The Coach's Journey - build a coaching business with integrity

"Working online is not the future; it's today."These words from John Monks, the co-founder of facilitation and coaching practice Curve, will resonate powerfully with many listeners of episode #39 of The Coach’s Journey Podcast who, like John, have been bringing people together in an era of change.John, who along with Lizzie Shupak wrote Closer Apart, the definitive guide to running online workshops, wants the world to understand the problem-solving power of online facilitation, and to believe anything is possible in that setting.John’s career has been driven by one question: how do people work together?That question led to the foundation of Curve, and an ambition to work with the most senior people in the largest organisations in the world.In our conversation, he describes how he and his co-founders achieved that ambition while still showing up as themselves, in order to truly connect with the people they encounter in their workshops. In this episode, we talk about:How to read the room when you're working onlineThe energy journey that workshop participants make, and how to manage itHow to ensure equal share of voice and unlock successful outcomes in workshopsThe power of team coaching to unlock blockages in communicationHow leaders can generate the feelings they need in order to lead effectivelyWe also talk about how to bring unusual ideas into large-scale organisations with confidence and clarity.To learn more about John, visit https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnmonkscurve/ For information about my wider work, my writing or to buy my books, visit www.robbieswale.com.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/community. Things and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Robbie’s new book, How to Keep Going When You Want to Give Up: https://geni.us/justdoit - The Coach’s Journey episode #28 with Inga Umblija https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-28-inga-umblija-phil-bolton-abundance-formula - The Coach’s Journey episode #32 with Mike Toller https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-32-mike-toller - The Coach’s Journey episode #6 with Joel Monk https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-6-joel-monk-conversations-at-the-cutting-edge-of-coaching - Robbie's article about Kronos and Kairos https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/sometimes-moment-arrives-when-does-question-we-ready-robbie-swale/ - THNK School of Creative Leadership https://www.thnk.org/ - PA Consulting https://www.paconsulting.com/ - The Academy of Executive Coaching https://www.aoec.com/ - Curve https://www.curve.cc/ - Peter Mandeno https://www.thnk.org/community/people/peter-mandeno/ - Lizzie Shupak https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizzieshupak - Closer Apart https://www.closerapartbook.com/ - Kate Carruth https://www.linkedin.com/in/kate-carruth-7399bb17a/- Social Physics by Alex Pentland https://www.blinkist.com/en/books/social-physics-en- The Coach’s Journey episode #34 with Anne Hathaway https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-34-anne-hathaway - The Coach’s Journey episode #31 with Miles Downey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-31-myles-downey- John's study about how leaders feel https://hbr.org/2021/08/leaders-dont-be-afraid-to-talk-about-your-fears-and-anxieties- Robbie's article entitled I Am What I Am https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/i-am-what-robbie-swale/- John’s facilitation belt: https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/s/belt-picture.jpeg and https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/s/belt-picture-2.jpeg

Last year I was totally delighted to appear on a podcast called The Coach's Compass, giving me an opportunity to dive deep into all things coaching with host Clark Luby.In the episode, Clark - a listener to The Coach’s Journey - turns my favourite starter question back on me by asking me to recall when I first came across coaching, and that takes me back to a crucial juncture in my life and career.From there, we talk through the support structures and containers that helped me through early coaching challenges such as finding clients and talking about money, and I offer up some practical tools that can help you to establish the kind of coach you really want to be, factoring in the styles of coaching you admire and personalities you aspire to emulate.We also explore the importance of Rich Litvin's work to the evolution of coaching and to my own practice, and I share one of the exercises he taught me that led me to do some of my best work.In this episode, we talk about:The shift that happens after your first attempt at being an adultMaking the process of your work something that you really enjoyBeing a player in the game of your businessThe point at which coaching businesses start to carry themselves forwardHow to stay authentic while taking influence from other coachesWhy I think it's okay to steal from people*We also talk about the best times to break the rules of coaching, or the rules of anything for that matter!To hear other episodes of the Coach’s Compass Podcast, visit https://thecoachscompass.libsyn.com/For information about my wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswale.com, and to buy my book, click here.Join the WBECS Free Pre-Summit: https://share.coaching.com/6d3qN2Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/community. Thanks in particular to Alex McIntyre, Alex Swallow, Joey Owen, Ken Broeren, Neil Mackinnon and Ruth Saville for their ongoing support.*In very specific situationsThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Coaches Rising https://www.coachesrising.com/ - Ewan Townhead https://www.ewantownhead.com/coaching/ - Waking Up The Workplace http://www.wakinguptheworkplace.com/ - Brett Thomas https://www.linkedin.com/in/consciousbusinesscoach/ - The Prosperous Coach by Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin https://www.amazon.ca/Prosperous-Coach-Increase-Income-Clients/ - Rich Litvin with Simon Crowe on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fB80UWOW8NM - John Mackey https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Mackey_(businessman) - David Allen https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Allen_(author) - Miles Downey episode on The Coach's Journey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-31-myles-downey - Tony Robbins, I Am Not Your Guru https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUHMZf3qwsQ - Brené Brown on perfectionism https://www.shinecoachingandconsulting.com/post/recovering-perfectionist-aspiring-good-enoughist - Gay Hendricks and the zone of genius https://www.thejoyofbusiness.co.uk/how/how-to-find-your-zone-of-genius/ - The Heart of Laser Focused Coaching by Marion Franklin https://www.amazon.ca/HeART-Laser-Focused-Coaching-Revolutionary-Masterful/ - Chris Joseph on episode #19 of The Coach's Journey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-19-chris-joseph - Fred Kofman https://www.fredkofman.org/sobre-fred-kofman-ing.php - Conscious Business by Fred Kofman https://www.amazon.ca/Conscious-Business-Build-through-Values/ - BetterUp https://www.betterup.com/ - Warren Buffett's "2 List" strategy https://jamesclear.com/buffett-focus - Joel Monk https://www.thnk.org/community/people/joel-monk/ - Phil Goddard, The Coaching Life episode #69 https://www.philg.com/CoachingLifePodcast/?post=069-phil-goddard - The Social Dilemma https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaaC57tcci0

Conor McCarthy is the host of the First 10 Podcast, where he interviews business builders on their first 10 customers, sparking valuable conversations about how fledgling businesses grow their first roots.By inviting me onto the podcast, Conor offered me the chance to reflect on how my coaching practice began and how it evolved as a business, from my very first tentative steps through to where I am today.In the interview I talk about my own false starts and training pathways, and describe the mountain of resistance I had to overcome in order to make connections with the world as a new coach.Conor is an expert in exploring the subject of how freelancers, bootstrappers and founders start to grow their businesses, and he helped me to retrace my steps while coaxing out key insights from my journey into coaching.In this episode, we talk about:How to find your first clients by borrowing successful pitches from othersEarning trust with a wider audienceExperimenting with coaching formats in a low-risk wayFeeling resistance and using it as a signpost for your next stepsHow to use honesty to plant seeds for the long termWe also talk about pricing and what it means to get comfortable talking about money.For more information about Conor, visit https://www.conormccarthy.me/ and to hear other episodes of the First 10 Podcast visit https://www.conormccarthy.me/podcastFor information about my wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswale.com, and to buy my book, click here.Join the WBECS Free Pre-Summit: https://share.coaching.com/6d3qN2Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- The Interview Valet Top 20 Great Podcasts for Coaches (including this show!): https://interviewvalet.com/20-great-podcasts-for-coaches/ - Akimbo https://www.akimbo.com/- Phil Bolton, co-founder of The Coaching School https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-2-phil-bolton-from-forensic-accountant-to-the-go-to-career-coach-in-london-and-on-to-work-with-ceos-mds-and-founders - The War of Art by Steven Pressfield https://stevenpressfield.com/books/the-war-of-art/- Coaches Rising https://www.coachesrising.com/- Carolyn Freyer-Jones https://carolynfreyerjones.com/- The initial Facebook post I shared about coaching. https://thecoachsjourney.com/s/Initial-Facebook-Post-About-Coaching-Robbie-Swale.jpg

To use her own words, Jean Balfour "spectacularly failed" the assessment of the Ashridge Accredited Coach Training programme.But this setback fuelled a massive growth journey that led Jean to become clearer about who she is as a person and set her on a path to becoming a Master Certified Coach (MCC).In this episode of The Coach's Journey Podcast, Jean traces the steps of her career from training as a teacher, to developing leaders for local government, the National Health Service and investment banks, to the work she does now as programme director of Bailey Balfour’s ICF Accredited Coach Training Programme.She reveals key experiences from her life and work that influenced the way she designed the coach training programme, including the vital learning she took from failing her Ashridge assessment.This episode gives you the chance to hear a highly accomplished, vastly experienced educator, leadership developer and coach trainer share her views on the secrets to effective coaching and the most pressing challenges facing the industry.In this episode, we talk about:The power of cultivating a journaling practiceWhat Jean learned from becoming an ICF Master Certified Coach and whether credentials for coaches really matterLooking inwards in order to growMoving coaching out of the West and creating global conversationsThe step-by-step process Jean uses with clients, sponsors and stakeholders when coaching for organisationsJean also reflects on what it took to successfully move her coaching practice from the United Kingdom to Singapore, and offers perspectives on how the coronavirus pandemic has shaped the future of coaching.For more information about Jean, visit https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanbalfour/ or her company’s website www.baileybalfour.com.For information about my wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswale.com, and to buy my book, click here.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Barry Ennis Funeral Notice: https://funeral-notices.co.uk/notice/ennis/5020856 and Episode #9 where he was the guest: https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-9-barry-ennis-follow-the-fire - Make a donation to MIND: https://www.mind.org.uk/donate/ - Lara Quie https://www.linkedin.com/in/laraquie/- ICF Team Coaching Competencies https://coachingfederation.org/team-coaching-competencies - Anne Hathaway on The Coach's Journey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-34-anne-hathaway - Nancy Kline https://www.timetothink.com/nancy-kline/ - The Thinking Environment https://www.timetothink.com/thinking-environment/ - Raquel Ark on The Coach's Journey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-33-raquel-ark - Time To Think by Nancy Kline https://www.timetothink.com/books/time-to-think/ - The ICF definition of coaching https://coachingfederation.org/about - Myles Downey on The Coach's Journey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-31-myles-downey - Action Learning https://www.actionlearningcentre.com/about-action-learning- Ashridge qualifications https://www.hult.edu/ashridge/qualifications/ - The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron https://juliacameronlive.com/books-by-julia/ - Robert Holden https://www.robertholden.com/about-robert/ - Julia Cameron's book about writing and prayer https://juliacameronlive.com/books-by-julia/seeking-wisdom-a-spiritual-path-to-creative-connection/ - The ladder of inference https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTMC_91.htm#:~:text=The%20Ladder%20of%20Inference%20describes,are%20shown%20in%20figure%201 - Coaching for Performance by John Whitmore https://www.performanceconsultants.com/coaching-for-performance-book - The Inner Game of Tennis https://theinnergame.com/inner-game-books/the-inner-game-of-tennis/ - Mike Toller on The Coach's Journey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-32-mike-toller - Bounce by Matthew Syed https://www.matthewsyed.co.uk/resource/bounce-the-myth-of-talent-and-the-power-of-practice/ - BetterUp https://www.betterup.com/en-gb/ - Ezra https://www.helloezra.com/ - ICF core competencies https://coachingfederation.org/core-competencies - The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris https://thehappinesstrap.com/ - Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/acceptance-commitment-therapy - ACT for Beginners https://psychwire.com/harris/act-beginners

At the end of last year I published a book called How to Start When You're Stuck, and since then I have found myself seeing everything through the frame the book presents.My book is about overcoming resistance, procrastination and fear through something I call 'The 12-Minute Method', and in this episode of The Coach's Journey Podcast I bring this idea into focus.I go back to the very start of my journey as a writer, to when I would find myself paralysed with my finger hovering over the 'post' button.You'll hear me describe five key principles for building your own 12-minute method and how maintaining a practice, forming habits, and committing to those things over time can lead to magical outcomes.Having applied the 12-Minute Method while I created it, I can now advise people how to build a 12-minute practice for their coaching business, and that is covered here, along with a lot of what I've learned about the Prosperous Coach approach and the developed thinking I've done around that.In this episode, I talk about:How to combine the 12-minute method with the Prosperous Coach to grow your coaching businessWhat I would recommend if I had to choose a 12-minute practice for coaches who want to grow their businessHow to nurture an authenticity practice that touches every aspect of your workSome specific 12-minute practices that you might choose, including the one I recommend most of allWhat represents real success, and how to identify it for yourselfI also talk about the impact that not starting something that you want to do can have on your life, and how that can be a vital driving factor in starting when you are stuck.Ultimately, this episode is about exploring who we want to become, how we become what we practise, and how we are always practising something.For information about my wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswale.com, and to buy his book, click here.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Mastering your personal brand https://www.robbieswale.com/mastering-your-personal-brand - Robert Holden https://www.robertholden.com/ - How to Start When You’re Stuck https://www.amazon.co.uk/Start-business-creative-project-Youre/dp/1915266009 - 100 Podcasts Challenge https://www.robbieswale.com/writing/2022/2/4/the-12-minute-method-100-podcasts-challenge - Episode #6 with Joel Monk https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-6-joel-monk-conversations-at-the-cutting-edge-of-coaching - Marshall Ganz's three-stage storytelling technique https://dash.harvard.edu/bitstream/handle/1/30760283/Public-Narrative-Worksheet-Fall-2013-.pdf - My piece, A Poem About Life https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/poem-life-robbie-swale/ - My piece on How Possibility and Optimism Can Change the World https://www.robbieswale.com/writing/2016/11/8/how-possibility-and-optimism-can-change-the-world - 12-minute blog https://www.robbieswale.com/the-12-minute-blog/ - Coaching during coronavirus, with Katie Harvey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/coaching-during-coronavirus-katie-harvey- Being a generalist coach, with Katie Harvey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-1-katie-harvey-14000-hours-of-coaching-being-part-of-the-uk-coaching-vanguard-and-being-a-generalist-coach - The story of publishing the 12-minute method https://www.robbieswale.com/the-12-minute-blog/2021/12/17/the-story-of-the-publishing-of-the-12-minute-method - www.self-published.co.uk - My 12-minute article about responsibility and rights https://www.robbieswale.com/the-12-minute-blog/2021/12/4/how-our-rights-have-taken-meaning-from-our-lives-and-how-responsibility-can-bring-it-back - Ewan Townhead's blog https://www.ewantownhead.com/blog/ - Alex Swallow’s article, ‘What I’ve learned from 100 articles on Linkedin’ https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/100-linkedin-articles-key-lessons-alex-swallow/ - Bounce by Matthew Syed https://www.matthewsyed.co.uk/resource/bounce-the-myth-of-talent-and-the-power-of-practice/ - Enabling Genius by Myles Downey http://mylesdowney.com/writing/ - My 12-minute ‘practice’ article, about Matthew Syed and Myles Downey https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/talent-myth-robbie-swale/ - Coaches Rising https://www.coachesrising.com/ - Alta Starr https://strozziinstitute.com/staff/alta-starr/ - The War of Art by Steven Pressfield https://stevenpressfield.com/books/the-war-of-art/ - My blog post on Jordan Peterson, the sacred masculine and the sacred feminine: https://www.robbieswale.com/the-12-minute-blog/2021/12/4/how-our-rights-have-taken-meaning-from-our-lives-and-how-responsibility-can-bring-it-back - How I Became a Full Time Coach Less Than 2 Years After Starting My Training https://www.robbieswale.com/writing/2017/5/31/how-i-became-a-full-time-coach-less-than-two-years-after-starting-my-training - The Prosperous Coach by Rich Litvin and Steve Chandler https://richlitvin.com/prosperous-coach-2-0/ - Episode #15 with Toku McCree https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-15-toku-mccree-sales-with-honour-and-love-on-the-end-of-a-sword - Episode #20 with Giovanna Capozza https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-20-giovanna-capozza - Carolyn Freyer Jones https://carolynfreyerjones.com/ - 12-Minute Method Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/611939479993065 - The Tim Ferriss Show https://tim.blog/podcast/ - Seth Godin's 'big book' https://seths.blog/2017/03/the-last-copies-of-my-big-book/ - Seth Godin's article on The Bannister Method https://seths.blog/2018/03/the-bannister-method/ - David Reynolds' book https://www.amazon.com/Lead-Learn-Change-David-Reynolds/dp/1737919303- Karena de Souza’s book https://www.amazon.com/Contours-Courageous-Parenting-Tilting-Decisions/dp/1777508614

In a world where the attention we give people lasts just 11 seconds on average, Anne Hathaway is a believer in the transformative power of listening and being heard.She compares the experience of being truly heard to that of being loved, and this forms the heart of her work as a coach, supervisor and leadership developer, providing people with generative attention and spaces in which to heal and grow.When Anne discovered Nancy Kline's work around the Thinking Environment, she saw her own life's work in that approach. For over 25 years they have worked together at Time To Think, where Anne is a member of the senior faculty. Our conversation tracks her remarkable life and career, from overcoming profound personal and professional challenges to becoming an inspirational and celebrated coach, mentor and change facilitator.In this episode, we talk about:Generative attention, and how to listen in order to ignite the thinking of the other personHow listening skills can be the key to conflict resolutionThe fact that good ideas can come from anywhere, regardless of a person's status or positionHow to empower people who don't trust their own inner wisdomThe importance of creating conditions of safety in which people can healAnne describes the impact of Time To Think and the Thinking Environment as "world shaking", and explains how our train of thought can lead us to new horizons.She also opens up about her recent diagnosis for complex PTSD, and how that journey has inspired her to connect with and speak to the world in new ways.For more information about Anne, visit https://annehathaway.co.uk/ or email her at anne@annehathaway.co.uk.For information about Robbie’s wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswale.com, and to buy his book, click here.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Robbie’s book, How to Start (a book, business or creative project) When You’re Stuck https://geni.us/startwhenyourestuck - Stephanie Archer at Time To Think https://www.timetothink.com/stephanie-archer/ - Nancy Kline's book, Time To Think https://www.timetothink.com/books/time-to-think/ - The Thinking Environment https://www.timetothink.com/thinking-environment/ - European Foundation for Management Development https://www.efmdglobal.org/ - Joyce Matthews tweet about being heard https://twitter.com/JoyceMatthews_/status/1480468857445830657?s=20 - Thinking Partnership Programme courses https://www.thinkitthrough.co.uk/thinking-partnership-programme/ - David Rock and the NeuroLeadership Institute https://neuroleadership.com/personnel/david-rock/ - Hamish McRae https://www.independent.co.uk/author/hamish-mcrae- The 10 Components https://www.timetothink.com/thinking-environment/the-ten-components/ - Dr Christopher Goscomb https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisgoscomb/- Time To Think collegiate days https://www.thethinkingproject.co.uk/professionaldevelopment/timetothinkcollegiatedays- Linda Aspey https://www.timetothink.com/coach/linda-aspey/- Alex Howard and The Optimum Health Clinic https://www.alexhoward.com/ - EMDR therapy https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/treatments/eye-movement-reprocessing- Jayne Rooke's blog post on domestic abuse statistics https://jaynerooke.co.uk/blog/2022/1/10/monday-musings-not-and-advent-blog- Sarah Parrott's blog post on coercive and controlling behaviour https://epichr.co.uk/2021/12/27/adventblogs-you-do-matter-always/- Art Giser and Energetic NLP https://energeticnlp.com/about-art-giser/ - David Trelevean https://davidtreleaven.com/ - Somatic experiencing therapy https://www.seauk.org.uk/ - Anne's website www.annehathaway.co.uk 

The name listening ALCHEMY came to Raquel Ark in the middle of the night, evoking ideas of how art and science could combine to distil and purify the act of listening.Soon after, she was asked to deliver a number of workshops on listening, giving her the confidence to build a career around the subject to which she has devoted her life and turn listening ALCHEMY into a business.As her recent TED talk testifies, listening is the centre of Raquel's work as a communications coach, public speaker, mentor of leaders, and host of the Listen IN podcast. Raquel’s mission is to give listening a voice, and she teaches people how to listen in a way that creates true connection, leading to change and action at an individual level and a broader, systemic level.In our conversation, Raquel shares powerful insights about her life and work, including a metaphorical tool for getting present in coaching sessions, and wisdom about how people's minds really work when they are listening.In this episode, we talk about:The power of playfulness in opening doors to new coaching methodsCoaching as a meditation on presenceHow to make sure you are understood in the way that's important to youListening circles and how to ensure everyone's voice is heardRaquel explains how listening is about more than words, and you will learn how to allow your clients to listen to themselves.For more information about Raquel, visit https://listeningalchemy.com/ or email her at contact@listeningalchemy.com.For information about Robbie’s wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswale.com, and to buy his book, click here.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Robbie’s book, How to Start (a book, business or creative project) When You’re Stuck https://geni.us/startwhenyourestuck - Vera Janke https://www.linkedin.com/in/verajanke/- International Coaching Federation (ICF) https://coachingfederation.org/ - Transformational Presence: How to Make a Difference in a Rapidly Changing World, by Alan Seale https://transformationalpresence.org/transformational-presence-book/ - Coaches Rising, The Power of Presence https://www.coachesrising.com/powerofpresence/ - Robbie’s article on recommitting https://www.robbieswale.com/writing/2018/5/23/recommitting-is-the-journey - Raquel's TED talk on Growing your Listening Superpower https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7wgFrKRjYiA - Raquel’s conversation with Colin Smith https://listeningalchemy.com/2021/11/15/stop-doing-listening-and-start-being-a-listener-with-colin-smith-2/ - Presencing Institute https://www.presencing.org/ - Jodie Goulden https://keynotewomen.com/speaker/jodiegoulden - Niels Van Quaquebeke https://www.the-klu.org/faculty-research/faculty/resident-faculty/niels-van-quaquebeke/- Mike Toller https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-32-mike-toller - Myles Downey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-31-myles-downey - Guy Itzchakov https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Guy-Itzchakov-2- Templeton Foundation's Listening and Learning study https://www.templetonworldcharity.org/blog/listening-and-learning-changing-mindsets-and-emotional-responses-promote-human-flourishing - Avi Kluger https://www.avi-kluger.com/about-me- Raquel's podcast, Listen In https://podcasts.apple.com/br/podcast/listen-in/id1457489060?l=en- Listen In episode with Corine Jansen https://listeningalchemy.com/2019/08/12/practical-insights-for-leaders-to-bring-listening-into-their-organizations-that-have-real-impact-with-corine-jansen-part-2/ - Raquel's Listening Playgrounds https://listeningalchemy.com/listening-playgrounds/- Rebel Wisdom https://rebelwisdom.co.uk/

Having achieved success running a popular clubnight in London and living his life by "trusting serendipity", Mike Toller wondered whether he could make more of a difference in people's lives. That thought was the beginning of his journey to becoming a professional coach and a psychodynamic psychotherapist.The world of coaching opened up to him through conversations with Phil Bolton, who trained both Mike and I at the very start of our coaching careers, and through some remarkable discussions with his flying instructor that Mike talks about in this episode.Our journeys have remained intertwined ever since, and recently we have been working together to train new coaches for a consultancy called Curve, who are doing amazing work in the world.That experience has given us the opportunity to refocus on the essence of our coaching practices, and in this episode we explore what we have learned and shared, both together and separately, over the course of an enduring friendship and a hugely productive working relationship.In this episode, we talk about:Using physical space symbolically to shift perspectives in coaching sessionsMike's role in the world's only indie air guitar bandGetting back to the fundamentals of coaching and how, as coaches, we can model healthy relationshipsThe vital importance of intentionality and how to create it in coaching relationshipsWhat happens when we make coaching sessions an embodied experienceMike is also a practising psychodynamic psychotherapist, and he offers valuable insight into both worlds, comparing and contrasting them from his unique vantage point.For more information about Mike, visit https://www.michaeltollercoaching.co.uk/ or email him at michaeltollercoaching@gmail.com.For information about Robbie’s wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswale.com. Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Phil Bolton http://www.phil-bolton.com/ - Vegard Olsen https://coachingpartner.net/cp/en/ - Introduction to Counselling at Birkbeck https://www.bbk.ac.uk/study/2021/short-courses/modules/SSPA/SSPA116N0/ - What a Girl Wants https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0286788/ - Feeling Gloomy https://feelinggloomy.com/ - Club de Fromage https://clubdefromage.com/ - The Coaching School https://www.michaeltollercoaching.co.uk/training- Episode #2 with Phil Bolton https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-2-phil-bolton-from-forensic-accountant-to-the-go-to-career-coach-in-london-and-on-to-work-with-ceos-mds-and-founders - Curve https://www.curve.cc/ - Episode #15 with Toku McCree https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-15-toku-mccree-sales-with-honour-and-love-on-the-end-of-a-sword - Kim Morgan and Barefoot Coaching https://www.barefootcoaching.co.uk/about-us/kim-morgan - Robert Stephenson https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-27-robert-stephenson-animas-how-to-say-yes-and-become-a-conduit-for-change - Animas https://www.animascoaching.com/creating-space/ - Closer Apart, the book on designing and facilitating workshops by Curve https://www.closerapartbook.com/ - The interview with Inga Umblija from Curve and Phil Bolton about their work on abundance https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-28-inga-umblija-phil-bolton-abundance-formula - John Monks https://www.thnk.org/community/people/john-monks/ - Katie Harvey https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/coaching-during-coronavirus-katie-harvey

Myles Downey has been playing tennis all his life. But now, at the age of 62, he is relearning to play the game in a way that’s aligned with his identity and his unique take on genius.A global authority on performance, coaching and leadership, and the author of classic coaching tomes such as Effective Modern Coaching, Myles says tennis has been instrumental in shaping his view of people and how they learn.In our fascinating conversation, he describes the transformative experience of reading Timothy Gallwey's The Inner Game of Tennis, and how that led him on a path towards demonstrating the principles of coaching to more people than anyone else ever has.Having been at the forefront of business coaching for over three decades, Myles explains why Leader Performance is now his major focus, and how he developed the Enabling Genius model and put together a project team to look at the area of genius, which he wrote about in his book Enabling Genius – A Mindset for Success in the 21st Century.In this episode, we talk about:The vital shift from instruction to focusing on each individual's ability to learn for themselvesWhat Myles thinks are the two most useful coaching questionsWhy coaches must look beyond the individual goals of each client  The Boost Leadership mobile learning platform that Myles has helped to developMoving from 'command and control' to 'align and enable' and the battle between love and willIn a world hung up on control and codification, Myles is a compelling advocate for the power of self-expression, creativity and innovation, and his passion is impossible to ignore.For more information about Myles, visit http://mylesdowney.com/, or email him at myles@mylesdowney.com.For information about Robbie’s wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswalecoaching.com.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Myles giving a full coaching session on the JMJ YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pDCKgvuHZKQ - The Inner Game of Tennis by Timothy Gallwey https://theinnergame.com/inner-game-books/the-inner-game-of-tennis/- The Alexander Partnership https://www.thealexanderpartnership.com/about-us/ - Enabling Genius, and Effective Modern Coaching by Myles Downey http://mylesdowney.com/writing/ - George Kelly and his Personal Construct Theory https://www.verywellmind.com/george-kelly-biography-2795498 - Roberto Assagioli https://psychosynthesistrust.org.uk/7-remarkable-facts-about-roberto-assagioli/ - Ken Wilber https://integrallife.com/who-is-ken-wilber/ - Werner Erhard http://www.wernererhard.com/ - Waking Up The Workplace podcast http://www.wakinguptheworkplace.com/ - Alan Fine https://theinnergame.com/alan-fine-developing-the-grow-model/- Sir John Whitmore https://www.performanceconsultants.com/sir-john-whitmore - McKinsey https://www.mckinsey.com/ - The School of Coaching https://www.theschoolofcoaching.com/ - Ken Wilber's pre/trans fallacy https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ken_Wilber#Pre/trans_fallacy- Heather Dawson https://www.linkedin.com/in/heather-dawson-79b09169/- Praesta coaching https://www.praesta.co.uk/ - The European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC) https://www.emccglobal.org/ - The International Coaching Federation (ICF) https://coachingfederation.org/ - Eddie Jones https://www.englandrugby.com/england/senior-men/squad/eddie-jones - ActionCOACH https://www.actioncoach.com/- Boost Leadership http://playboostnow.com/- George Kelly Shaper Of: Personal Meaning, by Trevor Butt https://www.betterworldbooks.com/product/detail/9780230008410 - Inner Tennis: Playing the Game, by Timothy Gallwey https://books.google.co.uk/books/about/Inner_Tennis.html?id=G3G1AAAAIAAJ&redir_esc=y - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's TED talk on flow https://www.ted.com/talks/mihaly_csikszentmihalyi_flow_the_secret_to_happiness?language=en

It's surprising to learn that one of Phil Goddard's earliest memories is of standing on the fringes of a playing field, away from everybody else, on his first day at infants' school.He has since focused his life and career on building intimacy and connection but he recalls that early memory with affection because, he says, it reminds him he has always been a people watcher, fascinated by what makes people tick.As a coach, speaker, leadership consultant and the host of The Coaching Life podcast, Phil works with entrepreneurs, company directors, bar workers, and parents among a client base united by their desire to enjoy life and experience joyful, easier relationships.In our conversation, Phil powerfully describes a shift in his own life and his relationship with himself; a shift from carefully avoiding regrets to being willing to take risks in order to live with more presence.Unafraid to challenge life’s 'photoshopping' wherever he finds it, Phil speaks candidly about strong reactions he has faced in his pursuit of authenticity, and tells the incredible story that spawned the podcast he always introduces as ‘peeling back the bullcrap’ of the coaching industry. In this episode, we talk about:How the island of Zakynthos, and its energy of love, helps Phil create clientsThe jaw-dropping experience of inauthenticity from a mentor that led to the creation of The Coaching LifeWhy it’s unhealthy to aspire to a photoshopped image of the coaching professionHow the one thing that predicts the good times in Phil’s business is his relationship with his businessWhat it's like to be you when you're not trying to be anybody - even yourselfHe is a staunch believer in living without a script, and that makes for a wonderfully open, honest discussion. And he is also an expert at speaking to coaches and about coaching, which makes this a really practical one, too. Phil can be contacted via philg.com and found on Facebook via fbphil.com.For information about Robbie’s wider work and writing, visit www.robbieswalecoaching.com.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/communityThings and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- NLP https://www.nlp.com/what-is-nlp/ - Robert Holden https://www.robertholden.com/ - The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen Covey https://www.franklincovey.com/the-7-habits/ - The Prosperous Coach by Rich Litvin and Steve Chandler https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-prosperous-coach/steve-chandler/rich-litvin/9781600250309 - Steve Chandler's coaching school https://www.coachingprosperityschool.info/ - TS Elliot quote https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/644987-we-shall-not-cease-from-exploration-and-the-end-of - Carolyn Freyer Jones https://carolynfreyerjones.com/ - Steve Hardison https://theultimatecoach.com/ - Melissa Ford https://melissafordcoaching.com/ - Phil's podcast, The Coaching Life https://philg.com/CoachingLifePodcast/ - Phil's conversation with Matt Watkins https://soundcloud.com/coachinglife/024-matt-watkins - Aaron Turner on the Rewilding Love Podcast with Angus and Rohini Ross https://www.therewilders.org/blog/ep34-rewilding-love-aaron-turner - Phil's favourite episode https://philg.com/CoachingLifePodcast/?post=069-phil-goddard - Jamie Smart https://www.jamiesmart.com/- Brenton Hughes https://www.facebook.com/brenton.hughes.90  - Robert Holden's Success Intelligence Mastermind https://www.successintelligence.com/ - Loveability, by Robert Holden https://www.robertholden.com/loveability/ - Phil's books https://philg.com/books.html