

A Gay and A NonGay
James Barr and Dan Hudson
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends.'Highly Recommended' Guardian'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOutAn independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongayGet bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed
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Jul 17, 2024 • 25min
New York vs London Dating with Bright Light Bright Light
We have a special guest on A Gay And A Non-Gay this week... it's 4x Top 20 charting artist Bright Light Bright Light!The Welsh-born, New York-based artist talks with James and Dan about the differences in dating cultures between New York and London as well as the importance of self-love and redefining our perceptions of love and relationships, particularly with the pressures put on love in the LGBTQ+ space. Plus they speak about BLBL's collaboration with Elton John!Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 10, 2024 • 15min
Hell, Toes and Unasked Questions
Talk about twists and turns... this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay spans spans from the afterlife to unexpected Grindr encounters in Bali. James and Dan kick off by pondering a fear of going to hell before talking about uncomfortable family dynamics and persistent questions from loved ones. They also tackle a listener dilemma about dealing with a non-accepting grandparent. This weeks episode is somewhere between candid, thought-provoking and moments where you will think "wait... what did you just say!".Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 3, 2024 • 18min
Failed Pop Stars & Dating Someone In The Closet
Pride Month might have come to an end... but every month is Pride Month on this show! Looking back at this years Mighty Hoopla, James talks about the relationship between gay people and 'failed' pop stars as well as the importance of safety and inclusivity at festivals. In this weeks advice segment, James and Dan explore the challenges faced by a listener who is out and dating someone who isn't and how to maintain authenticity whilst supporting a partner still figuring themselves out.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 26, 2024 • 24min
How Do You Know... If You've Never Done It?
This week, James and Dan are tackling listener questions around challenging assumptions about sexuality. In this weeks "Non-Gays Can't Say", Josh from Glasgow asks a provocative question around how you truly know if you're gay... if you've never been with a woman. The discussion shifts to recent comments made by the Pope, leading to a conversation around the complexities of religion and homophobia and there's a listener question about flirty behaviour towards a colleague.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 19, 2024 • 22min
Why We Still Need Pride Month
With the pendulum swinging and violence towards the LGBTQ+ community on the rise, this week James and Dan are discussing why Pride Month is still so important. They talk about issues ranging from violence to conversation therapy and discriminatory laws, whilst also delving into James' personal experience with domestic abuse and the challenges of speaking out. Advocates and allies have never been more important than right now!Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 12, 2024 • 11min
When Did "Just Sex" Stop Being Enough?
James and Dan are back with a bonus Dear Queerdrie episode, answering a listener's question: when did 'just sex' stop being enough?Let us know what you think on our socials @gaynongay or email us with your opinions and dilemmas - us@gaynongay.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 5, 2024 • 26min
Some Men In London: A Conversation with Peter Parker About Gay History
Happy Pride Month! In this episode, James and Dan are in conversation with writer and historian Peter Parker to discuss his new anthology series Some Men In London. The books explore discovered memoirs, letters and documents which depict what life was truly like for gay men in London between the 40s and late 50s.Both volumes are available to purchase now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 29, 2024 • 21min
How To Find Gay Friends In Your 30s
How do you go about making male gay friends as a man in your 30s? Are heterosexual people allowed to use terms like 'top/bottom' and 'pillow princess'? And how does a closeted Hip-Hop MC go about embracing who he really is without risking his career? James and Dan explore it all in this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 22, 2024 • 25min
A Conversation with Eurovision's 2024 Winner Nemo
James and Dan caught up with the winner of 2024 Eurovision, Nemo. They chat about how the winning single was created, what's the tea on the dropped trophy and advice for anyone who is non-binary and struggling with their coming out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 15, 2024 • 24min
Can identity exist without labels?
James and Dan use a previous listener dilemma as a starting point for a wider discussion around labels and identity. They also answer the question of why gays and lesbians don't get along. Listen back to the chat with Helen Scott here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices


