Shameless Leadership

Dr. Omolara Thomas Uwemedimo is a Shameless Mom and a board certified pediatrician of over 15 years and an academic faculty member for over a decade, providing coaching and mentorship programs for physicians of color. She is also the CEO of Strong Children Wellness, an innovative telemedicine practice that addresses both unmet health and social needs for families in New York and the founder of Melanin, Medicine & Motherhood, an organization focused on empowering and supporting the personal & professional development of Black women physicians, especially mothers, to achieve their vision and build their capacity to support other women of color.Her career has been defined by a passion for social justice, an advocate, a professor & researcher committed to ensuring all mothers and children, no matter their race, income, or background have an equal right to thrive. She has worked as a global physician in NYC, Boston, and in 12 countries across sub-Saharan Africa, Asia, and the Caribbean. Dr. Uwemedimo is a national speaker to both physician and community audiences in the fields of overcoming implicit bias and racism in healthcare settings, inclusion, and equity for women physicians in healthcare and health equity for marginalized children and families, including those from immigrant and Black communities. She has been featured in several media outlets including Essence.com, Newsweek, Reuters, NPR, and CNN Espanol.Listen in to hear Omolara share: Her experience being a physician in New York during COVID-19 Why she made the professional shift to serve female doctors of color The importance of vulnerability, community, and confidence as the antidote to burnout Why she decided to create a community specifically for women physicians of color Links mentioned: Connect with Dr. Omolara Check out the MPOWERED Collective Melanin Medicine Motherhood Podcast Omolara on Instagram Melanin Medicine Motherhood Facebook Group Omolara on Twitter Thank you to our sponsors: Built Bar: Built Bar is offering my listeners 20% off your first purchase! Go to Builtbar.com and enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to receive 20% off your first order!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Leadership is typically a series of imperfect action steps. Leaders tumble, fall, and crash just like anyone else.But when a leader tumbles, falls or crashes, there is an audience watching to see how they will stand back up, pick up the pieces, and put things back together. When a leader crashes and harm is done to others in the wake of their errors, people watch even more closely. When harm is done, trust is eroded. Trust is broken between the leader and anyone who was harmed, obviously. But trust is also broken between the leader and anyone who is watching if the bystanders don’t see the leader take active steps to rebuild trust with those who were harmed. Those harmed hope to be held. Those watching hope to see the leader offer protection to those hurting. This is how everyone can recover and heal and know that they are in a safe community.Positive leadership looks like owning your mistakes and owning when you’ve caused harm without providing excuses or placing blame on others.Positive leadership looks like having uncomfortable conversations publicly.Positive leadership looks like recognizing your blind spots and committing to active and ongoing learning so you can see them more fully.Positive leadership looks like inviting feedback when you have caused harm and engaging in conversation with those who are hurting.Positive leadership looks like protecting people in your community from abuse and trauma.Positive leadership looks like pushing pause on the day-to-day parts of your work to rebuild trust where you have broken trust.We are all leaders - whether you are leading families, PTAs, soccer teams or companies. You are a leader.You are going to screw up. You will crash. You will cause harm.How will you rebuild trust after you cause harm?Listen in to learn how leaders can do better when they cause harm, especially as it pertains to race and protecting people of color in your community. This episode is inspired by a leader who recently crashed and then opted not to protect those harmed. A community became fractured and the erosion of trust was massive. This example is a powerful example of how leaders, especially white leaders, need to do so much better. Women of color to follow on Instagram (follow these women, buy their books, listen to their podcasts, and support their work): Austen Channing Brown Rachel Cargle Layla Saad Rebekah Borucki Ijeoma Oluo Elizabeth Dialto Books: Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla Saad This Will Be My Undoing by Morgan Jerkins How To Be An Antiracist by Ibram X Kendi So You Want To Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo I’m Still Here: Black Dignity In A World Made For Whiteness by Austen Channing Brown White Fragility by Robin Diangelo   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Meagan Francis is a mom of five kids ages 11 - 22, author, writer, and co-host of The Mom Hour podcast. She regularly speaks and coaches women and moms on building sane and satisfying lives, embracing creativity, and reinventing their careers.Meagan has been momming for her entire adulthood, having her first child in her early twenties. She has been writing, blogging, and reinventing herself online for 15 years. She has learned a lot of lessons along the way. Her energy is infectious and her perspectives are so refreshing. Listen in to hear Meagan share: How current times are taking us back to Newbornland How she’s finding and creating joy in unpredictable times How she went from blogging to podcasting (and whether you should start a blog or a podcast!) How moms can find happiness and satisfaction in spite of the media telling us that motherhood is hard, overwhelming, and frustrating Why she is actively opting out and rejecting the current COVID climate around homeschooling The value of embracing constant reinvention Links mentioned: Connect with Meagan and The Mom Hour Podcast Learn about Meagan’s other podcasts The Mom Hour on IG Meagan on IG Thank you to our sponsors: Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to Kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout.  StoryWorth: Get started right away without the need for shipping by going to StoryWorth.com/shameless. You’ll get $10 off your first purchase!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many of you have shared that the biggest and most relentless challenges of this time are finding motivation and personal time in this current version of Groundhogs Day.It is definitely challenging to motivate when you don’t know what’s coming, you feel you have very little control over your future, and you have no space to think through what you want your life to look like right now.I know one of my biggest challenges during this time has been the constant closeness of my family.  Don’t get me wrong, there has been some magic in this. But also, it’s a LOT. And it’s never-ending. I was pretty accustomed to (and appreciative of) my quiet days working solo from home. There is nothing solo about my days anymore. Yes, I’m grateful to be working, but it’s overwhelming and exhausting to work full time with a child and a dog constantly by my side. I know many of you are doing this with more than one child by your side. I bow down….During this time, we must create and fiercely protect small spaces of personal time. This will tremendously help us find motivation and stay motivated. I have been creating little pockets of personal time that break up my day and really help keep me moving forward with a decent attitude. Listen in to hear exactly how you can find more motivation by creating pockets of personal time each day.Thank you to our sponsors: Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30-day free trial and 50% off your next month!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Patrice Washington is a Shameless Mom to a 12-year-old daughter, an award-winning author, transformational speaker, hope-restoring coach, and media personality. And she is committed to redefining the term wealth for our generation.Patrice got her start as your favorite personal finance expert, “America’s Money Maven”, having tremendous success with her “mindset approach” to personal finance. A licensed real estate professional by her sophomore year in college and a real estate and mortgage broker at 21 years old, Patrice took her boutique brokerage from the dining room of her 700-square foot condo to a 7-figure real estate empire by just 25. After losing her fortune in the Great Recession, she dedicated her life to not just rebuilding and reinventing her own life but helping the masses move from debt management to money mastery. She has since expanded her brand and mission, encouraging women to chase purpose, not money.Patrice is committed to redefining the term “wealth”, using its original meaning, “well-being”. She encourages women to have “wealth” in all aspects of their lives by pursuing their purpose, being fulfilled, and earning more without ever chasing money. Through her teachings, Patrice empowers women to look at life through the lens of abundance and opportunity, instead of lack and scarcity.As the founder of Redefining Wealth and The Earn More Money Movement for Women, Patrice has built a thriving community of high-achieving women committed to creating a powerful life vision--in their careers, home, health, and personal finances.Every week, millions of listeners have tuned in to her weekly segment, Redefining Wealth with Patrice Washington as part of a top-rated and nationally syndicated radio show. Patrice’s podcast, The Redefining Wealth Podcast with Patrice Washington, which takes a deeper dive into her radio segment content, launched in 2017 with overwhelming success. Her popular podcast was