Even Here, Even Now: A Needy Podcast with Mara Glatzel

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend.This is the last public Daily Touch. After today these recordings are moving inside Tend, my 12-week group coaching program, where they will be waiting for you every week alongside calls, community, and my full support.But I wanted to go out with something real.Because here is what I notice. So many of us go around all day saying we want things. We want to feel different. We want to feel better. We want this to be easier. And then we talk about it with our friends, we listen to podcasts about it, we think about it into oblivion. And we tell ourselves that counts. That we are doing something.I love you and it does not count.Thinking about something is not the same as doing something. And I know that feels harsh but I also know that you already know this, which is probably why you are here.This Daily Touch is a tough love conversation about the gap between the life you say you want and the one tiny, unsexy, undramatic step you are actually willing to take in that direction today. Not a 37 point plan. Not a complete overhaul. One thing. Something small and doable and real.You are going to spend the energy either way. What if just a tiny dose of it went somewhere different?If you want to keep going, come inside Tend. The Spring cohort is enrolling now and doors close Sunday March 29th. I would love to have you: maraglatzel.com/tendSee you on the other side.xMaraYou can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon. Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Welcome back to the Daily Touch.I am going to tell you something that most people in my position would not say.When you start saying the true things, when you stop micromanaging everyone's perception of you, when you stop making yourself as easy as possible to love, things might fall apart. Some of them might... and I am not going to shellac over that.But here is what I know. If you have been routinely abandoning yourself in order to keep the peace and hold it all together, you do not have a steady foundation to fall back on when life gets hard. And life will get hard.The relationship you have with yourself is the only one you take with you everywhere, into every conversation, every board meeting, every relationship, from the day you are born until the day you die. It is your most longstanding relationship. And most of us are taking it completely for granted.That is what this Daily Touch is about. Building something inside yourself that nobody can take away. Even when the walls come down.If you want help building that, that is exactly what we do inside Tend. Doors close Sunday March 29th: maraglatzel.com/tendYou can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon. Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend, welcome back to the Daily Touch.Today we are talking about readiness.Specifically, the version of readiness most of us are waiting for. The hell yes. The moment when every single part of you is on board, confident, prepared, and certain. The moment when you finally feel ready.Here is what I know after fifteen years of working with clients through every kind of transition imaginable. That moment does not exist. I have never once seen it. What I have seen is people who are scared and uncertain and still take the step anyway.So if you have been hovering, waiting for the perfect sign that you are ready, this one is for you.51% is enough. An ounce more in the camp of yes than no. That is workable. That is enough to begin.If this is landing and you are sitting at 51% wondering about Tend, doors close Sunday March 29th. Join us here!xMaraYou can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon. Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend, welcome to something new.The Daily Touch is a short audio transmission I created for Tend, my 12-week group coaching program, and I am sharing it here because I think you need it too.If you are so burnt out that you cannot even ask yourself what you need, this one is for you. If you have been telling yourself you are too far gone, too exhausted, too behind to start, this one is for you. If you have been waiting for the perfect moment to finally get back to yourself, this one is especially for you.Because here is what I know. There will always be something to put your care on the other side of. The road to your radiant aliveness is not paved by one massive overhaul. It is paved by one small, doable thing. And then another. And then another.So that is your dare today. One thing. Under ten minutes. That is it.If this resonates and you want more of this kind of support, the doors to Tend are open through March 29th. Come do this work with me: maraglatzel.com/tendxxMaraYou can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon. Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

A candid dive into why the “needy woman” trope is false and how needs can be the path to safety. Stories about cultural conditioning, childhood disconnection from bodily signals, and the buildup of suppressed needs are explored. Practical ideas about building language for needs, becoming your own secure base, and new daily practices for tending tender parts are introduced.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Hey friend, welcome back to Even Here, Even Now.This episode is a follow-up to our last conversation about knowing your needs and what they have to do with your self-care and self-trust. And today I am getting into something I hear all the time.I know what I need. I even asked for it. And they said no.So what now?This is such a tender and real place to be. And I want to walk you through it honestly, starting with who is actually responsible for what when it comes to getting your needs met in any relationship.Here is the short version: it is your job to know what you need and to ask for it out loud. It is their job to assess their capacity and respond. And then it is your job to tolerate their response and figure out what to do next.I know. I know that is not the answer most of us want. I did not want that to be the answer either. I spent a long time waiting for someone to just figure out what I needed and deliver it. But taking responsibility for my own needs, really owning it, has been the most freeing thing I have ever done for myself.In this episode I get personal. I share my own experience with a really big, really vulnerable need for physical touch, what it looked like to stop being angry at other people for not meeting that need, and how I learned to get creative about meeting it myself. Including, yes, an electric blanket and a very beloved hot water bottle.I also talk about the dual list practice I use inside Tend: how to get a need met with others, and how to get that same need met by yourself, so you are never completely adrift when someone says no.This is the work. And I am so glad we get to do it together.If you want to go deeper, this is exactly what we work on inside Tend, my 12-week group coaching program. Enrollment is open now through March 20th. I would love to have you. Learn more at maraglatzel.com/tendxMaraHot moments in this episode: 00:00 The question I hear all the time: I need it but they won't give it to me 02:22 Who is responsible for what when asking for your needs 04:50 Your job is to tolerate their response and decide what to do next 07:15 Why so many of us are waiting to be rescued from our own needs 09:29 Why taking responsibility for yourself is actually the most freeing thing 11:50 My big personal example: a voracious need for physical touch 14:08 Getting creative about meeting your needs with and without others 16:31 The dual list practice: met with others vs. met by yourself 18:51 How warmth became my strategy (and why I am now a bath person) 23:32 Why insight is not enough and what actually has to changeYou can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon. Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

They unpack why prescriptive self-care like baths and checklists often fails. The conversation centers on identifying real needs and unlearning cultural stories that dismiss them. You hear practical steps for building self-attunement, self-trust, and self-advocacy. There is also a focus on inner child work, emotional literacy, and why community practice changes everything.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I unpack the online debate about “bare minimum” versus “princess treatment,” and why the tender, specific care I crave, like coffee made exactly how I like it and thoughtful acts of attention, can feel both necessary and out of reach. I explore why so many of us want our partners to meet our needs without being asked... pointing to burnout (especially for oldest daughters and lifelong caregivers), romcom-driven expectations that love means mind-reading, and cultural conditioning in a capitalist, colonial, white supremacist, patriarchal overculture that teaches people, especially women and those socialized as girls, to minimize their needs to stay safe and belong. Tune in to hear my own story of being a stranger to myself, chasing self-improvement plan after self-improvement plan, and feeling resentful when others did not “handle it” for me. And, ultimately, how I came to understanding that my needs are my responsibility and I do not have to earn the care that I have ached for. Anchored in my core philosophy, even here, even now, I focus on small, doable acts of self-attunement and bespoke self-care, and I explain how the being really-really-really good at for caring for others is a transferrable skill. (Meaning, you can learn how to give it to yourself, babe!) 00:00 Bare Minimum vs. Princess Treatment: The Internet Debate03:10 Why We Crave Mind-Reading Love (and Romcom Expectations)05:29 “Your Needs Are Your Responsibility" Even if you're a Burned-Out Caregiver10:27 Cultural Conditioning, Safety, and the Belief You’re Allowed to Have Needs13:28 From Self-Abandonment to Self-Knowing: My Burnout Story19:05 You Don’t Have to Earn Care: Even Here, Even Now22:43 How to Start Giving Yourself Bespoke Care (Small Daily Choices)23:38 Invitation to My Free 90-minute Workshop, Princess Treatment, on February 27th!25:30 Closing: You Deserve This Kind of Care 💞You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon. Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode of 'Even Here, Even Now,' I dive into one of my favorite concepts concept -- 'return to sender.' Tune in to hear me discuss how we receive and internalize harmful messages from oppressive societal systems over the course of our lives, and emphasize the importance of prioritizing our own needs and authenticity as we reject the messages that do not align with how we *want* to be living.Highlighting the struggle of feeling guilt and shame in prioritizing self-care, I encourage you to recognize and send back toxic beliefs, advocating for a balanced life where self-nourishment supports sustained contributions to others.Timestamps00:42 Understanding the Over Culture02:01 Embracing Your (True) Needs, Wants & Beliefs04:16 The Concept of 'Return to Sender'06:09 Winter Camp: A Case Study08:25 Challenging Social Norms09:55 Personal Reflections and Socialization12:04 The Importance of Self-Care, especially during the winter seasonYou can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon. Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I jam about my *concerns* with traditional New Year's resolutions, examining how the overculture pushes us into setting unattainable goals and highlighting the importance of weaving self-compassion into our commitments. It is my deepest hope that this episode supports you in rethinking the winter season as a time of rest and nourishment rather than making drastic changes. You are not a problem to be fixed! You are a human being in deep need of restoration and tender care!Join me as I advocate for setting realistic, deeply rooted intentions based on genuine desires and needs, rather than societal pressures. This episode will provide insights about how to create sustainable, self-loving commitments for the year ahead.Timestamps:00:00 My Feelings About New Year's Resolutions 🤭01:37 Wintering and the Timing of Resolutions04:56 The Big Problem with Resolutions07:14 Granting Yourself a Fresh Start Anytime You Need it11:05 Toxic Productivity Culture18:55 Setting Doable CommitmentsYou can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon. Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz