Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

My guest today is Brenda Zane, and we are digging deep into teen substance abuse. Brenda shares about her son’s drug misuse & what got her started in this work. We talk about teens who are exploring risky behavior and teens who are using drugs regularly/daily. Brenda shares tips for having uncomfortable (and ongoing) conversations about drug use with your adolescent and how to come from a place of curiosity (not judgment). We talk about why the confrontational, punitive approach does not work & to consider drug use as a solution for a problem you don’t know about. Brenda and I also dig into how to share information about drugs with your kids & how to stay calm when you’re freaked out. Brenda finishes up teaching me about fentanyl & when overdoses don’t look like what you’d expect.  Takeaways from the show Novelty seeking as part of teenage brain development Substance use & responding as a parent  Alcohol & marijuana use  Covid, anxiety, isolation, & devices affecting drug use  Experimenting vs. problematic use  Uncomfortable conversations & coming from a place of curiosity  Drug use as a solution for a problem you don’t know about  Confrontational, punitive approach does not work  Information as harm reduction  Information about fentanyl & overdoses For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the fifth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Creating space for your teens Raising capable kids Baggage from relationship with your parents Working towards doing better for your kids Being curious and neutral Unconditional love does not equal being permissive Power struggle when saying no Treating teens with dignity and respect Holding an encouraging container For more notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Nancy Albright, a friend and fellow Positive Discipline Parent Educator.  Nancy and I go way back, and I’m thrilled to chat with her today about deepening our curiosity with our teens. She tells me about her new book, “My Teen and me: 20 meaningful questions to ease your frustration, build trust, communicate, and connect with your teen.” We talk about how to stay curious with love & presence, and how to pull back on your fear & worries. We cover the importance of pausing & explicitly asking your teen what they need - advice, help problem solving, or just someone to listen, as well as what to do when you’re met with irritation or withdrawal. We wrap up touching on giving yourself love, compassion, & grace in your parenting and the power of presence. Takeaways from the show Deepening our curiosity with our teens  Curiosity with love and presence  Pulling back on your fear and worries  Pausing & asking our teens what they need - advice, help problem solving, or just someone to listen Your needs vs. your teen’s needs  Staying curious when your teen is withdrawn or irritated  Creating a safe space for your kids  Giving yourself love, compassion, & grace  The power of presence  Your story is not your child’s story For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the fourth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment.Takeaways from the show Teen years are messy Reframing trust Mistakes as opportunities to learn Reviewing kind and firm parenting Brain development in adolescence Exploring feelings from when you were a teen Unwanted results of punishment Showing up with curiosity Opportunities to learn important life skills For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Sabrina Shaheen Cronin, and we’re digging deep into co-parenting teens. Sabrina shares her wisdom and expertise on all-things related to divorce, custody, co-parenting, & step families. We get into the legalities of co-parenting & custody agreements and how to move forward while keeping the well-being of your child(ren) at the forefront. Sabrina and I talk about looking at divorce as an opportunity for personal growth (which can be so hard) and how co-parenting is not a one-size-fits-all thing. We discuss how to navigate your teens preferences and rights when it comes to custody, and I ask Sabrina for tips on getting on the same page with an ex partner. Takeaways from the show What does healthy co-parenting look like? Divorce as an offering for personal growth  Legalities of co-parenting & custody arrangements  The rights & preferences of teens during divorce & regarding custody  Family therapy  How to get on the same page with an ex partner  New partners & step families  “Remember you love your child more than you hate your ex”  Co-parenting with difficult & toxic exes For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the third of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. We get into kindness and firmness and explore an experiential activity that invites listeners into their teen's shoes.See more shownotes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/alternatives-to-punishment-part-3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Cynthia Kane.  This week is all about communication! Cynthia shares all kinds of advice and help for intentional communication including: the four pillars of right speech and accessing the space (or the pause) to choose how to engage. We pull out some metaphors - why the teen years are a river & behavior as an iceberg. Cynthia and I talk on the importance of authenticity with your teen, what authenticity means, & how to get better at it. Cynthia ends by sharing two concrete strategies for sitting with sensation.  Takeaways from the show The four pillars of right speech  The pause/the space  The teen years as a river  Choosing & getting better at authenticity  Sitting with sensation For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the second of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment.Takeaways from the show Reviewing the “why” of this series Natural consequences Personal awareness Nurturing relationship Becoming your most conscious self Getting curious around what’s behind behavior Powerful opportunities to grow relationship  Having no agenda but curiosity Punishment is a short term tool For show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Dana Dorfman is here today, and we’re talking all about parental anxiety. We talk on how it’s ingrained in us that education, achievement, and productivity are so important, which makes us anxious parents. We talk about how adolescents are dealing with a lot of stuff we didn’t - active shooter drills, the pandemic, constant social media & news. The pressure on our teens is real and accelerated, but there’s also some hope & inspiration there. Dr. Dorfman shares about her 8 parent anxiety reaction types and how we can use that info to do better.  Takeaways from the show Dr. Dana Dorfman’s new book: When Worry Works  Parental anxiety Generational divides & what adolescents are dealing with today   Not letting our narrative get in the way of our teen’s path  Achievement pressure 8 parent anxiety reaction types  When & how our anxiety can be helpful  Defining your values For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Excited to be revisiting this limited series on alternatives to punishment! Part one explores allow for things to unfold for our teens, validating feelings and offering support if needed/asked for.See full show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/alternatives-to-punishment-part-1/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices