

The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast
Mark Usher and Matilde Crocini
Does your marriage feel like a war of unmet wants?
We know how this feels.
Follow our conversation in The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast. We’ll help you both get what you want in marriage so you never have to feel at war again.
Hosted by relationship coaches, and husband and wife, Mark Usher and Matilde Crocini.
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Feb 20, 2025 • 1h 1min
231: This One Simple Game Might Be The Most Powerful Marriage Transformation Tool Ever
As men we practice low tolerance of our own BS grumpy moods with our customers, boss, neighbours, friends etc. They get our highest standard communication. Then we go home and practice super high tolerance of our BS grumpy moods with our Queen and children. Our nearest and dearest get our lowest standard of communication. Low tolerance = high standards. High tolerance = low standards. The rules of this super simple game sets the scene for only your highest standards of communication and emotional state to come to the table. It's a super fun and brutally effective way to show up as the King you were born to become. Let’s begin….. Don’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to Heroic Husbands Movement: Find out more about applying to join Heroic Husbands Men’s Circles here. Get your FREE “15 Simple Habits to Be The Husband She Brags About” e-book at www.kingsoffreedom.meI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Feb 13, 2025 • 1h 11min
230: 4 Attachment Theory Insights On How To Set Up Your Nervous System for Infinite Expansion in Marriage and Life
Attachment theory rocks. It pin points exactly where we have pulled up the nervous system handbrake preventing love from ever flowing in our lives. Only when you know where the handbrake is pulled up, can you then have the power to put it back down and start allowing the juice of love flow between yourself and your Queen again. Ready to put the damn heart handbrake down, once and forever? Let’s begin….. Don’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to Heroic Husbands Movement: Find out more about applying to join Heroic Husbands Men’s Circles here. Get your FREE “15 Simple Habits to Be The Husband She Brags About” e-book at www.kingsoffreedom.meI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Feb 6, 2025 • 1h 14min
229: The Art Of Shifting From Your Rational Minded Head Farts to Latin Lover Heart Art Your Queen Will Melt For
Most husbands unwittingly Head Fart. Head Farting is insisting on thinking, talking and taking action in the same way you always have and expecting your married life to suddenly transform. It doesn't. Marriage Transformation Heroes create Heart Art. Heart Art is accessing an inexhaustible force within capable of creating loving connection no matter what the perceived obstacle in your world. If you want your marriage to transform, you better get clear on how to shift to creating Heart Art!!!! Let’s begin….. Don’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to Heroic Husbands Movement: Find out more about applying to join Heroic Husbands Men’s Circles here. Get your FREE “15 Simple Habits to Be The Husband She Brags About” e-book at www.kingsoffreedom.meI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Feb 5, 2025 • 1h 23min
228: 14 Signs Your Wife Is Dealing With A Narcissistic Mother
Holding space for your Queen’s human experience is tough at the best of times for even the most loving husband. But holding space if she has a narcissistic mother and the emotional trauma that comes with it, can be an absolute nightmare. If you have ever experienced strain in your marriage as a result of your Queen’s relationship with her mother, this episode is handcrafted for you. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message Now

Jan 30, 2025 • 1h 8min
227: Go From Daily Unspoken Deadening Desperation To Jump-Out-Of-Bed Clarity with this 1 Family Leadership Definition
Most husbands face a daily family grind trying to rally the troops, wife and kids, in a futile attempt to get a cohesive and harmonious unit working together. Good intentions fail. Often. Peeing against a gale force wind comes to mind in most cases, hence our daily evening need to sedate our minds with whatever substance or activity is at hand. Defining what family leadership is, is the foundation stone of clarity our brains need to step out of this daily torment onto a path of easeful and predictable progress. Let’s begin…..Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Jan 23, 2025 • 38min
226: How Building The 1 Simple Skill of Receptivity Will Transform Your Marriage
Research shows that newlywed couples who divorce six years later, respond to their partners bids for attention only 33% of the time. Successful couples respond 87% of the time. Responding to your Queen’s attempts to get your attention might be the single greatest skillset to develop today. This skill is called receptivity. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Jan 16, 2025 • 1h 45min
225: 6 Steps To Rebuilding An Indestructible Bridge of Flowing Connection and Authenticity That Never Again Collapses into the River of Heartbreak
Creating an indestructible bridge of connection in marriage seems the ultimate Mission Impossible. When guys see it embodied in another relationship, they think it’s because the other dude must have luckily found an exceptional woman unlike their own irrational and hyper-sensitive wife. Or it’s a miracle fluke that’ll never happen for you. It's not good luck and it’s not a miracle. It's a repeatable process that requires nothing but a willingness to do whatever it takes to make it work. The steps work. The only question is are you willing to do whatever it takes??? Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

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Jan 9, 2025 • 53min
224: The Simple Mindset Shift To Go From Fear & Fury to Calm & Compassion During Her Worst Outbursts at You
Marital arguments can erode trust and lead to feelings of shame. Learn how a simple mindset shift can transform emotional turmoil into calm and compassion. Discover the impact of childhood issues on conflicts and the importance of emotional awareness. By viewing your partner's vulnerabilities, you can foster a safe space for healing. This approach not only helps you become a stabilizing presence but also strengthens the bond between you and your partner during their most challenging moments.

Jan 3, 2025 • 1h
223: 12 Simple Strategies To Be An Unstoppable King in Marriage and Life in 2025
The only permissible Kingly aim going into the New Year is setting the intention to make this the best year yet in your marriage and life. It doesn't matter how intense your married life is now; these simple strategies and mindset upgrades will help you create an awesome year worthy of the King you were born to be. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Dec 26, 2024 • 57min
222: The One Greatest Trustworthy Gift to Give Your Queen This New Year
There’s one thing your Queen desires you to gift her the most. She’s been desiring this from you since you first met. This episode unpacks the greatest gift you will have ever gifted your Queen and marriage since you first got married. It also happens to be the greatest gift you can gift yourself in life. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast


