Polycurious
Fernanda
Non-monogamy is not for everyone, but you might be curious about it. Could it be right for you? How do non-monogamous couples deal with jealousy? I was curious myself, and the more I asked, the more I became surprised by this unexplored topic. In Polycurious I have casual and intimate conversations with non-monogamous couples, sex and relationship experts, friends, and even people who tried polyamory and realized it wasn’t for them. This podcast is for the polycurious, whether you have explored non-monogamy or not.
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Mar 31, 2026 • 1h 10min
75. Can You Learn Compersion? ft. Evolving Love Project
Abbey and Liam from the Evolving Love Project return to share more about their journey opening up their relationship. They unpack why fairness doesn’t always mean doing the same things, reflecting on Abbey dating solo for two years before Liam did. They also explore whether compersion—the feeling of joy or happiness for your partner’s experiences with others—is something you can learn, and how it differs from simply feeling turned on by that idea.Join my Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousResources mentioned:Abbey's Substack: https://substack.com/@evolvingloveproject?utm_source=global-searchEvolving Love Podcast: When Abbey Vetoed Fer:https://open.spotify.com/episode/47hASJGbb3UfcaWQTxinxCEp.42 Can Non-monogamy Make You a Better Parent? with Abbey and Liam:https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep42Evolving Love Project website:https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/Get my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community here:https://www.polycurious.com/communityFollow Polycurious on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtasFollow Polycurious on Tik Tok:https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious
Mar 17, 2026 • 1h 8min
74. Do This Before Opening Up with Nancy & Jonny
Nancy and Jonny spent months focusing on education, workshops, community, and strengthening their communication before taking their first steps into non-monogamy.In this episode, they share what that intentional process looked like, the challenges they encountered, and how moving slowly helped them build a deeper sense of safety and trust in their relationship.They also share practical communication tools that helped them navigate difficult emotions, including one simple but powerful question partners can ask each other: Do you need to be helped, hugged, or heard?Resources mentioned:Queering Existentialism (Unlearning Mononormativity workshop and others):https://www.queeringexistentialism.com/Jonny’s Self-Love playlist:https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1JszNHS2Bw95szUQtDaTG8?si=iModwn0YSR6lbcNv8dVouA&pi=K4mgv1OrTY2g1House Of Scorpio Lip Service Partyhttps://www.houseofscorpio.com/index.htmlBook: All Fours By Miranda Julyhttps://mirandajuly.com/all-fours/New York Jacks (Masturbation Party):https://nyjacks.com/Sucia Eventshttps://linktr.ee/suciasundaysMy Episode with Evolving Love Podcast:https://open.spotify.com/episode/47hASJGbb3UfcaWQTxinxCEp.52 How to Find Safety with Leo and Luna:https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep52My Break Up Story and Tips for Going Through a Breakup Part 2:https://www.patreon.com/posts/my-break-up-and-143818808Join my Patreon (for the Meetups) here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community here:https://www.polycurious.com/communityFollow Polycurious on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtasFollow Polycurious on Tik Tok:https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious
Mar 3, 2026 • 1h 9min
73. I Wanted Sex with One Partner But Not The Other with Libby Sinback
What happens when you stop wanting sex with your long-term partner(s)… but not with someone new?In this episode, I’m joined by relationship coach and host of Making Polyamory Work, Libby Sinback. Libby shares openly about a four-year period in her marriage when she and her husband didn’t have sex and what it took to find their way back to intimacy.Resources mentioned:Learn more about Libby here: https://www.libbysinback.com/Morgan Burch’s post about sex not being a physical need here:https://www.instagram.com/goodmorgantherapy/p/DU01M50AD6s/?img_index=3Emily Nagoski’s books here: https://www.emilynagoski.com/booksMaking Polyamory Work episode with Drew here: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Leaning-In-e3c7lgc/a-acbv8i2Poly Parents Miniseries here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFX44KoR8S4&list=PLuhHN8kw_43UM2tkDWg8xwIZbOQBE__EeJoin my Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community here:https://www.polycurious.com/communityFollow Polycurious on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtasFollow Polycurious on Tik Tok:https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious
Feb 17, 2026 • 1h 6min
72. I Questioned Monogamy and Heteronormativity and Couldn’t Go Back
In this episode, JJ shares how he went from being in a monogamous relationship to fully embracing his queer and non-monogamous identity. He opens up about working through shame and what it’s been like navigating queerness and non-monogamy as a man in a heteronormative culture.Resources mentioned:JJ's Bonus Patreon Content: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-ep-72-nre-150958971?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_linkNon-escalator relationship menu: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/pwkdxp/v3_relationship_components_menu_last_update_for/Join my Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community here:https://www.polycurious.com/communityFollow Polycurious on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtasFollow Polycurious on Tik Tok:https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious
Feb 3, 2026 • 1h 15min
71. Can BDSM Be Therapeutic? with Nicolle Hodges
In this episode, Nicolle Hodges shares how she discovered the world of kink, became a lifestyle dominatrix, and realized BDSM can be profoundly therapeutic (the subject of her upcoming book!). She also reflects on her experience in a polyamorous relationship, including navigating a throuple, and explains why she ultimately decided to step away from non-monogamy.Follow Nicolle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolledoublel/Nicolle's Substack Both Sides of The Slash:https://nicolledoublel.substack.com/Watch the podcast on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcastJoin my Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community here:https://www.polycurious.com/communityFollow Polycurious on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtasFollow Polycurious on Tik Tok:https://www.tiktok.com/@polycurious
Jan 20, 2026 • 41min
70. Jealousy is Information with Kayla + Carl (Part 2)
In part two of my conversation with Kayla and Carl, we explore how jealousy can be a powerful source of information, helping us understand what we want more of and how we can grow. We also talk about a major milestone in their non monogamy journey: Carl’s first experience stepping outside his marriage, which was also his first sexual connection with someone other than Kayla.Resources Mentioned:Kayla's Essay: https://medium.com/@kaylamerz/truth-sex-and-non-monogamy-8f1e42c8fde4?postPublishedType=initialJoin my Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community here:https://www.polycurious.com/communityFollow Polycurious on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtasFollow Polycurious on Tik Tok:https://www.tiktok.com/@polycuriousWatch the podcast on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast
Jan 13, 2026 • 60min
69. Non-monogamy Saved Our Marriage with Kayla + Carl (Part 1)
Kayla and Carl, a married couple with young kids, share how non monogamy helped them move out of a decline in sexual connection and communication. While Carl was initially not interested in exploring outside the relationship himself, his support of Kayla’s exploration became a major turning point. Kayla, who is seven years older and had often felt more in charge in the relationship, began to see Carl differently: more confident, grounded, and secure. That shift had a powerful impact on their intimacy. This episode explores how non monogamy can introduce new sexual energy into a relationship and help long-term couples who feel stagnant find their way out of a rut.Resources Mentioned:Listen to Part 2 of our conversation on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousWatch Parents Mini Series on YouTube (ep.42 - ep. 46)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFX44KoR8S4&list=PLuhHN8kw_43UM2tkDWg8xwIZbOQBE__EeListen to Poly Parents Mini Series:https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep42Kayla's Essay: https://medium.com/@kaylamerz/truth-sex-and-non-monogamy-8f1e42c8fde4?postPublishedType=initialJoin my Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community here:https://www.polycurious.com/communityFollow Polycurious on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtasFollow Polycurious on Tik Tok:https://www.tiktok.com/@polycuriousWatch the podcast on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast
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Dec 16, 2025 • 1h 4min
68. Having Three DADT Partners with Alex & Skyler
Discover the complexities of juggling three Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell relationships as Alex and Skyler share their journeys. Skyler discusses transitioning from a long-term marriage to non-monogamy, while Alex reveals how she found love amidst her divorce. They explore the balance of hierarchy and independence in relationships, the emotional challenges each partner faces, and the importance of transparency about future goals. Their candid advice offers insights for anyone navigating the intricate world of polyamory.
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Dec 4, 2025 • 1h 10min
67. What Two Terrible Breakups Taught Me with Jesse
Jesse opens up about two tough breakups in non-monogamous relationships and how they affected his community standing. He discusses the valuable lessons learned from toxic partnerships, like recognizing red flags and the importance of effective communication. The conversation dives into how shifting narratives can lead to healthier connections. Jesse also shares advice on navigating social dynamics post-breakup and emphasizes the growth that comes from exploring polyamory.
Nov 18, 2025 • 60min
66. All Roads Lead To Poly with Fer (Your Host)
In this episode, I finally sit on the other side of the mic. I’m interviewed by my friend A (who you might remember from the episode with her husband J).We talk about my upbringing, what I learned about my sexuality (including discovering masturbation much later in life), my journey with Seth as my primary partner and eventually finding a second partner, what it was like to navigate conflict with two partners, and why I’ve become such a big believer in not future-tripping and instead listening to your intuition in the moment.Join my Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousBreakup episodes 1 + 2:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFer + Seth’s episode 12:https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep12Fer + Seth episode 48:https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep48John Part 1 (Patreon):https://www.patreon.com/posts/meet-my-partner-138151166John Part 2:https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep61Get my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community here:https://www.polycurious.com/communityFollow Polycurious on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtasFollow Polycurious on Tik Tok:https://www.tiktok.com/@polycuriousWatch the podcast on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast
