How to have Extraordinary Relationships

Send us Fan MailSophie is a senior Imago Clinic instructor, a global citizen, speaks multiple languages, and has a highly successful relationship. Lucy has also trained with her.She brings a fantastic energy to the room. Key points of the episode: ·       How she never expected to focus so much on sex, and why she does.·       How talking about the pain, never helps one to feel “hot and horny”·       Where she thinks the wounds come from.·       How people do not know what their sexual needs are – or express them badly if they do.·       The adaptive strategies we develop if our needs are not met.·       Spontaneous desire contrasted with responsive desire.·       How she wanted to reclaim her own sexuality which she had disconnected to.·       Sexual appreciation dialogues·       Curiosity. Connection. Capacity. Willingness.Reach out here:Slade.imago@icloud.comwww.sophieslade.com  Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailAnna Anderson is an established spiritual coach, and author, and has her own podcasts too. She empowers women to tune in and lead from their heart.Key points of the episode:  ·        How she guides people to do their own work and lead in Love·        How women come to her when they have "ticked the boxes" but are still not happy.·        How she teaches an inner connection of "I am" consciousness.....·        to find a life where we are self validating.·        How we are supposed to have all the good things, but not be defined by them.·        How we are all going through alchemical stages - "shedding the old to allow the new"·        Her story and where she came from we do not have to hit rock bottom.·        How growth happens. Reach out to Anna here: www.annaa.com Insta @iamannaanderson  Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailJeanne Byrd- from her website:I have been creating a safe space for men and women to transform their bodies and relationships since 2008. Using intuition, nutrition and transformative practice, I help my clients achieve results that were impossible with their old lifestyles and beliefs.My desire for you…I want to help you create a successful, soulful love life that matches your most intimate desire for partnership.I want to help you nourish and support your physical body so that you feel congruent and comfortable in your own skin, able to offer your heart and body to your Beloved as a gift, without shame or ambivalence.I want to help you catalyze heartbreak and suffering so that the people and experiences that informed you, no longer define you, or impact your future.I am a Senior Certified Calling in “The One” Coach and Facilitator, a Senior Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coach, a Certified INHC Institute of Integrative Nutrition Coach, and a Senior Certified Feminine Power Transformative Coach. I have over 10 years of transformative coaching experience and have successfully worked with hundreds of men, women and couples.Key points of the episode:·        How nutrition, yes nutrition is key to love relationships.·        How mood is the missing link - Food=Mood·        How stress and her eating was breaking her body down.·        How stress absolutely has an effect on our immune systems.·        And how self care is absolutely necessary.·        Bring ALL parts of yourself to the table.·        Why we struggle with self care.·        What the "Calling In The One" process is.·        How our patterns run us, but are ultimately not true.·        How as a child, we blame ourselves for other peoples behaviour.·        Films that portray happy healthy love. (Jeanne has a film background)·        A little on conscious uncoupling.Reach out to Jeanne here www.jeannebyrd.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailLynn Crilly is an author, counsellor and filmmaker but more importantly a mother, grandmother and has been married for 34 years!  Sam Crilly is an actress, a professional poet, a creative and co-creator of the Troublemuncher, an app that helps young people express their feelings.  Key points of the episode: ·        How the Troublemuncher and the poetry came into being.·        Samantha's  journey with anorexia and OCD.·        How the whole family and the local GP was very supportive.·        How the OCD manifests in Samamtha. (in a somewhat unusual way)·        How Lynn removed Samantha from all the mental health services and nursed her back to health - a true story of a mothers love....·        ...and how this helps Lynn serve her clients now.·        How the family dynamics were affected.If you would like to reach out to Lynn - please do so here: www.lynncrilly.