On Attachment #82: “Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 1)
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Jun 13, 2023 Listeners hear quick takes on texting norms after early dates and how to set boundaries without overreacting. The conversation explores asking a partner to stop contact with an ex and how to request respect around provocative online content. Practical situations like asking for check-ins after drinking and negotiating sleepover preferences are also discussed.
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Use Examples To Build Relationship Discernment
- Worked examples build discernment for relationship judgments more than abstract rules.
- Stephanie Rigg chose listener-submitted scenarios to teach people to evaluate context rather than rely on one-size-fits-all answers.
Stop Personalizing Early Texting Patterns
- Don’t make meaning from lack of daily texts after one or two dates.
- Stephanie Rigg explains that early frequent texting expectations often come from anxious attachment and projecting your norms onto someone who may simply prefer less contact.
Set Your Own Texting Boundaries
- Set boundaries for your own texting use rather than demanding constant contact from someone new.
- Stephanie suggests sending a planned morning message or agreeing to chat later so you avoid phone-anticipation and dopamine spikes.