Sex Chat for Christian Wives

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about whether it's okay to use vibrators—and why it might be worth looking into. Click here for the Married Dance vibrator pilot program. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Jenn Schmidt from Intimate Covenant joins us to talk about overcoming sexual abuse and building a healthy, intimate sex life with your husband. NOTE: J totally got the episode number wrong! Not the first time she's been wrong. ~wink~ Sponsor Visit Better Help to get matched with a therapist who shares your values and can address your issues. Use code 4CW to get 10% off your first month. From the Bible Praise the Lord, my soul, and forget not all his benefits— who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's.The Lord works righteousness and justice for all the oppressed. Psalm 103:2-6 Now there is in Jerusalem near the Sheep Gate a pool, which in Aramaic is called Bethesda and which is surrounded by five covered colonnades. Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed. One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, "Do you want to get well?""Sir," the invalid replied, "I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me."Then Jesus said to him, "Get up! Pick up your mat and walk." At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked. John 5:2-9a For your Maker is your husband— the Lord Almighty is his name— the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. Isaiah 54:5 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 Resources Intimate Covenant Podcast Intimate Covenant Retreat Trapped by Trauma | The Forgiven Wife Mending the Remnants of Brokenness | The Forgiven Wife For My Sister Sexual Assault Survivors | The Forgiven Wife Your Wife Has Been Sexually Harassed - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 64: Healing from Sexual Abuse, with Mary DeMuth - Sex Chat for Christian Wives My Larry Nassar Testimony Went Viral. But There's More to the Gospel Than Forgiveness. - Christianity Today Triggers: What They Are, How They Form, and What to Do Box Breathing for Stress - CHI Health About EMDR Therapy - EMDR International Association The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Is Your Wife a Survivor? - Knowing Her Sexually Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about using kegel exercises to enhance your climax. Kegel exercises: A how-to guide for women, Mayo Clinic 1 Simple Thing to Turn on Sexual Arousal and Intensify Orgasm, OysterBed7 Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

It's the OG gang today talking about taking care of your sexual self—particularly the physical aspect of our female sexuality. Take a listen! Sponsor We still 🩷💜🩷 Share the Soap and know you will too! They're currently offering 25% off geranium hydrosol spray, plus get a FREE aloe & goat milk lotion premium sample when using code FCWA all thru the month of April. From the Bible Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19–20 Resources Episode 109: Your Sexual Self Screening for Cervical Cancer | Cervical Cancer | CDC (with Pap smear recommendations) Sliquid Splash Gentle Feminine Wash - Married Dance Finding a Good Gynecologist - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 10: Tending Your Garden Sex After a Hysterectomy - Part 1: The Basics | The Forgiven Wife Sex After a Hysterectomy – Part 2: The Aftermath | The Forgiven Wife Sex After a Hysterectomy - Part 3: Your New Sex Life | The Forgiven Wife Barbie movie – Barbie meets an old woman Episode 122: Self-Care for Wives Feet and Sex • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Still Becoming One | Brad & Kate Aldrich What Makes You Feel Sexy? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Hint Water and Body Armor This Is Your Brain on Birth Control: How the Pill Changes Everything by Sarah Hill Episode 149: Your Body, Your Health, and Your Sex Life Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about how initiating sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

