Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Did you know that your self-talk could be the sneaky culprit affecting your relationships more than you think? Maybe you've found yourself stuck in a relationship rut, scratching your head, wondering why things just aren't clicking with your partner. What if the secret to unlocking those mysteries might just lie within you and your partner's attachment style? In this Language of Love Conversation, I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Judy Ho, a triple board-certified neuropsychologist and author of “The New Rules of Attachment.” Her book is full of insights into how our attachment styles shape, well, pretty much everything we do.Attachment styles are essentially the blueprints that guide how we connect with others, pursue our dreams, and see ourselves. They influence everything from our love lives to our careers and even our self-perception. Dr. Judy breaks down the four main attachment styles and we chat about how they often have their roots in our childhood experiences.We discuss: Why it is important to know your attachment style How negative self-talk is everywhere these days and what it's doing to our mental well-being The connection between always expecting the worst and your attachment style The influence of childhood experiences on attachment styles Strategies for healing and re-parenting oneself to develop a secure attachment The magic of self-compassion and why validating your feelings is key The impact of cultural expectations on women and the need for self-permission to prioritize their own needs The practice of embracing mistakes with humor and self-compassion Remember to check out Dr. Judy's book, “The New Rules of Attachment!” Also, follow Dr. Judy on Instagram for insights and find free resources on her website. And as always, you can check out my books and courses that can help level-up your love life on my website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever felt like stress could be the invisible third wheel in your relationship? It's not just you. Stress has this uncanny ability to seep into our lives like an uninvited guest at a party—especially when it comes to relationships.In this Language of Love Session, we catch up with Marla and Ken. Since our last chat they have been on quite a journey together through some major stresses, and they are learning to accept each others bids for connection which resulted in discovering a new hobby! It has not only led to “sprouting” some beautiful blooms, but also deepened their connection.Marla opens up about her experiences with hormone therapy and the hurdles she's faced during intimate moments. But here's the kicker: with a bit of guidance on from me and a positive mindset, they're tackling these challenges head-on. It's clear these two are committed to not just surviving but thriving in their relationship journey.For those who might have missed our previous episodes, I highly recommend going back and checking them out to get the full context of Marla and Ken's journey. It's been an enlightening experience, not just for them but for all of us listening in. So many of you tell me you’ve been learning along with them. So, let's delve into how things have been progressing since our last conversation including:  How to recognize stress triggers in relationships The overall impact of stress on relationships Role kf hormone therapy in relationships and intimacy Exploration of self-stimulation and overcoming resistance Importance of approaching challenges with an open mind and curiosity Don't forget to explore my complimentary course on Quantum Sex! Discover how to elevate your sexual response to new heights. Visit my website for more details. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does it seem like the nice guys finish last? Women say they want one, but they always seem to go for the bad boy in the end. In this Language of Love Bite, I uncover the truth about why women often find themselves captivated by the so-called "jerks," leaving nice guys in the dust and overlooked in favor of these "bad boys." It's not about advocating for guys to mistreat women, but rather understanding the complexities of attraction.I am exploring: The complex interplay of psychological and emotional factors in relationships Women's past trauma and its impact on relationship preferences The discrepancy between women's stated desires and their actual attraction Women's self-worth and self-esteem affecting their acceptance of love and kindness Guidance for nice guys to assert their opinions, desires, and boundaries in relationships If you're ready to elevate your love life, check out my website, the Seven Days To Better Sex Life and Quantum Sex for game-changing insights. Don't miss out on unlocking your full potential! