At Peace Parents Podcast

In this episode, I spoke with Kendahl Damashek about the concept of radical acceptance while parenting a PDA child. Kendahl is a PDA autistic mother with four PDA children 10 and under. (She's also one of the wonderful coaches on our team.)In the conversation we spoke about:👉 What does “radical acceptance” actually mean in real life?👉 Why is it so important to practice this in a way that is practical in order to shift the perception of autonomy and felt safety in the home and in relationship with your child or teen.👉Concrete examples from our own lives and working with families raising PDA children and teens when tradeoffs were necessary and how to confront that using down-to-earth acceptance strategies.I hope you find it helpful.xo,CaseyPS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

In this episode I speak with Pam, a mother of twin PDA 10-year-olds and a third younger sibling.Pam has been parenting through a PDA lens for years, but one of the twins is having a harder time than the other. We talked about ways to support him, as well as mindsets that can help Pam when she worries that progress is moving slowly, and feels grief.These are experiences common to most if not all parents of PDAers, and I am sure her story will resonate with many listeners.xo,CaseyPS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

Christopher Deutsch, founder of Lofty Ventures and seasoned angel investor, reflects on growing up with PDA traits and how they fueled his entrepreneurial path. He shares stories about autonomy, flow states, and learning by passion. Conversations cover parenting approaches, reading people, and the traits he looks for in founders. Practical tips on guiding PDA kids toward self-directed interests are discussed.

In this episode I speak with a mom about her 17 year old PDA son's substance abuse, as well as his near constant presence in the family living room and the impact this has on their household.We talk through the mother's preference for her son to be home and physically safe -- instead of out and in danger, as he has been in the past -- and the cost of this for her and their family.We discuss all of this in the context of the son recently earning his GED and wanting to get a job. I hope you find the conversation helpful.xo,CaseyPS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

This is the third episode of our three-part series on navigating hygiene with your PDA child or teen. (Pathological Demand Avoidance/Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)In this episode, I talk through practical strategies to support a PDA child or teen with the following:Bathing and ShoweringHair WashingHair BrushingNail ClippingHand WashingGetting DressedI also discuss the logic of why accessing hygiene is difficult of some PDA children and teens, help you prioritize which hygiene practices *actually* matter to health and well-being and which you may be able to let go, and provide tons of examples of how to use accommodations such as:Lowering demandsAutonomyEqualityNoveltyI hope this episode lowers your stress level as a parent and gives you creative ideas to experiment with as you provide caregiving to your PDA child or teen!xo,CaseyPS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

This is the second episode in our three-part series on hygiene and PDA. In this episode we deep dive on helping your PDA child or teen go to the dentist and brush their teeth.Specifically, we support parents (and therapists) to understand:Why teeth brushing and going to the dentist are so difficult for PDA children and teensPractical tips they can use to help a PDA child or teen access teeth brushingSpecific examples of how to use autonomy, equality, lowered demands, novelty, and humor to support a PDA child or teen's teeth brushingStrategies and example scripts to use when speaking to the dentist or dental hygienist before your child or teen goes to their next appointment.I hope you find it helpful!xo,CaseyPS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

This is the first of three episodes about hygiene and Pathological Demand Avoidance.In this episode I focused on how to think about PDA and hygiene struggles, and understanding the root cause of struggles around:Teeth brushingGoing to the dentistShowering and bathingHair washingHand washingNail clippingHair cuttingGetting dressedMore specifically, in this episode I talk through:The Deep Why behind hygiene strugglesSensory vs. Autonomy as a root cause of avoidanceThe cumulative nature of PDA and control coalescing around a basic need (in this case hygiene)Discernment - Asking yourself the right questions about burnout and whether hygiene is the "stickiest" basic need for your child or teen.Decision-making around boundaries before we worry about accommodationsI hope you find the show helpful. I'll release two more episodes on hygiene soon!xo,CaseyPS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

In this episode I coach a mom of a 10-year-old PDAer who is in burnout (Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). The child loves to cook and bake but has a meltdown if family members clean up after her while she’s in the kitchen.She also melts down if others pass by her bedroom on the way to their own, which her mom has to do if she’s going to clean the kitchen after her daughter leaves.We talked through if Obsessive Compulsive Disorder was also present, but decided to focus on working through the PDA lens.We then used our decision making framework to determine how the mother could manage their bedtime routine in a way that would be more pleasant for everyone.I hope you find the conversations helpful. It's from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our social media on Fridays at 1pm ET.xo,CaseyPS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

In this episode I talk with our coach Donna Georgen - parent of PDA 28- and 21-year-olds - about her top tips for parenting PDA teens.This is the second of two episodes in which Donna and I discussed this topic. In the first episode we covered five of her tips, and in this episode we cover five more.Here they are:Reflect on successNormalize discomfort and fearLet go of future fearsPause social media as neededBreathe -- you're doing great!I hope you find our conversation helpful!PS - Want to work with Donna to move your family forward? She offers private coaching that you can learn all about here.

Donna Georgen, parent coach who raised two daughters with PDA, shares practical wisdom from lived experience. She discusses prioritizing autonomy and equality. She describes shifting to a mentor-friend role. She talks about using vulnerability and transparency. She urges releasing the pressure to fix everything and reframing regression as fluctuation.