On her book's launch day, J. Parker hosts three fellow higher desire wives—Tara Buchanan, Julie Sibert, and Tammy Hopkins—for a special roundtable on when she wants sex more than he does. NOTE: Please forgive the not-so-great audio at times in this episode. We did our best without the usual professional equipment. Sponsor Check out J. Parker's new book, The Higher Desire Wife, now available wherever books are sold! From the Bible I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10 Resources The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker The Higher Desire Wife - Baker Book House (best US price) Behind Our Smiles podcast, with Tara & Joe Buchanan Intimacy in Marriage – Julie Sibert Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage by Jeffrey Murphy & Julie Sibert Higher Desire Wife Community The Marriage Bed (mentioned by Tammy) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about how kegel exercises help your sexual pleasure. Kegel exercises: A how-to guide for women, Mayo Clinic 1 Simple Thing to Turn on Sexual Arousal and Intensify Orgasm, OysterBed7 Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Phylicia Masonheimer joins us to discuss what a theology of sex is, why we struggle with it, and how to develop a better theology. Sponsor We LOVE Share the Soap! Check out their fabulous skin-care products made with from goat milk, essential oils, and other wholesome ingredients. From the Bible But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! Galatians 5:22–23 (NLT) The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:3–5 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. 1 John 4:16 (ESV) For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God's throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. Hebrews 4:15–16 Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. He said: "In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought. And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, 'Grant me justice against my adversary.' "For some time he refused. But finally he said to himself, 'Even though I don't fear God or care what people think, yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won't eventually come and attack me!'" And the Lord said, "Listen to what the unjust judge says. And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off? Luke 18:1–7 So Moses brought their case before the Lord, and the Lord said to him, "What Zelophehad's daughters are saying is right. You must certainly give them property as an inheritance among their father's relatives and give their father's inheritance to them. Numbers 27:5–7 "If a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged to anyone and has sex with her, he must pay the customary bride price and marry her. But if her father refuses to let him marry her, the man must still pay him an amount equal to the bride price of a virgin. Exodus 22:16-17 (NLT) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:25-33 Resources Every Woman a Theologian - Phylicia Masonheimer The Sex Talk You Never Had by Phylicia Masonheimer Episode 154: Why We're Against Porn and Erotica Common Myths of Romance Novels - Hot, Holy & Humorous Wired for Story: The Writer's Guide to Using Brain Science to Hook Readers from the Very First Sentence by Lisa Cron Why You Feel Worse Than He Does about the Premarital Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Reasons Satan Targets Marriage • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Francie Winslow (mentioned by Phylicia, but 😊, we'd already booked her for a future episode!) Four Ways to Absorb God's Truth about Intimacy in Marriage | The Forgiven Wife Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too The Higher Desire Wife - Baker Book House (pre-order and get bonuses!) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about using baby wipes in the bedroom. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Today, we tackle the sensitive subject of masturbation. What does the Bible say about it? Why do Christians differ on their opinions? And how can we discern what's right for us? Sponsor Thanks, once again, to Married Dance for sponsoring this episode. Check them out for quality products displayed in a nudity-free and marriage-focused environment. Great customer service too! From the Bible But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. 1 Timothy 3:1–5 (not about masturbation, but a passage we discussed and worth reading in context for yourself) "Everything is permissible for me," but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me," but I will not be mastered by anything. 1 Corinthians 6:12 "Everything is permissible," but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible," but not everything builds up. 1 Corinthians 10:23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn't do it, it is sin for them. James 4:17 Resources Solo Masturbation? | The Forgiven Wife Masturbation: Hands On or Hands Off? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Orgasms Make You Squeamish? It's OK To Explore Your Body • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Episode 76: Listener Questions (includes "Is it sinful to figure out how to reach orgasm on your own so that you can show your husband what works?") Episode 124: Touching Yourself, Sex Just for Fun & Erectile Problems (Answering Listener Questions) (including touching yourself during sex) Two Wives & Candid Conversation about Masturbation - Hot, Holy & Humorous Two Wives. Talking About Masturbation. – Intimacy in Marriage More Candid Conversation about Masturbation - Hot, Holy & Humorous More Masturbation Talk. From a Couple of Wives. – Intimacy in Marriage Episode 151: Q&A - Sex Tips, Fantasy, Refusing Sex & Elusive Orgasm (fantasizing during sex) How to Fantasize About Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker (releases March 18, preorder now!) Episode 185: Women's Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy by Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka Joy Skarka – Creating Spaces to Set Christian Women Free from Porn and Sexual Shame Porn Addiction Help for Women | XXXchurch.com Help for Women Who Have a Sex Addiction - SAA SheRecovery.com | Pornography & Sexual Addiction Support for Women The Female Addict & Unraveled – Pure Desire Ministries Workshop Healing For Women - Bethesda Workshops L.I.F.E. Guide for Women: A Workbook for Women Seeking Recovery from Sexual Addiction by Marnie Ferree No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie Ferree Love Sick: One Woman's Journey through Sexual Addiction by Sue William Silverman Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker