On Attachment

In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by the one & only Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT. Stan is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of PACT (a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy), as well as being a prolific author of several best-selling books such as Wired for Love and most recently, In Each Other's Care. In this episode, Stan joins me to chat with me about how we can experience conflict within relationships in a safe way and really build secure foundations in our relationships. We'll cover:How launching into self-protecting patterns can harm our relationshipsThe concept of secure functioning in a relationshipHow regret can be a powerful teacherThe concept of the couple bubbleFinding acceptance for our partner's imperfectionsUse the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love course - https://www.stephanierigg.com Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In the absence of self trust, we see a lot of other dominoes fall in terms of self worth and self respect. This is something almost everyone I work with struggles with to some degree and it’s a challenging piece of the puzzle when it comes to our personal growth in relationships. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 3 tips for building self trust to help you to go out into the world and make aligned choices.We'll cover:Knowing yourself and your valuesTrusting your own boundariesFinding others to sense check Knowing it’s not an instant fixUse the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - https://www.stephanierigg.com Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today’s episode, I’m continuing my series of answering your questions around the “reasonableness” of certain expectations and requests in relationship, with the goal of helping you build the muscle of discernment and capacity for self trust in navigating these nuances for yourself  We'll cover:Is it unreasonable to talk about the future - marriage, moving in, trips away?Is it unreasonable to want my partner to come back within 24 hours after a fight?Is it unreasonable when I ask my partner to think more about me in the relationship?Is it unreasonable after 3 years, wanting my partner to anticipate my needs without me having to request them?Is it unreasonable for me to want to spend 90% of my free time with my partner?Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love course - https://www.stephanierigg.com Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Unless you’ve married your high school sweetheart and lived happily ever after, you have likely experienced a breakup in your life. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 5 reminders and ways to support yourself while you're going through a break-up.We'll cover:The break-up is going to be hardFinding other support peopleProcessing the break-up in anxious and avoidant waysNot making meaning or assumptionsUse the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - https://www.stephanierigg.com Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering why you keep attracting the same type of person, this episode is for you. Today I’m joined by Dr Scott Lyons, a holistic psychologist, educator and author, to talk about addiction to drama, and why we may subconsciously seek out chaos and intensity in our lives and relationships (even when we think we're trying to avoid it). We'll cover:Understanding the addiction to dramaCommon characteristics of someone addicted to dramaBig emotions don’t equal vulnerabilityWhat the so-called “spark” really isFinding people who know how to loveFind Scott on Instagram here, or check out his new book Addicted to Drama - https://www.drscottlyons.com/addicted-to-drama-bookUse the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses & my Higher Love course - https://www.stephanierigg.com Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Listeners hear quick takes on texting norms after early dates and how to set boundaries without overreacting. The conversation explores asking a partner to stop contact with an ex and how to request respect around provocative online content. Practical situations like asking for check-ins after drinking and negotiating sleepover preferences are also discussed.

So much of the content around attachment theory focuses on the challenges that anxious-avoidant pairings can present. And while those challenges are undoubtedly very real, there are also real gifts within an anxious-avoidant dynamic when the individuals involved are prepared to meet in the middle. Today I’m sharing what those gifts can look like, and tips on making the most of your anxious-avoidant relationship so that it can become a space for healing.We'll cover:How different attachment styles respond to stressLeading with compassion and careThe work that needs to be done with both attachment stylesLessons and opportunities within anxious-avoidant relationshipsUse the code JUNE50 for 50% off my masterclasses or the Higher Love course - https://www.stephanierigg.com Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In this podcast, the host discusses how to get an avoidant partner to open up. They explore strategies for creating genuine connection, the reasons behind wanting an avoidant partner to open up, and the consequences of taking on a coaching or therapy role in the relationship.

A couple of weeks ago, I shared my thoughts on if “once a cheater, always a cheater” is true, and today I’m continuing the conversation around the reasons why people cheat in a relationship and getting curious around what’s driving these behaviours. For some people this may be a challenging episode to listen to, so please make sure you’re in the right mindset to listen.We'll cover:Wounds around worthinessDisconnection and lonelinessFeeling like it’s the easy way outBeing seen through rose coloured glassesUse the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - https://www.stephanierigg.com Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm joined by Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is a licensed marriage & family therapist, creator of the hugely successful @mindfulmft Instagram account, and recently published author of The Origins of You. Vienna has the gift of conveying complex and emotionally dense topics with such nuance. Today she joins me on the podcast to talk about origin wounds and how they impact patterns in relationships as adults and how we can honour our pain and experience.We'll cover:What happens when you hide behind a façade of being "fine"The five origin wounds (worthiness, belonging, trust, safety and prioritisation)Why we might struggle to explore our family dynamicsWhat happens when we avoid being in pain properly Finding peace with the painFind Vienna on Instagram or via her website.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website