The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe I think physical touch is the most important love language and not just because it's my own! Listen if you're either the higher or lower libido partner for new ways to conceptualize and communicate about the physical touch love language and what it means for those who have it! Listen for my if-your-house-was-on-fire male/female analogy! PLEASE SUBSCRIBE and if you subscribe and give me a question I will respond to it WITHIN 24 HOURS on this podcast!! Is Physical Touch The Most Important Love Language? When Women Consider Physical Touch To Be A Less Real or Important Love Language

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Here are common reasons that I see women initiate divorce. They aren't usually the same reasons as I discussed for men in my episode about common reasons men ask for divorces. Share with your partner and discuss if any of these are risk factors for you! Links: The Young Mother Stage And Why To Come Home Early From Work How Can You Handle Your Partner’s Decision Not To Have Sex Anymore In A Healthy Way? 6 Key Areas That Lead To Empathic Ruptures

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many men wonder why it fails spectacularly when they try and send their wives sexy pics or make sexual comments.  In this episode I clear up why women confusingly say, "I wish we had foreplay all day long" but then in no way want to talk about sex during that time. Required listening if you're a straight guy in a long term relationship so forward to your husband and discuss! Related Links: Why Can’t My Wife Just Go Down On Me When She Doesn’t Want Sex? Be More Romantic podcast episode Responsive Desire podcast episode

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Men are less likely to ask for divorces than women, so what can drive them to it?  These four things, which, coincidentally, are the exact things men look for in partners post-divorce! Please subscribe and you have access to all my other episodes that you can't hear for free!  Thanks for listening everyone. Related links: When Women Consider Physical Touch To Be A Less Real or Important Love Language 10 Non PC Things I Have Learned About Relationships From Couples Work Are There Divorces That Don’t Need To Happen?

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode, I discuss the various reasons that women can be ambivalent about making more money.  If this speaks to you, think deeply about which of these reasons are holding you back and what your life could look like if you were able to recognize and resolve these issues!  Please subscribe to paid episodes to get bonus content and write in with ideas of what I should next discuss! Links: 6 Reasons Women Are Scared Of Making Money “Men Don’t Like High Achieving/Earning Women” Is Not True

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader wrote in: "Hi there, I loved your recent article about how to show kids that sex is a positive thing, there were some great practical tips there. However I have a question about how you can introduce this when you have re-partnered? My kids haven’t been used to seeing me be romantic with anyone in a long time, and even though my partner and I have been together for 2 years they can get really uncomfortable with it, particularly my tween daughter. My partner has a great relationship with my kids and we are careful not to make them feel uncomfortable but I do think it’s important for them to see us being affectionate, and physically showing our love for each other (within reason)."  I address this question, as well as discuss the epidemic of overparenting and this reader's likely inability to put her own needs first in all walks of life, and likely origins of this. Incidentally, this episode isn't just for those who are repartnered! At the end I talk about when you are trying to reintegrate physical affection with your spouse after years of putting it on the back burner. Thanks for listening!  Follow me on Facebook and rate me on Spotify and Apple! Links: Having A Healthy Sex Life With Your Spouse Is Good For Your Kids, Here’s Why Stop Letting Your Kid Treat You Like Garbage People Pleasing Daughters Of Covertly Narcissistic Moms

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader asked: "I used to feel guilty when I would conjure up different scenarios in my head and do mental role playing during sex with my husband. However after reading your articles about women's sex drives in monogamous relationships, I’ve felt somewhat relieved. However, in terms of getting yourself off, is nothing really off the table? I have trouble accepting that idea, especially when it’s fantasizing about other people. I’ve never tried that as I think it’s crossing the line, and I’d hate to know if my husband was thinking of another woman. My main question is: can you really be connecting with your partner during sex if you are are focusing on something or someone else?" I address this in my classic gentle and subtle style (ha). PS I don't really even know who my UPS guy is, ironically.  Links: 8 Myths About Women's Orgasms What Men Think About Sex Versus Reality

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader of DrPsychMom.com wrote in with a story about how she attracts these "friends" that end up using her for childcare or whatever else.  I explore how her family of origin issues likely set her up for these difficult situations, how to assert boundaries early on, and a reframe for what is really the kindest and most ethical approach in these types of situations.  If you're an adult child of a dysfunctional family, this should be required listening to inform your approach for both friendship and dating! Links: 12 Things People Who Grew Up In Dysfunctional Families Don't Understand Adult Child's Guide To What's Normal Notes on a Scandal (this is also a movie)

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A listener wrote, "Do you have any advice on what else I can do to reconcile my difficult past with my mother? I really don't think I'll ever be able to talk to her about it because she always shuts me down when I try. I have tried many times over the years. She will interrupt and change the subject, or literally just walk out of the room as if I'm not even talking. I don't want to feel this way around her for the rest of her life because I believe that she also was a good mother in many ways and I know that she loves me and her grandchildren. I try to do more enjoyable things with her, but it still ends up hurting that she just doesn't seem to want to really know me or understand me." I help this listener understand what may be the issue with her mother, and help her reframe her expectations and get to a place where she can move forward in a healthier way.  Required listening for all people who have difficult and frustrating relationships with parents! Links: When You Are An Emotional Orphan Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents Children of The Self Absorbed

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe People don't admit when they don't like their kids because it feels so shameful, but you are not alone if you feel this way.  If you want to learn concrete ways to deal with it, listen to this episode and read the below links.  You are NOT a bad parent if you don't like your child. There is a difference between thoughts/feelings and behavior, and as long as you treat your child well, you are still a good parent no matter what you feel. However, when you feel this way, treating your child well can be a struggle. These nonjudgmental and practical tips can help you proactively change your approach and, over time, even how you feel about your child. Links: 10 Ways To Deal When You Don’t Like Your Child That Much I Don't Like My 5 Year Old I Don't Love My Kids (note the update and her diagnosis) We Need To Talk About Kevin by Lionel Shriver