recently featured on Forbes.com as one of "15 Inspiring Podcasts for Professionals of Every Stripe".Listen in to hear Patrice share: Why 2020 is her year of obedience How she has overcome being known as “the Money Maven” vs being Reagan’s mom Why it’s ok to suck at cooking - and to stop trying to make it better How to focus on what you want vs what you don’t want 3 pillars to redefining wealth How our self-image holds us back in all areas of our lives The connection between physical clutter and mental chaos in our lives How to truly live a life of purpose - on your own terms Links mentioned: Website: Patrice Washington Podcast: Redefining Wealth Instagram: @SeekWisdomPCW Twitter: @SeekWisdomPCW Facebook: @SeekWisdomPCW Youtube: Patrice Washington: SeekWisdomPCW Thank you to our sponsors: Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30-day free trial and 50% off your next month! Ooak Dental: Purchase at Amazon.com available NOW. Laurel Springs: Register your child at LaurelSprings.com/shameless today and receive a waived registration fee.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we get deeper into pandemic life, there is more and more need to take a critical look at what’s working for you, what’s not working, and what beneficial changes could be made during this uncertain time.Along these lines, there are a few things you may benefit from quitting. Years ago, I did an episode called, “Be a Quitter.” I’m a long time fan of quitting things that don’t serve me. In fact, I can’t stand supposed inspirational quotes that suggest we should not be quitters. I think we should frequently assess what’s no longer working for us and quit those things quickly and without hesitation, in order to make space for the things that serve us, promote good physical and mental health, allow for appropriate boundaries with others, and keep us evolving in the directions we want to grow and thrive.As you have settled into new routines over the past 6 weeks, it is likely that you’ve also settled into some routines that aren’t optimal. Listen in to this episode to assess where you’re at, what’s not working, and what you might consider quitting in order to maintain optimal mental health as you continue to move through this time. Thank you to our sponsor: Kosmatology: Kosmatology has a great offer for our listeners: for any first-time purchasers, you receive 15% off. To get 15% off your first order, go to kosmatology.com​ and use code shameless at checkout.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

RB Fast is an activist, leader, envelope pusher, magic maker, and mother of a child who is creative, brave, and transgender.I asked RB to come on this show because I wanted to have a parent of a transgender child share with us what parenting can look like when there are major shifts around a child’s identity - shifts that the rest of the world might not understand or might not accept. When RB and I first started talking about doing this interview, she said she had to talk to her son about it. She wanted him to fully consent to this conversation - as well as set any boundaries he needed. RB also set boundaries around this conversation, as you’ll hear us talk about. This is such a beautiful and powerful example of sharing someone’s story in order to help others more clearly and deeply understand something, while also protecting someone’s boundaries.  Listen in to hear RB share: Why she gave up her business to go back to a traditional job and why sometimes seemingly moving backward is actually moving forward How she creates boundaries around sharing a story of parenting a trans child and protecting her child at the same time How to practice curiosity over judgement if your child may be LGBTQ+ How parents can raise children who are strong allies Signing up for unconditional love couched in a universe of uncertainty Links Mentioned: Join The Shameless Mom Con Collective SMA Ep 256 with RB: The Advocacy Path RB on IG Thank you to our sponsors: Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Built Bar: Built Bar is offering my listeners 10% off your first purchase! Go to Builtbar.com and enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to receive Ooak Dental: Purchase at Amazon.com available NOW.