Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

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This call is about seeking an external change to fill an internal void. Today's caller, Leigh, wants to make a career change because she is not fulfilled by her current career. But her career switch is not the priority, it is about healing and breaking patterns. This call is important for any of you who feel stuck, who want to make a change, especially a career change, but are not doing it. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode267] Practical decisions are often fear-influenced decisions. Fear-influenced decisions are not wrong. We feel we have to make decisions that give us more certainty. But, we sacrifice a lot of our beliefs, our magic, and our dreams when we do. As human beings, we learn through contrast, so it is OK to make fear-influenced decisions. There are a lot of reasons why we do not make the changes we want to make. It can come back to childhood wounding and it can also be because we don't have the right foundation. We often seek out relationships or careers to give us what we didn't get in childhood. For example, you might be seeking out someone in a relationship who makes you feel safe. Or, you may be seeking out a career to make you feel self-expressed and free. Many of our quests for fulfillment are a call for healing. But, remember, we never want to use something external to fill an internal void. Empaths are sponges. We soak up a lot of information. One of the tendencies of empaths is that we take too much of other people's guidance. We take on people's feelings and accept what people tell us we should do. If you are an empath, think about that, feel into that. Do you allow other people to tell you who you are and what you should do, versus trusting your own discernment? Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel a call to do something different but can't seem to make the change? Did you grow up feeling like you had the attention you desired and deserved or are you starved for attention and emotional expression? Are you in a relationship where you feel fully supported? Are you afraid to speak your needs and go after your dream? Leigh's Question: Leigh wants to make a career change and would like guidance about how to follow her dreams. Leigh's Key Insights and Ahas: She is interested in a career in personal development or healing arts. She is currently a lawyer but not passionate about her work. She has two children under five. She loves deep conversations. She needs financial security. People always question what her heart desires. She felt alone and not heard as a child. She wants to follow her heart. She is an empathetic, feelings-based person. Her husband doesn't understand why she needs a change. How to Get Over It and On With It: Prioritize herself and her marriage. Talk with a coach or therapist where she can feel heard and supported. Get into the habit of expressing her emotions. Express herself in her marriage. Takeaways: Get a consistent, habitual form of support in a therapeutic environment. Remember, there is divine timing for everything. If you feel you are not moving forward in the direction you want, it doesn't mean you're not moving forward. You may have to re-route your path. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this quickie episode Christine shares tips for how to get out of limbo and make a choice so that you can move forward. If you are struggling over a decision, don't miss this one!

This call is about eliminating the imprints put on us by other people. Today's caller, Rory, has childhood wounding from her father's verbal abuse and her mother's lack of support. She feels stuck in her life but she is just in a loop of patterns she created to cope with not getting what she needed as a child. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode266] Whatever parent's love we crave most or whichever parent we felt the most distant from is usually who we tend to find a relationship with or we model ourselves after. And, that is what we are always chasing as an adult. We want our parents to be proud of us but especially our fathers. Knowing your dad is proud of you is massive. We want to know our mom loves us unconditionally and dad is really proud of us. It helps our self-esteem. If you are someone who feels stuck, realize you are not stuck. You are just caught in a loop based on your imprints and your patterns and your wounding. You have to find an exit route. And, often the exit route is what you did not get as a child that you need to give yourself. People are often good at giving others what they are horrible about giving to themselves. You may be nurturing and compassionate towards others but hard on yourself. Or, patient with others but completely impatient with yourself. Anything we give in overflow to others is what we need to give ourselves. What are you giving that you're not receiving? Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel stuck in your life? Do you keep trying but things just aren't happening? Do you consistently start things but don't finish them? Did you grow up in a household where both parents were really hard on you? Did you feel like nothing you ever did was right? Are you excellent at giving others compassion, acceptance, and understanding but not so great about giving it to yourself? Rory's Question: Rory feels she has hit a wall and doesn't understand why she doesn't finish things she starts. Rory's Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up with a lack of love. As a child, she was told she was different, sensitive, and that she would fail. She wonders what the point of her life is. She has a pattern of quitting. She has recurring disturbing dreams about her father and sister. She didn't get any completion energy from her father. She internalized her father's voice. She attaches negative connotations to journaling. She feels pressure to do a lot of things. She doesn't speak to herself with compassion. She has a fierce inner critic. How to Get Over It and On With It: Nourish herself with the things she didn't get. Bring more healthy masculine energy into life. Reduce the amount of doing and be compassionate with herself. Realize external things won't take the place of her passions. Write out and record what she wishes her mother would have said and listen to it several times a day. Listen to this episode again to reflect on how she is talking to herself. Takeaways: What loop are you in and what are the imprints and patterns that have you in a loop? How can you find an exit route? What did you always want from your father or mother but didn't get and start giving it to yourself? Listen to the voices in your head and to the ones that are mean, the ones that push you, the ones that don't accept you say, "Who is this, who is this?" and separate yourself from those voices. Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. ShipStation helps your business grow and thrive. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Omar is a gifted Storyteller, Public Speaker, and Life Coach specializing in Addiction Recovery and Emotional Healing work. He's the host of the incredibly popular SHAIR Recovery podcast. He delivers a powerful message of overcoming drug addiction and an inspirational 16-year journey of recovery. Omar is a successful self-made entrepreneur, is married to his soul mate, and lives in one of the most beautiful places in the world, Costa Rica. He has transformed his life through recovery, personal development, and coaching and now he helps people all over the world transform their lives. Listen and learn more: https://theshairpodcast.com/ https://omarpinto.com/

This call is about treating ourselves with compassion, encouragement, and unconditional love when we have a mother wound. Today's caller, Megan, believes people avoid her because she has too many problems. What we uncover during our session is that she has created a false independence because it is how she copes with having a neglectful mother. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode265] When we don't have anyone holding us, we hold things inside. The difference between being a victim with friends and being vulnerable is being a victim is always complaining about the same thing, never empowering yourself, and never doing anything differently. Being vulnerable is sharing what's in your heart, and taking responsibility. It's when you are not looking for a solution, not always complaining about the same thing but just having an open heart and being intentional about how you choose to shift it, even if it's just being more compassionate with yourself. Victims don't make too many friends unless they just hang out with other victims and they can all throw pity parties together. This doesn't mean to not be vulnerable. You can be vulnerable without going into victim consciousness. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you are too much for people? Do you feel you lose friendships or people avoid you because your life is hard and you think that you are just too much? What events in your childhood are keeping you stuck? Do you have an attitude that nothing works out and things are hard? Did you have a mother who was not there for you or who neglected you, or who you were not enough for? Megan's Question: Megan feels she is too intense or too much for other people and would like guidance on how to break free of the pattern. Megan's Key Insights and Ahas: People pull away or avoid her. She had three near-death experiences as a child. Her parents divorced. She feels isolated. She struggles with low self-worth. Her mother was neglectful in many forms. She is mothering herself the way she was mothered. She attracts emotionally unavailable people. How to Get Over It and On With It: Nourish her relationship with herself. Separate from her struggles to connect more deeply with herself. Communicate with an advisor or good friend. Takeaways: Do the hand exercise and give it a voice. Consider what you think of when you think of a "mother" and write out a list of the qualities that make an amazing, loving mother and integrate those qualities into your life. Work on being vulnerable and intimate with your friends. Sponsor: Jenni Kayne — If you love clothes that are both stylish and super comfortable with a dash of refined simplicity, you will love Jenni Kayne. Having comfortable cozy items is essential at any time of year. Use the code 'OVERIT' for 20% off at checkout! Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Emily Pereira joins Christine to talk about getting over heartbreak, leaving a "safe/successful" life and finding love and happiness in unexpected places. She is an international retreat leader, yoga teacher, and women's coach specializing in helping women call in intimate, heart-thumping, passionate, I got-your-back-no-matter-what love. Her raw vulnerable storytelling laced with mind-blowing ahas about women's empowerment have reached over 5 million people worldwide. She has written for some of the biggest media outlets of our generation and her first book, a memoir, The Quest: from the Hollywood Hills to the Amazon Jungle, one woman's search for enough will be released Nov. 10th 2020. She is also the host of "The Quest for Love Summit" - a 7-Day Virtual Experience curated to help you discover the secrets to wild attraction, cosmic connection and committed devotion. You can join for free at: https://thequestforlovesummit.com/ Emily lives in Santa Teresa, a seaside village along Costa Rica's Pacific coast, with her husband, Manex and two small children, Saïa Moon & Teotihuacán where together they founded the Sunrise Mountain Retreat and Wellness Center.

This call is about how fear of commitment may truly be fear of loss. Today's caller, Rachel, is collecting evidence about why she doesn't want to be in a relationship because it will be too much work even though she says she would like to have a relationship. We talk about how the losses she experienced as a child may be coloring her perception of what a relationship will be like and how interdependent relationships can help us heal. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode264] People who felt very alone as children will lead a solitary life and think that it's what they want because they want to avoid a wound about being lonely as a child. They stay in that energetic and continue living a lonely, solitary life because they don't know any different. It keeps the old wound from coming up. It may not make a lot of logical sense but if you are someone who lives a solitary or lonely life, and you believe that you are an introvert and you like it better, is it really true? Or, is loneliness a wound from your childhood you are perpetuating in your adulthood? When we don't have stability or structure in our life or childhood, things become overwhelming as an adult. It's because there is still a traumatized child running the show. This is why having a lot going on, for someone who moved around a lot, had a parent that died, or didn't have someone there to provide structure and stability, is hard. Just a few things can seem overwhelming. Until we do healing work, our perception is influenced by past wounding because we expect to see what we have seen in the past. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you not getting into a relationship because you don't want one or because you are scared? Do you have a history of loss? Has loss been a major teacher for you? Are you afraid that if anyone gets too close, you will lose them? Do you spend a lot of time alone and think that you like that better? Do you believe your inner child wounding could actually be healed in a relationship? Do you avoid relationships because you're afraid you're going to get hurt? Rachel's Question: Rachel has experienced multiple losses and would like guidance on how to approach relationships in her life. Rachel's Key Insights and Ahas: She believes a relationship would be a lot of work. Her mother passed when she was seven. She was separated from her family members when her mother passed. She was adopted at 14 by a family friend. She may be looking for a caretaker in a relationship. She wants a relationship but is not sure it will fit her life. She would like a relationship with someone she can count on. She is craving a nurturing partner. She leads a solitary life and feels safer hiding herself. She has a lot of love to give. How to Get Over It and On With It: Stop letting the loss she experienced define her. Open her heart to herself, other people, or an animal. Consider if she makes decisions from her heart or fear. Watch or read things that model a nurturing love. Takeaways: Know that the thing that has been the primary teacher in your life does not have to be a consistent lesson. For any decision you are dealing with, ask yourself if you are making the choice from fear or from your heart. Connect to your mothering, nurturing energy, whether you are male or female. If you are someone who deals with loneliness, give love to yourself and others. Sponsor: Rothy's — Get your new favorite stylish, versatile, sustainable shoes and bags made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy's. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet and are machine washable. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy's by using this link Rothys.com/over and get free shipping and free returns. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Meera Lee Patel is a self-taught artist and the author of Start Where You Are, Made Out of Stars, and My Friend Fear, and—most recently—Create Your Own Calm. She creates work to inspire and encourage others to connect with themselves, each other, and the world around them. In this episode we talk about how you can incorporate art and creativity into your wellness routine and meditation practice. Learn more about Meera here: https://meeralee.com/

This call is about effectively communicating your needs to break unhealthy patterns in relationships. Today's caller, Julie, is aware of the unhealthy patterns in her relationships but is uncertain why the patterns aren't shifting. The amazing thing about relationships, romantic or friendship, is that they can provide healing ground for inner child wounding if we feel safe enough to do it. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode263] We all have masculine and feminine energy within us, no matter how we identify. Often, the way we present in life is not our core essence. Masculine energy likes to feel respected. It's on the top of the priority list for men. And, for the female-identifying people that doesn't mean that you don't want to be respected but for the feminine essence it is a lot more about feeling safe and respect is part of that. It is about feeling safe physically, feeling safe emotionally, and feeling safe sexually. Masculine and feminine energy is something Stefanos and I teach a lot. It's another avenue of personal development we can learn about and in relationships, especially intimate relationships, it's really important to have polarity, otherwise, you either kind of go into roommate mode or you have a lot of arguments. When healing a romantic relationship there are two key aspects. The inner child piece and the polarity piece. It is hard to get the polarity piece in place when the inner child piece isn't in place. So how the inner child piece helps with the polarity piece is as children we are more in touch with our core essence, either feminine or masculine, and it's because of inner child wounding that those masks get put on. The more we give ourselves what we need inside ourselves the more we give the little one inside of us what we didn't get as children. Remember inner child work in a relationship is meeting our needs, parenting ourselves in the way that we didn't get, and then communicating our needs in a non-attacking, non-passive-aggressive, non-manipulative way to our partners. It's a lot to be human, be a parent, and be in a relationship, but when we understand our inner child, understand how to parent, and understand polarity it becomes a little less overwhelming and a little easier. Level 2 of the Virtual Inner Child Workshop will be held on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Level2 to sign up or visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have patterns that keep showing up in your life, or your relationships, and no matter what you do you just can't seem to shake them? Were you raised in a home where you had to parent your parents and you had to be both the mother and the father? Do you tend to parent your children in a way that is opposite to how you were parented but when it comes to your own relationship with your inner child you're still parenting yourself the way you were parented? Do you relate to feeling like things are going well but you are just waiting for the other shoe to drop so you can't really enjoy the good happening in your life? Julie's Question: Julie has grown a lot with personal development work but she can't seem to shake the patterns of waiting for something to go wrong. Julie's Key Insights and Ahas: She separated herself from an abusive marriage. She looks for things to go wrong. Her mother is bi-polar. She is currently in a romantic relationship. Her partner speaks another language. She didn't have a close relationship with her father. She adopted a protective strategy. She is in Personal Mastery. Her mother criticized her. She fears being disappointed and hurt. How to Get Over It and On With It: Use her relationship as a healing container. Work with her inner child, little Julie. Give love and encouragement in place of self-judgment. Step into her feminine. Talk with her partner about getting her needs met. Be gentle with herself. Takeaways: Ask yourself, 'what did I need most in childhood that I didn't get?' and give it to yourself. Make it a priority to give yourself whatever it is. If you want to learn more about the masculine-feminine dynamic, I like the book, Intimate Communion by David Deida. If you want to try it on Audible you can go to Audibletrial.com/overitandonwithit to get a discount. If you're in a relationship, think of how you can meet the needs of your inner child and then communicate those needs to your partner in a non-passive-aggressive, non-attacking, or non-manipulative way. Do the inner child work. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.