We Can Do Hard Things

Dr. Becky Kennedy, expert in Attachment Styles, discusses the impact of attachment styles on our relationships and personal growth. She emphasizes the importance of rewiring our mental coding and addressing childhood attachments. The podcast explores how childhood patterns shape attraction in adulthood and the significance of repairing relationships. It also highlights the transformative power of communicating with our inner child and provides insights into attachment parenting and providing a secure base for children.

Today, we celebrate the one-and-only Abby – and her rare gift of vulnerability and storytelling.Our favorite person on the planet – Abby Wambach – is going deep, answering the questions that we all have, but that only Glennon and Amanda can ask.Abby shares, in an intensely new and courageous way, about her lifelong pursuit of love – including her complicated relationships with her mom, soccer, her first marriage, queerness, and her “shadow self” – and why she has questioned her own lovability for so much of her life.For the other Abby episodes in this series, check out: 189. Abby for the 1st Time On Divorce & Her Unrequited Love190. Abby’s Christmas Miracle: When All the Heartbreak Made SenseAbout Abby:Olympian, Activist, Author, and Co-host of the We Can Do Hard Things PodcastAbby Wambach is a two-time Olympic gold medalist, FIFA World Cup Champion, and six-time winner of the U.S. Soccer Athlete of the Year award. She was the United States’ leading scorer in the 2007 and 2011 Women’s World Cup tournaments and the 2004 and 2012 Olympics. Abby is the host of ABBY’S PLACES on ESPN+, in which she showcases what makes her beloved sport of soccer a worldwide sensation. An activist for equality and inclusion, she is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller WOLFPACK as well as the adaptation of WOLFPACK for the next generation, an instant New York Times bestseller. She is a founder and part owner of Angel City FC, the first majority-female-owned soccer team in history, and is a member of the Board of Directors for the non-profit organization Together Rising. Abby lives in California with her wife and their three children.TW: @abbywambachIG: @abbywambach

Abby shares one of her all-time most impactful conversations – delving inside the “wonderful, dangerous” mind of Tracee Ellis Ross covers:1. Tracee’s go-to strategies to stop questioning herself, to pick herself up when she feels unlovable, and to tether herself to her truest self.2. How she made peace with the fact that she’s “not everyone’s cup of tea” – and stopped trying to change the things about her that others don’t like (but she does).3. Inside Tracee’s 50th birthday party – the honor of being “Fifty and Free,” and what moved her to sing her mother’s song in her mother’s dress.4. Tracee’s recent personal journal entry rejecting the lie that a woman’s purpose is to be “chosen” – and how she creates a beautiful, full life outside the roles of mother and partner.5. Tracee’s incredible view of friendship: How to be brave enough to become a barnacle in your friends’ lives, and to find your Cauldron peopleAbout Tracee:Tracee Ellis Ross is an award-winning actress and producer best known for her roles in ABC’s award-winning comedy series BLACK-ISH and GIRLFRIENDS. For her role as “Rainbow Johnson” in BLACK-ISH, as a comedic leading actress, Ross won the Golden Globe Award in 2017 as well as nine NAACP Image Awards. She was nominated for five Emmys and two Critics Choice Awards.Ross is the CEO and Founder of Pattern, a haircare brand for the curly, coily and tight textured masses.Ross recently executive produced and narrates Hulu’s THE HAIR TALES, a docuseries about Black women, beauty and identity through the distinctive lens of Black hair.Upcoming, Ross will be producing a ten-episode podcast “I Am America,” which aims to break through the noise during this divided time in our country in an effort to create space and to heal.TW: @TraceeEllisRossIG: @traceeellisross

Glennon reflects on the episode that has been the biggest marker of change in her life in the last five years. Glennon shares from the messy middle about her new diagnosis and what’s next for her recovery.If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today.If it triggers: Skip today.CW // eating disordersIf you have an eating disorder, you may find the National Alliance for Eating Disorders a helpful resource: https://www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com/.For other recovery episodes in this series, check out:172. How Glennon Knew She Needed Help: Recovery Update 182. Glennon Update: Lessons from Therapy194. Glennon Finds Her Healing Partner199. Why Glennon Says We Should All Be In Recovery200. Don’t Tell Glennon to Love Her Body

Join Glennon, Abby, and Amanda in celebrating, and closing out, the first season of the pod – and help them write the next chapter: What it felt like for Glennon to listen – for the first time – to her anorexia diagnosis episode;  How their parents’ 50th Wedding Anniversary party showed Glennon how to stop performing and just BE;  The crucial distinction Amanda is exploring between tension and conflict;  Abby’s recent decision to explore her relationship with anger; and  How to join in shaping the future of the pod.    For the other conversations mentioned in this episode, check out: 165. Glennon’s Diagnosis & What’s Next167. Tracee Ellis Ross: How to Make Peace in Your Own Head168. Sonya Renee Taylor: What If You Loved Your Body?216. How to Find DELIGHT Today (and Every Day) with Ross Gay226. Enneagram: Why You Are the Way You Are with Suzanne Stabile

We all want tools to navigate (and minimize!) family drama. Today, Nedra Glover Tawwab teaches us how we can create drama free families:   How to speak up for yourself when it feels like going against the group;  Why confrontation is often the kindest thing;  When, exactly, we should bring up conflict & when to let it go; The most loving way a parent can respond to a child in pain.  For more with Nedra Glover Tawwab, check out: Episode 124 How to Say No: Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab.About Nedra: Nedra Glover Tawwab is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace. A licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, she has practiced relationship therapy for more than fifteen years. Tawwab has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and relationships. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her family.TW: @NedraTawwabIG: @nedratawwab

Today, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda dive into the Pod Squad’s words of wisdom: How to identify bad advice;  How to stop “walking on eggshells”;  When to not tell your kids you’re proud of them (and what to say instead);  The advice about masturbating that Glennon can live by.

The Best Advice We’ve Ever ReceivedToday, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda remember – and share! – the best advice they’ve ever received: How to honor your needs and become the ultimate expert of you;   Why we all need a friend who believes in our greatness;  How to encourage your kids to live open-hearted;  And why Glennon’s truest thing is that she doesn’t know anything.   Plus, we hear from two pod treasures – Sara Bareilles and Glennon’s 7th grade government teacher, Mrs. Yalen – on their best advice.

Time to HUDDLE UP, Pod Squad! Our most beloved The Soccer expert – Abby Wambach – prepares us for the World Cup, bringing us inside her personal rollercoaster journey through four World Cups: The real scoop behind her impossible, iconic goal against Brazil in 2011;  The moments she will never forget from the brutal loss against Germany; How she *really* reacted when learning she would not be starting for the 2015 US Team;  How we can ALL learn to lead from the bench; and What to expect in this year’s tournament. Plus, Abby delivers the pep talk we all need for this year’s World Cup.LFG, USA! About Abby: Abby Wambach is a two-time Olympic gold medalist, FIFA World Cup Champion, and six-time winner of the U.S. Soccer Athlete of the Year award. She was the United States’ leading scorer in the 2007 and 2011 Women’s World Cup tournaments and the 2004 and 2012 Olympics. She is a part owner of Angel City FC, the first majority-female-owned soccer team in history. Abby lives in California with her wife and their three children.TW: @AbbyWambachIG: @abbywambach

Today, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda delight in “Beige Flags” – the hilarious internet sensation that invites us all to share our people’s weirdest and most baffling traits. You’ll learn why Glennon changes her clothes 5 times a day, Abby sounds like she’s from yonder yore, and Amanda has a drawer full of washed out Ziploc bags.Plus, we read YOUR Beige Flags and debate: Is that actually a red flag or a green flag?