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The life you are living right now is not normal. It is far from it. Pretending this is normal is dangerous. We can’t afford to normalize this because we would risk losing our compassion, our fighting spirit, and the opportunity to innovate and create solutions that are desperately needed right now. If we normalize this, we risk bypassing our grief and our suffering. We risk not learning critical lessons in order to know better and do better next time we are faced with a similar crisis.Right now, we are not ok. While we may be counting our blessings and feeling lucky and grateful in many ways, we are not ok. We get to be both. Two conflicting emotions get to exist:Not ok and lucky.Sad and hopeful.Tired and cheerful.Scared and joyful.Overwhelmed and grateful.Isolated yet overly connected and enmeshed with every member of our household (am I right??)We are not ok and we will not normalize this, but we do need to create a sense of normalcy in our everyday lives.Listen in to learn 4 ways to create normalcy when life is anything but normal. Links Mentioned:Join The Shameless Mom Con Collective: shamelessmomcon.com Thank you to our sponsors: Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Natalie Hixson is a Shameless Mom, wife, auntie and certified professional life coach who helps discouraged moms overcome destructive anger and burnout. After learning to thrive in motherhood and process anger in a healthy way, Natalie became convicted to help other moms avoid those dark years of motherhood by helping them to appreciate and process their anger, learn to identify their triggers, and ultimately control their reaction to those triggering situations. She enjoys her own motherhood journey by hanging with her husband Mike and their three daughters in beautiful Bozeman, Montana. She recharges with Jesus, coffee and adventures with her family like skiing in the winter, hiking and swimming in the summer and traveling year-round!Natalie was extremely transparent and generous in sharing her experience with destructive anger in motherhood in this episode. So many of you have reached out to me asking to talk more about anger and I couldn’t be more grateful to Natalie for taking this DEEP dive into this topic with me. Listen in to hear Natalie share: What it was like to grow up in an angry household How her anger got out of control, destructive and dangerous in motherhood How she overcame destructive anger The difference between healthy anger and destructive anger How to use “calm down time” to re regulate emotions during angry moments How to teach your kids about anger through your own anger management Why you need to validate your anger and/or mom guilt How to process anger in safe and healthy ways Why conflict in your household can be healthy and productive How to own your anger with your kids Links mentioned: Join the Shameless Mom Con Collective Connect with Natalie Natalie on FB Natalie on IG Natalie on Pinterest Get Natalie’s Trigger Tracker Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Right now, my listeners get an extended 14-day FREE trial membership to OPENFIT when you text SHAMELESS to 505050. EveryPlate: Check out delicious meal delivery options at EveryPlate.com. Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes we forget that we have power. So much power. That no one and no circumstances can take from us.We forget that we have the power to make choices, the power to decide (and upgrade) our thoughts, the power to manage and adjust expectations, the power to pause before reacting, the power to find joy in the middle of deep sadness, the power to build something when everything around us is seemingly falling apart.When we are in pain, it can be hard to find our power.But what if your pain is a prerequisite for your power?What if it is the pain that pushes you to reach in, lean in, own your power, and stand back up?Your power is abundant. It is limitless. It is expansive and constantly evolving.Right now you are likely in pain in one way or another, or perhaps in many ways. Know that from that pain you have the power to:* Manage and upgrade your thoughts* Determine your actions* Demonstrate love, compassion and kindness* Make choices that serve you and your family* Set boundaries* Choose to be purposeful and intentional* Restore hope* Connect with others in new ways* Be creative in how you operate in new norms* Adapt to circumstances that initially felt overwhelmingly uncomfortable* Change you see the world* Create new guidelines for how you want to live* Grow into new ways of being that feel positive and purposeful* Channel joy in the smallest moments of the day* Nurture relationships in new ways* Thrive under conditions that would normally seem oppressiveI want you to look at the verbs that kick off each of the above examples of power:* Manage* Determine* Demonstrate* Make* Set* Choose* Restore* Connect* Be* Adapt* Change* Create* Grow* Channel* Nurture* ThriveThese are all actions you are capable of, actions you have power over. What forms of power will you choose today? How will you harness your pain and turn it into something that allows you to KEEP GOING, to KEEP SHOWING UP, to KEEP SHINING? Listen in for more guidance to tap into your innate power during hard times.Links mentioned:Join the Shameless Mom Con CollectiveThank you to our sponsor: Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove.co/SHAMELESS you will get FREE FIVE PIECE cleaning set from Mrs. Meyer’s and Grove - in crisp scents like mint or rose - a THIRTY DOLLAR value! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove.co/SHAMELESS.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices