Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Today we are exploring mismatched sex-drives and how your marriage can thrive in spite of it. We will be answering the questions: What are some reasons that a mismatched season can arise in a marriage? What do couples need to know about mismatched sex drives so that they work hard toward finding mutual agreement? If you are in a mismatched season, does your spouse know of your needs? Here are some ways to help you talk about this with your spouse. What are some specific things a couple can do to try to overcome the conflict of having mismatched sex drives?

Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands answer the question, "Why is sex important?" Paul Byerly (The Generous Husband and The XY Code), Scott Means (Heaven-Made Marriage), Brad Aldrich (One-Flesh Marriage), Tom Walter (The Romantic Vineyard), and Doug Taylor (Big Guy from The Forgiven Wife) discuss the importance of sex. After their conversation, Bonny, Gaye, J, and Chris chat about what the guys had to say.

Meet Gaye, J, Bonny, and Chris! Why do we all blog about sex? Why are we podcasting?

Despite making two recordings, we encountered sound difficulties that could not be completely fixed. About halfway through, you may hear some echo (reverberation). But hang in there! It will correct within a few minutes. Thanks for your support! Our topic is tending your garden, "garden" being a euphemism for your lady parts that we borrowed from Song of Solomon. We're talking specifically about hygiene, "landscaping," and even decorating your garden. What have y'all learned about what constitutes good hygiene for a woman's private parts? More and more wives are grooming their garden—by shaving, waxing, or other hair removal. What do you think about that trend, and why has it become so popular? Not only can you landscape but you can decorate your garden—permanent and temporary tattoos, piercings, and vajazzling. What do y'all think about this practice? What does the Bible have to say, if anything, about how we care for our lady parts?

We're due for a podcast episode, but we've having audio difficulties. So we're postponing the next episode until we can work out the technical issues. We promise another interesting conversation around the virtual roundtable soon. Thanks for staying tuned!

Gaye, Bonny, and Chris tackle some questions from our listeners: What if my husband says my feelings aren't valid? How can I experience multiple orgasms? What do I do about my husband's ED?

About this episode . . . Today we're talking about marital aids, often known as sex toys. Is it okay for Christian couples to use sex toys? When we think of sex toys, the vibrator is what usually comes to mind. Most of our conversations focuses on vibrators, but there are also things like nipple clamps, penis rings, dildos, butt plugs, masturbation sleeves, and more. The Bible doesn't say anything about sex toys. There is no "Thou shalt not use a vibrator," nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys. Why do so many couples use sex toys in the marriage bed. What do they think it adds? There are good reasons to use sex toys, and there are good reasons to avoid them. So how can a Christian couple decide whether sex toys are acceptable for them to use? What are the questions we should be asking ourselves? If we decide to use them, is there anything we should be on the lookout for to be sure we are still using them in a way that is consistent with God's plan for our sexual intimacy? From the Bible . . . What does God have to say about sex toys? The Bible doesn't say anything about sex toys. There is no "Thou shalt not use a vibrator," nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys. A Christian couple should approach this issue prayerfully, in consideration of Biblical principles and with the goal of intimacy. Resources . . . Why I Don't Use Sex Toys - Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do I Eliminate Marital Aids and Orgasm Naturally? - Bonny's OysterBed7 What If the Batteries Died? A Sex Toy Story - Bonny's OysterBed7 3 Ways a Vibrator Can Help Marital Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Batteries Included: Sex Toy Use? - Intimacy in Marriage Can Christians Use Sex Toys? - To Love, Honor & Vacuum

About this episode Today we're talking about exercise and sex. Wow, that sounds like a weird combination, doesn't it? What in the world do those two things have to do with each other? As it turns out, quite a bit. The benefits of regular exercise and physical activity for women are tremendous, and they include benefits for improving your sex life. Yes, that's right. Today we're going to make the case that exercising regularly is not only great for your health, it's great for sex and intimacy in your marriage. We'll be talking about four areas in which it can make a difference, including your physical health, mental health, body image, and energy. From the Bible The Bible doesn't say much directly about the value of exercise, but it alludes to the importance of caring for our bodies and keeping them strong. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20New International Version (NIV) - Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. Proverbs 31:17 (NIV) - She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. Resources Regular Exercise for Busy Women - How to Make Time When You Don't Have Time Put Your Body to Work to Help You Feel Beautiful Feel Beautiful - Dust Off Your Exercise Shoes! 4 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Health - and Your Sex Life Exercise Boosts Libido Visit us at our website.

Episode 6: Women's Sexual Response About this episode Today we're talking about women's sexuality and sexual response. Why do we have so many misconceptions about women's sexual response? What do we know about women's sexuality that might some women might not realize is normal? How can we help ourselves (and our husbands) better understand our sexual response? From the Bible What does God have to say about women's sexuality? 1 Timothy 5:14: "So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander." 2 Samuel 12:24: "Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. The Lord loved him." Song of Songs 5, especially verse 5: "I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt." Song of Songs 7, especially verse 10: "I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me." Resources The Forgiven Wife, Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality The Forgiven Wife, Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexuality Be Like Your Husband's? The Generous Husband, Orgasmic Massage To see an image representing the massive real estate of the internal clitoris, follow this link to wikipedia. Visit our website.

Episode 5: Sex Scheduling About this episode The busyness of life sometimes overtakes our schedules and sexual intimacy is pushed farther and farther down the list of priorities. In this episode, we consider whether or not to leave sexual intimacy as an afterthought. What are some of the benefits of consistent lovemaking? How can wives overcome their reluctance to schedule sexual intimacy? What are some practical things we can think about to commit to scheduling lovemaking? From the Bible What does God have to say about prioritizing your time? Proverbs 3:27: "Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act." Luke 14:28-31: "Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won't you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, 'This person began to build and wasn't able to finish.' "Or suppose a king is about to go to war against another king. Won't he first sit down and consider whether he is able with ten thousand men to oppose the one coming against him with twenty thousand?" 1 Corinthians 7:5: "Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer." Our Resources Hot, Holy & Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, Chapter 2, "Finding Time" Hot, Holy & Humorous: How Often Should You Have Sex? OysterBed7: Sex Scheduling can lead to Romance OysterBed7: 5 Questions to ask to Create a Sexual Encounter Schedule OysterBed7: I Love Knowing When Sex is Going to Happen Other Resources To Love, Honor, and Vacuum: Sex Scheduling in Marriage One Extraordinary Marriage: 3 Steps to Schedule Sex in Your Marriage Today's Christian Woman: Sex Scheduling Also see Episode 1: Getting in the Mood Visit our website.