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Guy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, keynote and TED Talk speaker, and author whose books have been translated into twenty languages. In this episode, Eric and Guy discuss his book Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Guy Winch and I Discuss Emotional First Aid and … His book, Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts Understanding that we need to tend to our emotional wounds just as we would physical wounds Building emotional resiliency by addressing these small wounds How to treat the emotional wound of rejection Identifying exactly what the hurt feelings are How the brain registers physical and emotional pain in the same way Learning to improve low self-esteem Writing exercises to help deal with rejection and failure How ruminating can easily become a habit and lead to depression The dangers of rumination: stewing vs. doing How rumination is vulnerable to distraction, engage your mind somewhere else What works and doesn’t work in building self-esteem Building self-compassion The detective mindset vs. a harmful and self-critical mindset Guy Winch Links:Guy’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookInstagramIf you enjoyed this conversation with Guy Winch, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Jonathan Rottenberg on DepressionTasha Eurich on Growing Self AwarenessSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jack Kornfield is one of the key teachers to introduce Buddhist mindfulness practice to the West. Over the years, Jack has taught in centers and universities worldwide. He’s led international Buddhist teacher meetings and has worked with many of the great teachers of our time. He holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and his books have been translated into 20 languages and sold more than a million copies. He is also a father, a husband, and an activist.In this episode, Eric and Jack discuss his book, No Time Like the Present: Finding Freedom, Love, and Joy Right Where You AreBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jack Kornfield and I Discuss Inner Freedom Through Mindfulness and … His book, No Time Like the Present: Finding Freedom, Love, and Joy Right Where You Are The first step to dealing with difficult emotions is seeing and accepting what’s there How practicing mindfulness expands your window of tolerance  Tools to help us remember the vastness Remembering that our story is always changing How we are bound to experience both the beauty and pain in life The importance of compassion  How there are many simple practices to transform our heart and mind Choosing the best spiritual practices based on what we’re drawn to His work with Father Greg Boyle, writer of Tattoos on the Heart The possibility of seeing the Buddha-nature in every human being The refuge in community and how we need each other Trusting that we’re part of something bigger than ourselves Learning to trust our inner knowledge, heart, and body Accepting our fear and understanding that growth comes after fear The doubting mind and our capacity to recognize it Learning to not judge the thoughts that come up in meditation His shift in life from actively getting things done into relaxing more and seeing how things turn out How we all have the seeds of awakening within us Jack Kornfield Links:Jack’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookInstagramIf you enjoyed this conversation with Jack Kornfield you might also enjoy these other episodes:Effortless Mindfulness with Loch KellyTara BrachSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brian Broome is a poet, screenwriter, and instructor in the Writing Program at the University of Pittsburgh.  He has been a finalist in The Moth storytelling competition and won the grand prize in Carnegie Mellon University’s Martin Luther King’s Writing Awards.In this episode, Eric and Brian discuss his book, Punch Me Up to the Gods: A MemoirBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Brian Broom and I Discuss his Journey to Healing, Recovery, and … His book, Punch Me Up to the Gods: A Memoir How he was raised in an environment where men are taught to be tough and masculine. Understanding that parents are doing the best they can and having grace with them How he learned more about his father after his death when writing his book His journey to getting sober and healing from childhood wounds What sobriety looks like for him now Recognizing his defense mechanisms Learning to not be ashamed of taking medication for anxiety and depression How he started writing in rehab lead to becoming a therapeutic tool for him Being ruled by shame and how all-consuming it was  The ideas of masculinity that remain from his upbringing His thoughts about masculinity not being a useful concept, but rather being human is what’s important External support is important, but only you can save yourself Brian Broome Links:Brian’s WebsiteFacebookInstagramNovo Nordisk – Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management.If you enjoyed this conversation with Brian Broome, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Masks of Masculinity with Lewis HowesLeading in Life with Michael Brody WaiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Michael Taft is a meditation teacher and best-selling author of many books such as The Mindful Geek and Nondualism. He is also the host of the podcast, Deconstructing Yourself.In this episode, Eric and Michael discuss spiritual practices and learning to deconstruct and reconstruct ourselves.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eric and Michael Taft Discuss Deconstructing Yourself and … His podcast and blog titled “Deconstructing Yourself” Learning to “untangle” the concepts and emotions that can overwhelm us The importance of “reconstructing” ourselves after the “deconstructing” Taking our meditation practice from the cushion into everyday life Finding what is sacred to you and bringing more of it into your life Defining and distinguishing between psychology and spirituality  Thoughts and feelings and seeing their constructiveness Vipassana practices and his work with Shinzen Young Differences between early and later Buddhist practices and traditions How real spirituality contends with the intense human condition Michael Taft Links:Michael’s WebsiteDeconstructing Yourself PodcastTwitterTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Michael Taft, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Michael Taft Interview (2015)Paths of Spiritual Awakening with Henry ShukmanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jonathan Robinson is a psychotherapist, best-selling author of many books, and a professional speaker. His work has been translated into 47 languages. Jonathan has made numerous appearances on the Oprah show and CNN as well as other national TV talk shows. He has spent over 35 years studying the most practical and powerful methods for personal and professional development and is also known for his popular podcast, Awareness Explorers.In this episode, Eric and Jonathan discuss enlightenment as well as various techniques to explore our awareness.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eric and Jonathan Robinson Discuss How to Explore Our Awareness and … His definition of enlightenment: a shift in identity from ego-personality to presence and awareness Enlightenment is being at peace in the present moment His humbling experience of speaking to Mother Theresa Experimenting with and being willing to try different techniques to help shift your view How having gratitude and saying “Thank You” many times a day can change your experience Techniques and phrases for working with our judgmental mind Learning to not take our views so seriously How being more playful in our lives can bring the feeling of freedom His powerful technique for happiness: not letting your mind take over when you’re enjoying something The different forms of inquiry we can practice Questions we can ask that can reorient ourselves from our problem seeking minds Making a pain and pleasure list and scheduling things from your pleasure list Jonathan Robinson Links:Jonathan’s WebsiteAwareness Explorers PodcastFacebookUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Jonathan Robinson, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Dorothy Hunt on The Heart of AwarenessMary O’Malley on Practical AwakeningSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ryan Holiday is one of the world’s foremost thinkers and writers on ancient philosophy and its place in everyday life. He’s a sought-after speaker, strategist, and the author of many best-selling books.In this episode, Eric and Ryan discuss his book, Courage is Calling: Fortune Favors the BraveBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Enrollment for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is now open through October 12. Click here to learn more and signup!In This Interview, Eric and Ryan Holiday Discuss Everyday Courage and … His book, Courage is Calling: Fortune Favors the Brave The 4 cardinal virtues that a good life depends on Courage, both physical and moral, is the willingness to put yourself at risk How fear gets in the way of courage Learning to get specific with our fears Courage is also about sharing our vulnerabilities with others The importance of just getting started How courage requires making decisions Determining and gaining clarity on our personal values Stoicism and how it encompasses the core virtues Similarities and differences between Buddhism and Stoicism Heroism goes beyond courage, doing something for the greater good or greater than oneself How it requires courage to have belief and hope that things can change for the better His courage to open a bookstore in the midst of the pandemic Ryan Holiday Links:Ryan’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookFeals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Ryan Holiday, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to be Fearless with Jessica HagyConscious Leadership with Eric KaufmannSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristoffer Carter is a spiritual teacher at the intersection of consciousness and business. He is a frequent speaker, author, and founder of This Epic Life, a website and podcast devoted to conscious living.  In this episode, Eric and Kristoffer discuss his book, Permission to Glow: A Spiritual Guide to Epic Leadership.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Enrollment for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is now open through October 12. Click here to learn more and signup!In This Interview, Eric and Kristoffer Discuss Permissions to Glow and … His book, Permission to Glow: A Spiritual Guide to Epic Leadership Developing a conscious awareness of our internal experience How a meditation practice strengthens our ability to listen to the inner voice The “frenemies” within us Surrendering the ego and having trust in others How he brings spirituality into his work with corporate leadership training  Giving ourselves permission to claim our own power “Permission to Chill” and pausing to see things as they are The 3 phases of meditation “Permission to Feel all the Feels”  “Permission to Glow in the Dark” and befriending the darkness “Permission to Glow in the Light” and connecting with others Kristoffer Carter’s Links:Kristoffer’s WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterLinked InNovo Nordisk – Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management.If you enjoyed this conversation with Kristoffer Carter, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Kristoffer Carter (2014)Tasha Eurich on Growing Self-AwarenessTransformative Mindfulness with Shauna ShapiroSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest Hanson are hosts of the popular podcast, Being Well. Rick is a psychologist who writes and teaches about the essential inner skills of personal well-being, psychological growth, and contemplative practice, and together they address many of these issues on their podcast.In this episode, Eric and Ginny discuss how to be well and experience psychological growth with Rick and Forrest.