The Way You Show Up

What does it mean to be on the same page spiritually as a couple? How can you work towards becoming and staying spiritually attracted to each other as you move through your marriage?For couples who share a christian faith, how can you work together to stay spiritually connected to each other and God?Even if you’re not a Christian, this episode is still valuable and has important truth that you can apply to your own life to see amazing change. Join Kimberly and Dr. Kimberling as they discuss spiritual attraction and specific ways you can use it to strengthen your marriage to make it the best it can be.Today’s Speaker: Dr. Kim KimberlingDr. Kim Kimberling is a Christian counselor that’s been working with couples for over 35 years. He holds a Ph.D. and a Doctor of Ministry in Christian Counseling. Dr. Kim is President and co-founder of Awesome Marriage. Awesome Marriage helps thousands of couples build an awesome marriage. Awesome Marriage WebsiteAwesome Marriage PodcastYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!What you’ll learn:What a spiritually healthy marriage looks likeHow prayer can impact your marriageWays to spiritually strengthen your relationshipHow to focus on your spiritual attraction in a chaotic worldEpisode 95 - 3 Ways to Grow Spiritually in Your Relationship with Dr. Kim KimberlingI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Grief is defined as the conflicting feelings caused by the change or end of a pattern of behavior.  The past 2 years have left a lot of us in a state of languishing. We're stuck in a middle place between grief and normalcy. The pandemic in many ways remains a grief situation and we need to treat it as such. There are so many areas of grief that sometimes we don't label it grief. And we need to be aware of the myth of closure and ambiguous loss in times of change. Join Kimberly and David Mathews as they talk about how to work out the grief we all share and climb out of the pits most of us have been in.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Although we wish every marriage could be saved, we know that it's not the reality for some people. Divorce is hard and no one should go through it alone. Today's episode is with Julie Beckerman,  a High Conflict Relationship Coach. She chats about how hard divorce can be difficult, especially with children involved. Julie provides insight on how we can communicate better with our spouse when conflict is high and emotions are strong when going through a divorce.  Please share this episode with anyone struggling with communication with their ex-spouse or, anyone that has kids going through a difficult divorce. Today's Speaker: Julie Beckerman, High Conflict Relationship CoachDivorce isn’t easy, and mine was certainly no exception. In 2014, after 10 years of marriage, with the decision to get divorced, I began the most difficult, scary, confusing, angering, and liberating journeys of my life:I navigated the waters of co-parenting, being a stay-at-home-mom, changing friendships, lawyers and courtrooms, living in the same house with my ex, relationships with ex-in-laws, dating, my ex getting remarried, going back to work, moving to a new home, new school for my daughter, new job, starting a new career, a new life…With the help of a solid support system, I began to see this as not just a challenge to get through, which it certainly was, but also an opportunity that had only just begun.I’m a Certified Professional Coach from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching, as well as a certified career counselor from New York University.I have experience and training in Dialectic Behavior Therapy, Effective Communication, and Mindfulness techniques with a background working in business and Human Resources.I have experience navigating the transitions of divorce and dealing with the loss of a loved one, addiction, and health & fitness.Julie's Website: https://aspiretogrowth.com/ Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You’ll Learnhow to have a great co-parenting relationship how to evoke emotions within your kids and your ex to lean into curiosity with your kids that you need to speak positively about your ex-spouse when speaking to your kidsEpisode 93 - How To Coparent With Someone That Is Making You Crazy, with Julie BeckermaI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Mindfulness is the ability to be fully present and aware of where you are and what you are doing. It's so easy to get distracted and overwhelmed with the chaos around us but practicing mindfulness may just be the hidden gem to happiness!In this podcast, you will learn the research behind mindfulness and gain an understanding of how mindfulness can benefit you in four key areas- Mind, Brain, Body, and Behaviors.Listen to today's episode to learn ways to apply mindfulness to your everyday life, start dealing with your emotions, be present, and disconnect from distractions.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Mentioned: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1533210108329862You’ll LearnWhat mindfulness isA quick mindfulness practice5 Ways to integrate mindfulness into your everyday lifeHow mindfulness affects your mind, body, brain, and behaviorsHow mindfulness helps with PIESEpisode 92 - Learn How to Cultivate A Mindfulness Practice in Your Life with Kimberly Beam HolmesI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

What does it mean to live a life of gratitude?  Gratitude is a state of being.  It isn't more money, fame, or success. It's not a perfect body, the best Instagram pictures, or the most followers on any social platform. It's none of the things that we go crazy trying to achieve on a day-to-day basis.  What really can make us happier in our lives, is how grateful we are for what we have. To bring it a little closer to home, it's how grateful you are in your life with the things that you have that can ultimately make you happier. Gratitude is one of the best things that people can begin to focus on in order to become unshackled from toxic emotions.In today's episode, we are going to talk about how to be grateful and express gratitude.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll LearnHow being grateful can make you more attractiveActivities to help you create an attitude of gratitudeHow to be joy-filled NOW, not later.Episode 91 - How To Rewire Your Brain Using Gratitude, with Kimberly Beam HolmesI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Relationships are so important—especially the relationship we have with ourselves. In this episode, Kimberly speaks with Veronica Grant, a Love and Life Coach specializing in helping people do deep work to create deep love in relationships. Veronica shares her story of struggling with self-image and feeling like her worth was within other people rather than herself. We can all relate to this episode, especially in the current social-media-obsessed culture we live in. Veronica shares tips on showing up in relationships and ensuring you don't go backward with finding validation within your partner, spouse, or friends. If you lack confidence or struggle with self-worth, you are going to love this episode. Veronica dives in deeper to help you understand where certain feelings or thoughts are coming from and things you can do to uncover the emotions. Today's Speaker: Veronica Grant, Love and Life CoachVeronica is a Love + Life Coach, host of the popular Love Life Connection podcast, and author of the forthcoming book You Are Meant for Love. She helps successful women who feel like they have it all except love, find it.Veronica's work has been featured in O the Oprah Magazine, Bustle, Your Tango, and countless podcasts, including Let It Out and Mind Body Musings.As someone who struggled in love herself and was tired of unsolicited and usually patronizing dating advice (even if well-meaning), she created the resources she wished were available before she met her husband. Through her binge-worthy podcast, free challenges, and coaching, she's here to shake up how you find love, even in our swipe right, swipe left world.A few of her guilty pleasures include: psychoanalyzing TV + real-life famous couples, hiking with her husband and pup, and sushi everything.Find the book and assessment here: https://veronicagrant.com/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamhI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

What is social media doing to our brains? It may be affecting your life more than you realize. In this episode, Kimberly talks with Chris Martin about social media, how it started, where it's going, and what you can expect about the Metaverse. Chris Martin is the author of Terms Of Service: The Real Cost of Social Media. What problem does Instagram, Facebook, TikTok solve in our lives? Chris shares how social media is affecting our brains and everyday life. You'll learn why social media is taking us further apart instead of closer together and why you might have an unhealthy relationship with the social internet. This episode is packed with a lot of information and one that you'll want to save and listen to again. So please share this episode with your family and friends and talk to your kids about it. Today's Speaker: Chris Martin, Author of Terms of Service: The Cost of Social Media Chris Martin is a content marketing editor at Moody Publishers and a social media, marketing, and communications consultant. He has led social media strategy at Lifeway Christian Resources and advised some of the foremost Christian leaders and authors on digital content strategy. He writes regularly at www.TermsOfService.social. Chris lives outside Nashville, TN, with his wife, Susie, their daughter, Magnolia, and their dog, Rizzo.Terms of Service BookFollow Chris on Twitter Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll LearnLearn what role social media plays in your lifeLearn how social media affects you in ways you may not realizeHow to push back against the hold the internet has on your mind and your heartEpisode 89 - The Real Cost of Social Media with Chris MartinI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Kimberly is joined by a very special guest, her husband, Rob! This is the second time Rob has joined the podcast so if you missed the first episode, make sure you go back and listen to the episode about Introverts vs. Extroverts. In this episode, they both discuss what intellectually attracted them to each other when they first met. You will hear Rob and Kimberly answer questions from the listeners about working on intellectual attraction with your spouse when you have no interest in the same hobbies or likes. This is a fun episode with lots of laughs and great perspectives from both spouses on being more intellectually attractive. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentListen to the episode with Rob Holmes about Introverts vs. ExtrovertsThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnhow to become more intellectually attractive to your spousewhat you can do to have some common interestswhat you can do to gain self-confidence Episode 87 - Staying Attracted (Intellectually) To Each Other I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

We are continuing with our PIES series, and this month we are talking all about Intellectual Attraction. In this episode, Kimberly shares what intellectual attraction is and provides ideas of what you can do to become more intellectually attractive. You are going to learn: - how to become a fascinating person- how to focus your curiosity on bettering yourself- why you should continue to be curious about your spouse and genuinely interested in the things that they enjoy - what kind of things you can do to help you learn and grow as a personPlease don't forget to rate the podcast and leave a review. Also, please share this with your friends! Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentListen to the episode with Dr. John Gottman Thanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnhow to become a fascinating personhow to focus your curiosity on bettering yourselfwhy you should continue to be curious about your spouse and genuinely interested in the things that they enjoyEpisode 87 - Becoming More Intellectually AttractiveI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

*Note - this episode is all about sex so pop in your headphones especially if you have small children around.  In this final episode of our physical attraction series, we talk about sexual intimacy with your spouse and how to strengthen your relationship inside and outside the bedroom. Kimberly speaks with Victoria Sotelo, a marriage and family therapist specializing in sex therapy. Victoria talks about experiencing the senses to have pleasures and connecting with the essence of who you are. You will learn what you can do to shift the mindset and carve out a space for curiosity, newness, and intrigue to show up in your life in a place where you don't think it can exist. This is an important episode if you feel disconnected from your spouse and feel like you want to get that spark back. You'll want to take notes and save this episode for later. Today's Speaker: Victoria Sotelo, Marriage and Family TherapistVictoria Sotelo brings a heart of compassion and passionate energy for cultivating healthy Marriages and Sexual Intimacy to her clients. She practices from an integrative model, incorporating the Biological-Psychological-Social-& Spiritual aspects of her client’s lives. Her excellent listening skills and problem-solving methods, along with her clinical experience, position her as a therapist with a balanced approach.   Victoria has lectured to groups and professionals on ways to deepen sexual intimacy, and improve the quality of life, both in marriage, family, and personal growth potential.  Victoria has a private practice in both Midtown East & Inwood area, and she serves as a Board Member of the New York State Division for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Website:  https://www.sotelotherapy.com/ PIES Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnthe importance of giving your spouse verbal affirmationswhy you need to stay curious in your marriage and ask questionshow to approach your spouse to be more sexualEpisode 86 - Cultivating Healthy Marriages and Sexual Intimacy with Victoria Sotelo I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes