

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Perel Global Media
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
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Nov 6, 2023 • 31min
Depleted Mothers Club
A new mother grapples with identity and isolation after moving from Mexico, seeking community amid the loneliness of motherhood. The discussion reveals the emotional toll of breastfeeding and the pressure to appear perfect, while also exploring the joys and challenges of starting a handmade business. As the couple transitions to a nuclear family model, they confront the complexities of independence and familial ties during a pandemic. Ultimately, it highlights the importance of building supportive connections in a new environment to navigate the struggles of parenthood.

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Oct 30, 2023 • 56min
A Marriage Organized Around Trauma
A harrowing journey unfolds as a veteran shares his battles with PTSD and addiction, revealing the weight of caregiving that his partner endures. The discussion shifts to revitalizing intimacy, emphasizing the need for playful communication and mutual care. They dive into the emotional toll of trauma on relationships, exploring how to reclaim erotic energy and individual identities. The struggles of job transitions and emotional recovery are examined, highlighting the importance of vulnerability and connection to navigate the complexities of love and trauma.

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Oct 16, 2023 • 59min
A Hospital Divided
This week features two best friends and emergency room doctors navigating the emotional fallout of the pandemic. One developed an autoimmune disease, making her feel vulnerable amidst workplace apathy towards her safety. They discuss the fracturing of once-close relationships among their colleagues due to differing beliefs about protocols. With deep insights into the moral dilemmas faced in healthcare, they explore the importance of empathy, trust, and the challenges of seeking help in high-pressure environments.

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Oct 9, 2023 • 43min
I Left. Now I Want My Wife Back.
In a heartfelt call, a man grapples with regret after leaving his wife for a work romance, now engaged but yearning to return to his past life. He confides in Esther Perel about his feelings of unworthiness and the complexities of seeking reconciliation. They dive deep into themes of redemption, emotional repression, and the challenge of navigating intimacy. The conversation highlights the struggles of reconnecting amidst unresolved feelings and the inherent shame of past decisions, emphasizing the critical need for communication in healing relationships.

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Sep 25, 2023 • 39min
Self Love Isn't Something I Grew Up With
A woman grapples with the challenges of being overlooked for a promotion while balancing her cultural identity. The conversation dives into how cultural backgrounds affect personal worth and self-love, particularly for women of color. They discuss the delicate art of self-promotion and the complex dynamics of communication in both professional and personal realms. Additionally, it examines the impact of gender norms on relationships and highlights the empowerment that comes from embracing self-love and advocating for oneself.

Sep 18, 2023 • 42min
How's Work? - The Preacher's Wife Part Two
In this thought-provoking discussion, a couple grapples with the emotional aftermath of a tragic suicide within their church community. They reflect on the impact of grief on their marriage and leadership roles, revealing the vulnerability that comes with responsibility. The conversation explores the balance of compassion in leadership and the hidden struggles many face, emphasizing the importance of maintaining personal boundaries while navigating community dynamics. Deep insights into faith and individual identity highlight the complexities of relationships shaped by religious influence.

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Sep 11, 2023 • 52min
How's Work? - The Preacher's Wife
A couple seeks therapy to address the strains in their marriage, complicated by her role as a preacher's wife and his career-driven identity. They discuss the power dynamics in relationships, exploring how communication falters under pressure. Tensions between personal desires and community obligations come to light, revealing vulnerabilities. The conversation also navigates the impact of childhood insecurities on their connection and highlights the importance of support and validation in overcoming shared challenges.

Aug 28, 2023 • 28min
My Brother's Wife Ruined Our Relationship
A woman opens up about her struggles with her brother's wife disrupting their once-close bond. She grapples with feelings of rejection and concern over how romantic choices alter family dynamics. Esther Perel, a renowned therapist known for her expertise in relationships, guides her through complex emotions of loyalty, acceptance, and rivalry. They explore how past sibling connections shape current perceptions and the necessity of redefining familial bonds for personal happiness. It's a heartfelt discussion on navigating love and family.

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Aug 14, 2023 • 28min
I Want Her to Like Me Less
A woman in her 40s shares her relationship journey with Esther Perel, revealing her struggle at a crossroads in finding balance between intense emotions and a comforting partnership. They delve into her complicated history with love, exploring the tension between the thrill of challenge and the acceptance of affection. The conversation touches on her multicultural upbringing and its impact on identity, as well as the emotional turmoil of infatuation and self-worth, encouraging deeper self-reflection and connection.

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Aug 7, 2023 • 32min
I Crossed a Line I Never Thought I Would Cross
In this introspective discussion, a woman shares her journey after crossing her own moral boundaries through an emotional affair. With insights from relationship expert Esther Perel, they delve into the pain of guilt and the struggle for self-forgiveness. The conversation explores the complexities of love, accountability, and the quest for redemption in relationships. The speakers reflect on personal growth and the importance of setting boundaries, encouraging listeners to embrace their past while moving toward a more fulfilling future.


