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Eric Zimmer
Build resilience. Cultivate self-compassion. Live with purpose. The One You Feed brings conversations with leading thinkers — James Clear, Susan Cain, Tara Brach, and more — to help you navigate life’s challenges and feed your good wolf. No perfection, just direction, insight, and the small, consistent actions that make a meaningful life.
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Dec 3, 2021 • 55min
Oliver Burkeman on Time Management for Mortals
Oliver Burkeman is a British journalist and writer based in New York. He is well known not only for his amazing books, but he also wrote a popular weekly column on psychology called “This Column will Change Your Life” which was printed weekly between 2006 and 2020. Oliver joins Eric for a third time on the show, and in this episode, they discuss many things, including his new book, “Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals”But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Oliver Burkeman and I Discuss Time Management for Mortals and …
His book, “Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals”
How we invest more energy and focus on trying to escape certain feelings
Finitude and understanding that life is finite
Time and how we relate to it as something we have and use
The idea that we are time rather than we have time
Accepting the truth of your finitude allows you to live more in the present
Confusing meaningful with extraordinary
Cosmic insignificance therapy suggests that we reexamine the threshold of what makes a meaningful life
Our tendency to want to define and measure what is meaningful in life
How the pursuit of using time well can lead us to live in the future rather than being present
Asking ourselves if something is expanding or contracting to us
The modern attention economy and being aware if we are choosing where our attention goes
How the things that matter most to us can provoke unpleasant emotions that lead to seeking distractions
The problem isn’t how things are, but rather how we think they should be
Trying too hard to be present in the moment
Accepting the impossibility of complete control
Oliver Burkeman Links:Oliver’s WebsiteTwitterOliver’s PostsCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Oliver Burkeman, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Oliver Burkeman on Modern Time Management (2019)Oliver Burkeman (2014)Living Between Worlds with James HollisSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Nov 30, 2021 • 45min
Jonah Berger on How to Change Anyone's Mind
Jonah Berger is a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. He's an international bestselling author, a world-renowned expert on word of mouth, social influence, consumer behavior, and how products, ideas, and behaviors can catch on.In this episode, Eric and Jonah discuss his book, The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone's Mind.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Jonah Berger and I Discuss How to Change Anyone's Mind and …
His book, The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone's Mind
How people change
That most decisions that we make are shaped by other people
The major mistake most of us make when it comes to trying to change behavior in ourselves and others
How to create change by reducing the barriers and energy required
Feeling like we should do something vs because we want to do something
People's zones of acceptance and rejection
What it means to "highlight a gap" and how it can help us change
How the costs of change often come due before the benefits of change are experienced
What factors drive Identification vs Differentiation
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Nov 26, 2021 • 42min
Mark Manson on Important Lessons in Life
Stressed by Holiday Expectations?Join Eric and The One You Feed Community for a FREE online gathering on November 30th at 8pm Eastern Time. (Recording will be available for 72 hours)In this free live event, Eric will teach a Spiritual Habit that will allow you to release these types of stress and touch into a deeper feeling of wholeness, peace, steadiness, and presence. Register Now!In case you’re just recently joining us, or however long you’ve been a listener of the show, you may not realize that we have over 7 years of incredible episodes in our archive! We’ve had so many wonderful guests that we decided to handpick one of our favorites that may be new to you, but if not, is definitely worth another listen! Mark Manson is an author and personal development consultant. His writing is a different take on the self-help genre that he calls self-help from a first-person perspective. Mark has been published and quoted on CNN, Huffington Post, Business Insider, Yahoo! News, The Sydney Morning Herald, and a variety of other publications. He is also the CEO and Founder of Infinity Squared Media LLC.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Mark Manson and I Discuss Important Lessons in Life and …
Opportunity costs and being aware of the sacrifices
His most popular article, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*&
The misconception of confidence
The friendship test in romantic relationships
How he applies logic in his writing
Positive thinking and his issue with “The Secret”
How inspiration often comes from taking action
His “Do Something” principle
Mistaking happiness for pleasure
How true happiness comes from the meaning of our experiences
Our need to always be challenged in life
How our pursuits change as we get older
His article on Ken Wilbur, an American philosopher
Mark Manson Links:Mark’s WebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookIf you enjoyed this conversation with Mark Manson, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Everyday Courage with Ryan HolidayLove, Grace, and Grit with Sebastian SiegelSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Nov 23, 2021 • 50min
Iain McGilchrist on The Divided Yet Connected Brain
Stressed by Holiday Expectations?Join Eric and The One You Feed Community for a FREE online gathering on November 30th at 8pm Eastern Time. (Recording will be available for 72 hours)In this free live event, Eric will teach a Spiritual Habit that will allow you to release these types of stress and touch into a deeper feeling of wholeness, peace, steadiness, and presence. Register Now!Iain McGilchrist is a psychiatrist, author, lecturer, and former Oxford Literary Scholar. He is committed to the idea that the mind and brain can be understood only by seeing them in the broadest possible context, that of the whole of our physical and spiritual existence, and of the wider human culture in which they arise – the culture which helps to mold, and in turn is molded by, our minds and brains.Today Iain and Eric discuss his book, The Master and His Emissary: The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Iain McGilchrist and I Discuss The Divided yet Connected Brain and …
His book, The Master and His Emissary: The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World
That creativity requires resistance
The differences between the two hemispheres of our brain
How distinctions are important but divisions are invented by us
The ways our brain hemispheres work together
That our world is currently dominated by left brain hemisphere thinking
The ways we might address the crises we face as a species and world
How he responds to the critics of a right brain/left brain theory
The ways in which our hemispheres are connected and work together
The difference between our two hemispheres isn’t as much what they do but how they do it
The 8 portals our brain uses to get information about the world
The 4 powers we have to arrive at truth
Iain McGilchrist Links:Iain’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Iain McGilchrist, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Whole Brain Living with Dr. Jill Bolte TaylorLessons About the Brain with Lisa Feldman BarrettSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Nov 19, 2021 • 58min
Jeremy Lent on the Integration of Science and Traditional Wisdom in Life
Jeremy Lent is an author and speaker whose work investigates the patterns of thought that have led our civilization to its current crisis of sustainability.Today Jeremy and Eric discuss his new book, The Web of Meaning: Integrating Science and Traditional Wisdom to Find Our Place in the UniverseBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jeremy Lent and I Discuss the Integration of Science and Traditional Wisdom in Life and …
His book, The Web of Meaning: Integrating Science and Traditional Wisdom to Find Our Place in the Universe
The difference between want and intention
Understanding the power of kindness toward the “negative” parts of us
His character, “Uncle Bob,” who represents the dominant worldview
Worldview is the lens through which we see and make sense of everything
How humans pattern meaning into the world based on what our culture tells us
Cultural mindfulness frees us to open up to other possibilities
The idea that humans are selfish or have a “selfish gene” and how science refutes this
The self-organization of life: the different parts make the whole and the whole relates to the different parts
Human nature and how cooperation, not competition has led to the abundance of life on earth
Differences between Eastern and Western traditional beliefs in regard to human nature
The negative aspects of humans’ ability to cooperate
The Taoist notion of Wu-Wei (effortless action) and Yu-Wei (purposive action)
Integrating two elements of human consciousness; conceptual (left brain) and animate (right brain)
The most important relationship in life is the “I’ and the “self”
Chi is translated to matter and energy that make up the universe
Li is how Chi is organized
How the deep spiritual traditions from the past add richness to what modern science reveals
The realization that deep human intuitions are our internal validation of what science tells us about how the universe really is
Fractals and the holarchy or structure of life’s interconnectedness
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Nov 16, 2021 • 1h 1min
Jacob Nordby on Creativity as a Cure
Jacob Nordby is an author whose many quests have led him to a deep fascination with life in all of its weird splendor. He’s the founder of Manifesto Publishing House and he penned the award-winning novel, The Divine Arsonist, and a non-fiction book, Blessed Are the Weird: A Manifesto for Creatives. Today Jacob and Eric discuss his new book is, The Creative Cure: How Finding and Freeing Your Inner Artist Can Heal Your Life. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jacob Norby and I Discuss Creativity as a Cure and …
His book, The Creative Cure: How Finding and Freeing Your Inner Artist Can Heal Your Life
How he defines creativity
How creativity can bring you back to your truest self
Why he believes every human being is creative
The three enemies of creativity
The connection between spirituality and creativity
Feeling an inward longing to come home to yourself
Rebuilding his life after burning it to the ground
How imagination can work for us or against us
Allowing our thoughts and emotions yet not empower them
The three questions he answers every day
How to create more choice points in our daily lives
Jacob Nordby Links:Jacob’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Jacob Nordby, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Finding Your Creativity with Julia CameronWriting for Healing with Maggie SmithSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Nov 12, 2021 • 53min
Beth Jacobs on Original Buddhist Psychology
Beth Jacobs is a clinical psychologist in private practice and a former faculty member of the Feinberg School of Medicine of Northwestern University. She is also a teacher in the Soto Zen tradition and incorporates Buddhist studies and meditation into her work as both a psychologist and a writer. In this episode, Eric and Beth discuss her book, The Original Buddhist Psychology: What the Abhidharma Tells Us about How We Think, Feel, and Experience LifeBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Beth Jacobs and I Discuss Original Buddhist Psychology and …
Her book, The Original Buddhist Psychology: What the Abhidharma Tells Us about How We Think, Feel, and Experience Life
Abhidharma is the structural layout of the Buddha’s original vision of the universe
Understanding the complex laws of how forces move together in the universe
The entity of “me” exists from the arbitrary framework we create for ourselves
The 5 skandhas are what is used to construct our reality: form, feelings, perceptions, habit formations, consciousnesses
Neuropsychology and the 17 steps of perception
Interdependent origination is the idea that everything is in motion and connected
How consciousness is just an interaction
The various lists of lists in the Abhidharma
Energy, mindfulness, and investigation
The idea of gently removing our obstructions
Writing and meditation as powerful tools for awakening
Beth Jacobs Links:Beth’s WebsiteNovo Nordisk – Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management.If you enjoyed this conversation with Beth Jacobs, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Find Bliss with Bob ThurmanInner Freedom Through Mindfulness with Jack KornfieldSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Nov 9, 2021 • 56min
Austin Kleon on How to Stay Creative
Austin Kleon is a writer, artist, and speaker. Austin also speaks about creativity for organizations such as Pixar, Google, SXSW, and many others. He is the author of many books, including Steal Like an Artist, and Newspaper Blackout.In this episode, Eric and Austin discuss his book, Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and BadBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Austin Kleon and I Discuss How to Stay Creative and …
His book, Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and Bad
How his deep work has usually originated from a dark place
Life is about the balance between the light and dark in us
His long term pessimism and short term optimism
Making peace with things not ever getting easier and learning to enjoy the now.
How there are no perfect conditions in life so no sense waiting or worrying about what’s next
If/And statements and how life is not linear in that way
His reflection on the book her wrote 10 years ago
Trying to get back to the beginner’s mind
Seeking curiosity over wisdom
Ordinary life + extra attention = the extraordinary
Paying attention by drawing, writing, reading poetry, or walking
Trying to view things as an artist might
Forget the noun, do the verb
The importance of having a hobbies
How energy can be found in books and works of art
Austin Kleon Links:Austin’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Austin Kleon, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Finding Your Creativity with Julia CameronWriting as a Path to Awakening with Albert Flynn DeSilverSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Nov 5, 2021 • 58min
Jon Acuff on Overthinking and Internal Soundtracks
Jon Acuff is a New York Times bestselling author of seven books. He’s also an INC Magazine Top 100 Leadership speaker and has spoken to hundreds of thousands of people at conferences and companies around the world, including FedEx, Nissan, Microsoft, Lockheed Martin, and many others. In this episode, Eric and Jon discuss his new book, Soundtracks: The Surprising Solution to OverthinkingBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jon Acuff and I Discuss Overthinking, Internal Soundtracks, and …
His book, Soundtracks: The Surprising Solution to Overthinking
How action eliminates overthinking and inaction breeds overthinking
The importance of deciding as few times as possible
Overthinking is when what you think gets in the way of what you want
Viewing our thoughts as repetitive soundtracks that become our playlist
“Pulling the thread” when processing your feelings
How fear gets a voice but doesn’t get a vote
Learning to identify your broken soundtracks
Evaluating your thoughts and asking is it true, is it helpful, is it kind?
Getting support from others can help retire your broken soundtracks
How we can’t stop overthinking but we can replace it with another thought
Viewing our thoughts as a dial that we can turn down and not a switch that we can turn off
Finding activities that get you out of your head
Flipping your broken soundtracks to the opposite
The important process of repeating new soundtracks
Finding ways to remind yourself of new soundtracks
Tying new thoughts to a symbol by making it personal, visible, and simple
Jon Acuff Links:Jon’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookYouTubeNovo Nordisk – Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management.If you enjoyed this conversation with Jon Acuff, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Perfecting Self-Love with Scott StabileNeuropsychology and the Thinking Mind with Dr. Chris NiebauerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Nov 2, 2021 • 49min
Sebastian Siegel on Love, Grace, and Grit
Sebastian Siegel is a British American screenwriter, director, author, and actor from Oxford, England. His new movie is Grace and Grit, based on the American philosopher Ken Wilber’s, 1991 memoir. John Mackey had to say about the new movie, “This movie will shake you, and maybe even awaken you in some way. This movie is a must-see, especially for anyone interested in love or consciousness.”In this episode, Eric and Sebastian discuss his movie, Grace and Grit.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sebastian Siegel and I Discuss Love, Grace, Grit, and …
His new movie, Grace and Grit, a story of love beyond life
Ken Wilber’s memoir and brilliant body of work that inspired this film
The beautiful story of love and transformation
How taking action is a catalyst in the growth of your different relationships
Knowing that we always have a choice in how we respond to what life gives us
What it means to have both grace and the grit to push through challenges in life
How exercise and pushing beyond his physical limits is a spiritual practice for him
Remembering and cultivating awareness that every moment is a spiritual practice
His admiration of and inspiration from philosophers Alan Watts and Ken Wilber
The gentleness and gracefulness of Ramana Maharsi’s work about being in service to love
The metaphor of the bent finger of reaching out to God, within and through ourselves
The paradoxes woven into life
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