Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

On this episode one of Christine's friends and trusted advisors, Stephanie Roman joins her on the show to talk about being an empath and tapping into your psychic gifts. You will be so incredibly inspired by her story and love her insight on how to live a healthy, empowered life as an empath. Stephanie channels the Divine to give you messages that resonate in helping you remember your most authentic self and path. She lovingly holds a magic mirror up to you so you can see how wonderful and beautiful you are in the eyes of God. This seemingly simple process helps you feel that connection to something bigger that sometimes becomes lost by our society valuing external direction over your own. She believes that EVERY person is psychic and that each person experiences multiple different types of abilities over a lifetime. One of her huge missions is helping you recognize and experiment with how to stop doubting your gift in order to integrate them into whatever your big dreams are. She proudly calls herself a "Psychic Trainer" and helps her clients take bigger and bigger leaps of faith in their life by empowering them to know that THEY have all the answers. You can learn more about here here: https://www.psychictrainerstephanie.com/ If you are interested in her six-week program for empaths, you can call or text her at (469) 332-7228‬

This call is about coming to terms with leaving an abusive past behind. Today's caller, Julie, grew up in an abusive home and struggles with how much responsibility she has to stay involved in the family dynamic of her family of origin. We discuss body memories and what she is experiencing at a soul level. Until we parent our inner child the way it needs to be parented, that part of us continues to hook into the past to try to get our needs met. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode262] Whatever your story is, there's no reason to carry around shame or judgment of it and there is no reason to over-identify with it. If you think because of your past you have to have an awful life, or you will never become what you want to become, or use it as a scapegoat or excuse, you don't. Your story is part of your life. It is something that has formed you but it doesn't have to limit you. And, there's no need to be embarrassed or ashamed about it. Your story is your story, that's it. The body is often the language of the subconscious mind. And, with emotions, our body can be stuck in time because it remembers a trauma that happened. Many of our emotions are coming from the subconscious level, especially the programmed emotions. Those are the ones we have been feeling since we were a child, based on things that happened or things we were told. Emotions that we feel over and over again that are pervasive and repetitive are emotional addictions. Oftentimes, right before we break an addiction, cravings for the experience get stronger. It's hard to break karma and step into massive soul lessons because we know we are breaking free of something major we have been hanging on to for lifetimes. Level 2 of the Virtual Inner Child Workshop will be held on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Level2 to sign up or visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you know the difference between your actual feelings or feelings that have just been a programmed response? Are you estranged from a family member or do you feel it may be healthy not to be in contact with a certain family member or a friend? Do you feel guilty or ashamed by your parents and do things out of obligation? Do you want to break free of the wounding of childhood and create a new kind of healthy family moving forward? Julie's Question: Julie would like guidance on how to discern her programmed feelings from her actual feelings. Julie's Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up in an abusive home. She could never do anything right. She will be adopting a baby and doesn't want to repeat the cycle. She feels as if she can't escape her past. She doesn't speak with her mother. She feels debilitated but is ready to purge the feelings. She feels ready to be a mother. How to Get Over It and On With It: Reach out to a somatic therapist who is trauma-informed. Look at how far she has come and acknowledge herself for it. Forgive herself for the self-imposed blame. Emancipate herself from being controlled and betrayed. Takeaways: Do the inner child work. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2. Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. ShipStation helps your business grow and thrive. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode, Kate Northrup joins me to talk about how we can adapt to these challenging times by actually doing less. We also discuss how to get over being an "achievement addict" and drop into more self-trust and receptivity. As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She's committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. Kate is also the author of two books: Money: A Love Story and Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Ambitious Women. You can learn more about Kate at: https://katenorthrup.com/ And more about her membership community here: https://origincollective.com/ Also, join me this weekend Sept 10th-14th for the Integrated Feminine Online Symposium. Go to www.theintegratedfeminine.com, use coupon code CHRISTINE10 for 10% off.

This call is about being able to meet your own needs. Today's caller, Melissa, had a challenging childhood and is being triggered in her current relationship. She would like guidance on how to communicate her needs to her partner. We work through how her triggers are serving her and the expression of a need versus the expectation of a need to be filled by someone else. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode261] We often choose spouses and relationship partners who help us heal unmet needs and wounds from our parents. As humans, on a metaphysical, even spiritual level, we need other people. And, we need people to meet certain needs. And, when we learn how to meet our needs ourselves we get better at communicating healthy needs to others. We live in an interdependent world, yet we are sovereign beings. This means we must take an inside-out approach. First, we have to be independent in fulfilling our own needs internally and not project them on others. When we understand how to communicate our needs, not from a needy place but a place of bonding in our relationships, we can then connect and express with others toward interdependence. There is the difference between being needy, or trying to get someone else to fill a need, and clearly expressing our needs to another person in a way that we can teach them how to meet it. If you missed the Virtual Inner Child Workshop Level 1, you can still listen to it. It is necessary if you want to join in for Level 2, on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: As a child, did you ever feel abandoned or neglected? Do you get triggered in your relationships when you feel someone else is not meeting your needs or showing up the way you like them to? Do you have a pattern of reaching out to others to get your needs met? Can you say without a shadow of a doubt you know how to meet your own needs? Melissa's Question: Melissa doesn't completely understand her needs and feelings. She wants guidance on how to recognize her boundaries and give herself what she needs when she is triggered. Melissa's Key Insights and Ahas: She wants to understand her feelings and needs. She projects her abandonment wounds on to her husband. She is aware of her abandonment wounding. She was left alone while her parents comforted her younger brother. She never felt supported by her parents. She is triggered by her husband's attention to his work. She attended the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1. She reached out to her mother but was disappointed by her response. She wants to establish a connection with her mother. She feels overburdened with managing her emotions. How to Get Over It and On With It: Do the empty chair process from Expectation Hangover. Write her mother a letter she does not intend to send. Use her triggers to discover how she can meet her own needs. Takeaways: Think about the things you want from other people and make a list of your unmet needs and see how you may not be doing those things for yourself. Learn how to communicate your needs to people in your life. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2. Sponsor: Jenni Kayne — If you love clothes that are both stylish and super comfortable with a dash of refined simplicity, you will love Jenni Kayne. Make getting dressed the easiest part of your routine with Jenni Kayne's modern essentials. Use the code 'OVERIT' for 20% off at checkout! Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine gives you ten very do-able tips for how to increase your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health during these intense times. When there is so much division and uncertainty in the external world, it is critically important to create calm in your internal world. To join us for the Inner Child Workshops, go to www.christinehassler.com/innerchildbundle

This call is about maintaining boundaries when dealing with anger or rage. Today's caller, Dana, is in a difficult situation. Her husband rages out at her and her children, but she loves him and wants the relationship to work. We work through ways she can maintain her boundaries and ways she can show up in the relationship to create a cohesive healing environment. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode260] First, if you are in a situation where there is a cycle of abuse get clear about whether you need to leave or if you need to reach out for support for assistance. Anyone who has been abused and then becomes abusive has a great deal of shame. One thing we know to be true is that love is incredibly healing. And, often when someone is in an environment where they do not feel judged, their protective behaviors begin to fade. Creating a loving, non-judgmental, feminine space for the person may help them heal. Remember, feminine energy is not weak or submissive. We don't just tolerate whatever happens to keep the peace and love everything. Feminine energy is fiercely loving and compassionate. It's the combination of compassion and nurturing that holds space and is non-judgmental but also the protective mama bear. If you missed the Inner Child workshop, you can still listen to it. It is necessary if you want to join in for Level 2, which begins Sept. 25th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchild. This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in October, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. We are also enrolling angels who would like to make a financial contribution to someone else's personal development, go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to get more information. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you living with, or have you ever lived with someone who had rages, or explosive bouts of anger? How are you at expressing your anger? Are you honest about it to do it in a healthy way, or do you internalize it, then it leaks out through judgment to criticism or irritability either at yourself or others? Do you feel you have worked on yourself but can't believe you are still dealing with an issue you've been working on in therapy for years? Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable when it comes to expressing your needs? How do you do it? Dana's Question: Dana would like guidance on how to hold boundaries when it comes to dealing with her husband's anger. Dana's Key Insights and Ahas: Her husband rages out. She has tried different ways to keep peace in the house. She feels overburdened with responsibility. She has empathy for her husband. Her husband had a traumatic childhood. She has done a lot of therapy around her relationship with her mother. She loves her husband and wants to make their relationship work. She has difficulty holding her boundaries. She has a high tolerance for being treated poorly. How to Get Over It and On With It: Create a feminine, loving, non-judgmental, shame-free space for her husband. Make an agreement with her closest friend to assist her in leaving if things get worse. Consult with a professional together with her husband. Maintain firm boundaries when it comes to rage. Takeaways: If you are in a situation where there is a cycle of abuse, get clear about whether you need to leave or if you need to reach out for support for assistance. If you are in any type of relationship and you know you want to stay in it, look at your end of it. How can you show up to create a more cohesive, healing environment for the other person? Be aware of your self-abuser, especially if you have had abuse in your life, a lot of times we internalize it. Consider listening to the Inner Child workshop. Allow yourself to feel your feelings and allow yourself to communicate with vulnerability. Sponsor: Rothy's — Get your new favorite stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy's. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Michael Gay who is a therapist joins Christine to discuss how we deal and heal from trauma. He has his M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a focus in Transpersonal Psychology. Michael has worked in the field of counseling for the last 14 years as a guide, therapist, and trainer. He was a Wilderness Therapy guide for 6 years, leading and facilitating deep transformational work with teens, adults, and families in the mountains and high desert. He has also worked extensively in the field of addiction and recovery. He specializes in work with depression, groups, trauma, PTSD, grief, and families. In addition to his M.A., Michael completed a 3 year training at the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and continues to train at the Gestalt Equine Institute. As a therapist and facilitator, Michael uses experiential and body based methods. Many approaches to therapy and inner work stay at the intellectual and cognitive level, which rarely or slowly affect deep structural change. Engaging in more experiential and embodied work seems to bring the shifts people were unable to find in mainstream therapy. You can learn more about Michael or reach out to him about working with him at https://www.michaelgaycounseling.com/

This call is about transforming shame, celebrating your gifts, and sharing them with others. Today's caller, Melissa, is building a health coaching business and wants to embrace her purpose whole-heartedly but is holding back her light because of self-judgment and shame. We discuss things she can do to focus her energy on getting the things she wants from life as she serves others with her personal experience. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode259] Many people feel physical shame in some way. It can cause us to wear masks and deprive us of joy and self-expression. And, usually the thing we are most self-conscious about people don't even notice or think about as much as we do. If they do notice, they often don't evaluate us because of it. I've never formed an opinion on someone because of their physical characteristics, and honestly, if someone does form an opinion about you because of something completely superficial, do you really want that person in your life? Why are you fighting for approval from people you don't really like? We give our power away when we seek the approval of others. We can be too judgmental of other people, mostly because we are too judgmental of ourselves. If you want to put yourself out there in whatever way you feel called to do it, please do. You are needed. We need more people who have the consciousness of light and love being loud in the world. Too many people have loud voices that shouldn't have a microphone. So, get your voice out there. Stop letting fear of rejection and fear of judgment hold you back. Not everyone is going to like you and it is okay. You're depriving the people who do resonate with you the connection and service you have to offer. Think about the magic you can create by not avoiding the people that may not like you or reject you and focus on compassionately serving others. Stop falling into the avoidance trap and step into your love and light. Are you ready to take your personal development to the next level and invest in yourself? Would an ally and a guide be helpful to you during this time? If so, I have two one-on-one coaching spots available. This type of deep work has incredible ripple effects in all areas of your life. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you think that you have to be perfect or at a certain point before you really go after your dreams and what you want? Do you carry around shame? Do you feel a calling to do something, be it starting a business, applying for a new job, or dating again but are scared to do it because you're afraid of judgment? Has shame robbed you of feeling a sense of belonging? Are you tired of letting shame rob you of what you deeply desire? Melissa's Question: Melissa has a hard time speaking up and would like guidance on how to heal the shame she feels to gain the confidence to put herself out there. Melissa's Key Insights and Ahas: She lacks self-confidence. She attended the inner child workshop. She is building a coaching business. She lacked confidence because of a physical trait. She feels people may judge her. Shame disempowers her. She outsources her self-worth. She has a limiting belief that she isn't enough. She numbed herself because she felt different from her peers. How to Get Over It and On With It: Allow herself to be seen without the expectation of perfection. Do things that promote living into her purpose and her mission. Inspire others with her personal journey. Accept herself fully for who she is. Takeaways: Take actions every day that move you into the vibration of who you want to be and what you want to do. Turn your shame into compassion and service. Use it to feel compassion for others who are feeling shame. Stop giving others power over you. Step into your love and light and make your voice heard. Live into your highest truth. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode, Christine follows up on some of the topics from last week's show as well as offers suggestions for some actions you can take. You'll also be guided through a calming and empowering meditation at the end of the show. Resources mentioned: Free Awakened Leadership series: https://speaker.spiritualtechnologytoawaken.com/christine Podcast Interview with Robert F Kennedy Jr: https://www.lukestorey.com/lifestylistpodcast/shot-in-the-dark-blowing-the-whistle-on-the-vaccne-industry-covd-w/-robert-f-kennedy-jr-299 Human Trafficking Resources: https://bit.ly/antihumantraffickingresources Shawn Stevenson IG: https://www.instagram.com/shawnmodel/ Podcast: https://themodelhealthshow.com/podcasts/

This call is about recognizing the value of your unique gifts. Today's caller, Tracy, believes she has difficulty being vulnerable and thinks it is holding her business back. But, as we explore her childhood experience, we discover that she is playing out old programming, feeling like she didn't matter as the youngest sibling in her family. Her fear of rejection may be keeping her from getting what she wants. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode258] There are parts of us that are just us or the things that make us unique. We may not be as vulnerable as the next person, as funny as the next person, or as creative or outspoken or extroverted as other people are. When we measure ourselves against others it can make us feel like something is wrong with us. It can create blind spots or judgments of things we have taken on from society. And one of the things so many of us, especially in this world of personal development, have taken on is the expectation that we need to be vulnerable to be fully seen. Vulnerability needs to be earned. Vulnerability is incredible and necessary, however, it's not something we just give away. It's OK that it has to be earned. It makes it more authentic. August 28–30, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can't attend the workshop in its entirety, you will have online access to it for 30 days. A portion of the proceeds from this event will be donated to rescue organizations. This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a hard time putting yourself out there when it comes to business, dating, or making friends? Do you have a hard time being vulnerable? Are you slow to warm to people or does it take a while for people to get in? As a child, did you grow up feeling like you were in the shadow of someone else? Were you a younger sibling who always felt behind in some way or just something that made you feel not enough? Are you trying to change something in your present but you can't make the change? Tracy's Question: Tracy feels stuck and would like guidance on tapping into her vulnerability to take more risks. Tracy's Key Insights and Ahas: She keeps people at a distance. She would like the confidence to take more risks. She fears rejection. She felt disregarded by her family. Her family is critical and envious of her decisions. Her negative self-talk comes from not feeling good enough. She is triggered more often as an adult than she was as a child. She perpetuates the idea that she doesn't matter. She doesn't take compliments well. How to Get Over It and On With It: Change the programming that creates her self-talk. Know that she matters. Reassure her little girl of her value. Reach out and offer to share her gifts with people. Takeaways: Join the Inner Child Workshop. Know you have the ability to reparent yourself. Write down your limiting beliefs and question why you believe them. If you are a coach who wants to build their business, hire a coach, or participate in a program. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.