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Enrollment for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is now open through October 12. Click here to learn more and signup!In This Interview, Eric, Ginny, Rick, and Forrest Discuss Learning How to Be Well and … Their podcast, Being Well The “dreaded experience” and how we organize our lives to avoid our fear, shame, vulnerability How growth comes from facing and leaning into our dreaded experiences Limiting beliefs and how our self-conception is 6 months out of date Understanding that our brains are forecasting machines Rick’s experience in a body massage skills workshop Pausing to take in the positive experiences that come on the other side of facing the dreaded experiences The assumptions that Forrest must be perfectly adjusted being the son of a psychologist Nature versus nurture and how we all have wounds to deal with, no matter our upbringing The upper reaches of potential  Becoming comfortable with the experience of admitting fault is how we free ourselves Asking where the forces of control are in our lives Distinguishing between our internal and external forces How our circumstances can be unfair, and yet our healing is our responsibility We have a moral responsibility to decide which “wolf” we will feed  The hope in knowing that all storms will pass  Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest Hanson Links:Rick’s WebsiteRick’s FacebookForrest’s WebsiteForrest’s InstagramForrest’s FacebookBeing Well on InstagramBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   Peloton: Now you can get a Peloton bike for $400 off! And of course, the bike is an incredible workout, but did you know that on the Peloton app, you can also take yoga, strength training, stretching classes, and so much more? Learn all about it at www.onepeloton.com.  If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest Hanson, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Dr. Rick Hanson (2018)Dr. Rick Hanson (2015)Being Human with Krista TippettSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Luke Burgis is an entrepreneur who has founded and led multiple companies. He is currently Director of Programs at The Center for Principled Entrepreneurship at the Catholic University of America. He is also the founder and Director of Fourth Wall Ventures, an incubator that he started to build, train, and invest in people and companies that contribute to a healthy human ecology. In this episode, Eric and Luke discuss his book, Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday LifeBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Enrollment for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is now open through October 12. Click here to learn more and signup!In This Interview, Luke Burgis and I Discuss Mimetic Desires in Everyday Life and … His book, Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life Human desires and how they apply to the wolf parable Mimetic desire refers to how we imitate the desires of other people How particular modeled desires come from a sense of lack The importance of understanding that our desires are driven by imitation Learning to exercise more freedom in what we desire Desire is the energy of movement toward or away from something Anti-mimetic desire is having the ability to not engage in what you desire The differences between thin and thick desires The paradox of desires and values: “Do we desire what we value or do we value what we desire?” Recognizing the hierarchy of our values and evaluating our desires accordingly A fulfillment story is sharing a personal story with someone else about something in your life that gave you enduring joy Understanding the social nature of our desires Luke Burgis Links:Luke’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Luke Burgis, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Find Zest in Life with Dr. John KaagFinding Zen in the Ordinary with Christopher KeevilSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Najwa Zebian is an activist, author, speaker, and educator. Najwa recently launched a digital school, Soul Academy, and a podcast, Stories of the Soul.  Her work has been featured in the New York Times, Glamour, Elle, Huffington Post, and more. She’s well known for her TEDx Talk “Finding Home Through Poetry“In this episode, Eric and Najwa discuss her new book, Welcome Home: A Guide to Building a Home For Your Soul.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Enrollment for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is now open through October 12. Click here to learn more and signup!In This Interview, Najwa Zebian and I Discuss How to Build a Home for Your Soul and … Her book, Welcome Home: A Guide to Building a Home For Your Soul. Her search for the feeling of home within herself Learning to see herself through her own eyes and not other’s eyes The feeling of being loved needs to come from within How to balance being at home in yourself with your relationships with other people Identifying your “guest list” who you’d welcome into your home Being at home in yourself allows for the best connections with others Being worthy of love is not based on pleasing others or working hard for it Self-acceptance is about knowing who you are and not focusing on what other people think Changing the question from “why can’t I have that” to “why don’t I have that”  The self-fulfilling prophecy of what you believe is what you will live Self-accountability and choosing your actions Forgiveness is not a one-step thing, but a constant process of choosing to let go The activities of the blank canvas mirror and the unveiling mirror Finding clarity and asking yourself “what’s next?” Choosing to speak to yourself kindly Najwa Zebian Links:Najwa’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Sign up via www.skillshare.com/feed and you’ll get a FREE one-month trial of Skillshare premium membership.If you enjoyed this conversation with Najwa Zebian, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Finding Grace with Eiman Al ZaabiIntimate Conversations with the Divine with Caroline MyssSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices