Sex Chat for Christian Wives

What is sexual betrayal? Have you experienced it? Today, we address the sensitive topic of sexual betrayal with honesty and compassion, relying quite a bit on our in-house expert, Bonny Burns. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap for sponsoring this episode. Visit sharethesoap.com for quality bath and skin care products! And for August, take advantage of their special just for our listeners. Buy a Neroli Hydrosol Sprayer and get a FREE Anticipation Aromatherapy Roll-On. Put both items in your cart and use coupon code FCWNEROLI. From the Bible "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:28 "For I hate divorce," says the Lord, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence," says the Lord of armies. "So be careful about your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously." Malachi 2:16 (NASB) I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Jeremiah 3:8a John's disciples came and took his body and buried it. Then they went and told Jesus. When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. Matthew 14:12-13a Resources Strong Wives - Bonny's ministry Hope for Wives podcast: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Betrayal Trauma (healthline.com) The Sarah Society Hope Redefined A Partner's Dilemma (apsats.org) Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Episode 189: Myth-busting What You've Heard about Sex, with Gaye Christmus! - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: It's Impossible to Be Spiritually Mature, While Remaining Emotionally Immature by Peter Scazzero The Search For Significance: Seeing Your True Worth Through God's Eyes by Robert McGee Bonny's Heading to Australia & New Zealand! 9/6–9/7 - https://www.crossview.com.au/ 9/14, 9/19 - https://www.prbc.org.au/ 9/17 - https://www.newheartbaptist.com/ 9/20–9/21 - https://genesisgc.com.au/ Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about the power of words to foster friendship and overflow into your bedroom. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

The gang's all together again! Gaye Christmus joins us to talk about myths about sex, where they come from, and what truths wives need to embrace instead. Sponsor Married Dance – a Christian sex toy store From the Bible I slept but my heart was awake. Listen! My beloved is knocking: "Open to me, my sister, my darling, my dove, my flawless one. My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night." I have taken off my robe— must I put it on again? I have washed my feet— must I soil them again? Song of Songs 5:2–3 My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him. I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt. I opened for my beloved, but my beloved had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure. I looked for him but did not find him. I called him but he did not answer. Song of Songs 5:4–6 For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. Psalm 103:11-12 Then He said, "Go out, and stand on the mountain before the Lord." And behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind tore into the mountains and broke the rocks in pieces before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind; and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake; and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire a still small voice. 1 Kings 19:11-12 (NKJV) Resources CalmHealthySexy - Gaye's site Healthy Life Toolbox - Gaye's other site! Where Purity Culture Got It Wrong, Let's Get It Right - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too How to Read a Marriage Book - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 177: Addressing Sexual Pain, with Debby Wade Episode 185: Women's Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka Episode 182: Pray About Your Sex Life (Quickie) Episode 133: How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex Embrace a Sexual Growth Mindset - Hot, Holy & Humorous Our Webinars! Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor and is specifically for wives who have been sexually reluctant and are ready to work on improving their sexual engagement with their husbands. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

In this episode, we tackle listener questions—specifically how to feel more confident in the bedroom by choosing something positive to wear, how to find a therapist in your area or online, and how to mentally shift from seeing oral sex as "dirty" to something married couples can (if they both want) do. Sponsor Better Help – connect with a fellow believer online within our network of licensed, professional therapists. From the Bible Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. Song of Songs 2:3 Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits. Song of Songs 4:16 Resources Honoring Intimates Mentionables "Getting Ready for Sex," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design (Signed) by J. Parker Episode 179: Light Hearts & Lingerie Better Help Online Therapy Psychology Today – Find a Therapist, Psychologist, Counselor Therapist Directory – IITAP (CSAT & more) Find a Specialist – APSATS Trained Specialists Sexual Wholeness Inc – Find a Christian Sex Therapist Strong Wives – Bonny Burns Aldrich Ministries Coaching "Oral Sex," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design (Signed) by J. Parker Take a Step Toward Oral Sex | The Forgiven Wife The Back Door (my take on anal sex) • Bonny's Oysterbed7 5 Things You Should Know about Oral Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Oral Sex Webinar – Sex Chat for Christian Wives Some resources may be affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J Parker about the importance of speaking up about what you need to experience sexual pleasure. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka join us today for a candid conversation about women and their struggle with porn. If you struggle, this episode will help. But if you don't, listen anyway so that you can be there to support fellow women trying to break free. And be sure to check out the new resource, Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out Of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy, cowritten by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dr. Joy Skarka Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap, your go-to site for natural, quality bath and skin care products! And check out their special deal just for our listeners: free aloe gel with any order using coupon code FCWALOE. (Put gel in your cart, use the code, and the price for that will go to zero.) From the Bible It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1 I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Then they will follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. They will be my people, and I will be their God. Ezekiel 11:19–20 The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor. Isaiah 61:1–3 Resources Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery & Dr. Joy Skarka Joy Skarka – Creating Spaces to Set Christian Women Free from Porn and Sexual Shame Authentic Intimacy - Juli Slattery Fight the New Drug The First Time I Saw Porn - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 3: 50 Shades of Here-We-Go-Again Episode 154: Why We're Against Porn and Erotica Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart by Dannah Gresh & Dr. Juli Slattery Why Do Women Pose for Porn? - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Supernatural Sex: Spiritual Dimension of Libido for Low-Drive Wives • Bonny's Oysterbed7 (about yada') Episode 183: What Does God Have to Do with Our Sex Life Sex and the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery, Abby Ludvigson & Chelsea Nugteren Talking to Your Kids about Sex: No More One & Done - Hot, Holy & Humorous Start Talking to Your Kids about Sex by Julia Sandusky Who I Am in Christ by Neil T. Anderson Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

In this week's Sex Chat Quickie, guest Julie Sibert talks about the benefits of showering. Yes, showering! Stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage. Resources Episode 69: Shower Power Intimacy In Marriage Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage by Jeff Murphy & Julie Sibert

For many Christians, it can be difficult to think about God and sex at the same time. How present is God in our bedrooms? And how does knowing that He knows make us feel? We dive deep into what God has to do with our sex lives and how to think about and embrace His involvement. Sponsors Thanks to MarriedDance, a Christian sex toy store that's discreet and presents products in a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment. And be sure to check out J's upcoming cruise! From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. And there was evening, and there was morning—the sixth day. Genesis 1:27, 31 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17 I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10 Resources Has Christianity Hurt Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Why Doesn't the Church Talk about Song of Songs? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Augustine's Sex-Life Change: From Profligate to Celibate | Christianity Today Praying to Your Heavenly Father: Do You Have Daddy Issues? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Theology of the Body for Beginners by Christopher West The Names of God: 52 Bible Studies for Individuals and Groups by Ann Spangler Sex Addiction Recovery - Willow Tree Counseling (runs support groups for mental health professionals and other professionals that want another level of anonymity) The Sarah Society (has a group for pastors wives; start with the regular newcomer meeting) Christian Recovery, Counseling & Coaching | Prodigals International (runs both pastors and pastors wives group, both are free) Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

In this week's Sex Chat Quickie, Bonny Burns talks about praying for your sex life. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!