The Way You Show Up

Yasmine Williams Woods became a mother at the age of 14. After being a single mother for years, it was a difficult adjustment to blend her life with another’s when she got married. Now a mother of four, she is on a mission to help women lead lives that prove that love conquers all. She talks about the importance of intentionally making time for God in her busy life. It’s not always feasible to start your day by spending time reading scripture but prioritize beginning your day with Him and worshiping when you can. How can we be doing more courageous acts of love for the people we have in our lives?How are you making it intentional to spend time with Jesus?What does it look like to live in total submission to God's way, His will, and His purpose for your life?Mentions:Yasmine's website: https://yasminewilliamswoods.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yasminewilliamswoodsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/yasmine_williamswoods/Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@yasmine_williamswoodsI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

How can you stay calm when everything around you honestly just sucks?Does it feel like all hell is breaking loose around you? In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares tips for how to stay calm during chaos.Until next week, stay strong.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Sex is one of the ways we stay attracted to each other in a marriage. Dr. Corey Allan found in a study that the higher your level of religious dogma, the less sexually satisfied you are because of the shame and guilt associated with it. This early discovery led him to be a voice that helps couples discuss and frame conversations around sex and marriage. He believes if you can't talk about what you want to do or about sex with the person you wish to have it with, you're not ready to have it yet.Dr. Allan joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to discuss how you can walk beside your child, helping them create their own informed decision about sex based on your family’s morality. They talk about the effects of porn on a relationship, the introduction of sex robots, and how social media and tech have led to a digitized life to protect oneself from rejection in this week’s episode of It Starts With Attraction.PIES Takeaways:Ask yourself "Would I want to have sex with me?"Great sex is about being your full self and staying yourself throughout.Communication is key!Mentions:Dr. Allan's site - https://smrnation.com/Naked Marriage book - https://amzn.to/3G9mpVmSubscribe to the Sexy Marriage Radio podcast: https://smrnation.com/subscribe/I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Did you know that I was once ADDICTED to Crossfit?It's true. And I ran myself into the ground. I hurt myself physically, to the point that I still have lasting effects from that time in my life. There are great, impactful, and life-changing ways to work on your PIES but they also have to be mindful, careful, and life-giving ways. Today I'm offering some advice on some different ways you can work on your PIES without overdoing it or sacrificing the long-term goal of a lifetime of attractiveness for short-term gain.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

This week I was joined by Christa Hardin. Christa is the host of the Enneagram + Marriage podcast, and I am so happy to talk to her when I have the chance.Christa gives us a brief rundown of each of the enneagram types and then we got into a discussion about how interactions play out with different groupings. It's SO fascinating to think about all the ways we interact with each other in these archetypal ways.It's important to remember that, while they aren't the final word, we can use tools like the enneagram to have a better understanding of ourselves and our spouse.PIES Takeaways:It's important to understand ourselvesEvery pairing has its strengthsYou are who you are today because someone has lifted you up and formed youEnneagram institute - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/rheti?gclid=CjwKCAjw9-KTBhBcEiwAr19ig-K0GFTzPnET9G83GhFt28dy2Y7r3rySj8UnKTV7llOvOJZZ1CGnRhoCzBgQAvD_BwEHer website - https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/Truity Test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-testKatherine Fauvre Tests: https://www.katherinefauvre.com/Free Resources: https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/general-4I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Ben Higgins, of The Bachelorette and The Bachelor fame, joins us on our 100th episode of It Starts With Attraction! Ben discusses why he joined the reality TV shows and how he was looking to shake up what he felt was a boring and uninteresting life. He talks about his battles with addiction, feeling lonely and unseen, and how difficult it is to stand for your values when questioned about why you believe them. Finally, Ben reminds us that we've all experienced pain and have a story worth sharing.What can you do to surround yourself with a community of people who will support and encourage you to do what you should do with your life?In what ways do you work on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction?When you have a belief and value that is different from the world, society, and the people you're with, are you going to stand firm on it?Mentions:Generous CoffeeBen's InstagramAlone in Plain Sight BookHope Still Wins PodcastDr. John Gottman EpisodeI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Couples don't have great conversations about sex. We all know we want to do it but very few of us know how to talk about it. Adam and Karissa from the Young Married Couples podcast lets us know how to begin talking about it and some pitfalls we might see along the way.Website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.comSocial links:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYivgxbFI_VKkA4milNsr5A/featuredFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dearyoungmarriedcoupleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dearyoungmarriedcouple/?hl=enLink to Sexpectations card deck on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3MtcDiSFree PDF "10 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life"www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/sexpectationsI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

This week Kimberly chats with Laura Heck from Marriage Therapy Radio. Laura is a Gottman Certified therapist in Washington State. Of course, they talk about communication but also self-care, the top issues Laura sees as a marriage and family therapist, how to work on yourself, conflict...all the things!Laura sees a lot of couples living as "roommates" and having a lack of intimacy, and how to add more to your marriage. Intimacy fades with time because it's the assumption that you know your spouse already.They also talk about the Gottman 5-1 ratio. For every 1 negative thing, there should be 5 positive things to counteract them. Having emotional intelligence and understanding when your spouse took what you may have said or done negatively, and correcting it, is vital to a healthy marriage.Everyone has blind spots and Laura suggests asking the people closest to you that aren't your spouse to help you find them. And because you want to be your best self, be ready for the hard truths and tell them "thank you." when you're done.PIES TakeawaysBe an interesting person/work on your PIES - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/3468169There is always hope, even in difficult situationsWatch your body language and tone with your spouse - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/4938500I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

This week I sat down with my husband Rob to talk about spiritual attraction.We get into how we met, what attracted us to each other, and how to have discourse with friends and family that may not agree with you 100%. We believe people who model what they say and it's up to us to make sure that we're living in line with our beliefs and values.Don't weaponize your beliefs and valuesDon't judge othersLean into your curiosityAssess your own valuesFind people to hold you accountableI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, I'm just going to share some things from my life with you. What spiritual attraction means to me, how it has helped me, and continues to shape me into the person I'm becoming.Spiritual attraction, at its core, is all about living in line with the beliefs and value system that you have. We find it attractive when there are people who have strong beliefs and values and stand up for them. Spiritual attraction is important. I would say it's more important than physical attraction for a long-term relationship. And it's right up there with emotional attraction because it is the core of who we are — our spiritual attraction, beliefs, and values form our character, integrity, and purpose. Until next week, stay strong.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes