The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe People think that if each person brings 50% to the table in their marriage, they end up with 100%.  Unfortunately, this doesn't work in practice. Instead, each partner has to be committed to delivering 100% in their marriage and fully and genuinely prioritizing their partner's needs.  If both people commit to this approach, which can be particularly difficult if you witnessed a difficult marriage in your family growing up), you can finally have the deeply connected partnership you yearn for.  In this episode, I give you some concrete ways to start executing some changes in your marriage today.  A great one to share with your partner! Links: The Competitive Marriage Why A Loving Marriage “Reparents” You Would You Tell Your Child To Stay In A Marriage Like Yours?

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode, I go through all the hormonal, biological, and stage-of-life related reasons your libido may be low that have nothing to do with your spouse or your marriage.  If you are or will one day be (or are married to someone who will be) breastfeeding, on birth control, having a period, going through menopause, on any medication, or more, this is the episode to listen to!  You can even hear about how nursing affected my own libido. Share with your partner and discuss which of these you knew about and which you didn't!  Please subscribe if you learned anything and to hear the next episode which will be for subscribers only! Links: If You Don't Track When Your Wife Is Ovulating, You Cannot Consider Yourself A Rational Man I Don't Want My Husband To Touch My Breasts Because I'm Breastfeeding  Why Do Some Women's Sex Drives Decrease When Their Mental Health Improves

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader liked a post on this subject so much he said I should turn it into a book but a 20 minute podcast is a lot quicker!  Check this episode out for a transformative reframe on the topic of sex drive disparities, with helpful analogies that all my sensitive lower-libido listeners can easily empathize with!  Share with your partner to spark a discussion, and if you have not subscribed to my podcast yet, please subscribe!   Link: What Would Your Husband Act Like If He Got All The Physical Affection He Wanted? 

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many women want alpha males, but these can be easily confused with assholes if you aren't careful.  In this episode, I explore what traits are similar and different across these two types of males.  Also, we discuss the more passive (sometimes called "beta" but that's a mean term) male, and how women need to know themselves deeply to figure out which type of man they will really mesh well with. Some women just need to be in charge, and I talk about why and how this doesn't need to be bad.  Thanks for listening and please subscribe! Links: When Women Want More "Alpha" Husbands Do You REALLY Want To Split All Decisions With Your Husband Or Are You Lying?   Knowing That Your Partner Would Do Anything For You My Husband Told Me He’s Not Attracted To Women (Like Me) Who Are Stay At Home Moms (example of an asshole) Stop Caring So Much About What Your Wife Thinks How to Get Your Husband to Be Less Passive

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook, you'll see a recent conversation with my dating coach friend where she said men shouldn't put that they like sex in their dating profiles and I disagreed. Listen to me talk about honesty, alpha males, the dating marketplace, and the dating app with the sex quiz where I met my husband! Links: How To Tell Your Partner Will Stop Enjoying Sex After Marriage When Women Want More "Alpha" Husbands 

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many women are partnered with higher libido men but feel very unsexy and never in the mood.  Given that you understand responsive desire now from earlier episodes, how can you use this knowledge coupled with your commitment to your marriage to get yourself into a sexier headspace?  I give you some tips on how to cultivate positivity toward your husband and more sexy, positive feelings towards yourself without feeling fake about it. Thanks for listening and please subscribe for bonus episodes (like the one right before this on Empathic Ruptures)! Links: How Can I Increase My Sex Drive? Are You Low Libido Or... Just Selfish? A Quiz!  How Often Should We Aim To Have Sex When My Libido Is Low?

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe I work with many women whose husbands have ADHD.  ADHD can explain a lot more than you think in terms of your husband's behavior, and in this episode of the Dr Psych Mom Show, I teach you exactly what ADHD can entail, including its effect on your marriage and how you can cope moving forward.  Also I talk about who guys with ADHD are implicitly drawn to and why.  Helpful listening for any woman who thinks their husband is lazy, oppositional, or childish.  Links:  My Husband Does Nothing In This Marriage and I Do Everything  If You Won’t Try Meds To Help Your Marriage, Stop Saying You’d Try Anything  The ADHD Effect On Marriage

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe This listener wrote in about the "self-improvement" he is hoping to obtain via taking a "sexual mastery course." I explore what his wife may be feeling when she reacts poorly to this news, and how "self-improvement" doesn't have much of a place in long-term sexual relationships, because it makes things about one person versus the couple as a whole.  I give him some other ways to address and think about his self-esteem and his sexuality while explaining what his wife may not be ready to articulate!  Thanks for listening and please subscribe, everyone! Links: 8 Clues That Your Wife Wants You To Be More Dominant In Bed And 9 Ways To Avoid Common Mistakes In Execution 10 Practical No BS Ways To Help Your Highly Sensitive Wife Want Sex A Lot More 6 Things That Women Want In Bed The book I mentioned The Multiorgasmic Man

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader wrote in with this question and I give him some tough love and education about emotions, marriage, women, weight, and more!  Thanks for everyone who writes in and genuinely asks for my feedback, because every question helps people out there who don't have the courage to write in!  Thanks for listening everyone and please subscribe! By the way, reader, check out the attachment theory link because I think you're going to recognize yourself as the distancer/avoidant. Links: I'm Not Attracted To My Wife Anymore Atypical Depression: Are You Tired and Hungry and Easily Hurt Emotionally? (may be your wife) Attachment Theory

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A lot of men mistakenly think their wives "withhold" sex spitefully when they are mad. Au contraire mon frere!  In fact if you think clearly about it, your wife may be a lot of things, but a spiteful withholder is usually not one of them!  Listen and learn and subscribe!!  Refer back to my responsive desire podcast as needed.