Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens
Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan
Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids.Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday.Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr. lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence
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Feb 22, 2022 • 32min
69 Encore: Lying, Sneaking, Cheating. What Keeps Kids from Being Honest?
Nobody likes being lied to, especially by our own children. Why do kids lie? Dr. Lisa looks at lying from a developmental standpoint and points out that when a child asks for more privacy, it doesn't necessarily mean they’re doing something sneaky. But when a child does lie, how should a parent respond? Dr. Lisa explains the difference between a child feeling appropriately guilty, and a child being made to feel shame. The bottom line? How you respond to dishonesty can make an important difference in how kids behave. Dr. Lisa’s Resources:Lisa’s NYT’s column: How to Help a Teen Out of a Homework HoleFollow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Feb 15, 2022 • 30min
68: How Should Step-Parents Fit In?
A step-parent asks for Dr. Lisa’s help as she finds herself parenting three kids under eight, two of them step-children. Should step-parents discipline differently? Dr. Lisa talks about what parents can do to keep kids from feeling stuck in a loyalty conflict between their parent and step-parent. Reena asks about common mistakes step-parents make when forming a relationship with step-kids. Dr. Lisa also explains how weekday parenting can be different from weekend parenting. She maps out how you can create a framework to make multiple households run smoothly. What do you do if one home feels like Disney World and another is more strict? The co-hosts discuss how playing the long-game can make all the difference. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Feb 8, 2022 • 27min
67: Should My Teen Go to a Sleepover with Her Boyfriend?
A parent from Connecticut wants to know if it’s acceptable for her teen to spend the night at her boyfriend’s house. How should parents approach a conversation like this one? What do you do if your values are not the same as other parents'? The Dutch approach teen romance very differently than Americans do. Dr. Lisa explains the cross-cultural research on teens and sex. Reena asks how to move beyond an impasse with your kid and Dr. Lisa explains why there is value in having some tension with teens. Dr. Lisa’s Resource RecommendationBrugman, M., Caron, S. L., and Rademakers, J. (2010). Emerging adolescent sexuality: A comparison of American and Dutch college women’s experiences. International Journal of Sexual Health 22 (1), 32–46, p. 39.Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Feb 1, 2022 • 28min
66: Should I Bribe My Kid?
No one wants to be that nagging parent. Dr. Lisa explains how the trickiest transition in parenting might be when nagging no longer works with your teen. At these times, is bribing a good strategy? Dr. Lisa walks us through different approaches to motivating kids and how to respond when they reflexively say "no." Reena and Lisa discuss when it might make sense to bribe a teen to get better grades.Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Jan 25, 2022 • 28min
65: My Depressed Teen Refuses Therapy. How Do I Help?
What are the signs a teen is suffering from depression and needs help? Dr. Lisa explains what you need to watch for. Reena asks what parents should do if their teen refuses help, and how parents can bring up therapy without making a teen feel worse. Lisa explains that teens often worry that they are broken - a narrative that needs to be considered when offering help. Dr. Lisa explains how she found inspiration from an unexpected reality star, Dog the Bounty Hunter, and also mentions a major change for licensed clinicians that might make it easier to find the right therapist. Dr. Lisa’s Resource RecommendationPSYPACT is an interstate compact that allows registered psychologists to practice across state boundaries: https://psypact.site-ym.com/page/AboutFollow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Jan 18, 2022 • 29min
64: Encore: How Do I Build My Kids' Confidence and Self-Esteem?
How do you build confidence in kids? How do you lay the groundwork for better self-esteem? What age does confidence start to plummet in girls? Dr. Lisa and Reena tackle these questions, explain where self-esteem comes from, and cover how parents can help children feel good about themselves in this encore episode. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Jan 11, 2022 • 25min
63: Raising an Athlete? Advice from an Olympic Mom.
Three-time Olympian and mom of three, Lauren Regula joins Dr. Lisa and Reena to talk about what kids should really be getting out of athletics. How do you help kids make the most of their sports? Lauren explains why she doesn't put her kids in the most competitive sports leagues. She also shares the one question she asks her kids every night to help them grow in sports and life. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Jan 4, 2022 • 28min
62: How Do I Boost Mental Health in 2022?
What’s the best way to help boost mental health in 2022? Dr. Lisa walks us through her five mental health resolutions for the new year. Reena asks how we can rethink mental wellness for ourselves and our families while continuing to navigate the pandemic. Some unexpected parenting inspiration comes from the words of Winston Churchill. Dr. Lisa’s Resource RecommendationsThe Power of a Positive No, by William UryThe 5-Minute Gratitude Journal: Give Thanks, Practice Positivity, Find Joy, by Sophia Godkin, PhDGood Days Start With Gratitude: A 52 Week Guide To Cultivate An Attitude Of Gratitude: Gratitude Journal, by Pretty Simple PressFollow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinanhttps://www.drlisadamour.com/See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Dec 28, 2021 • 30min
61: Encore: My Kid Looked at Porn. What Should I Do?
This week we present an encore episode of one of our top performing shows. American singer Billi Eilish recently spoke about the devastating effects porn had on her when she was exposed at eleven. Dr. Lisa explains how parents can start a conversation about porn and why it’s so important to talk to your kids about it. Reena asks what’s the right age to have that talk. Articles:Lisa's NYT article: How to Talk to Your Teenager About PornographyShafia Zaloom's NYT article: Kids Are Watching Pornography. Here's How to Talk About ItFollow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Dec 14, 2021 • 31min
60: How Do We Help Kids Through Divorce?
As divorce numbers rise in the pandemic, we take a closer look at how divorce affects children. Dr. Lisa walks us through how children at different ages process their parents' separation. How can parents make the transition easier? Reena asks how do you make it work when you can’t stand your ex? Lisa details how couples who no longer want to be married can still work together as effective co-parents.Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