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailLouisa Young is a writer and songwriter whose twelve novels include the award-winning ‘My Dear I Wanted to Tell You’ trilogy. She’s half of the children’s author Zizou Corder (with her daughter Isabel Adomakoh Young), and half of the band Birds of Britain (with Alex Mackenzie). She’s a Londoner, a former journalist, a singer, a feminist, a reader, and ‘a masterly storyteller’ –  The Washington Post.Her latest novel, Twelve Months And A Day, is published by Borough Press in June 2022. ‘A tale of two love stories with a supernatural twist, Twelve Months and a Day is poignant and sad as well as funny, and beautifully written and imagined. What if our beloveds lived on as ghosts and watched us grieve, what if they never really leave us, and what if some of these ghosts even meet?’ — Monique Roffey Her ‘beautiful’, ‘heartbreaking’. spectacular’, ‘unflinching’, ‘bruising’, ‘brilliant’, ‘honest as the morning after’ memoir, You Left Early: A True Story of Love and Alcohol, is out in paperback. She released her debut album, You Left Early, also about love, death and addiction, in 2018.Louisa has taught at Arvon, Skyros, Moniack Mhor, at Guardian Masterclasses, and for Birkbeck (University of London). She has been a Visiting Specialist Lecturer in Creative Non Fiction at the University of Kent at Canterbury. Key points of the episode:How she was depressed in her early years, and how she finally beat it and how life got better.How her (and many other) work worlds have changed so much over the years.Young children and their critique of her work!A close call with the IRA.Her thoughts on the riots (August 2024)What she will and wont write about and why."All about the approach, not about the topic"The difference betwen "fault" and "responsibility" and the need for tough love sometimes.Her new "romcom" book.... and a secret new project!Reach out on www.louisayoung.co.uk Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this interview a truly leading edge conversation with an extaordinary man Dr. Joe Kort - from his website:… I believe in finding new and constructive means of communication for couples so they can better understand their partners and use their relationships for mutual healing and fulfillment.Also - there is no shame in erotic orientation. As a heterosexual couple or individual, learn how to have a sex-positive attitude toward your sexual fantasies and minimize any shame you carry about your erotic interests. From the taboo topic of masturbation to more complex subjects such as emotional landscape and attachment, Dr. Joe Kort sheds light in the dark by sharing his more than thirty years experience in sex therapy. The key to happy, healthy sexuality is to not deny ones core erotic orientation.And - we live in a world that is deeply confused and conflicted about all matters sexual. If we talk about it at all it is often in whispers, “dirty” talk, or from a negative perspective such as sexual abuse, sexual trauma, or negative and incorrect messages we heard during our formative years.Key points of the episode:How he keeps up with the latest in therapy.A surprising revelation about sexuality.His claim to fame on Tik Tok!Surprising solutions to seemingly impossible sexual problems.The difference between sexual attraction and trauma urge.How there is no such thing as sexual addiction.The difference between sexual orientation and erotic orientation.New term -"Erotic empathy."How we anaesthetize our pain by eroticising it, and how it has nothing to do with sexual attraction.New sexual term - not a "top" or "bottom" but a "side"!New term - "Outercourse"A definition of "kinky" and the difference of a "fetish"Why auto-erotic asphyxiation is dangerous.How he has kept his 31 year old marriage to his husband fresh.The difference between "porn use" and "porn watching" and a new take on porn addiction.How his job is "To help you find an answer that is not even on this planet right now!"New term "Gaytricarhy"How we can be more sexually fluid at times.Reach out to learn more about this fascinating man on https://joekort.com/ Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailLiz is a a female leader with purpose - just like you (?)  Her mission is to lead a self-worth revolution for women leaders.​As women leaders, we often find ourselves battling the negative voices in our heads, questioning our worth, and doubting our abilities. But I'm here to tell you that it's time for a change. It's time to join the self-worth revolution and start leading from a place of authenticity, empowerment, and knowing the value that you bring.​​I work with organisations and individuals to enable transformation. Currently studying for an MSC in Applied Positive Psychology, Organisations and Leadership, I am a qualified and experienced Business & Leadership coach, Master NLP and Mindfulness practitioner. I'm also a multi-award-winning speaker , trainer and best-selling author.  My 121 sessions, training programmes & retreats bring the best of what I have learned in over 20 years researching personal development that I develop into tailored programmes. No more holding yourself back. No more hiding. It's time to shine your light so brightly - they're going to need shades!Key Points of the Episode:How the most important relationship is the one with yourself. Cliched that it is, the "journey" of it.How in the formative years of building her identity she thought there was something inherently wrong with herself.Her relatively recent diagnosis of PTSD.How a car crash was a wake up call to her victim mindset.How she decided that sharing her story was valuable at one point in her healing process, but now just the positive learnings from it.How who she really was/is a wonderful person, but she did not realise it!Her first (and a bit scary) experience of setting boundaries.A simple (if not easy) way to be responsible for our feelings.The "F" word - Forgiveness. A healthy definition.How the "Just Need To" school of thought does not work.How she feels she can help so many people.Reach out on www.liscashin.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailMadeleine has an unusual personal story which she uses to inspire and motivate others. A deeply moving and empowering story, as she discovers that life is about how a person chooses to recover from adversity.  We are not defined by what knocks us down – we are defined by how we get back up.Violently gang raped when she was thirteen years old, and raped three more times before the age of eighteen, Madeleine has experienced more trauma in her life than most ever will. Living in a state of shock and self-loathing, it took her years of struggle to confront the buried memories of that first attack and begin to undo the damage it wrought, as men continued to take advantage of her fragility in the worst possible way.Yet, after growing up with a burden no teenager should ever have to shoulder, she found the heart to carry out the best revenge plan of all; leading a fulfilling and happy life.  For Madeleine, forgiveness was the key.  True forgiveness takes genuine effort.  It takes a real desire to understand those who have done us so much harm.  It is the ultimate act of courage.Key Points of the episode:A terrible traumatic event that changed her life, and how she finally shifted and worked through it, and why.How she went through denial to acceptance.A healthy and powerful definition - and the power of forgiveness.How sexual violence is "virtually decriminalised" in the UK, and why.How she has broken up with her "friends" shame, anxiety and fear.How the responsibility for sexual violence does not lie with alcohol or dress code but squarely on the shoulders of the perpetrators.The power of the ripple effect when we share our storiesThe wonderful well being she has now, no trauma!A way out of her comfort zone- bit by bit!Reach out www.madeleineblack.co.uk Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailNick Breau is a multifaceted spiritual and personal development teacher, currently running two online programmes one being The Breakthrough Club, assisting people in many areas of their life - personal development, health and well being and spiritual growth. He brings his wealth of varied life experience to his current work - formerly in IT - he's gone from "computer hacker to people hacker!"How he realised that most people were not happy while working in tech.How he had a deep down feeling that life was supposed to be easier than this.How life was not “bad” but he felt that there was so much more to be experienced, and more happiness to be had.His own unique “internal” take on Law of Attraction and the successful process he uses with clients. A “radical” yet much easier and more delicious way of living.The source of, and how to heal problems.The difference between the “old” and “new” reality.The amazing synchronicities on how he met his current partner.How we all have the capacity to experience life in a different way, and how it is all inside of us!The two programmes he currently has. His take on the current state of the planet- and why.Reach out to Nick on www.nickbreau.comnick@nickbreau.comThurs "Loving your reality is they key to a lovely reality""Doing nothing is doing something!" Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailKat is currently based in the Caribbean, does "PR with heart", is the authour of "Creative Happy Work" (with a quote from Lucy in it!), she is deeply involved in cleaning up the shores and the seas, was involved with the homeless world cup, she podcasts,  creates wonderful meditations, and seems very chilled out!Key Points of the Episode:How connecting with your heart is the key to the truest relationship of all- with ourselves.The “Before” and “After” of when she started listening to her heartHow transformation comes step by stepHer experience of burnout“Grey Mind”- a definition“Red Mind” – a definition“Blue Mind” (the good one), a definition and an idea to get thereHow connecting to your “lifeforce” gives you the power in your lifeHow a client of hers ended up cooking for the “Black Eyed Peas” (not cooking Black Eyed Peas!!)A day in her lifeHow she tried to get her current partner to match her visualisations, and how her intuition stepped in with wise words!The work she does with the environment Fascinated? Reach out to her here: https://www.katbyles.comSupport the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/