confidence plays a huge role in making lasting change.Patrick breaks down the difference between confidence and self-confidence, the three places we tend to doubt ourselves (capability, value and identity), and how small broken promises slowly erode our belief in ourselves over time.He also shares a powerful insight from his recent Disrupt group coaching call:“Little defeats bring you down. Small wins rise you up.”You’ll learn why confidence isn’t something you’re born with, but something you build through experience, repetition and keeping the promises you make to yourself.If you’ve ever wondered why change can feel difficult, why motivation comes and goes, or why you sometimes doubt your ability to follow through, this episode will help you understand what’s really going on and how to start rebuilding trust in yourself.In this episode you’ll explore:• The difference between confidence and self-confidence• The three places we doubt ourselves: capability, value and identity• How broken promises slowly erode self-trust• Why small wins are the real foundation of confidence• Practical ways to build confidence and trust yourself againThis episode is especially helpful for men who are rethinking alcohol, changing habits, building confidence, or working on personal development and mindset.Work with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Mar 6, 2026 • 39min
241. It's Never Too Late to Change with Ronnie Figueroa
What’s really driving your relationship with alcohol?Get ready to hear Patrick Fox explore addiction, vulnerability, and the deeper connection many people lose when alcohol becomes a coping mechanism.In episode 241 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick sits down with Ronnie Figueroa for a thoughtful conversation about addiction, healing, and what it really takes to change your relationship with alcohol.Ronnie shares his story of growing up around alcohol and starting to drink at just 11 years old. Like many people, alcohol helped him feel more confident and less anxious, and over time it became something he relied on throughout life.Despite building a career, earning degrees and running a successful business, drinking was still quietly influencing his health, decisions and sense of self.After a near-death experience in his fifties, Ronnie began turning his life around. At 65 he stopped drinking, and now in his seventies and years alcohol-free, he’s living proof that it’s never too late to change your life.Together, Patrick and Ronnie explore the deeper side of addiction recovery for men, including ego, vulnerability, and why asking for help can be the turning point many people avoid.They also discuss Ronnie’s approach to holistic alcohol coaching, and the simple awareness practices that help people reconnect with their bodies, calm their minds, and begin creating a healthier sober life.• Why many people feel like something is “missing” and turn to alcohol to fill the gap• The danger of believing you have drinking under control• Why vulnerability and asking for help can unlock real change• Simple practices to reconnect with yourself and your body• Why it’s never too late to rethink life and start againThe Alcohol ReThink Podcast is about creating a stigma-free space where people can question their habits, explore their relationship with alcohol, and discover what life can look like on the other side.Work with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Feb 27, 2026 • 49min
240. Breaking a 20-Year Drinking Habit with Ritchie
Most men don’t ReThink alcohol because everything's fallen apart.They ReThink because they're tired of the trade-off. A few hours of switch-off in exchange for a foggy head, lost energy and another quiet promise to 'sort it out next week.In episode 240 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined by Ritchie, a long-time listener who decided to change his relationship with alcohol after more than 20 years of what many might call 'normal' drinking .There was no rock bottom moment. No crisis. Just a growing awareness that alcohol had gone from something social to something relied upon.Ritchie shares what it was like growing up in UK drinking culture. Friday nights in a field at 15. University midweek sessions. Rugby matches followed by beers. Watching Liverpool with drinks before, during and after the game. It wasn’t chaos. It was routine. And that familiarity made it harder to question.After one night where a few beers left him feeling worse than expected, something clicked. He didn’t decide to quit forever. He set himself a target of 100 days and committed to seeing what would change.What followed wasn’t easy.He talks honestly about the first 30 days, thinking about beer constantly and driving past Morrisons with the urge to turn left out of habit. That pull back to what’s comfortable is real, and he doesn’t sugar-coat it.Awesome things you’ll hear during this conversation:• Why you don’t need to hit rock bottom to make a change• What the early weeks feel like when your brain keeps suggesting 'just one'• How to interrupt autopilot patterns, even something as simple as the drive home• The impact alcohol was having on his sleep, training and recovery• Why speaking to someone external made all the differenceBy 111 days, Ritchie noticed clearer thinking, stronger training sessions and heavier lifts at 38 than he’d ever managed before. More importantly, he began to understand what alcohol had been doing for him emotionally, and why letting it go felt uncomfortable at first.This episode is a grounded, honest look at what it takes to break a long-standing pattern, especially when that pattern looks normal from the outside.If you’ve ever found yourself debating whether to stop at the shop on the way home, this one will resonate.Work with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Feb 20, 2026 • 35min
239. Redefining Failure with Sam LaPage
If you’ve ever wondered:'Who am I without alcohol?''Why do I still want it even though it’s hurting me?''Is it possible to feel genuinely good without it?'This episode is for you.In episode 239 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick sits down with fitness coach and sobriety advocate Sam LaPage for a raw, honest, and surprisingly uplifting conversation about identity, injury, shame, and learning how to actually love yourself.Sam grew up in a small town where drinking in the park wasn’t just something you did… it was who you were. Alcohol became confidence. Belonging. Fun. Validation.At the same time, he was living a double life, chasing excellence in rowing while quietly numbing feelings of not being 'enough.'When a back injury ended his rowing career in the US, it didn’t just take away a sport. It took away an identity. What followed was years of drinking driven by failure, shame, and a deep sense of not measuring up.And then something changed.Awesome topics covered in this episode:Why his drinking was never really about alcoholHow shame became the real cycle keeping him stuckThe unexpected power of fitness in building sobrietyWhat it actually means to 'love yourself' (and how awkward that felt at first)Why early sobriety can feel flat… and why that’s normalThe difference between chemical highs and genuine joyHow he rebuilt his identity without alcoholPatrick and Sam also dive into vulnerability, masculinity, and why being 'radically human' means feeling everything, not escaping it.Connect with Sam LaPageInstagram: sam_lapage_coachWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Feb 13, 2026 • 20min
238. Journalling and the Art of Self-Coaching
Most men have 'tried' journalling.A notebook bought with good intentions, three intense entries, then… a book left to gather dust.In episode 238 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox explores why journalling often feels uncomfortable and why that discomfort might be showing up.Patrick shares his own journey with writing. In the beginning, his journal was basically a written version of his inner critic. Pages filled with self-judgement, frustration and 'what’s wrong with me?' energy. A jam-packed pity party on lined paper. No wonder it felt unpleasant.What changed?He realised a powerful distinction: you are not your thoughts. And writing something down does not make it true.This episode dives into how journalling can shift from self-criticism to self-coaching. Instead of reinforcing negative beliefs, Patrick explains how to question them, challenge them and gently reshape them using bridge or ladder thoughts that actually feel believable.He also introduces a brilliant analogy from The Magic of Believing, a book written over 75 years ago and recently referenced by Tony Robbins in an interview. The idea? Thoughts are like stones thrown into water. The bigger the stone, the stronger the ripples. Anxious thoughts often carry huge emotional energy. But with practice, you can strengthen new thoughts until their ripples begin to override the old ones.This isn’t about forced affirmations or pretending everything’s fine.It’s about training your mind.If you’re ReThinking alcohol, struggling with discipline, or tired of the mental back-and-forth in your own head, this episode will show you how a simple notebook can become one of the most powerful tools in your change process.As ever, take what works and leave the rest. Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-case-studyWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Feb 6, 2026 • 49min
237. Bringing 'two beer' Energy to a Sober Life with Louis Church
“Six hours of fun would cost me four days of anxiety afterwards.”In episode 237 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined by Louis Church, co-founder of High and Dry Beer, for one of those conversations that goes way beyond drinking or not drinking.They talk about alcohol-free beer, mushrooms, running, and how on earth you even go about building a non-alcoholic lager that actually tastes good.And then, pretty quickly, the conversation goes somewhere much deeper.Louis shares his honest relationship with alcohol, what binge drinking looked like for him, and why stepping away from drinking forced him to face thoughts and emotions he’d spent years avoiding. They explore the uncomfortable middle of sobriety. The bit no one really prepares you for. When the initial motivation fades, you’re faced with your own mind.Awesome things you'll hear about:Why stopping drinking can feel amazing at first… and then suddenly feel hardGrieving alcohol instead of pretending you don’t miss itSocial pressure, people-pleasing, and drinking for other people’s comfortThe myth that you lose your personality without alcoholLearning you don’t need alcohol to be confident, funny, or connectedTherapy, journaling, and sitting with uncomfortable feelings instead of escaping themResponsibility, values, and choosing the man you actually want to beThey also talk about the creation of High and Dry Beer, how the idea was born during marathon training, why it’s brewed properly rather than sweetened and watered down, and why Louis cares more about presence and meaning than telling anyone what they should do.This isn’t a quit-forever episode, it’s not preachy, and it’s definitely not anti-fun.It’s a real conversation about identity, choice, maturity, and what opens up when you start choosing yourself over alcohol.Connect with LouisInstagram: High & Dry Beer Website: High & Dry Beer - Functional LagerDisrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-case-studyWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Jan 30, 2026 • 20min
236. Disrupt Your Drinking Habit
Most drinking habits don’t come from a lack of willpower.They come from patterns.In episode 236 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores why drinking so often runs on autopilot and how real change starts when you stop treating alcohol as a problem to fix and begin seeing it as a habit you can interrupt.You’ll learn how habits work as loops that seek completion, why thoughts about drinking can feel urgent even when you don’t actually want a drink, and how the brain looks for predictability rather than pleasure.Patrick shares a recent client example that shows what becomes possible when you create space between thought, feeling, and action, and how learning to recognise and interrupt these loops can radically change your relationship with alcohol in a surprisingly short amount of time.Cool things you'll hear about:Why drinking habits repeat even when you want them to stopHow the brain seeks completion, not alcohol itselfWhere disruption actually happens (before the action)Why awareness beats willpowerHow seeing drinking as a habit removes shame and self-blamePatrick also explains how this work forms the foundation of the DISRUPT group coaching programme, starting soon, for men who don’t feel out of control but are tired of repeating the same patterns.If you feel like your drinking isn’t ruining your life but is quietly running it, this episode will help you see what’s really going on and where change actually begins.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-case-studyWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Jan 23, 2026 • 23min
235. Emotions Aren't the Problem
Do you ever find yourself thinking you shouldn’t feel anxious, sad, or have a bad day?In episode 235 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores why so many of us judge our emotions, apologise for how we feel, or try to think our way out of discomfort, and how that often makes things harder rather than easier.Drawing on his coaching work and a deeply personal week, Patrick reflects on emotional conditioning, the messages many of us learned growing up, and what happens when emotions aren’t allowed space. He shares his experience of attending a funeral, noticing how grief showed up in his body, and the contrast of moving from loss to laughter in the same day.Rather than trying to fix emotions or force positivity, this episode looks at a different approach: curiosity instead of resistance.Awesome things you'll hear about:Why many men believe certain emotions aren’t acceptableHow emotional conditioning starts early and gets passed downWhy we apologise for how we feelThe problem with plastering positive thinking over difficult emotionsHow grief, sadness, and anxiety show up in the bodyWhy distraction, food, alcohol, and scrolling often become coping toolsHow resistance can make emotions louderWhy getting curious about feelings can reduce unnecessary sufferingIf you’re tired of judging how you feel or trying to escape it, this episode will help you look at emotions differently, without turning them into a problem that needs fixing.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox


