Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Where do confidence and self-esteem come from? What contributes to kids' highs and lows and how can parents help kids build a sturdy sense of self-esteem? Dr. Lisa describes the age at which self-esteem tends to drop off and the impact of gender. Reena asks how culture and race can affect self-esteem and confidence. Dr. Lisa explains what psychologists mean when they talk about "unconditional positive regard."Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

A Mom writes in from the deep South with concerns about whether to allow her daughter to socialize with a good friend who is unvaccinated. Dr. Lisa discusses the importance of framing the issue around the child’s safety while allowing the kid to guide the conversation. Reena asks how parents can weigh the mental health risks of not being socially active against the possibility of catching Covid. Dr. Lisa explains how parents can help their children assess these risks. Should the Mom reach out to the other family? Dr. Lisa talks about when a parent should make that call. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Getting into college is hard work. So how do you raise kids who will thrive once they get there? Dr. Lisa explains how parents can prepare their kids to succeed when they become independent (hint: it's not about academics). When should a parent be concerned about a child who does not communicate with them? Is there such a thing as providing too much long-distance emotional support?Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Dr. Lisa and Reena get a letter from parents who are torn about allowing their underaged child to drink in their home. Dad wants the child to feel comfortable around alcohol, but Mom is not comfortable serving their teenager at home and wonders whether it's even legal to do so. Lisa explains what really matters in preparing your child for encounters with alcohol when parents are not around. She explains the concepts of hot and cold cognition and how they shape teen's choices. Reena asks, "What really works in making teens understand the consequences of drinking?"Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources:https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by:Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You’ve heard people say, “I want to get this off my chest,” but what if your kid doesn’t know how to express emotion? How do you get children and teenagers to talk? Dr. Lisa explains the term "emotional regulation," and how parents can help kids manage their feelings effectively. Reena asks, "What if you’re a parent who struggles with managing your own emotions?" Lisa explains how both parents and children can benefit from thinking in terms of learning how to express, and contain, emotions.Events:Join Lisa, Dr. Anthony Fauci, New York Times journalists (who are parents themselves) Apoorva Mandavilli, a science reporter, and moderator Andrew Ross Sorkin, Times columnist as they take your questions about kids and Covid on Sept 9th 1pm est.RSVP below.https://www.nytimes.com/2021/08/12/science/fauci-kids-and-covid-event.htmlRead Lisa’s latest New York Times Column:How to Support Teenagers as They Head Back to SchoolListen to Reena's new daily news podcast "The Recount Daily Pod."Dr. Lisa joined Reena on her new morning news podcast.... The Recount Daily Pod... to talk about stress and trauma.You can listen & subscribe to "The Recount Daily Pod":https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-recount-daily-pod/id1574219377?i=1000533968493Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources:https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by:Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Is it ever too late to help your child rethink a friendship? How do you lay the groundwork to help children choose the right people to be in their lives? Dr. Lisa explains how the friends our kids chose can also give us a window into the people they may date. Even during the teenage years Lisa says there are ways to help foster new friendships. Reena asks when should a parent intervene.Read Lisa’s latest New York Times Column:How to Support Teenagers as They Head Back to SchoolFollow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources:https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by:www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan kick off Season Two of Ask Lisa by talking about how to cope with another school year under Covid-19. They tackle a letter from a parent seeking advice on how to deal with her own anxiety about kids going back to school as the Delta variant rages. She is exhausted and does not see relief coming any time soon. How do we help our kids feel school-ready when we are running on empty?Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources:https://www.drlisadamour.com/Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Should we be pushing children and teens to make up for lost learning this summer? Or should we let them call the shots on how they spend their time? What really matters most? Dr. Lisa has advice that might seem counterintuitive for parents who feel ready to charge ahead. A mom writes in asking for advice on how to think about summer schedules for her three kids. Reena seeks guidance on managing social media and video games once school lets out. Dr. Lisa and Reena talk about what families should focus on when making summer plans. In this final episode of the season, Lisa and Reena also explain how to stay connected with the podcast this summer. Season Two starts August 24th.Objective Wellness is sponsoring this episode. Our listeners get 15% off their chocolate-y treat Sweet Calm made with 60% dark cacao, the calming ayurvedic herb ashwagandha, and magnesium.Calm your mind and rediscover your inner peace. Head to wwww.ObjectiveWellness.comEnter the ASKLISA promo code to get 15% off.Dr. Lisa’s Summer Resource List100 Summer Fun Ideas for Kids and Parents100+ Things for Teens to Do This SummerLisa Damour's 6.1.21 New York Times column Why Teens Need a Break This SummerEmail us your questions or topics you would like us to cover to asklisa@drlisadamour.com.See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lisa and Reena are joined by guest Emmanuel Acho, former NFL linebacker, current FoxSports analyst, host of the YouTube hit "Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man," and author of a book by the same name. Most recently, Emmanuel wrote the instant #1 New York Times Bestseller "Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Boy." In a discussion both wide-ranging and deep, Emmanuel tackles how to talk with our kids about the n-word, what we can do to address systemic racism and prejudice, and what it really means for parents and their children to act as allies.BOOK GIVEAWAY:Enter to win one of two copies of Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Boy By Emmanuel Acho from the @asklisapodcast.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)3. Enter as many times as you'd like4. For U.S. residents only(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 6/7/21. Winners will be chosen at random and books will be mailed to the winners.)Parent PromotionObjective Wellness is sponsoring this episode. Our listeners get 15% off their chocolate-y treat Sweet Calm made with 60% dark cacao, the calming ayurvedic herb ashwagandha, and magnesium. Calm your mind and rediscover your inner peace. Head to wwww.ObjectiveWellness.com and enter the ASKLISA promo code to get 15% off.Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comBe sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The pandemic has disrupted our kids' social lives. What can parents do to help a child make new friends if they've withdrawn from their peers? How do we help kids who are reluctant to reach out, or who rub their classmates the wrong way? A mom emails about her twelve and a half-year-old daughter who was once an extrovert and now is not. Dr. Lisa explains the five categories that have been identified by research to describe kids' social profiles, and how knowing these categories helps us give children the right kind of support. Should parents try to engineer friendships? Lisa has a strong opinion on this topic while Reena asks how we can help kids find secure friendships as we emerge from Covid-19.BOOKGIVEAWAY:The Science of Making Friends: Helping Socially Challenged Teens and Young Adults; By Elizabeth A. Laugeson, Psy.D.Enter to win a copy from the @asklisapodcast.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)3. Enter as many times as you'd like4. For U.S. residents only(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 5/31/21. Winners will be chosen at random and books will be mailed to the winners.Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: www.GoodTroubleProductions.comBe sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.