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The saying goes, “A parent is only as happy as their least happy child.” While this may be a bit of a codependent edict, it’s true that when your child is struggling with anxiety, depression or in any other way it takes a deep toll on the family system. And as parents we try everything we can think of to help, but often those efforts don’t create any substantive change. In this episode of the Language of Love, I welcome back my good friend Kristina Kuzmic, a writer, creator, and mother, to discuss her new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child. If you're a regular listener, you'll likely recall our in-depth chat in 2023 about her book 'Hold On, But Don't Hold Still,' where we explored personalized parenting and supporting our children through mental health challenges.Today, Kristina shares her journey of parenting Luca, her son who battled depression, ADHD, and anxiety. At a certain point he became suicidal and a danger to himself and others. Kristina’s journey and the amazingly authentic way she shares it is inspiring and instructive. We have a heart-to-heart chat about the importance of empathy and connection over trying to fix or control their struggles. She shares important and effective lessons she learned the hard way about how to best to support our kids through their toughest times. Kristina and I deep dive into: What it takes to parent children who are struggling Kristina's backstory that led her to write her book Why we should embrace empathy over control with struggling children The ways our Children's struggles require that we address our unhealed parts The importance of self-care for parents to better support struggling children Redefining “good motherhood” Check out Kristina's new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child, as well as her previous bestseller, Hold On, But Don't Hold Still, for valuable insights. Follow her on LinkedIn, Website, Facebook, or Instagram for updates on her projects. And don’t forget, you can visit my website for helpful courses and resources designed for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever thought about what it's like to live under the same roof with someone who once promised to love and protect you, but now subjects you to a relentless storm of emotional jabs, verbal assaults, gaslighting and manipulation?Welcome back to another Language of Love Session. Today, I'm chatting with Mia, who's on a journey of healing and self-discovery after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. We're diving into her  journey of self-discovery and navigating the challenges of sharing space with her ex while sorting out the drama of divorce.Setting boundaries is a big part of our conversation today—so crucial for reclaiming your confidence after a rough patch. I'm reminding Mia (and you, too!) about the power of letting those pent-up emotions out. It's like clearing out your closet—you've got to make space for the new by letting go of the old!Here is what we explore: The emotional toll of narcissistic relationships How to recover from codependency and reclaim your own truth (again and again) The steps to leaving an abusive relationship Expressing and releasing emotions in a safe and non-destructive manner Encouragement to allow oneself to feel and release sadness without suppression Creating a safe space for holding your own boundaries Importance of ongoing support and guidance during the transition out of the relationship Remember, if you're going through a tough time, swing by my website for resources and courses. Let's tackle this healing journey together and come out stronger! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ever uncertain about your sexual confidence? Whether it's feeling self-conscious with your partner or nerves about your first time, rest assured, you're not alone. No matter your level of experience, I'm here to help you feel more comfortable with your sexuality. In this  Language of Love Bite, I dive into a topic that many people shy away from discussing—sexual confidence. Strengthening your sexual confidence can greatly enhance both your mental well-being and your relationships. It might feel like opening Pandora's box, but fear not! I'll guide you through how to cultivate that crucial sexual confidence, unveiling the seven keys to mastering it. I'll reveal what it takes to bring your A-game to the bedroom, leaving your partner craving more. Get ready to feel empowered and equipped with everything you need to excel between the sheets!Looking to spice up your sex life? Start by prioritizing open communication, experimenting with the fantasy box technique, joining my Seven Days to Better Sex program, and exploring Quantum Sex. Visit my website to learn more about how you can reignite the passion and create a deeply fulfilling sex life with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We can add so much to our existence in this modern world by tapping into the ancient traditions that have so much to teach us.  When it comes to grief and loss, rituals can provide opportunities for profound healing, connection and community. Cynthia Ruiz, a professor, bestselling author, executive coach, and leadership expert joins us in this Language of Love Conversation to explore the transformative power of sacred ceremonies and rituals in today's busy world. Her latest book, “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” is a cornerstone for our discussion. Drawing from her Cherokee heritage, Cynthia illuminates the purpose and practice of sacred ceremonies, a cornerstone of human experience across cultures and time. These rituals, she explains, are not just relics of the past but vital tools for personal growth and healing in our contemporary lives.Here is what we unravel: Importance of self-protection rituals and protecting one's energy Significance of rituals and ceremonies in Native American culture The importance of incorporating sacred ceremony into everyday life Elements involved in creating a sacred ceremony Use of the four elements - fire, water, earth, and air - for release and cleansing Letting go of toxic relationships and making room for positive energy Cynthia's wisdom is readily accessible in her book “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” You can also connect with her on LinkedIn, Facebook, or Website. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Language of Love Session where I get to sit down with one of my listeners and help them with their love life. I love these episodes because each time you ask your questions (and I give the answer), I know we are helping 100s of thousands of other people with the same query! In this episode I’m helping Mary who, like way too many of us, has been living in a sexless marriage with her husband for some time. Much of her low desire is due to the daily grind and work-related stress, but was compounded by premature menopause in her thirties. If you are struggling in a sexless relationship or with low desire, listen in for important tips and tools for addressing the symptoms from a mind, body and relationship perspective. In this episode I help Mary unravel: Challenges in sexual relationships due to menopause and work-related stress Effects of stress on men's sexual desire and decline of testosterone with age Importance of understanding hormonal changes and their impact on sexual health Practical suggestions for improving sexual communication and exploring alternative approaches to intimacy Options for improving sexual response and desire, particularly for women Insurance coverage for treatments such as testosterone replacement and locally delivered estrogen Reassurance about the normalcy of reduced sexual activity in long-term relationships The importance of maintaining a strong emotional connection in a relationship Join us on this journey to better understanding and improving our intimate lives. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the most impossible loss turns out to set you free in ways you couldn’t imagine? What if instead of going through loss you could grow through it? What if you become a more self-actualized, tapped-in and tuned-in empowered version of yourself, because of what you’ve been through (not in spite of it)? What if love really lives forever and you can learn to continue a relationship with your loved ones on the other side? What if you didn’t have to go through terrible loss alone or struggle to find the right kind of support or community who understands? These are questions I couldn’t imagine having, much less answering over three years ago when my son Sammy was killed. Grief became my unwelcome companion, but strangely, it also became my greatest teacher. Healing from loss is messy, unpredictable, and deeply personal. Now, I'm on a mission fueled by passion—to help others like me find their own paths through grief and toward spiritual renewal. Join me as I share my story, the hard-won lessons, and how we can all navigate the stormy seas of grief with grace and resilience.This is what we explore: The transformative power of allowing oneself to fully experience and process pain The interconnectedness of grief and spirituality The importance of embodiment, nature exposure, spirit connection, tribe, creative expression, and cognitive thinking in the grief healing journey The therapeutic value of creative expression and cognitive thinking in understanding the stages of grief My personal journey of grief and the resources and programs I offer for individuals seeking support and guidance For those in need of more support and guidance, check out the Good Grief course on my website along with other resources and programs aimed at assisting individuals through their grief journey. Remember, grief is not merely a destination but a transformative journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it take to achieve true harmony in our relationships? Regardless of your gender or sexual identity or role in your relationships, understanding the balance of masculine and feminine energies is crucial for intimacy, connection and personal power in love.In this Language of Love conversation, I have a heart-to-heart with therapist and author, Dene Logan. Dene’s new book, “Sovereign Love,” delves into finding the perfect mix of masculine and feminine energies in our relationships. We discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, especially for moms juggling responsibilities and managing dynamics within their relationships.We explore the question of how we can lean on each other in love without losing ourselves and how we can work as a team with our partners to heal what isn’t working in love. It's all about getting to know yourself, embracing what makes us different, being real with each other, and keeping that spark alive while staying true to yourself.We unpack: Reclaiming healthy masculine and feminine energies in love and partnership Balancing masculine and feminine energies in work and home life Societal norms and their impact on relationships Challenges faced by couples, particularly in the context of motherhood Embracing interdependence in relationships The vulnerability and authenticity that lies within communication Check out Dene's book, "Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within," for more insights, and tune into her podcast, “Cheaper Than Therapy” too! As always, visit my website to explore my available courses to improve your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices