Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

In this episode of the Language of Love Session, I continue my conversation with Marla and Ken, a couple I've been helping to understand the hurdles they've faced and the strides they've made in enhancing their emotional and physical intimacy.We delve into the details of their physical intimacy and sexual relationship. Ken opens up about his struggle with sexual energy and desire, which he feels is lacking, describing it as "flat." Although his testosterone levels have been normal in past tests, we get into how misleading the wide range of “normal” is, and how important it is to have results read by someone who’s really trained in anti-aging medicine and hormone therapy. I also cover the important role testosterone plays, not only for sexual desire but also for overall well-being, and we discuss various hormone replacement options.Marla shares her perspective as well, and together we reflect on how Ken's recent retirement might be influencing his energy and motivation. I advise them to consult with a specialist in sexual medicine to address these concerns, with the hope of enhancing their relationship.Here is what we explore: Importance of initiating physical intimacy in the relationship Emphasis on sensual and erotic touch to strengthen the connection Retirement and its impact on confidence and sense of purpose Testosterone therapy and its potential impact on sexual energy and general well-bein Remember, the journey to rekindling intimacy is both personal and universal. Check out my website for books and courses like Quantum Sex to improve your sex life, along with many others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm diving into a topic that seems to be on a lot of men's minds: penis size. I know it's a sensitive subject, but it's important to talk about the concerns and misconceptions that surround it.Let's get one thing straight: the myths about what's considered "average" size are pervasive. I came across a study that really puts things into perspective—50% of men weren't happy with their size, yet a staggering 80% of women were actually content with their partner's size. This discrepancy shows that the pressure men feel is often internal and not based on the reality of their partners' satisfaction.I want to caution you against making comparisons to what you see in pornography. Porn is not real life, and it's certainly not a benchmark for your own body. And when it comes to treatments that promise to increase size, please be wary. There are countless products and procedures out there, from penis extenders to surgery, but they come with limited benefits and significant risks.I want to reassure you that in most cases, your size is more than adequate. What's truly important in a sexual relationship is technique and the emotional connection you share with your partner. Remember, if you're seeking to elevate your sex life, visit my website and explore my course on quantum sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As parents, we play a critical role of being a safe container for our children's emotions. It's so important for us to understand that our kids need us to be their emotional anchors. And let's be honest, that's not always easy. It means we have to do the hard work of unlearning some of our own past conditioning so we can better co-regulate with our little ones.In this episode of The Language of Love, I'm joined by the wonderful parenting coach Cassidy Callan. Together, we're diving into the intricate world of parenting, with a special focus on emotional intelligence. Cassidy is here to offer some invaluable advice on how to handle those inevitable emotional outbursts. She's a pro at guiding parents on the importance of grounding, empathy, and validation. It's not just about managing the outbursts—it's about understanding them and using those moments as opportunities for connection and growth.We're also going to emphasize the significance of being present and empathetic. I can't stress enough how modeling emotional regulation is key. Creating a nurturing environment is essential for children to develop their emotional intelligence. Our kids learn from watching us, so it's up to us to show them what it looks like to handle emotions in a healthy way.We explore: Creating a safe and empathetic environment for emotional expression and regulation The impact of parents' emotional state on children Collaborative and cooperative parenting Supporting children's emotional development and nurturing their unique abilities and gifts The challenges of regulating emotions in public settings Validating and empathizing with children's emotions Be sure to check out my website for my courses, books, and products that can help you love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love Session, I have the privilege of reconnecting with Victoria, a courageous soul navigating the turbulent waters of her relationship after her partner's cancer diagnosis. Her story is one of love, resilience, and the quest for balance amidst life's unexpected challenges. Victoria's experience is a reminder of how illness can transform not only the life of the person diagnosed but also that of their partner. She bravely shares her frustrations about feeling lost in the role of a caretaker, a sentiment that many can relate to. The balance between supporting a loved one and maintaining one's sense of self is delicate and often difficult to achieve.Here's a sneak peek of what we discuss: Victoria's struggles in her relationship after her partner's cancer diagnosis and treatment The intricate balance of healing and growth within a relationship affected by illness The complexities of confronting uncertainty and the allure of looking for answers externally The importance of open communication and seeking professional help Remember that relationships are a dance of give and take, especially in times of crisis. It's through our challenges that we often find our greatest strengths and learn the most about ourselves and our partners. Don't forget to check out my website for courses designed to improve your sex life and relationships! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself in a place where you feel less attractive or irresistible to your partner? You're not alone. It's a common challenge that many people face in their relationships. The good news is that there are strategies and actions you can take to become truly irresistible to your partner.In this Language of Love Bite, I share some golden nuggets to make you absolutely irresistible to your partner. Together, we dive into these transformative insights that can sprinkle some magic into your relationship. From cherishing your independence to keeping that flame of desire alive with little gestures of love, each tip is like a spark igniting deeper connections and joy.As we journey through the importance of loving yourself, looking after your appearance, and daring to explore new adventures together, a path unfolds. It's not just about spicing things up for a moment; it's about nurturing a love that's lasting and electrifying. With these simple yet powerful principles of independence, desire, appearance, exploration, and self-love, you will be on your way to crafting a relationship that's irresistibly beautiful.Remember, if you're seeking to elevate your sex life, visit my website and explore my course on quantum sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know your kitchen is like a special sanctuary where you can nourish your body and soul, and even find a way to cope with loss and grief through cooking?In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by the amazing Jules Davis, also known as the Kitchen Healer, and the author of “The Kitchen Healer: The Journey to Becoming You.”Jules and I talk about how cooking and food aren't just about filling our bellies but also key ingredients in self-care, personal growth, and nurturing our emotional health. Jules has some incredible insights on the power of cooking with intention and how being mindful in the kitchen can transform the whole experience. As for me, I'm sharing a bit about how I have had to redefine my own relationship with food over the years. It's been a path of discovery, not just about what I'm eating, but also understanding my deeper hungers – those emotional needs that we often try to satisfy with a snack or a meal.Together, we’re challenging some of those traditional views on nourishment. We are all about embracing a more nurturing, expressive, and yes, delicious approach to cooking and eating. So, let's get ready to stir the pot and spice things up in this episode!Curious about what's on the menu? Here's a sneak peek:  Jules’ expertise as the Kitchen Healer and her work on women's healing The concept of nourishment and its connection to emotional well-being  Recognizing cooking as a meditative and nurturing practice The emotional and spiritual dimensions of cooking Slowing down and creating intention around nourishing oneself Nourishment beyond just food, encompassing connection, love, and passion Don't forget to explore Jules Davis' book, The Kitchen Healer, to discover how turning on the fire in the kitchen and in your life can bring you freedom. Connect with her on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram or Website. Also, If you are going through grief, please remember to visit my website to explore my good grief course because no one should go through grief alone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love Session, I catch up with the amazing couple, Marla and Ken, who have been married for 38 years, to discuss the challenges and triumphs of maintaining intimacy in a long-term relationship.If you have been following Ken and Marla's journey, you're probably eager to hear about their progress. And if you're new to their story, I highly recommend catching up on their previous episodes—it's been quite a ride!Marla and Ken open up about their emotional highs and lows, including the impact of losing a close friend and struggles with finding the right therapist and committing to daily connection exercises. We also delve into their struggles with self-criticism and their pursuit of joy within their partnership. So, let's dive right in and see how things have been unfolding since our last session.We discuss: Challenges in expressing love and connection in the relationship Importance of foundational activities for maintaining a strong connection Suggestions for building physical and emotional intimacy Identifying specific actions to nurture emotional bonds and self-care Don't forget to explore my free course on Quantum Sex! It's designed to elevate your sexual experience to new heights. Simply visit the homepage of my website to get started. Until next time! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you tired of the same old snooze fest in the bedroom? Are you craving a wild, spine-tingling adventure that will leave you breathless and begging for more? Well, my friend, you've come to the right place!In this Language of Love Bite, I'm excited to dive into a topic that's both fun and informative. I'm going to share with you my insights on five sexual positions that women find enjoyable. We also get cozy with spooning, discussing the intimacy it brings to your connection with your partner. And let's not forget the Yab Yum and Cat Technique – I explain how these positions can enhance your connection and really activate the G-spot.Let’s dive in!I'm all about experimentation and finding what works best for you and your body, so visit my website for all my courses, books, and products that will definitely heighten your pleasure. I even have a course on quantum sex to help you explore further! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine having a blueprint for love that empowers you to design the kind of love that fulfills you, lifts you up, and sets you free.In this Language of Love Conversation, I’m sitting down with two remarkable guests. Joining me is  Mark Groves, a human connection specialist and founder of Create the Love, and Kylie McBeath, a certified health coach and host of the Journey Home podcast. Together, they form a powerhouse couple who have co-authored the book “Liberated Love.”Mark and Kylie introduce us to the concept of liberated love, a term that encapsulates a commitment to truth, transparency, and honoring each other's individual paths in a relationship. This approach to love is about not trying to fix or control one another but rather supporting each other's growth and authenticity.Their personal journey, which they candidly share, took them from a phase they refer to as relationship 1.0—a time marked by unconscious dynamics and codependency—to a transformative period they call the sacred pause. This mutual uncoupling allowed them to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth, which eventually led them back to each other, ready to begin relationship 2.0, a renewed and more conscious partnership.Here is what we unpack with Kylie and Mark: The concept of “liberated love” and its principles The significance of the “sacred pause” in relationships An exploration of codependency in relationships Recognition of blind spots and masks in relationships Self-awareness, healing from codependency, and personal growth before entering new relationships Intergenerational patterns and societal influences in shaping beliefs about relationships Check out Liberated Love by Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath. Whether you're single, in a relationship, exploring a transition, or seeking growth, this book is for you. You can also find Mark on Create the Love and Kylie on Instagram for more inspiring content. Also, do not forget to check my website for more resources to take your intimacy to the next level. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Language of Love, I am featuring another session from the Good Grief Day event, and this time we have speaker and author Anita Moorjani. Anita's story is nothing short of miraculous. She was grappling with end-stage cancer, her body riddled with tumors, and she was on the verge of what seemed like an inevitable end. But it was in this moment of extreme physical depletion that Anita experienced something extraordinary—a near-death experience that would change her life forever.She also explores the significance of joy in our lives and the comforting idea that our departed loved ones are still with us in some form. During the Q&A segment, she offers her perspective on what the afterlife might hold for controversial figures, discussing the notion of personal growth beyond the traditional view of eternal punishment. We explore: Cultural conditioning and societal expectations impacting Anita's illness Anita's miraculous recovery and the importance of finding joy and uplifting energy Communicating with deceased loved ones and the signs they send Addressing the belief that grieving may keep loved ones trapped The choice to operate from the highest version of oneself Please remember to check Anita's website to learn more about her latest projects. Don't forget to grab a copy of her book "Dying to Be Me" for more insights. You can also connect with her on LinkedIn. As usual, you can visit my website for more amazing resources and courses. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices