

The Imperfects
Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
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Mar 16, 2025 • 1h 9min
Dr Julie Smith - Building Confidence, Brick by Brick
Dr. Julie Smith, a clinical psychologist and best-selling author, shares invaluable insights on building confidence and resilience. She reframes feelings of overwhelm as signals for self-care rather than failures, promoting the idea that confidence grows from all experiences, not just successes. The discussion dives into how personal challenges and vulnerability can foster growth, emphasizing the importance of connection and emotional support during tough times. Dr. Smith’s engaging approach makes mental health concepts accessible and relatable.

Mar 13, 2025 • 15min
Hugh's Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People
An open letter shares heartfelt insights and emotional depth for parents of autistic and neurodivergent individuals. The discussion highlights the psychological struggles they face, combined with the resilience and love needed to navigate societal misunderstandings. Themes of compassion unfold as it recognizes not only the challenges but also the brilliance of their children. The speaker expresses gratitude for community support, fostering connection among those on this journey. It's an emotional yet uplifting conversation that champions family bonds.

Mar 9, 2025 • 1h 35min
Hannah Diviney - Disabled in an Able-Bodied World
Hannah Diviney is one of the most powerful people in pop culture. At just 25 years old, the author, advocate, and actor hasn’t just called out Lizzo for using an ableist slur—she also took on Queen B herself. And she succeeded on both fronts. Which, once you get to know her, isn’t surprising at all. In our Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah reflects on the questions: “How do you see yourself? Is it the same way your loved ones see you?” Answering with incredible vulnerability, Hannah shares how her relationship with her disability has evolved over time and what it was like growing up in a world where the Paralympics seemed like the only visible marker of success. We talk to Hannah about being a part of intimate television history, and Ryan, the love doctor, Shelton manifests a Brad (or Stewie, or Chris, or Michael-Angelo) in her future. Hannah, we are so desperate to be your friend. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/41vzALg 🫖 Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode Grant Denyer - Self Worth Was Worth Fighting For - https://apple.co/4fyvmsj 🎟️ Things to go see Audrey at the Melbourne Women in Film Festival - https://bit.ly/4bvMHkq 📺 Things to watch Latecomers - https://bit.ly/4kBLFaG Hannah’s speech at the National Press Club - https://bit.ly/3QJPzQZ 📖 Things to read I’ll Let Myself In by Hannah Diviney - https://bit.ly/3DjeffZ The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Mar 2, 2025 • 1h 16min
Dr Emily - Hope
Dr. Emily Musgrove, a Melbourne psychologist and author of 'Unstuck,' dives into the enlightening world of hope. She redefines hope as a learnable belief rather than just an emotion. The discussion highlights strategies for fostering both individual and collective hope, stressing the importance of vulnerability and connection. Exploring the active pursuit of hope in a cynical society, Dr. Emily emphasizes the transformative power of kindness and small, intentional choices to enhance well-being, particularly during challenging times.

Feb 23, 2025 • 53min
Matthew Murphy - A Sober Wombat
Matthew Murphy, frontman of The Wombats, opens up about his journey with mental health, detailing his battles with anxiety and the crutch alcohol became in his life. He candidly discusses the challenges of parenting, the vulnerabilities it presents, and the pivotal decision to embrace sobriety, which he calls the best choice he's made. Murphy reflects on the joys of rediscovery and how fatherhood reshapes his perspective, alongside intriguing thoughts on the relationship between creativity and mental health.

Feb 20, 2025 • 16min
Get Ready. We’re Touring A Brand New Live Show!
Get ready for a brand-new live tour filled with quirky wordplay and hilarious anecdotes! The hosts share their excitement for performing in cities across Australia, promising a show that's bigger and better. They explore the significance of storytelling and the charm of unique words like 'dulcet.' Expect playful banter about Tasmania and its apples, along with a creative spin using a random word generator. It's a delightful blend of humor and anticipation, all while inviting fans to join in the fun!

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Feb 16, 2025 • 1h 53min
Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top
Maria Ruberto, founder of Salutogenic Psychology, shares insights on the critical role of sleep for health and well-being. She discusses the biology of sleep, including the impact of light and melatonin on our sleep cycles. Maria emphasizes the importance of sleep hygiene and myth-busting around sleep deprivation in high achievers. Personal anecdotes and practical tips make the science relatable and actionable. From understanding sleep stages to addressing modern lifestyle challenges, this conversation is a comprehensive guide to improving our nightly rest.

Feb 9, 2025 • 1h 40min
Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss
Join a heartfelt conversation with a legendary surfer who not only overcame a shark attack but also faced profound loss. The talk delves into the healing power of surfing, humorous childhood tales, and the complex journey through grief. Listeners will appreciate the blend of lighthearted sibling rivalry stories and deep reflections on resilience, community, and personal growth. Experience the unique balance of joy and sorrow as emotional connections are made through shared experiences, and discover the lasting impacts of friendship on life's challenges.

Feb 2, 2025 • 28min
We're Back! And A Little More Imperfect
The co-hosts kick off the new year with lively banter and reflections on their time apart. Hilarious holiday tales from adventures in New Zealand set a playful tone. Eerie ghostly encounters spark a humorous investigation into the supernatural. Exciting announcements hint at new projects, including a Patreon community and a book release. The anticipation for the new season grows, with sneak peeks of upcoming content featuring the likes of Mick Fanning. Join them for a mix of laughter, curiosity, and genuine connection!

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Jan 26, 2025 • 1h 35min
James van Cuylenburg - What’s Your Relationship Status?
James van Cuylenburg, a clinical psychologist and cousin of Hugh and Josh, dives deep into the intricacies of relationships. He discusses attachment styles and how they shape our connections. James tackles the importance of communication and emotional independence while navigating intimacy. He provides tips for parents on discussing pornography with their kids, emphasizing trust. The conversation highlights the significance of empathy in heartbreak and cherishing all types of connections in life.


