

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Perel Global Media
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
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Jul 24, 2023 • 54min
Long Distance and Lost
They knew each other as kids. He grew up in a house where love was never a guarantee. She had the seemingly perfect family and all the love in the world. They've recently begun a romantic relationship as adults, but still can't seem to find their footing and separate themselves from their vastly different histories. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Jul 17, 2023 • 37min
Am I Being Gaslit?
A woman grapples with feeling gaslit by her partner, questioning her sensitivity and past experiences with boundaries. The conversation dives deep into emotional manipulation and the struggles of establishing healthy boundaries. It also highlights the role of intimacy coordinators in fostering respect in the film industry and the importance of self-awareness in breaking cycles of emotional turmoil. The discussion emphasizes the need for accountability to redefine and improve relationship dynamics.

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Jul 10, 2023 • 53min
Donor Daddy
He donated sperm to help a friend start her family. A decade later that gift shattered his own. Esther talks through the consequences of a secret. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jun 27, 2023 • 2min
Where Should We Begin? is coming back… weekly
Step into the intriguing world of modern relationships as a psychotherapist guides couples through their real-life dilemmas. From navigating unreciprocated love to balancing casual flings with deeper connections, the conversations spark valuable insights. Listeners explore the importance of open communication about desires and boundaries, while also uncovering the complexities of break-ups, open relationships, and family fractures. Tune in for a weekly dose of intimacy and reflection.

Mar 11, 2023 • 58min
Love In War with Esther Perel: Ukraine
A couple grapples with emotional separation due to the war in Ukraine, torn between family obligations and personal fears. They confront the aching longing for intimacy amidst external chaos, reflecting on the complexities of love and grief. Navigating relationships is a challenge, with discussions on masculinity and emotional vulnerability surfacing. Amidst the turmoil, they find moments of joy and connection, emphasizing resilience through creativity. Their journey reveals the intricate balance of love, duty, and the shared human experience in times of crisis.

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Jun 23, 2022 • 28min
I Need Her to See Me
A young woman grapples with standing up to her mother amidst a backdrop of trauma. The discussion dives deep into the legacy of parental experiences and its effect on adulthood, highlighting the need for understanding and healing. Topics like navigating authority figures and emotional recognition unveil the complexity of familial ties, while the power of written communication emerges as a therapeutic tool. Engaging storytelling reinforces the importance of recognizing both gratitude and emotional needs in relationships.

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Jun 9, 2022 • 55min
We Started As An Affair
In this enlightening conversation, a couple reflects on their journey from an affair to building a committed relationship. The discussion navigates the intricate dynamics of rekindled connections influenced by societal expectations and familial obligations. They confront emotional struggles while addressing the complexities of blended families and generational impacts. The couple shares insights on aligning personal values with behaviors, exploring the emotional legacy of their past, and the challenges of creating a love story amidst a community that has a stake in their relationship.

May 26, 2022 • 32min
I Deserve to Be a Mother
The podcast tackles the intense desire for motherhood faced by a trans woman, contrasting her aspirations with her partner's hesitations. It dives into the emotional turbulence of family planning in relationships and the need for open communication. The discussion navigates the delicate balance between individual wants and shared decisions, exploring the complexities that emerge when one partner feels pressured by the other's choices. It highlights the significance of support, understanding, and the search for clarity in navigating love and parenthood.

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May 12, 2022 • 18min
Having Needs Doesn't Make You Needy
Explore the complexities of vulnerability in new relationships, where one partner struggles to express his desire for exclusivity. Discover how having needs is not a sign of weakness, but rather a strength that fosters deeper emotional connections. The conversation also touches on the importance of openness about past experiences, especially post-divorce. Additionally, learn about innovative storytelling techniques to enhance relational bonds, showing that communication can be both playful and profound.

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May 5, 2022 • 55min
My Orgasm Is Not Just For Me
What starts as a story of sexual incompatibility and a difference in life goals for these two women takes a wildly unexpected turn during this session. Esther finds herself witness to a fantasy ritual unlike anything she’s experienced before in her work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices


